Do you live in denial?

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No jokes about rivers in Egypt, please!

I have found that some people are able to convince themselves of things and find it easier to live in denial than to confront issues in their lives. Whether this be in relationships, in their career or in their private life.

So many people who are drug/alcohol addicts are in denial, so many who are in bad or abusive relationships will say 'oh, he says he'll never do it again. He doesn't mean it'. Low self esteem? - 'oh no, not me'. Some people are in relationships where the love has long since gone but they are still there - living in denial.

So what do you deny to yourself? What is your denial issue?

― C J (C J), Sunday, 24 November 2002 09:54 (twenty-three years ago)

In my case the biggie is probably filth. I'm a filth wizard and occasionally clean only to have my meagre quarters turn slowly into a reeking slum. "I'll do it tomorrow... the weekend would be great for a clean-up... but OH NO I have a script to write/pitch to make/cartoon to draw/gta mission to complete. Oh well."

― Al Ewing, Sunday, 24 November 2002 15:47 (twenty-three years ago)

if it's real, convincing denial i wouldn't know would i?

i've been told in very general terms that i'm in denial of REALITY, but i've found that concept a bit ridiculous because if i was really in denial of reality wouldn't i be dead by now?

― Maria (Maria), Sunday, 24 November 2002 17:02 (twenty-three years ago)

nah maria you would just exist on the same plane as me, cause i have been told that one too.

i lived in denial about the true state of my marriage, for years. now i *think* i am realistic but who knows? i could possibly be in denial about the serious crappiness of my current situation, but it gets me through the day to believe it will all be ok :-)

― donna (donna), Sunday, 24 November 2002 17:53 (twenty-three years ago)

No.

― jm, Sunday, 24 November 2002 17:55 (twenty-three years ago)

Right now I'm focusing on my money and work worries, in order to distract myself from the gaping wound that is my heart. I think psychologists have identified denial as one component of the grieving process, and that within certain limits it has its use as a means of getting through the immediate aftermath of your agony.

― j.lu (j.lu), Sunday, 24 November 2002 18:54 (twenty-three years ago)

How can I deny being in a state of denial without thereby entering that very state? If I were a 1970s SF computer, smoke would be coming out of the back of my head by now. I deny that this is happening - AAARGH! DOES NOT COMPUTE!

― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Sunday, 24 November 2002 21:22 (twenty-three years ago)

Of course I do.

― Graham (graham), Sunday, 24 November 2002 21:30 (twenty-three years ago)

i think i know what's wrong with me. if anything i've overestimated.

― mitch lastnamewithheld (mitchlnw), Sunday, 24 November 2002 21:34 (twenty-three years ago)

the fact that you even have to ask is amusing. of course, it's the only way to live. er, right?

― g-kit (g-kit), Monday, 25 November 2002 16:23 (twenty-three years ago)

I live in denial of my complete lack of social functions.

― robin carmody (robin carmody), Tuesday, 26 November 2002 06:08 (twenty-three years ago)

-That I will never actually be a pop star.

-That I will never actually have a cool, wonderful dirty dronerock boy pop star boyfriend.

If I gave up my denial of those facts, my life would be an evil and harsh and terrible and terrifying place, so god, why would I want to do that?

― kate, Tuesday, 26 November 2002 13:53 (twenty-three years ago)

donna if you're realistic about facts i think that's what important...but crappiness is a value judgment. saying that's denial is like saying "you're happy because you're in denial" when really it's "you're happy because you've decided that the crappy things aren't a huge deal." The idea that being happy or unhappy totally depends on facts annoys me so much.

― Maria (Maria), Tuesday, 26 November 2002 15:29 (twenty-three years ago)

The Lollies got one star out of five in The List )-:

― N. (nickdastoor), Tuesday, 26 November 2002 19:21 (twenty-three years ago)

Yeah, our PR said she wouldn't send us the bad reviews any more. I don't care, we got five stars and a massive fuckoff picture in the local Cambridge paper, so who gives a fuck about Scotland anyway? Humph!

― kate, Tuesday, 26 November 2002 19:33 (twenty-three years ago)

no maria i mean that i am quite able to deny to myself that the issues i am facing are big and awful, things that are pointed out to me but i bury my head in the sand and deny their existence.
i deny to stay sane. happiness doesnt come into it.
i realise that knowledge of my own denial stuffs up any 'true' denial, yes.

― donna (donna), Tuesday, 26 November 2002 19:58 (twenty-three years ago)

Worse than that, in the Frontline Releases section of the appropriate edition of Music Week, Taste was dmarked as "Indie", all of the others were "Rock/Pop" or "Indie/Rock" or somesuch, but The Lollies was like, the only album in a hundred listed purely as "Indie".

― Graham (graham), Wednesday, 27 November 2002 12:57 (twenty-three years ago)

Well at least that's the definition of indie sorted.

I am not in denial of anything but I'm not doing much about anything either.

― Tom (Groke), Wednesday, 27 November 2002 13:03 (twenty-three years ago)

We are EXACTLY as indie as Britney Spears. I.E. we are on an independant label. End of story.

― kate, Wednesday, 27 November 2002 13:44 (twenty-three years ago)

She's not any more though Kate - Zomba sold to BMG yesterday! You are the last indie act left!!

― Tom (Groke), Wednesday, 27 November 2002 13:48 (twenty-three years ago)

Sigh.

I am the new Britney Spears! Bow to me! Just wait till you hear OUR cover of I Love Rock N Roll.

― kate, Wednesday, 27 November 2002 13:54 (twenty-three years ago)

I liked Supergrass in Slingbacks in Uncut.

― Madchen (Madchen), Wednesday, 27 November 2002 13:59 (twenty-three years ago)

Maybe I don't live in denial after all...

It's amazing how boys with Julian Casablancas' haircut in every city in the UK want to sleep with you, after you've been in Q and Uncut.

― kate, Wednesday, 27 November 2002 14:04 (twenty-three years ago)

I am so indie my sounds never leave my own headphones. This is largely because while I'm in denial about almost everything else, including the fact that they will never improve, I can't quite deny how rubbish they are. Alas.

(I suppose I am in denial about Where My Life Is Going and how I'm getting old while it goes absolutely nowhere, but denial is so cosy and warm and effort-free. Ahh. Oh no, that's my duvet, but they end up being much the same thing anyway.)

― Rebecca (reb), Wednesday, 27 November 2002 14:20 (twenty-three years ago)

nope I'm not in denial at all! I know my job's not great, and I have no love life and I have far too many geeky obsessions! oh well.

― jel -- (jel), Wednesday, 27 November 2002 18:43 (twenty-three years ago)

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