Lining up yr next boyfriend/girlfriend while you're still "involved" with someone else

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It's never easy to get out of even a horrible relationship, so I guess it's like WHATEVER MEANS NECESSARY. What do you think?

― bruno hauptmann, Thursday, 23 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

I could speak about the past. I'm not going there.

― Ned Raggett, Thursday, 23 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

It depends on the situation. It's kind of low but it happens.

― Ally, Thursday, 23 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

It's nice to see that you can see the situation from both sides, Bruno; it shows maturity. I once knew this guy who maintained that he was not really into conventional relationships and treated his girlfriend with detachment to prove it, ie 'dumped' her and then got back with her repeatedly, but when they really broke up he immediately started staying with this other girl every night, sort of as a way to get over it I suppose. I guess it's not quite the same as lining up your next girlfriend, but when you consider that anyone would have done, he didn't really have to line someone up. But the thing is, I don't think what he did was wrong. What seems wrong to me is people who think they know what other people should do. Cause you can bet they're not doing anything like it themselves.

― Noah Putnam Burn, Friday, 24 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

never done it myself. i usually like to have some time to be single and promiscuous after a relationship.

once happened to me when i was 16 tho. my 18yearold boyf dumped me for my twelve year old next door neighbour. guess i was just too legal for him. ya make your own fun in the country, i guess.

― lady die, Friday, 24 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

my, this is an entertaining thread!

― lady die, Friday, 24 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

I've never had the pleasure. I generally prefer to be the victim of such things ie. Lining up or being lined up by my next girlfriend while they're still involved with someone else. This might be because I'm never involved with anyone though the more I think about it. I think its easy to get out of horrible relationships, what with email and all

― Ronan Fitzgerald, Friday, 24 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

'Lining up' = ongoing process, to be done continuously, with multiple candidates at ANY given time, whether you're in a relationship or not, and at EVERY stage of the relationship.

― dave q, Friday, 24 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

I had once just got together with someone and he had arranged to meet his ex (of a couple of months, as far as I knew) in the pub with another friend. He took me along and she was clearly not happy and accused him of 'flaunting Emma at me' which I was fairly taken aback by. I don't think he was very good at being single as less than a month after we broke up he was seeing someone else. Useless bastard. She then cheated on him repeatedly, ha ha.

― Emma, Friday, 24 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

But theres no hard feelings or bitterness right?

― Ronan Fitzgerald, Friday, 24 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

The thing with this question is the quotes, which are an accurate portrayal I think because if you are looking for others while you are "involved" then you aren't really involved at all. If you're in a bad relationship and you are disinterested but don't want to just be cruel or you are bored or whatever that it is keeping you in it for a little longer, of course you're going to be looking around a bit for other options, it's just natural.

― Ally, Friday, 24 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Guys should cheat even when they're 'happy' in a relationship, it's good to desensitize oneself and come down out of the clouds occasionally. Also, it's a good insurance policy, making hay while the sun shines and all that

― dave q, Friday, 24 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Yawn.

― Emma, Friday, 24 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

You know, Dave, I hope you're suggesting that for both men AND women, because, otherwise, well, you're just full of shit.

― David Raposa, Friday, 24 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

Yes I won't sleep for want of worry about which you meant Dave,

― Ronan Fitzgerald, Friday, 24 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

I know a lot of girls who will not be without a boyfriend for a day or they start having panic attacks. I would rather avoid that and worry about one person at a time.

― Lyra, Friday, 24 August 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)

nineteen years pass...

the dead alleged killer of the Lindbergh baby posted to ILX? jfc those were some halcyon days

― Neanderthal, Tuesday, 27 October 2020 01:59 (five years ago)

why did I waste "great revive" on the other thread

― assert (MatthewK), Tuesday, 27 October 2020 02:07 (five years ago)

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Lining up yr next boyfriend/girlfriend while you're still "involved" with someone else - sensible pragmatism or just chickenshit?