Why do I always get dumped right before Valentines Day?

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And why do my boyfriends always get the last word? Sigh...

Anyone need a date for Valentine's Day? I'm feeling awfully reboundy!

― Megan P, Monday, 10 February 2003 14:09 (twenty-two years ago)

Sure! Where are you?

( )))hugs((( etc)

― Graham (graham), Monday, 10 February 2003 14:15 (twenty-two years ago)

Shall we start a ILE Valentine's Club where we send cards to each other?

― Lara (Lara), Monday, 10 February 2003 14:19 (twenty-two years ago)

I got dumped on my birthday once. I think that's a bit worse because your birthday is YOUR day and Valentine's day belongs to lots of people. But anyway... I'm sorry to hear that, Megan P.

― Sarah McLusky (coco), Monday, 10 February 2003 14:37 (twenty-two years ago)

Thanks for the kind words, Sarah. It's rough, but I'm sure the "ick" will go away soon enough.

― Megan P, Monday, 10 February 2003 14:43 (twenty-two years ago)

I have dumped someone ON Valentines day. I stand by my actions. I knew for a while that it was all going tits, and (a) I DO NOT dump people over the phone - it's the epitomy of shit, (b) the next time I would see her in person would be valentines day, and (c) if I'd have gone through with it and made an effort and then dumped her afterwards, I would have been the worlds most shallow bastard, and she would obviously have thought that it was all a farce. There is no good time to end a relationship.

Um, that said, I am really sorry for what has happened to you, and you have all my hugs.

― SittingPretty (sittingpretty), Monday, 10 February 2003 14:43 (twenty-two years ago)

No, there is a massed rush of dumping around February 6th, I have noticed this. Over the last year, the three closest relationships I know all split up in the few days before St Val's. Is it just winter blues or is there a better reason for it?

― Dom Passantino (Dom Passantino), Monday, 10 February 2003 14:46 (twenty-two years ago)

It's the Tom Cruise syndrome.

― Lara (Lara), Monday, 10 February 2003 14:47 (twenty-two years ago)

I'd imagine it's nothing more complicated than an upcoming holiday about relationships causing people to re-evaluate theirs.

― Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Monday, 10 February 2003 14:49 (twenty-two years ago)

Last year (see the V-Day thread) had weirdness on V-day with the BF. He dumped me RIGHT before my birthday (two months later). I made him come into town anyway so I could still get my birthday shag, I was absolutely adamant about that, he wasn't getting away with dumping me without me getting some nookie on my birthday first!

― kate, Monday, 10 February 2003 14:50 (twenty-two years ago)

Andrew I agree but have held off on dumping people before Valentine's Day too (depending on the size of their wallet).

― Lara (Lara), Monday, 10 February 2003 14:52 (twenty-two years ago)

Dumping someone before Valentine's Day == firing people before Christmas.

― Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Monday, 10 February 2003 15:00 (twenty-two years ago)

No dumping people before Valentines Day==stealing someones presents before Christmas

― Ronan (Ronan), Monday, 10 February 2003 15:03 (twenty-two years ago)

Kate, your powers of persuasion amaze me; how did you manage to persuade a man who didn't want to see you anymore to make a journey to see you on your birthday. Was there a no-strings policy in place?

― Sophie (Sophie), Monday, 10 February 2003 15:07 (twenty-two years ago)

He wanted sex. So did I. The sex was the only thing about the entire Thing that had been good, so why not hit me baby one more time?

He didn't travel very *FAR*. I mean, he only went from Oxford to London, and I found out later that he had to be in London the next day anyway to lay down cymbal overdubs.

But still. Never underestimate the power of a good shag.

― kate, Monday, 10 February 2003 15:27 (twenty-two years ago)

Never underestimate the power of a good shag.

Truest thing ever said.

― Lara (Lara), Monday, 10 February 2003 15:33 (twenty-two years ago)

But horribly insensitive thing to say on a break-up thread!

Hope you're ok Megan. Upset at break-ups is more about feeling unwanted and unattractive rather than actually wanting to be with the other person. If someone told you that you look really good today you'd cheer up immensely.

― Lara (Lara), Monday, 10 February 2003 15:37 (twenty-two years ago)

Did I mention that I like what you've done with your hair?

― Lara (Lara), Monday, 10 February 2003 15:37 (twenty-two years ago)

That is shitty, Megan P. I'm sure he'll regret it.

PS: I like your email address.

― Paul Eater (eater), Monday, 10 February 2003 15:39 (twenty-two years ago)

Who cares what he thinks? He was probably impotent with a really small willy.

― Lara (Lara), Monday, 10 February 2003 15:41 (twenty-two years ago)

i was just reading the thread where someone was wondering what to get her bf for valentine's day. now i'm rather glad that i was recently dumped, as i'd have no idea what to do for a gift. it's a new thing to tell myself anyway...

the "ick" does fade, but it sucks to be in the middle of it.

― JuliaA (j_bdules), Monday, 10 February 2003 15:45 (twenty-two years ago)

Hi, JuliaA. I am the someone who was wondering what to get her bf for valentine's day. Nice to meet you.

― Sarah McLusky (coco), Monday, 10 February 2003 15:50 (twenty-two years ago)

Nice to meet you, Sarah! Good luck finding something...

― JuliaA (j_bdules), Monday, 10 February 2003 16:08 (twenty-two years ago)

:- (

― lyra (lyra), Monday, 10 February 2003 16:43 (twenty-two years ago)

Bad luck, Megan. I'm going to be single on Valentine's Day too.

― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Monday, 10 February 2003 18:53 (twenty-two years ago)

My last three Valentine's Days have sucked.

02/14/00 - I've been having a brief fling with someone (after ending a long-term relationship). That fling ends when fuckface calls me on FEBRUARY 13 to break it off with me.

02/14/01 - I am single and miserable and I spend this Valentine's Day consoling my long-distance best friend (who's also single and miserable, and whom I have a painfully intense crush on) over AIM.

02/14/02 - Single again, because the seven-month relationship I've just gotten out of ended on JANUARY 14, 2002. Needless to say I'm a total mess.

― Jody Beth Rosen (Jody Beth Rosen), Monday, 10 February 2003 19:01 (twenty-two years ago)

At least know that someone is worshipping you from afar this time, JBR! (I am available to worship many other ILXers from afar too, by the way. Let's face it, I already do.)

― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Monday, 10 February 2003 19:56 (twenty-two years ago)

It helps when you have friends around that host lots of anti-Valentine parties or shows what have you... whether those friends are single or not. (I know lots of friends who are "taken" who can't stand Valentine's Day).

That said, aside from having girls ask me out a couple of the times, I've had mostly lonely Valentines Days which I mainly pretended was any other day and went on with life.

― donut bitch (donut), Monday, 10 February 2003 20:23 (twenty-two years ago)

anti-Valentine parties

Nah, those things are just as depressing as staying home and crying yourself to sleep.

― Jody Beth Rosen (Jody Beth Rosen), Monday, 10 February 2003 20:30 (twenty-two years ago)

I can't actually remember any Valentines Days.

― Ronan (Ronan), Monday, 10 February 2003 20:30 (twenty-two years ago)

Even when I've been in relationships on V Day, I don't remember particularly celebrating it. It always felt like one of the more forced and easily ignorable holidays. Slightly bigger blip on the radar than Arbor Day, I guess.

― Chris P (Chris P), Monday, 10 February 2003 20:35 (twenty-two years ago)

Both Arbor Day and Valentine's Day had Charlie Brown specials made for them, so they must be good.

― Ned Raggett (Ned), Monday, 10 February 2003 20:36 (twenty-two years ago)

Arbor Day is when the ships come into the arbor.

― Jody Beth Rosen (Jody Beth Rosen), Monday, 10 February 2003 20:37 (twenty-two years ago)

The "relation"ships come into the arbor?

― Megan P, Monday, 10 February 2003 20:47 (twenty-two years ago)

No, really, I'd like to have a date for V-Day. I'm pretty hot.

― Megan P, Monday, 10 February 2003 21:10 (twenty-two years ago)

What Megan, aren't I good enough for you?

― Graham (graham), Monday, 10 February 2003 23:36 (twenty-two years ago)

sorry graham, didn't see your post til today. well lets go out then! are you in the us, or will you have to fly over to see me? i can't ever tell which of you guys is mer-kin and isn't.

― megan p, Wednesday, 12 February 2003 20:09 (twenty-two years ago)

sorry graham, didn't see your post til today. well lets go out then! are you in the US, or will you have to fly over to see me? i can't ever tell which of you guys is mer-kin and isn't.

― megan p, Wednesday, 12 February 2003 20:09 (twenty-two years ago)

Butting in: a girl I recently dated wants me to go see the Loser's Lounge tribute to the Bee Gees on Valentine's Day. Thinking about it kinda depresses me, for a lot of reasons.

Valentine's Day isn't that great, even when you're dating someone.

― hstencil, Wednesday, 12 February 2003 20:36 (twenty-two years ago)

hstencil- drag her to see ken vandermark play jazz ballad covers instead.

― Julio Desouza (jdesouza), Wednesday, 12 February 2003 21:31 (twenty-two years ago)

Julio - don't know if he's playing NYC, and of course if he was, I wouldn't go!

― hstencil, Wednesday, 12 February 2003 22:00 (twenty-two years ago)

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