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i donated two of my photographs to a silent auction for a gallery i am part of, i thot they were good enough, but no one bid on them and i feel really stupid, b/c i should have recognized that they sucked. but 2 of my buddies think their good to grate, dont they have to say that 'cause their my friends ?

― anthony easton (anthony), Monday, 9 December 2002 03:33 (twenty-two years ago)

post the photos if you have dig copies

― webcrack (music=crack), Monday, 9 December 2002 03:42 (twenty-two years ago)

its the photos, its that friends should prevent you from making an arse of yourself. or maybe my view of self vs others. i dont want yes men, but dont think anything i do is good...

― anthony easton (anthony), Monday, 9 December 2002 04:47 (twenty-two years ago)

Genius is never appreciated until after you die

― Mike Hanle y (mike), Monday, 9 December 2002 05:14 (twenty-two years ago)

Ooh bad advice Hanle y

― B, Monday, 9 December 2002 05:17 (twenty-two years ago)

Go on, take a few of your dolls.

― Sean (Sean), Monday, 9 December 2002 05:18 (twenty-two years ago)

but we ILXORs appreciate YOU, mr. hanle y

― Tad (llamasfur), Monday, 9 December 2002 05:18 (twenty-two years ago)

Maybe your friends were right and the photos are good. Don't beat yourself up about it just because they didn't happen to be quite what the bidders were looking for that day. Perhaps multitudes thought "you know, I like those photos, but I like this painting too. What would go well in my crib? Anyway the photos will probably go for too much. I'll bid on the painting."

― webcrack (music=crack), Monday, 9 December 2002 05:57 (twenty-two years ago)

i'd like to see them also

― ron (ron), Monday, 9 December 2002 06:06 (twenty-two years ago)

you can not blame your friends for this. they probably said that because they meant it (that is if they were real friends, but that is what you meant when you say 'buddies'?).

you should blame the ppl at the auction.

anyway, I hope this will cheer you up abit.

http://www.henry.k12.ga.us/pges/kid-pages/tea-party/Monkeys.gif

― erik, Monday, 9 December 2002 09:21 (twenty-two years ago)

Anthony, don’t let this setback stop you from taking more photos or trying to get them displayed or sold. I know how hard it can hit you when your art is rejected. A few years back I heard about an open art exhibition in my town, and I went to all the trouble of getting some paintings framed, I’ll admit I was far too optimistic about them being accepted for display. They weren’t, and it was pretty crushing for a week or so. While I haven’t seriously tried to sell or get a painting displayed since, I think the important thing is that I haven’t given up painting and I will try again with the selling thing one day.

So, yeah, don't take it too hard and keep on with the photography, and seek out opinion from people who don't know you at all.

― jel -- (jel), Monday, 9 December 2002 15:08 (twenty-two years ago)

Anthony! It's not your fault that people are so stupid about photography!

― rainy (rainy), Tuesday, 10 December 2002 02:28 (twenty-two years ago)

how so, rainy ?

― anthony easton (anthony), Tuesday, 10 December 2002 15:15 (twenty-two years ago)

Everything is beautiful to somebody. It's just that the wrong people were at the auction that day, so didn't appreciate your work. But I'm sure loads of other people will, so please try to keep cheerful and keep photographing. I wish I had time to do something lovely like that, I really do.

― C J (C J), Tuesday, 10 December 2002 15:23 (twenty-two years ago)

Its just like the new wave band located in a rural area. Just because all the farmers and rural people don't like them, it doesn't mean they are no good.

― A Nairn (moretap), Tuesday, 10 December 2002 19:26 (twenty-two years ago)

eight years pass...

I is having a crisis of confidence as is normal for me every so often, have been for the last few months. worried about this as being sure of yourself is one of the main criteria for being an actor, so I hope my acting gigs don't suffer. the only place I don't seem to have this problem is at work, but that's cuz frankly my job at the moment is really easy and I've long mastered it.

but everywhere else, not so sure of myself. find myself not even wanting to post to threads here for fear of getting picked apart or saying something stupid (which I no doubt have!)

even last month when I was doing paid a capella quartet singing gigs I was second guessing myself on music I've known for years.

how do most of you ILXers get your belief in yourself back up? think back over past successes as evidence that you can do it?

― O'Shea the Cubeman (San Te), Sunday, 2 January 2011 00:56 (fourteen years ago)

i have "crises of confidence" all the time. you have to have some faith in yourself, and i'm sure you have every reason to have that type of faith.

― Daniel, Esq., Sunday, 2 January 2011 01:07 (fourteen years ago)

sucking at stuff once in a while, or even more regularly, is a fairly universal experience. Enjoy doing whatever anyway.

― all i gotta do is akh nachivly (darraghmac), Sunday, 2 January 2011 02:38 (fourteen years ago)

San Te, maybe it's not you, it's the people around you. Any time I have felt "insecure", which is just about never, it's because the people around me were kind of draining.

Sometimes people think they are right and they just aren't.

― Cubby Wubby Nubby Hubby Dubby (u s steel), Sunday, 2 January 2011 03:07 (fourteen years ago)

I hide out for a while, focus more on the part of my life that isn't bumming me out, and try to re-boost my confidence by hanging with some positive friends or some exercise to get all the shit out of my brain.. Then go back to, for me it's writing, and give it another crack with a renewed boost of energy. Some times you just have to get away from yourself even if it's for a little while.

― VegemiteGrrrl, Sunday, 2 January 2011 03:15 (fourteen years ago)

When you have to, let's say, put a peg in a hole, you get immediate feedback about whether the peg fits. If it doesn't, you know something is wrong. At some point, you can figure out if it is because you screwed up, or because you weren't provided with the right pegs to fit the hole. Then you can fix it. Maybe. Anyway, it is easy to diagnose the situation if you pay close enough attention. That's probably like your current job that you've mastered.

When, otoh, you feel like you aren't up to the mark in some area it is probably because you aren't getting enough feedback, or what feedback you get is hard for you to interpret. You become like a lost child who looks, but only sees strange places and people and no clue how to get where you need to go.

That feeling like you are out of your depth and flailing is a normal part of transitioning into adulthood. It's never comfortable when it happens. You just have to fall back to a relatively "safe" position and try to think out a way ahead. It helps me to know it isn't life-or-death (you'll know when it is) and it's a given that I will make mistakes. You can't learn, otherwise.

Trust your overall ability to muddle you through without broken bones or making sworn enemies. If you make a worse muddle of it than usual, that just means you have ventured further into the unfamiliar, not that you are too weak and pitiful to cope with life. Eventually the unfamiliar becomes the known, if you can stick with it.

― Aimless, Sunday, 2 January 2011 03:51 (fourteen years ago)

thanx all

― O'Shea the Cubeman (San Te), Sunday, 2 January 2011 03:53 (fourteen years ago)

I do an excellent rain dance, btw. Just sayin'

― VegemiteGrrrl, Sunday, 2 January 2011 04:20 (fourteen years ago)

:-)

― Christine Green Leafy Dragon Indigo, Sunday, 2 January 2011 14:57 (fourteen years ago)

lols.

― O'Shea the Cubeman (San Te), Sunday, 2 January 2011 15:04 (fourteen years ago)

I have periods of needless self-doubt, too, but since I'm bipolar I can see them as just another flareup of my disease, just like a diabetic would see shaking and faintness as a flareup (and a sign that something needs to be done).

― Christine Green Leafy Dragon Indigo, Sunday, 2 January 2011 15:06 (fourteen years ago)

six months pass...

does anyone else want to tell me I suck? Just wonderin'.

― you call it trollin' i call it steamrollin' (Dr Morbius), Thursday, 28 July 2011 14:45 (fourteen years ago)

oh, you'd just secretly enjoy it.

― apichathong song (strongo hulkington's ghost dad), Thursday, 28 July 2011 14:46 (fourteen years ago)

I don't

― post, Thursday, 28 July 2011 14:46 (fourteen years ago)

http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_w4KrwqY9Z6I/TC6dioaUrmI/AAAAAAAAAlI/M84veKYIA2E/s1600/Waynes_World_Suck_and_Cut.jpg

― remy bean, Thursday, 28 July 2011 14:47 (fourteen years ago)

it sucks... and it cuts

― remy bean, Thursday, 28 July 2011 14:47 (fourteen years ago)

I think the criticisms of you today have been pretty otm, but I don't think you suck.

― an excellent source of vitamins and minerals (WmC), Thursday, 28 July 2011 14:48 (fourteen years ago)

Dr. Flowbius

― charlie "lasagna-ish" sheen (Kerm), Thursday, 28 July 2011 14:48 (fourteen years ago)

http://www.anywherefun.com/images/big/dunk_tank1.jpg

― № (am0n), Thursday, 28 July 2011 17:12 (fourteen years ago)

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