― A Nairn (moretap), Friday, 7 February 2003 20:17 (twenty-two years ago)
― Chris P (Chris P), Friday, 7 February 2003 20:18 (twenty-two years ago)
― jel -- (jel), Friday, 7 February 2003 20:22 (twenty-two years ago)
― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Friday, 7 February 2003 20:50 (twenty-two years ago)
― janni (janni), Friday, 7 February 2003 20:52 (twenty-two years ago)
My trouble is that I have a freakishly wicked but selective memory. It gets me in trouble. I forget that people may not be used to being held accountable for every thing they say or do ever. Most people don't seem to like it. I probably wouldn't either.
I am rarely sure of a person's intentions when they say things that are ambiguous or in a non-deadpan tone of voice so my default position is to take the things people say on an almost pathologically literal level. I tend to answer rhetorical questions and rarely ask them. This is also why I make so many terrible puns.
I also get impatient with people who say things they mean and then backtrack when I ask them to elaborate. It's frustrating for me because I usually respect what the person really wants to say but sometimes we never get to that point because they don't give me enough credit for being open-minded enough to accept their view and then they get offended in turn by my follow-up questions and I get frustrated by their lack of trust, etc.
Another problem for me is that I am keenly aware of ritual and coded and mannered conduct. Although I do believe that people's actions speak almost to the exclusion of their words, I still read far too much into the negative pregrants of people's omissions.
I understand that people find these behaviors extremely annoying. I am trying to work on them and to be more generous with people's failings. I have plenty of them, I know.
― felicity (felicity), Friday, 7 February 2003 21:04 (twenty-two years ago)
― Maria (Maria), Friday, 7 February 2003 22:00 (twenty-two years ago)
Me too. I would say 'on the money' if it wasn't such a .... nevermind. IF IT WASN'T SUCH A BLATANT AMERICANISM.
A Nairn - you're the person that posted a picture of someone who died of a heroin overdose aren't you. I thought you were a troll before you posted a photo, now I simply don't care.
― chris sallis, Saturday, 8 February 2003 02:29 (twenty-two years ago)
― jess (dubplatestyle), Saturday, 8 February 2003 02:31 (twenty-two years ago)
k?
― felicity (felicity), Saturday, 8 February 2003 02:35 (twenty-two years ago)
I said to a friend "Issues are over-rated" and he got mad at me saying that they are important, and it is important to get emotional about them. I tend to believe that
Also I want to avoid offending others, but prefer being more honest than nonoffensive. (hense heroin overdose picture in that one thread)
(What's a troll, and how was I one?)
― A Nairn (moretap), Saturday, 8 February 2003 03:42 (twenty-two years ago)
― A Nairn (moretap), Saturday, 8 February 2003 03:43 (twenty-two years ago)
― di smith (lucylurex), Saturday, 8 February 2003 03:47 (twenty-two years ago)
― ron (ron), Saturday, 8 February 2003 03:50 (twenty-two years ago)
― elephantiasis, Saturday, 8 February 2003 10:08 (twenty-two years ago)
― Nick Southall (Nick Southall), Saturday, 8 February 2003 10:10 (twenty-two years ago)
― Ed (dali), Saturday, 8 February 2003 10:23 (twenty-two years ago)
how gershy missed this one is utterly beyond me
― Just got offed, Sunday, 23 December 2007 20:47 (seventeen years ago)
Great revive.
― The blue-green world is drenched with horse gore, Sunday, 23 December 2007 20:49 (seventeen years ago)
people are easily offended
― pc user, Sunday, 23 December 2007 20:53 (seventeen years ago)
I am offended that people are easily offended by this revive.
― snoball, Sunday, 23 December 2007 21:01 (seventeen years ago)
argh fuck off louis god you're such a prick cut it out
― El Tomboto, Sunday, 23 December 2007 21:55 (seventeen years ago)
there's a difference between being easily annoyed and easily offended
― blueski, Sunday, 23 December 2007 22:10 (seventeen years ago)
just got offended OTM
― StanM, Monday, 24 December 2007 11:28 (seventeen years ago)
3 reasons to not get offended:
1. misdirected animosity is part of our mode of operation
2. pride is pretty much useless
3. mtv has turned our manners to shit.
― nicky lo-fi, Monday, 24 December 2007 12:44 (seventeen years ago)
capital revive, lj
― That one guy that hit it and quit it, Monday, 24 December 2007 13:22 (seventeen years ago)
nicky OTM 1 should be ILX's mission statement 2 is my personal mantra 3 is a good summary of the closing years of the 20th century
― snoball, Monday, 24 December 2007 13:44 (seventeen years ago)
eh?
i hardly ever watched mtv and have terrible manners anyway.
― pc user, Monday, 24 December 2007 13:49 (seventeen years ago)