How do you say "I think your adorable. Will you go out with me?" without being too forward??

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There's this person I work with that we flirt with each other every opportunity we get...For the last month and a half, its been constant innuendos, giggles, smiles, laughter. If I walk anywhere remotely near them and I don't acknowledge their presence,they get right up near me, look me in the eyes, wave and say "hi____" and smile...It makes me melt...I can't ask anyone around the office if they've got a significant other because we'll be the talk of the building.I mean he does have a rainbow weaved into his eyeglass holder so I think my chances are pretty good..My manager has already caught on by giving me several extra reasons to stop by their department..When we came back from the Holiday,everyone was asking about how each others holiday was and went into a little story about what they did. When I asked him "How was your new year?" His response "quiet" *smile*
So am I being played with?
Do I make the first move?
Do I just ask someone in my office what his story is?

― whatzitzname (whatzitzname), Sunday, 5 January 2003 00:10 (twenty-two years ago)

"I think your adorable. Will you go out with me?"

― Graham (graham), Sunday, 5 January 2003 00:24 (twenty-two years ago)

Can you not just casually ask them for a drink/coffee/food or some such, at lunch time or after work?

― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Sunday, 5 January 2003 00:31 (twenty-two years ago)

ask him something non-threatening. like 'join me for lunch to discuss this work-related thing...' while on this lunch, slowly bring in personal topics. good way 2 find out status is 2 ask about living situation... then ask if they live with partner... have a partner, etc. stealth directness that u can back out of if he appears unomfortable.

― masonicboom, Sunday, 5 January 2003 00:31 (twenty-two years ago)

just ask for lunch, no excuses, reasoning or cough outs.

― Mr Noodles (Mr Noodles), Sunday, 5 January 2003 00:39 (twenty-two years ago)

I always find myself attracted to these quiet shy types. Keep flirting. It's fun right?? At some point when your alone and comfortable enough to ask just doit!! Hey are you joking around because (insert your thread title here)and I'm not joking". Dive off the cliff and see what happens. It doesn't always work but I can honestly say that the best relationships I've had came out of situations like yours..Good Luck!! And if you decide that you don't like him or it doesn't work out, tell him to drop me a line..Lol

― brg30 (brg30), Sunday, 5 January 2003 00:43 (twenty-two years ago)

Say it while moving BACKWARDS

― Curtis Stephens, Sunday, 5 January 2003 03:20 (twenty-two years ago)

What Graham said. Really.

― Mark C (Mark C), Sunday, 5 January 2003 18:19 (twenty-two years ago)

If it were me, I'd just ask him straight.

But if you really can't do that, the work-lunch ruse seems pretty safe. Find out whether he plays the same sports you do, then challenge him to a game: fun, healthy and you'll be able to find out a good deal while he's catching his breath....

― Nichole Graham (Nichole Graham), Sunday, 5 January 2003 19:49 (twenty-two years ago)

I wouldn't act like you really want to talk about work when you actually want to find out about dating, though, because if it doesn't work out the person could become suspicious about actually talking about work, and you'll have to work together anyway. Find some other excuse.

― Maria (Maria), Sunday, 5 January 2003 20:11 (twenty-two years ago)

have a party. wait till you're both really drunk and then: WHAM! oh wait, the rest of the world is more civilised than new zealand!

― di smith (lucylurex), Monday, 6 January 2003 00:33 (twenty-two years ago)

but make sure u say the word 'adorable'. it's a killer

― zemko (bob), Monday, 6 January 2003 01:34 (twenty-two years ago)

and make sure you spell "you're" the right way when you say it

― Tracer Hand (tracerhand), Monday, 6 January 2003 01:39 (twenty-two years ago)

Tracer is OTM.

― Jody Beth Rosen (Jody Beth Rosen), Monday, 6 January 2003 01:41 (twenty-two years ago)

No, I was thinking if show weakness like that, if they don't fancy you they'll at least feel sorry for you.

― Graham (graham), Monday, 6 January 2003 01:43 (twenty-two years ago)

"SO, are we gonna have a drink after work or what?"

― Spencer Chow (spencermfi), Monday, 6 January 2003 01:56 (twenty-two years ago)

or don't even suggest that "or what" is a possibility. Be casual and friendly (but not overly cocksure) and act all "when" not "if," as if getting lunch/a drink/meeting up at the local GaMerZ zone would the most natural thing in the world.

― felicity (felicity), Monday, 6 January 2003 02:20 (twenty-two years ago)

And don't forget to have your cock out.

― Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Monday, 6 January 2003 05:01 (twenty-two years ago)

oh, it be.

― felicity (felicity), Monday, 6 January 2003 05:07 (twenty-two years ago)

And don't forget to have your cock out.

But not you're cock. That's just clumsy.

― mark p (Mark P), Monday, 6 January 2003 05:10 (twenty-two years ago)

(Cutest thread of 2003, BTW. Just ask him out.)

― mark p (Mark P), Monday, 6 January 2003 05:12 (twenty-two years ago)

shee-it, 2003 is only six days old, and no one has brought out any pictures of kittens yet... how can this be the cutest thread?

(or are pictures of kitten sooooo 2002?)

― kate, Monday, 6 January 2003 05:15 (twenty-two years ago)

Cock is the new kitten.

― Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Monday, 6 January 2003 14:42 (twenty-two years ago)

(I'm so sorry.)

― Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Monday, 6 January 2003 14:43 (twenty-two years ago)

No you're not.

― smee (smee), Monday, 6 January 2003 14:49 (twenty-two years ago)

http://www.museum-london.org.uk/MOLsite/exhibits/changing_faces/images/cock.jpg

― Tim (Tim), Monday, 6 January 2003 14:53 (twenty-two years ago)

Very farmable.

― Tom (Groke), Monday, 6 January 2003 14:54 (twenty-two years ago)

I'm driving all my friends nuts because I'm completely obsessed with the most beautiful girl in Ann Arbor... it's complicated cuz I know her best friend who has a thing for me but I really like the friend and have no real way to get to her. So all of my free time and thought is dedicated to figuring out how how how!!

But, in regards to the question above, let me tell you from experience that unless it's TOTALLY obvious, the direct approach does NOT always work. Especially if the girl in question is very adorable, because they're usually like, "Yeah, who doesn't think I'm adorable and want to go out with me?" So, my advice, is to cultivate her interest. You're fishing... you let out a bit of reel, pull it back in, let out a bit, pull it back... It's a game and you're not really being dishonest, it's just part of the "love process." The trick is to get HER interested in YOU. Anyway, that's what I'm planning on doing with my bird (see rooster above).

― Aaron W, Monday, 6 January 2003 15:18 (twenty-two years ago)

You noticed this is someone chasing after a boy, right? And you Dan?

― Graham (graham), Monday, 6 January 2003 15:22 (twenty-two years ago)

"I mean he does have a rainbow weaved into his eyeglass holder so I think my chances are pretty good"

― Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Monday, 6 January 2003 15:27 (twenty-two years ago)

Graham, sympathy is NEVER sexy.

― Mark C (Mark C), Monday, 6 January 2003 15:30 (twenty-two years ago)

Sorry... I'm a bit too self-obsessed to bother reading carefully, apparantly. But my sure-fire advice works for either the guys or the ladiez.

― Aaron W, Monday, 6 January 2003 15:31 (twenty-two years ago)

have a party. wait till you're both really drunk and then: WHAM! oh wait, the rest of the world is more civilised than new zealand!"
"SO, are we gonna have a drink after work or what?"

Proceed with caution when it comes to alcohol. In my experience you either 1. Do or say things that are a little too forward or 2. Your find out your interest just doesn't like to be around drinkers. Find out first. If things do work out you can compromise. One of the biggest mistakes of my life was being drunk around a particular person the first time we hung out as friends before there was an interest. :(

― brg30 (brg30), Monday, 6 January 2003 23:49 (twenty-two years ago)

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