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40 dealbreakers

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1. taking an iq score seriously

z_tbd, Wednesday, 10 July 2024 20:35 (two years ago)

2. being a drone operator

A So-Called Pulitzer price winner (President Keyes), Wednesday, 10 July 2024 20:39 (two years ago)

3. supports Israel

ian, Wednesday, 10 July 2024 20:49 (two years ago)

3. Cybertruck

Andy the Grasshopper, Wednesday, 10 July 2024 20:49 (two years ago)

5. "I'm not racist, but..."

Maxmillion D. Boosted (jon /via/ chi 2.0), Wednesday, 10 July 2024 20:50 (two years ago)

6. "masc only"

he/him hoo-hah (map), Wednesday, 10 July 2024 21:02 (two years ago)

7. real estate agent

he/him hoo-hah (map), Wednesday, 10 July 2024 21:02 (two years ago)

"We're not unicorn hunters"

Kate (rushomancy), Wednesday, 10 July 2024 21:06 (two years ago)

9: Pickup truck the size of a tank.

Christine Green Leafy Dragon Indigo, Wednesday, 10 July 2024 21:08 (two years ago)

10. inability to agree terms

tuah dé danann (darraghmac), Wednesday, 10 July 2024 21:10 (two years ago)

11. MAGA hat

Andy the Grasshopper, Wednesday, 10 July 2024 21:13 (two years ago)

oooh i can make a pun on deems

12. lack of consideration

Kate (rushomancy), Wednesday, 10 July 2024 21:14 (two years ago)

nice

tuah dé danann (darraghmac), Wednesday, 10 July 2024 21:15 (two years ago)

13. Actively enjoys beatboxers

Sade of the Del Amitri (dog latin), Thursday, 11 July 2024 00:08 (two years ago)

TERF

I painted my teeth (sleeve), Thursday, 11 July 2024 00:10 (two years ago)

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I painted my teeth (sleeve), Thursday, 11 July 2024 00:10 (two years ago)

15. bottles of malt liquor that aren't olde english

mookieproof, Thursday, 11 July 2024 01:16 (two years ago)

16. opens mouth while chewing

more difficult than I look (Aimless), Thursday, 11 July 2024 01:20 (two years ago)

17. mocks the idea of leaving a tip at restaurants

more difficult than I look (Aimless), Thursday, 11 July 2024 01:44 (two years ago)

18. Trepanation

Blitz Primary (tipsy mothra), Thursday, 11 July 2024 01:53 (two years ago)

19. Has a king or weird animals on their money

felicity, Thursday, 11 July 2024 02:00 (two years ago)

20. "genital preference"

Kate (rushomancy), Thursday, 11 July 2024 14:12 (two years ago)

21. gets mad at you for watching Anthony Fantano videos

frogbs, Thursday, 11 July 2024 14:13 (two years ago)

22. annoying laugh

H.P, Thursday, 11 July 2024 14:35 (two years ago)

23. "pro-life"

Piggy Lepton (La Lechera), Thursday, 11 July 2024 14:36 (two years ago)

24. "It turns out I'm related to Charlemagne" (=> from recent Sharon Stone interview)

Josefa, Thursday, 11 July 2024 15:17 (two years ago)

loooooooooooool

z_tbd, Thursday, 11 July 2024 15:19 (two years ago)

25. "I don't even own a TV"

(•̪●) (carne asada), Thursday, 11 July 2024 15:32 (two years ago)

26. won’t date a specific astrological sign

ivy., Thursday, 11 July 2024 15:48 (two years ago)

27. “swipe left if you don’t go to therapy”

ivy., Thursday, 11 July 2024 15:50 (two years ago)

28. "I need someone who can keep up with me"

imago, Thursday, 11 July 2024 15:52 (two years ago)

29. insists their zodiac sign is ophiuchus

Kate (rushomancy), Thursday, 11 July 2024 16:18 (two years ago)

lolll @ Josefa

Europe, where they eat flowers (flamboyant goon tie included), Thursday, 11 July 2024 17:29 (two years ago)

30. "Tired of drama"

Europe, where they eat flowers (flamboyant goon tie included), Thursday, 11 July 2024 17:29 (two years ago)

ime when someone says they're "tired of drama" it usually means they're _causing_ the drama and don't realize it

Kate (rushomancy), Thursday, 11 July 2024 17:38 (two years ago)

31. Fight Club shower curtain

scott seward, Thursday, 11 July 2024 17:40 (two years ago)

32 "lots of those homeless people aren't really homeless"

This is Dance Anthems, have some respect (Camaraderie at Arms Length), Thursday, 11 July 2024 17:40 (two years ago)

33. Actually homeless. Not because of _them personally_. Being in a relationship with a homeless person is just really complicated.

Kate (rushomancy), Thursday, 11 July 2024 17:51 (two years ago)

ime when someone says they're "tired of drama" it usually means they're _causing_ the drama and don't realize it

I hope that was implied in my nomination!

Europe, where they eat flowers (flamboyant goon tie included), Thursday, 11 July 2024 18:11 (two years ago)

probably haha i just don't always read subtext well :)

Kate (rushomancy), Thursday, 11 July 2024 18:56 (two years ago)

34. Snobby about pizza

A So-Called Pulitzer price winner (President Keyes), Thursday, 11 July 2024 19:12 (two years ago)

35. Identifies as a 'biohacker'

Andy the Grasshopper, Thursday, 11 July 2024 19:18 (two years ago)

36. Brings up AI unbidden (a year ago this would have been "brings up cryptocurrency unbidden")

Instead of create and send out, it pull back and consume (unperson), Thursday, 11 July 2024 19:23 (two years ago)

33. Actually homeless. Not because of _them personally_. Being in a relationship with a homeless person is just really complicated.

― Kate (rushomancy), Thursday, 11 July 2024 18:51 (one hour ago) bookmarkflaglink

If they are still homeless after you, a person with a home, have entered into a relationship with them, then you get the red flag.

This is Dance Anthems, have some respect (Camaraderie at Arms Length), Thursday, 11 July 2024 19:40 (two years ago)

If they are still homeless after you, a person with a home, have entered into a relationship with them, then you get the red flag.

― This is Dance Anthems, have some respect (Camaraderie at Arms Length)

"homeless" doesn't mean "living on the street". during the three months when my ex-girlfriend slept on my couch, she was still homeless, because she had no legal residence or fixed address. her sleeping on my couch for three months caused _significant problems for our relationship_.

Kate (rushomancy), Thursday, 11 July 2024 19:49 (two years ago)

34. Engages in any type of coercive control or psycho-emotional manipulation (note: requires an understanding of what this looks like to flag, tag, and bag this person)

Piggy Lepton (La Lechera), Thursday, 11 July 2024 19:49 (two years ago)

35. Can't explain their whereabouts on Jan. 6 2021

A So-Called Pulitzer price winner (President Keyes), Thursday, 11 July 2024 19:51 (two years ago)

whoa there, we're doubling up here

Andy the Grasshopper, Thursday, 11 July 2024 20:27 (two years ago)

Whoops that was prob my fault sorry

Piggy Lepton (La Lechera), Thursday, 11 July 2024 20:34 (two years ago)

39. "Everything happens for a reason" or similar dribble

stop the boat(race)s (Matt #2), Thursday, 11 July 2024 20:58 (two years ago)

good one

I painted my teeth (sleeve), Thursday, 11 July 2024 21:03 (two years ago)

40. mean to animals

I painted my teeth (sleeve), Thursday, 11 July 2024 21:03 (two years ago)

i think we covered all 40, thanks everyone!

z_tbd, Thursday, 11 July 2024 21:08 (two years ago)

41. thinks there are only 40 dealbreakers

j/k <3

I painted my teeth (sleeve), Thursday, 11 July 2024 21:09 (two years ago)

i'm afraid that outside of the first 40 dealbreakers, the titular 40, all other dealbreakers are considered non-canon

i'm sorry sleeve

z_tbd, Thursday, 11 July 2024 21:18 (two years ago)

i agree about the animals btw! it made me immediately think of a book title i saw at the library yesterday (but did not skim through) called something like We Love Them, We Hate Them, We Eat Them: Animals

i am a pescatarian so i immediately felt both bad and sort of good about myself

z_tbd, Thursday, 11 July 2024 21:19 (two years ago)

what about passive indifference?

(I'm a fan, btw)

Andy the Grasshopper, Thursday, 11 July 2024 21:26 (two years ago)

40a: PETA supporters
40b: "influencer" for a living
40c: NiceGuy

Stoop Crone (Trayce), Thursday, 11 July 2024 22:56 (two years ago)

40d: Lean Sigma Six on their business card

Hideous Lump, Thursday, 11 July 2024 23:35 (two years ago)

40e: shows me their business card

mookieproof, Friday, 12 July 2024 00:39 (two years ago)

40f. Old poster who mostly lurks these days.

Deflatormouse, Friday, 12 July 2024 03:13 (two years ago)

40. mean to animals

too low

Deflatormouse, Friday, 12 July 2024 03:14 (two years ago)

410. can't read hexadecimal

paul mccartney and wigs (diamonddave85), Friday, 12 July 2024 14:19 (two years ago)

40f:

I feel seen.

Christine Green Leafy Dragon Indigo, Friday, 12 July 2024 17:25 (two years ago)


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