Do you ever give up ILX for a while?

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Do you ever feel, after a few days of frequent posting, that you're just ILX-ed out? What's the longest you've stopped posting (through choice) for? A lot of you seem to post on a lot of threads most days. Is there always something of interest for you here? Do you have days where you just can't be arsed looking at every thread? Or days when every thread seems pointless?

I've only been here about 9 months, post reasonably frequently, but sometimes I feel bored with the whole thing. I'm not sure if it's because the threads themselves are lacklustre, or if it's just cos I'm in a bad mood (probably the latter!). It generally wears off after a few days, and I'm gagging to post on as many threads as possible again. The last couple of days I've been bored with ILX in general. I know that my enthusiasm will be back in a day or two, because experience has taught me so, but do these moods ever last for a long time for any of you? Since it started up, have their been any frequent posters who gave the whole thing up entirely?

weasel diesel (K1l14n), Friday, 22 November 2002 15:21 (twenty-three years ago)

That probably sounded a bit like ILX-bashing, which wasn't my intention at all. I lurrrve ILX and everyone on it! Most of the time!

weasel diesel (K1l14n), Friday, 22 November 2002 15:23 (twenty-three years ago)

The main example of someone who has actually said right, fuck it, I'm off (in a friendly way) and not come back is Chris T-T, who used to be a very regular poster and then made a decision to quite and stuck with it.

I want to stop sometimes, not really recently though. I often go a couple of days without posting.

Tom (Groke), Friday, 22 November 2002 15:26 (twenty-three years ago)

I lurve ILX and (nearly all) of its posters, too, but I stopped surfing and posting last year from December to February or so. But that was more about certain crises in my personal and professional life.

Since then there have been times when I don't feel like responding to any active thread, either because none catch my imagination or I'm in my "threadkilla" mode, and assume that no one can be bothered to respond to anything I have to say. But once again that's more about my personal attitude than whatever's going on in ILX.

j.lu (j.lu), Friday, 22 November 2002 15:31 (twenty-three years ago)

not really. i kind of view ilx as like email, i'd never turn on my pc and think "you know what, i cant be bothered with my email today"

i've been irritated with ilx, but never bored.

i think there are quite a few posters who were regular and now dont post.

DG hardly ever posts, Omar not much, i believe there was someone called Guy Beckett who posted a lot, but stopped before i started

gareth (gareth), Friday, 22 November 2002 15:35 (twenty-three years ago)

I want to stop all the time because I spend a lot more of my day at it than I should. But the only times I've actually managed it were the times when I didn't have a computer. The minute I start a new job and see the big blue e on my desktop, I'm there. I'm an addicted saddo.

Madchen (Madchen), Friday, 22 November 2002 15:37 (twenty-three years ago)

I go off to get stuff done but have generally never made a big song'n'dance out of telling people I'm off for a bit. The way I figure, if I'm here, I'm here - if I'm not it's because I'm busy. I find the alternative - a big announcement saying you're off and you're over the ilx magic - to be silly and self-aggrandizing or worse, a big yawn.

suzy (suzy), Friday, 22 November 2002 15:38 (twenty-three years ago)

I have taken a break before, but last time I decided to take a break for awhile I think I only stuck with it a day or so.

Nicole (Nicole), Friday, 22 November 2002 15:40 (twenty-three years ago)

I find ILE so addictive that I can rarely leave it alone for very long. Now that I have unfettered access in the evenings (as I have a computer at home with web access as well as at work) I do occasionally dip into it in the evenings, but seldom for very long because I am all too aware that I am paying for it myself whereas I can access to it at work gratis.

I sometimes get quite frustrated that there are threads about which I knwo absolutely nothing at all and I want to contribute to them, but know that I have nothing of substance to put there and that anything I did say would be crass and inane. Then I come to my senses and realise that this is an attribute of a healthy message board.....all kinds of ppl feel happy here and talk about a bewildering range of subjects. If the subject range decreased (esp given the name of the board) then it would be a sign that somehting was wrong.

I have often attempted to have ILE free days if I am particularly busy at work, but find I just don't manage it! I always end up coming back, even if it is just for a sneaky peek for a minute or so. I am actually jealous on occasion of those ppl who *are* able to leave ILE alone for weeks or indeed months and then come back...jealous of their willpower rather than any desire they might have to stay away.

What I do not do so often is post questions. My desire to ask my own questions, or indeed my ability to think of anything to ask, varies considerably - sometimes it's a question a day for a week, other times I might go for three weeks or so without asking anything. I tend to ask more non-serious questions than serious ones.


Whether it represents a puerile trait or a healthy interest, I pay frequent visits to the user stats to see how my nos. of posts compares with other ppl's. This used to be known as the statscock in the Greenspun days, although the term seems to have fallen out of favour. If I'm not on the list of top posters, I think something is wrong. "Crikey!" (I say to myself). "I'll have to do something about this!" It warms my heart to see my name creeping up the list, whilst making me tremble in saddo insecurity (a slight tremble, maybe more of a twitch) at the same time. I know full well that I will never rival Ned, Mark S or N. in the posting stakes and also know that if I made a concerted effort to do this, I'd never get any work done and the standard of my posts would decrease. Possibly they are not much cop as it is. But my job lends itself to mass-posting in that there are so often batch processes (files parsing etc) going on in the background on my pcs - ideal posting time! I wouldn't be using my time constructively if I wasn't contributing to ILE........


.....right?


In contrast to ILE, my visits to ILM are sporadic.

MarkH (MarkH), Friday, 22 November 2002 15:43 (twenty-three years ago)

I went about 6 months or so, until this summer, with only the most occasional of visits. When I gave I up I wasn't very happy on a number of levels, and, quick-tempered as I am, ILE was beginning to get my back up to an extent that it was no longer worth it for me at that time to continue reading it.

However, I have a *lot* of free time on my hands these days, and there is *occasionally* some decent stuff here, so...

Mark C (Mark C), Friday, 22 November 2002 15:48 (twenty-three years ago)

ile not really. ilm for at least an hour every day out of sheer frustration if nothing else.

jess (dubplatestyle), Friday, 22 November 2002 15:49 (twenty-three years ago)

i've done what suzy said and basically my thoughts are what suzy said.

doom-e, Friday, 22 November 2002 15:56 (twenty-three years ago)

i'm not really as involved as some people so sometimes i've got nothing to say and i just keep quiet. also sometimes i'm busy and i forget that ilx even exists for a few days, or i don't have time to visit. i enjoy ile but it's not a big emotional thing for me, i mean i wouldn't announce i was off unless i was really actually GOING somewhere, like mexico or something, and i was excited.

Maria (Maria), Friday, 22 November 2002 16:01 (twenty-three years ago)

ile not really. ilm for at least an hour every day out of sheer frustration if nothing else.

Ditto.

I did give up ILX twice in the beginning -- some of the viewpoints I encountered here (at ILM) were so astoundingly wrongheaded, it took my breath away. I still think the views here are astoundingly wrongheaded, but I'm learning to keep my mouth shut. :-)

Jody Beth Rosen (Jody Beth Rosen), Friday, 22 November 2002 16:05 (twenty-three years ago)

Obviously, I don't give up ILE enough! I'm a total addict. Sometimes I'm disappointed because none of the threads interest me very much, but - as I'm sure you're aware - sometimes that doesn't stop me from posting. The only times I think about quitting are when I notice how much of a threadkiller I am, or when I feel like noone responds to my posts. But then I feel silly because I've only been posting for a little over a month and people just don't know me well enough yet.

I will be taking a break since I'll be on my trip (have I mentioned this enough yet? :) ), but then I'll be back and in full effect in December!

Sarah McLusky (coco), Friday, 22 November 2002 16:10 (twenty-three years ago)

yeah jody, you were a real bitch in the beginning

jess (dubplatestyle), Friday, 22 November 2002 16:14 (twenty-three years ago)

whoops almost forgot the BIG RAGGETT STYLE WINKY:

;-)

jess (dubplatestyle), Friday, 22 November 2002 16:15 (twenty-three years ago)

Ahem!look who's talking...you know I luv you jess!!

brg30 (brg30), Friday, 22 November 2002 16:16 (twenty-three years ago)

i'm still a bitch

jess (dubplatestyle), Friday, 22 November 2002 16:18 (twenty-three years ago)

A sophisticated bitch.

Nicole (Nicole), Friday, 22 November 2002 16:23 (twenty-three years ago)

Not irresistible?

Ned Raggett (Ned), Friday, 22 November 2002 16:25 (twenty-three years ago)

Everyone who gets in any way emotionally invested in it (which is the only way to really enjoy it, really) probably has to leave for a period of time. But if you're emotionally invested, you have to come back.

I've got away for months at a time, usually due to inadequate web access, go through withdrawl for the first week or so, then forget it ever existed until someone mentions it IRL.

If you have to go, going silently is the best way. That way you avoid silly explanations when you come back, and upsetting people/getting your inbox filled with teary sympathy. (I hate sympathy today, can you tell? Probably cause I never get any...)

kate, Friday, 22 November 2002 16:28 (twenty-three years ago)

i'm still a bitch

No, you're a prick. (uh, winky)

Jody Beth Rosen (Jody Beth Rosen), Friday, 22 November 2002 16:30 (twenty-three years ago)

i feel like a stranger here these days. i only post infrequently so, hell, it's only natural (cue entrance of crowded house).

nathalie (nathalie), Friday, 22 November 2002 16:42 (twenty-three years ago)

been here for a year (on ILE for only five months i think) and I post now more than ever. it is bloody addictive and I'm hoping that when I go off for a month on holiday (will be off for the whole of december) that will provide me with the break I need. as in, after that I'll post only an hour in the evenings, say. maybe go a day or two without even putting a single post and mostly on ILM.

At the beginning I used to stick to the music and then as i got to *know* some of the posters a lot of the posts have become jokes and unfocused garbage (which can lead somewhere but mostly doesn't).

and yes, there's no point in doing a thread saying you're off.

Julio Desouza (jdesouza), Friday, 22 November 2002 16:51 (twenty-three years ago)

well julio, i thought i'd post to say that i'm off again.

i'm not gonna waste my time being dragged down to the level of the rest of the hataz on this fucking board.

i'll probably come back. but at the moment i'm unwell, i'm angry and this is just unmitigated shit.

Marcello Carlin, Friday, 22 November 2002 16:54 (twenty-three years ago)

i think the other weird thing about it is this, if i stopped ilx for a while, it wouldnt really make that much difference as i email/phone/go out with some ilx people anyway, so, unless, i decided to cut those people out completely, there would still be a tangential relationship

gareth (gareth), Friday, 22 November 2002 17:11 (twenty-three years ago)

whenever i go away for a couple weeks (or sometimes just get really busy for a few days), the first time get back to ilx i wonder if i really wanna return to the fray or if it'd be better for me to reconfigure my life and spend some time getting a job/improving my social skills/getting away from a monitor. you know how the story ends...

mitch lastnamewithheld (mitchlnw), Friday, 22 November 2002 17:59 (twenty-three years ago)

I took 4 days off a few weeks ago! I posted a thread that said I'd be gone for a week or so, just so people wouldn't wonder where I went. I'm a bit of an ego-maniac.

jel -- (jel), Friday, 22 November 2002 18:03 (twenty-three years ago)

Ooh! Did Marcello pop up, diss everyone FOR NO FUCKING REASON and retreat into his warren again? What an appropriate thread to do it on.

Mark C (Mark C), Friday, 22 November 2002 18:30 (twenty-three years ago)

Out of choice, about 3 minutes ever.

Graham (graham), Friday, 22 November 2002 18:42 (twenty-three years ago)

I've never felt like taking a break. I only find a very small minority of people here annoying, and I like most, some a great deal. It's like a sort of social life for me, and if other things aren't in the way, I'll drop in for a while when I can. Now that BT are limiting me to 120 hours a month (and I've not sorted out a new ISP), I'm not visiting ILM often at all.

Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Friday, 22 November 2002 19:01 (twenty-three years ago)

during my break, I painted one giant picture.

jel -- (jel), Friday, 22 November 2002 19:03 (twenty-three years ago)

haven't really done this yet, and I keep meaning to. I think it'd be good for me to, it's really easy to get too caught up in...really unnecessary shit a lot of the time. (and no, there's no reason to announce it at all, Suzy is dead on.)

M Matos (M Matos), Friday, 22 November 2002 19:27 (twenty-three years ago)

i wouldnt announce an intended break either, because i doubt it would be noticed!
the frequency of my posts and visits are dependent on time, if im busy i do a quick lurk in the morning and leave any intended replies til later. some days i cant be bothered posting a thing, some days i have so much to say i dont even start because i dont have that kind of uninterrupted time.
its my little bit of adult ( most of the time ) contact, even though it is cyberland, and i need it for that.
besides, i have grown to quite like many posters and it is interesting to see what everyone is up to.

donna (donna), Friday, 22 November 2002 19:45 (twenty-three years ago)

i think 'last post for a while' threads would be better if ppl actually asked a question as usual and said that this is my last one for a while BTW or somefink. or they made it funnier.

but you know, those threads, like the birthday ones, show how that yes, we are a 'community' of sorts. we do contact each other off line etc so we do build those virtual friendships I suppose.

''well julio, i thought i'd post to say that i'm off again.
i'm not gonna waste my time being dragged down to the level of the rest of the hataz on this fucking board.

i'll probably come back. but at the moment i'm unwell, i'm angry and this is just unmitigated shit.''

heh, but you don't post during the weekends anyway 'cello. and yes, you'll come back.

Julio Desouza (jdesouza), Friday, 22 November 2002 22:13 (twenty-three years ago)

I come and go as I please. I am an enigma.

Ally (mlescaut), Friday, 22 November 2002 22:28 (twenty-three years ago)

i sometimes can't be arsed with this place. sometimes i'm too busy. sometimes i'm just feeling like the man alone.

di smith (lucylurex), Saturday, 23 November 2002 01:56 (twenty-three years ago)

I cannae dae it cap'n...i daint ave the powah!

Michael Bourke, Saturday, 23 November 2002 04:52 (twenty-three years ago)

I often say to myself 'It's like Antarctica in there, all white fields with little black qwerty picket fences marking off territory!' I often say to myself 'Why should I waste time arguing the merits of 'Style Labs' with people who scoff at the very notion, when I can go out and play in the real thing?' I often say to myself 'Where's the texture? Where's the music? Where's the sex? Where's the chai? Where's the ilXoR beef?'

Then I read a thread like Tom's V.I.L.E. (Victorian ILE) and think 'Aha! I remember why I come here. It's totally brilliant!'

Momus (Momus), Saturday, 23 November 2002 07:19 (twenty-three years ago)

my time on here is only ever spent while i'm at work (or when i'm bored and checking my emails on a weekend) so it's unlikely i would give it up. unless i was being stalked by a mentalist.

electric sound of jim (electricsound), Saturday, 23 November 2002 07:53 (twenty-three years ago)

you can check out any time you like but you can never leave

unknown or illegal user (doorag), Saturday, 23 November 2002 08:08 (twenty-three years ago)

V.I.L.E. like many a thread was of course thought up in the original Brutish Style Lab, the pub.

Tom (Groke), Saturday, 23 November 2002 08:08 (twenty-three years ago)

The pub is a good place for editing
Or folding Sellotape flowers

(From the current essay / poem on the Momus website.)

Momus (Momus), Saturday, 23 November 2002 08:21 (twenty-three years ago)

I don't have so much free time anymore => I can't read the boards as regularly => whenever I see a thread I like chances are someone's already made my point => I feel slightly useless...

It's still good fun to read, and so I do. Is there a FAP in the near future?

DG (D_To_The_G), Saturday, 23 November 2002 12:32 (twenty-three years ago)

if either hanle y or ned leaves, i leave

and welcome back, ally

Tad (llamasfur), Saturday, 23 November 2002 12:59 (twenty-three years ago)

*sob* WHERE IS MY LOVE, YOU FUXORS?

(This episode of "Answering Your Own Question Theatre" has been brought to you by Pez.)

Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Saturday, 23 November 2002 21:13 (twenty-three years ago)

gee, i hate to see a grown man cry ... i would leave if you leave, too, mr. perry

(and even though my lists ain't expressio unius est exclusio unius add dave q., momus, suzy, nabisco, and countless others to my list too!)

Tad (llamasfur), Saturday, 23 November 2002 21:52 (twenty-three years ago)

I don't post here anywhere as much as I used to, because I took the web connection out of the work computer. If I was still online @ work, I'd be on here all the time, as it's still quite marvelous IMO. Very bad for a sole trader to be into tho'. My dad has a connected computer upstairs from work, and once in a while I shut for dinner & post something. By the time I get home to this computer, I'm completely fux0r3d, plus having a 3yo, with ASD, it sometimes feels like someone has taken a brillo-pad, and scoured all intelligent & analytical thought out of my brain. Not that there was much of that there anyway. I am always happy to see an "old name" come back to posting regularly, BTW. For now, I have to be (mainly) a lurker.

N0RM4N PH4Y, Saturday, 23 November 2002 21:58 (twenty-three years ago)

um, that should be expressio unius est exclusio alterius. mr. meeder and ms. redwell may snicker now, and to think that Legislation was the l-school class where i got one of my best grades!

Tad (llamasfur), Saturday, 23 November 2002 22:01 (twenty-three years ago)

i always leave for a long time.. then return and yet, remain an anonymous figure

V, Sunday, 24 November 2002 08:34 (twenty-three years ago)

ive never left and im still anonymous!

chaki (chaki), Sunday, 24 November 2002 08:58 (twenty-three years ago)

i remember chaki from his great picture with momus and his occasionally rude posts

boxcubed (boxcubed), Sunday, 24 November 2002 09:00 (twenty-three years ago)

awww thanks :)

chaki (chaki), Sunday, 24 November 2002 21:52 (twenty-three years ago)

one year passes...
I'm going to take a break from ILX indefinitely as of now.

I'll probably be back around the time when we'll have to move the server. (but we can cross that bridge when we come to it)

Andrew (enneff), Wednesday, 18 February 2004 05:49 (twenty-two years ago)

:(

oops (Oops), Wednesday, 18 February 2004 05:53 (twenty-two years ago)

I don't give up bcz I'm bored, but I don't really get anything out of it anymore. Oh well.

Sean (Sean), Wednesday, 18 February 2004 05:59 (twenty-two years ago)

yes.

cozen (Cozen), Wednesday, 18 February 2004 11:46 (twenty-two years ago)

''been here for a year (on ILE for only five months i think) and I post now more than ever. it is bloody addictive and I'm hoping that when I go off for a month on holiday (will be off for the whole of december) that will provide me with the break I need. as in, after that I'll post only an hour in the evenings, say. maybe go a day or two without even putting a single post and mostly on ILM.''

haha have actually posted a lot less (off the top 50 on ILE and nearly out on ILM too) but have not really taken a 'break' since I came back from that holiday.

Julio Desouza (jdesouza), Wednesday, 18 February 2004 11:56 (twenty-two years ago)

That's a shame Andrew, but if you feel you must...
I have taken breaks from ILE before. I think it's necessary as asshats always seem to crop up & have a go at you when you could really do without it.

Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Wednesday, 18 February 2004 11:59 (twenty-two years ago)

I hadn't noticed asshats having a go at Andrew - if you like, Andrew, give me their names and I'll sort them out for you. Lasagne-style!

Markelby (Mark C), Wednesday, 18 February 2004 12:08 (twenty-two years ago)

That was just imo Mark, wasn't inferring the same had happened to Andrew.

Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Wednesday, 18 February 2004 12:09 (twenty-two years ago)

i just retreat to the aussie threads basically. i've been there almost exclusively for a wee while

mullygrubber (gaz), Wednesday, 18 February 2004 12:15 (twenty-two years ago)

Aww Gaz, I miss hearing about you & your kids' exploits!

Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Wednesday, 18 February 2004 12:38 (twenty-two years ago)

four years pass...

ive never left and im still anonymous!
-- chaki (chaki), Sunday, 24 November 2002 08:58 (5 years ago)

keep on keepin' on

gershy, Monday, 14 April 2008 02:41 (seventeen years ago)


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