Finding Out The Peson You Have A Crush On Is Married: Classic or Dud

never fear, after the intital shock you can comfortably settle into the 'having a crush on a person who is married: dud or painstaking illusion of inimitable offence' thead', i believe # 120...

Alas, no. Basically I was still being hyperawkward and she was a touch more sophisticated, I think had we met a couple of years later it would have been an ultimately different story.

*shrug*

And your point is? ;-)

So what, you're saying is, you Neducated yourself since?

That's for me to know and for you never to find out.

Christ, who gets married at 22 anymore?

I don't need a picture of Neducating Ned.

I'm pretty sure this is a wedding ring!!
BBBut they do have the most adorable geeky mannerisms!!!
and the cutest little ears!!

Lets make this more interesting, I think their significant other also works at the same library!!

*sigh*

that might actually suit your purposes just fine, but ...

*shrug again*

Ditto. A solid reason to not fall for someone would be preferable to certain half-assed indefinite relationships I've had in the past.

I'd say get to know her, she might be looking for a way out of a marriage she doesn't like even.

My question: Seducing someone by seducing their spouse - c/d?

Classic! I have been the 'someone' in the sentence, and it turned out quite dud. But the idea is classic, and I cherish even disappointing memories.

I'm assuming it is morning time for you, else how could you have not thought of this favourable solution!

I was 23 when I got married.

Everyone in my nursing assistant class (except for me, I was in my mid-thirties) was 19-20 and married with children. One was even divorced.

A) she's married
B) her husband is the guitarist
C) I don't know which one (they had two)

By this point all of the other members of her band were shooting me evil-eyes, so I retired to the bar to attempt to drink away my infatuation, which is never healthy yet almost always the solution I turn to.

In fact, I'm having trouble remembering the last time I had a crush on someone who wasn't either married or a lesbian.

Then see where it goes.

yay mary yay mary yay mary yay

Evanna Lynch is unmarried, so that's OK.

Is there a thing you can say to a man who's clearly very interested in you to let them now you're already taken that is relatively subtle and tactful? It doesn't seem right to come out and say, "Sorry, I'm engaged," or whatevs until they've actually asked you to join them in an activity or asked for your phone number, etc. Is there something you can say early on that indicates, "You are quite fun to talk to, and I don't dislike you, but I am pretty certain you are getting interests that cannot be met because I am already in a lovely relationship"?

just bring up that you have a fiance?

speaking as a man with a longstanding fixation for "geeky art library types who go to cool concerts": they often have a disturbing streak of immorality and narcissism lurking _just_ under the surface (which they subconsciously nurture to balance out their geekiness and art librariness). cute ears or no cute ears.

I think it's ideas like this that don't help me on my side of things. I really don't want to hurt anyone's feelings by shooing people away abruptly, but I think if this is the subconscious idea people are having about me (and I can tell sometimes they are) then how do I deal with that? I am actually quite the prude. Also, I am friendly/interested when talking to people and I think this gets interpreted as "bag me," is there anyway I can show I, uh, am not e=getting all secretly immoral and narcissistic inside (and I'm not...)?

Yeah, deej, I do that when there's an occasion, "Oh, my fiance likes _____ too," but there is not always an opportunity to do that. So is it okay to just say, "I have a fiance btw," or somesuch? It seems a bit blunt!

You have a ring right?

Have "Property of Jon" tattooed on your forehead

I have a ring. But...I overthink things, I suppose. Everything.

the worst is a long-time crush who's getting married

how about one that's about to get divorced

just start saying "fiance! fiance! fiance!" whenever he talks to you

I don't know if that would necessarily put him off, though.

not sure which is worse FOTPYHACOIM or telling the person you have a crush on that you're married.

duds, both.

If a dude KNOWS you have a fiance and is still flirting with you hardcore and it makes you uncomfortable, I think the logical next step is to tell him he's making you uncomfortable. If someone doesn't respect the fact that you're engaged they can't really be that good a friend anyway, so if he gets mad, big loss.

I assumed this cute guy at work knew I was married, but then he asked me out for a drink really awkwardly, (he was a bit younger than me), so I wasn't sure, so I did the worst thing and went "OH I am kind of seeing someone and it might be a bit weird" (not wanting to say "I AM MARRIED DUH") then had to try and hide wedding ring/ talk of husband until he left the company. Lols.

i wear a plain ring on the third finger of my left hand, and i am not married

you're married to rock and roll

1. peson 4 up, 2 down

A perky nipple.

Se le nota el peson.

You can see her peson.

2. peson 2 up, 10 down

Someone who jams, cuts or manipulates the wrong piece of a puzzle into place.

I never do puzzles with him, he is a peson.

rip subway crush. i miss you.

being married and having a crush on somebody other than your spouse ain't all peaches & cream either but i remain ever faithful, like a puppy

"being married and having a crush on somebody other than your spouse ain't all peaches & cream either but i remain ever faithful, like a puppy

-- gershy, Tuesday, 5 February 2008 07:01 (4 hours ago) Bookmark Link"

Yep, you're right. Oddly enough I was going to bring this up as a separate topic of discussion as I've got a slight dilemma concerning such a situation, particularly as it is impinging upon work / child care arrangements.

^ Start thread. That sounds like a promising topic.

OK, I have.

(Crawls away in sheepish embarrassment)

Isn't it ironic?

START A THREAD. IT'LL LAST LONGER.