Are you obsessive-compulsive or passive-aggressive?

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Vic (Vic), Monday, 10 February 2003 13:45 (twenty-two years ago)

Both. Why should they be mutually exclusive?

kate, Monday, 10 February 2003 13:49 (twenty-two years ago)

I'm passively compulsive and obsessively aggressive.

Lynskey (Lynskey), Monday, 10 February 2003 13:50 (twenty-two years ago)

Oh they don't have to be Kate. Use this thread to talk about whatever modern western psychiatric terms describe you, and if you think such terms are even valid and REAL or not, or just bullshit intellectual constuctions that have nothing to do with authetic neurotic cases

I still don't know how I feel. I mean, 50 years ago, wasn't homosexuality also looked upon as a mental illnes/"condition." I just hve a problem with all of these labels, these neat little categories they want to put you in

Plus, it leads to more self-victimization too. "Yes, I am bi-polar, doctor told me so," which leads to more dubious rationalizations. Get what I'm saying?

Vic (Vic), Monday, 10 February 2003 13:53 (twenty-two years ago)

Do you really need examples of my obsessive compulsivity? For fucks sake, just search the phrase "Hilton Betelgeuse" and you'll get a good idea. I eat the same bloody thing every day in the same order. I have cleaning rituals that must be observed or I flip out. When I was 15, I washed my hands so often that they started to bleed. My teachers could not understand why I had to leave the room 3 or 4 times during the course of one class.

Labels are dumb, yeah, and any "disorder" is just an exaggeration of normal behaviour. But if it's helpful to categorise in order to understand said behaviour, then fine, do it.

I divert the behaviour into realms where it's acceptible, and even useful. I wouldn't be as good as I am at my job here without my edge of compulsivity, I mean, checking numbers all bloody day, what kind of freak is good at that? And playing guitar, you have to do it over and over again until you get it right. Maybe to someone that would seem like OCD, but to musicians, it's called PRACTICE.

I don't know. I'm ranting. I'm bipolar, too, so what? I always used it as just an explanation, not a justification or an excuse.

kate, Monday, 10 February 2003 13:58 (twenty-two years ago)

My mom has a PhD in Psychology and has been teaching it for years and years. Needless to say, she diagnoses my sisters and I (and complete strangers) tous le temps. Her favorite thing is to say that guys she once had crushes on turned out to be bipolar. When I met my sister's new bf in France, my mom asked me if he seemed to have any psychological problems. I was like, "Uh, mom, we only had coffee with him for about an hour. He didn't do anything crazy."

I would say that I'm OCD except that I know my youngest sister and she has it way worse than I do. I almost feel normal around her. I definitely think I'm egocentric. And you might as well throw in some sort of anti-social disorder while you're at it. I think I'm very outgoing but my entire family says I'm crazy to think so.

Anyway, if I have to pick b/w OCD and passive-aggression, I'll go with the former.

Sarah McLusky (coco), Monday, 10 February 2003 14:04 (twenty-two years ago)

I think I'm definitely more OC. It can be tied into that addictions thread. And I have a very bad, dark past with it which cannot be discussed on here!

I don't really know if I know any true passive-aggressives or bi-polars, though. Couldn't it just be called, eh, "moodiness" ?? I don't know. Its too hard to sort out all three of these labels anyway. When does PA hit BiP levels, and where does it overlap with OC?

Vic (Vic), Monday, 10 February 2003 14:09 (twenty-two years ago)

Obsessive Compulsive. I have routines. If they don't get followed, I get testy and sometimes physically ill. I'm not as bad as a relative of mine. She's a little crazy. Brushes her hair/teeth/etc. the same amount of strokes each day, etc.

Megan P, Monday, 10 February 2003 14:14 (twenty-two years ago)

I'm quite obsessive/compulvise, about checking if doors are locked and things are turned off. That's about it really. Not at all passive/aggressive.

jel -- (jel), Monday, 10 February 2003 16:48 (twenty-two years ago)

search: 12 monkeys

boxcubed (boxcubed), Monday, 10 February 2003 17:12 (twenty-two years ago)

I came up with a bunch of alternate versions of these conditions with my ex:

aggressive/EXPLOSIVE
passive/catatonic
catatonic/incontinent
incontinent/EXPLOSIVE

etc.

Spencer Chow (spencermfi), Monday, 10 February 2003 17:56 (twenty-two years ago)

I'm aggressive compulsive.

Ronan (Ronan), Monday, 10 February 2003 18:04 (twenty-two years ago)

I'm slightly passive/catatonic.

fractal (fractal), Monday, 10 February 2003 18:16 (twenty-two years ago)

I don't think I'm very much of either of those things, probably.

Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Monday, 10 February 2003 19:05 (twenty-two years ago)

I'm neurotic/lethargic

jel -- (jel), Monday, 10 February 2003 19:11 (twenty-two years ago)

Whichever is sexier.

Curtis Stephens, Monday, 10 February 2003 20:24 (twenty-two years ago)

"Passive-aggressive is sexy; obsessive-compulsive is sexier." < /nerve>

Jody Beth Rosen (Jody Beth Rosen), Monday, 10 February 2003 20:31 (twenty-two years ago)

I can’t do it.
*drink*
I can’t do it.
*drink*
I can’t do it.
*drink*

brg30 (brg30), Monday, 10 February 2003 22:00 (twenty-two years ago)

Sure, I'll be glad to tell you. I'm....

oh shit! Think I left the stove on again. Hold on a sec.

Joe (Joe), Tuesday, 11 February 2003 00:53 (twenty-two years ago)

I was diagnosed with fuck you buddy disease at age you fucking cocksuckers. This was after an incident at go fuck yourself in which with a fucking band saw and the principal suggested suck my fat hairy balls and threatened you fucking shit heap.

Millar (Millar), Tuesday, 11 February 2003 01:34 (twenty-two years ago)

passive -aggressive

di smith (lucylurex), Tuesday, 11 February 2003 01:49 (twenty-two years ago)

i'm not providing examples.

di smith (lucylurex), Tuesday, 11 February 2003 01:49 (twenty-two years ago)

compulsive-obsessive

electric sound of jim (electricsound), Tuesday, 11 February 2003 01:50 (twenty-two years ago)

i don't think i'm obsessive-compulsive, but sometimes i wake up in the middle of the night worrying that i havem't turned the headlights off in my car, and i have to go down and check.

di smith (lucylurex), Tuesday, 11 February 2003 01:51 (twenty-two years ago)

Okay, the stove is off. What was the question again?

Joe (Joe), Tuesday, 11 February 2003 01:56 (twenty-two years ago)

I'm a relaxed neurotic and a hedonistic environmentalist

I'm Passing Open Windows (Ms Laura), Tuesday, 11 February 2003 03:24 (twenty-two years ago)

obsessive-compulsive anagrammer?

vesuv rams meagre ile cosmos - ban pi!

Wintermute (Wintermute), Tuesday, 11 February 2003 19:12 (twenty-two years ago)

one year passes...
prompted by the childhood weirdness thread...

i had a major thing in my childhood about doing things in groups of four, and drilled it into myself to such an extent that i still do it (although it's done on such a subconscious level at this stage that its not such an EXHAUSTING CHORE as it used to be). ive been lumbered with this bizarre habit for so long that if i ever met my childhood self i'd give it a good thrashing for insisting on such bizarre routines.

it's not a source of any real trauma, though. i find it pretty funny, in many ways...

do any of you still force yourself to undergo bizarre routines?

weasel diesel (K1l14n), Friday, 15 October 2004 23:11 (twenty-one years ago)

although, as others have said, i don't know why this thread is pitting two perfectly compatible character traits against each other - it's like saying "are you confident or aggressive?"

weasel diesel (K1l14n), Friday, 15 October 2004 23:13 (twenty-one years ago)

I'm definitely obsessive-compulsive, and it shows up in odd ways:

* When I'm editing audio tracks in my music production work, my edits must be ABSOLUTELY, PERFECTLY SEAMLESS. Backing vocals have to be cut so that they are in perfect unison rhythmically; lead vocals need inhales and exhales level-reduced so that they are audible but not intrusive. All "dead" air between verse & chorus sections is cut out completely. Any time I've handed vocals to other people for remixes, they've joked that they were "so clean you could eat off of them". I've been almost physically ill when I've had to rush things and deliver work that, to my ears, was less than ideal.

* I HATE food bits sticking to the dish cloth when I'm washing dishes - I HAVE to constantly rinse and wring out the cloth. I also HAVE to rinse the dishes thoroughly.
Don't ask me why.

* I had a TERRIBLE habit of picking at scabs as a kid. Bleh. I don't really do this anymore.

* I killed many an hour as a teen making sure my drums were set up perfectly, so that they were super-playable (in terms of the angles and distances) and aesthetically pleasing.

* I cannot take the top newspaper from the stack in the newspaper box.

* I mentioned elsewhere that I will fixate on altercations with people. Fortunately, I don't have that many, but when they do happen... I can't let go until my brain lets me.

I'm sure there's more weirdness - this is just off the top of my head.

Tantrum The Cat (Tantrum The Cat), Saturday, 16 October 2004 20:23 (twenty years ago)

Always always always picked RIGHT over LEFT, and correspondingly if I had to choose between two random things I would always pick the one whose initial letter was R, or closest to R (in alphabetical-order-sense). Also had a preoccupation with the number 7, and with touching wood to prevent bad things from happening (as in "oh i do hope this calamitous thing doesn't happen TOUCH WOOD"), it reached a point where I would sit around imagining the most horrific things I could think of and then rubbing the edges of tables and desks and picture frames or whatever to ensure that they didn't come true.

The touching wood thing is the only one of these that I still find myself doing, it's not so hard to consciously stop myself now whereas previously I really couldn't. It seems quite funny now, I was never really treated for it or anything.

Alex in Doncaster (Alex in Doncaster), Saturday, 16 October 2004 20:45 (twenty years ago)

he said 'touching wood' !

Remy (x Jeremy), Saturday, 16 October 2004 21:17 (twenty years ago)

hey, thanks for noticing!!!!!!!!

Alex in Doncaster (Alex in Doncaster), Saturday, 16 October 2004 21:46 (twenty years ago)

five years pass...

i am so obsessive compulsive i think i'm gonna throw up

janice (surm), Tuesday, 13 July 2010 00:05 (fifteen years ago)

And then clean it up. Five times.

emil.y, Tuesday, 13 July 2010 00:10 (fifteen years ago)

I am demonically well-adjusted.

Aimless, Tuesday, 13 July 2010 03:11 (fifteen years ago)

well, I love music, so that suggests something...

PappaWheelie V, Tuesday, 13 July 2010 03:16 (fifteen years ago)

eleven months pass...

so i've seen a doctor about this. it helped. but i still have problems with it.

j lol (surm), Wednesday, 15 June 2011 16:54 (fourteen years ago)

sorry to hear that!

coffeetripperspillerslyricmakeruppers (Latham Green), Wednesday, 15 June 2011 16:57 (fourteen years ago)

it's ok, i'll be fine

j lol (surm), Wednesday, 15 June 2011 17:10 (fourteen years ago)

Not a stigma you should have to live with, I am sure. I am guilty of hoarding, so was my dad....but after my father passed (he had the same issue to the point where he was given medication), I am not sorry he saved so much crap. It's a lot of work but it makes me feel closer to him.

So Folkloric (u s steel), Wednesday, 15 June 2011 17:17 (fourteen years ago)


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