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Or accidental matching outfits, why the shame?

I'm doing holiday cover in the same office as my friend Lucas today. Much to the amusement of the rest of the staff we are wearing nearly identical outfits (knackered trainers, ripped jeans, slim fit t-shirt, smart jacket, army jacket, scarf).

It shouldn't be, but it is humilaiting. I feel like a kid sister tagging along after her older brother. Sub-worry: do all our friends look exactly the same and we just haven't clocked it?

I have no problem agreeing to shared friends, music taste etc etc, why not clothes? A stranger on public transport will smile if you have the same bag, but a stranger at a party will avoid you all night.

We are all individuals: discuss.

― Anna (Anna), Wednesday, 11 December 2002 11:42 (twenty-two years ago)

i cannot accept other people in brown

― gareth (gareth), Wednesday, 11 December 2002 12:59 (twenty-two years ago)

I cannot accept brown.

― lol p xx, Wednesday, 11 December 2002 13:25 (twenty-two years ago)

― gareth (gareth), Wednesday, 11 December 2002 13:36 (twenty-two years ago)

I was thinking about this the other day when I was about to buy a shirt which said "sleepwear" on the label, I mean I figured I didn't care if it was pyjamas cos all the other shirts are all so "sharp" (if i could do more sarcastic or larger inverted commas I would). Then I thought the shop is very popular and people might already own it but actually wear it in bed and I put it back.

― Ronan (Ronan), Wednesday, 11 December 2002 14:01 (twenty-two years ago)

i wouldn't give a rat's ass if someone's entire wardrobe was identical to mine. oh, apart from my scarf. if they had my scarf, i'd be mad as hell.

― g-kit (g-kit), Wednesday, 11 December 2002 14:11 (twenty-two years ago)

I don't buy anything at all if I think there's the tiniest chance someone else might have the same thing.

― Graham (graham), Wednesday, 11 December 2002 14:21 (twenty-two years ago)

here's a tip... if you wear odd socks, it really smashes the odds of someone wearing exactly the same outfit as you.

― g-kit (g-kit), Wednesday, 11 December 2002 14:26 (twenty-two years ago)

**(knackered trainers, ripped jeans, slim fit t-shirt, smart jacket, army jacket, scarf)**

Same as yr friend or not - these togs ROCK, Anna!! Make HIM change!

― Dr. C (Dr. C), Wednesday, 11 December 2002 14:33 (twenty-two years ago)

i dress so stupidly (and also cheaply) that it's highly unlike that anyone would EVER show up in an identical outfit. once, someone i knew showed up wearing the very same COOL DRONEROCK BAND shirt that i was wearinga, and i was intensely annoyed. but it was OK, cause his was clearly new, and mine was all beat up and old.

what's far more embarrassing is when you go to a GIG and you realise that everyone there is dressed identically to you. fortunately, this hasn't actually happened since the last time i saw sonic boom at the knitting factory. (oh god, i'm so pretentious, shoot me) my old keyboardist in NYC refused to go to the knitting factory on the grounds that it freaked him out that every time he went there, half th audience looked exactly like him, right down to the hair/facial hair style combination.

― kate, Wednesday, 11 December 2002 15:05 (twenty-two years ago)

I narrowly avoided what doubtless would have been the defining trauma of my adolescence by choosing a shirt and trouser ensemble for my first proper party outing (haha that sounds odd - I was no debutante honest). The 'hostess' of the party was wearing the same (Tammy Girl) dress that I had OH SO NEARLY bought.

― Archel (Archel), Wednesday, 11 December 2002 15:13 (twenty-two years ago)

At least in this case the total lack of shared physical characteristics stops a total clone zone attack.

― Anna (Anna), Wednesday, 11 December 2002 15:16 (twenty-two years ago)

Graham then you shld not buy at h&m.

I had the misfortune twice with the same boy at work. I was standing at the reception-desk when he came in in the same striped H&M sweater i wore that day. i t was funny, becsuse we were standing so opposite each other mirrorring. but then say half a year later he showed up again, in the other version of the same sweater (this time more blue green stripes), again the same I was wearing that day.

― erik, Wednesday, 11 December 2002 15:43 (twenty-two years ago)

I don't really notice what other people are wearing.

― jel -- (jel), Wednesday, 11 December 2002 15:46 (twenty-two years ago)

i don't even notice what i'm wearing. apart from my scarf.

― g-kit (g-kit), Wednesday, 11 December 2002 15:56 (twenty-two years ago)

I own up to being a tshirt and jeans kind of gal. Of course, half of London's population will be dressed just like me;> However, it's not your clothes, but your personality that defines you.

As for noticing what other people wear, I do, but don't dwell on it. As long as they smell lovely and clean, fair enough;>

― Nichole Graham (Nichole Graham), Wednesday, 11 December 2002 15:59 (twenty-two years ago)

Best ever example of this was experienced by my girlfriend R. recently. The Prime Minister of the exiled Tibetan government is a monk of some kind, and R. met him recently (she works for Amnesty, and is some sort of coordinator of campaigns relating to Tibet), and his robes and her dress were the same colour.

― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Wednesday, 11 December 2002 21:10 (twenty-two years ago)

Damnit Anna I was going to start this thread.

― nabisco (nabisco), Wednesday, 11 December 2002 21:26 (twenty-two years ago)

By the way Anna, I'll be in a black suit, white shirt and red tie on Friday, just to cut the risk of a clash...

― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Wednesday, 11 December 2002 22:19 (twenty-two years ago)

two months pass...

Felicity and I inadvertently wore matching skirts to the Matos fap, but hers is short and sweet and mine is long. Both are red plaid. Upon touch mine actually revealed itself to be more flannel-y.

― Mary (Mary), Friday, 21 February 2003 03:50 (twenty-two years ago)

I loved that! And how K___ also was touching our skirts to help us make sure the material was different, haha. We are Sailors Venus and Mars!

Wearing inadvertently matching or coordinating outfits is k-great! Then you go stand by your closet twin and talk about what great style you both have. Unless it's someone kind of inappropriate, like an infant or a panhandler.

― felicity (felicity), Saturday, 22 February 2003 22:17 (twenty-two years ago)

Or me.

― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Sunday, 23 February 2003 01:23 (twenty-two years ago)

Martin, if I ever find myself in a room with you inadvertently wearing matching or coordinating outfits you can be most assured that I will glue myself to your side and make sure the whole word notices our great style.

(although I probably dress like a panhandler more than you do. I have decided I can't dress myself. I realized again today that my idea of an outfit is to be a walking potlatch ceremony -- not at all flattering. I unfortunately inherited these notions from my mother's side. So coordinating with me is not a good thing.)

― felicity (felicity), Sunday, 23 February 2003 01:46 (twenty-two years ago)

Felicity and I inadvertently wore matching skirts to the Matos fap, but hers is short and sweet and mine is long. Both are red plaid. Upon touch mine actually revealed itself to be more flannel-y.

...and I will put note that I have virtually the same skirt, but in micro-mini format, and had worn it to a previous FAP, and that previous FAP was the reason why I didn't put on that EXACT SAME SKIRT that night.

― Ally (mlescaut), Sunday, 23 February 2003 03:19 (twenty-two years ago)

I like accidentally dressing the same as a friend, it's funny. As for strangers, it's good if you look better in the outfit and bad if they look better.

― Maria (Maria), Sunday, 23 February 2003 03:53 (twenty-two years ago)

I realized again today that my idea of an outfit is to be a walking potlatch ceremony

felicity is part Kwakiutl?

― gabbneb (gabbneb), Sunday, 23 February 2003 04:02 (twenty-two years ago)

It's never worried me if others are wearing the same as me. It might be some left over goth thing - black is black is black, no matter what shape it is.

Or maybe it's left over from the school uniform thing - you realise pretty quickly that the more similar you all look the more your differences shine.

Anyway, if I like what someone's got on I'll ask them where they got it and then often go and buy the same. Some people are really offended by this sort of behaviour, as if I've somehow threatened their uniqueness. Like they were so unique for buying an Esprit shirt anyway.

― toraneko (toraneko), Sunday, 23 February 2003 07:53 (twenty-two years ago)

I probably dress like a panhandler more than you do

Have you ever had comradely nods from tramps? I have. I think we're unlikely ever to be dressed identically - I hardly ever wear red plaid miniskirts.

― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Sunday, 23 February 2003 11:55 (twenty-two years ago)

Do you wear a kilt though Martin?

― Mary (Mary), Sunday, 23 February 2003 20:39 (twenty-two years ago)

No, I am English.

― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Sunday, 23 February 2003 20:45 (twenty-two years ago)

b-but you'd look good in one martin!

― Julio Desouza (jdesouza), Sunday, 23 February 2003 21:35 (twenty-two years ago)

Martin, I will dress up like Suzy Quattro for the next FAP if you will grace us with a kilt! ;-)

― kate, Sunday, 23 February 2003 22:26 (twenty-two years ago)

I do have particularly attractive (though extremely short) legs, but I'm not sure how Julio knows this. Nonetheless, Scots generally look silly enough in kilts, and I'd look a great deal sillier. I certainly have no intention of buying one, even with Kate's incentive.

― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Sunday, 23 February 2003 22:28 (twenty-two years ago)

Side question: American men with a sprinkling of Scottish ancestry who wear kilts at their weddings, C/D? (Uh-oh I hope Triscuit doesn't see this.)

― Mary (Mary), Monday, 24 February 2003 00:29 (twenty-two years ago)

Side question: American men with a sprinkling of Scottish ancestry who wear kilts at their weddings, C/D?

It depends on the state of their legs.

― Nicole (Nicole), Monday, 24 February 2003 00:30 (twenty-two years ago)

Kilts are fine as long as the legs can carry it off. Really thin legs under kilts are way, way worse than really fat ones.

― Lara (Lara), Monday, 24 February 2003 00:32 (twenty-two years ago)

That damned double-click.

― Lara (Lara), Monday, 24 February 2003 00:34 (twenty-two years ago)

If the men want to wear plaid, I would prefer they wore Vivienne Westwood.

― Mary (Mary), Monday, 24 February 2003 00:37 (twenty-two years ago)

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