Oddball Compliments...

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So this evening I'm wandering around the house in my new (Victoria's S*cret, even!) sleepwear, and my SO (male) looks-up from his computer and says:
"I'll bet Lesbians would think you're sexy in that."

My response:
"They already do."

So, was that a compliment? He's famous for not being "hinting" - and if he didn't like it, I think he'd say so - so can anyone translate for me? And what kind of oddball compliments have you received and been unsure of the meaning? And why in the world did I end-up with a male, anyway?

(Oh, the clothing - green tanktop and green boxer shorts - what's so "lesbian" about that? Sheesh.)

― I'm Passing Open Windows (Ms Laura), Monday, 17 February 2003 04:57 (twenty-two years ago)

I don't think that was oddball. Just straight male.

― That Girl (thatgirl), Monday, 17 February 2003 05:21 (twenty-two years ago)

Green tanktop and green boxers? Maybe he thought you looked hot in a boyish way.

― Chris P (Chris P), Monday, 17 February 2003 05:27 (twenty-two years ago)

Straight men in fantasizing-about-lesbians shockah!

― Jody Beth Rosen (Jody Beth Rosen), Monday, 17 February 2003 05:40 (twenty-two years ago)

I think it's kind of oddball. Not in some kind of totally bizarro "Oh my god why would he say that" type of way but a more of a "What did you just say?" type of way. It's just hard to tell if he meant it as a compliment or as a take-that-thing-off type of way or what.

I get oddball insults from my SO. My favorite was still when he said to me "Get the fuck out of here, Anne of Green Gables!" I mean, what?

― Ally (mlescaut), Monday, 17 February 2003 05:49 (twenty-two years ago)

I don't see the lesbian comment as being weird or offensive or anything. I had a bf who was OBSESSED with lesbians, and utterly FASCINATED by the rather uninteresting fact of my bisexuality. He made reference to it at least once a day. After a while, I was sorry I'd ever mentioned it. But, whatever. Not offensive. It was annoying, but sort of cute. (He was annoying, but sort of cute.)

― Jody Beth Rosen (Jody Beth Rosen), Monday, 17 February 2003 06:41 (twenty-two years ago)

Oddball compliment. Guy I knew in college -- not quite "a friend of a friend," but a mutual friend of someone I was closer with. We were all partying in my dorm room one night, and I said something amusing.

To which he replied:

"You're much funnier when I'm drunk."

Um.
THANKS!

― Jody Beth Rosen (Jody Beth Rosen), Monday, 17 February 2003 06:57 (twenty-two years ago)

someone just posted on their blog that i sent them a "very nice little note" and then seemingly proceeded to spend the rest of the post mocking me. uh, thanks.

― jess (dubplatestyle), Monday, 17 February 2003 08:36 (twenty-two years ago)

"You're the most beautiful woman I have ever met but you drive me insane" - delivered this Saturday and not for the first time. Why would a guy think I would want to hear something like this?

― Lara (Lara), Monday, 17 February 2003 09:17 (twenty-two years ago)

I don't think I've ever had a straightforward compliment. The only compliments I ever seem to get are the "you're fucking WEIRD... butI like you" variety.

― kate, Monday, 17 February 2003 09:20 (twenty-two years ago)

me and my girlfriend were in a pub once, and this weird drunk guy (aged about 30) was on his own and going up to random strangers to talk to them. He comes up to me and my girlfriend, and says:

"are you two lovers?"

my quick-witted other half replies

"No we're brother and sister."

so he then says: "Would you like to be lovers?"

Feaaring the conversation may take an unpleasant turn, we admitted we were "lovers". Then he pays us an oddball compliment, saying:

"you two are one of those quirky little couples that are quite beautiful in your own way. I'd quite like to film you, and see how it goes."

We politely declined. Not sure about that "in your own way" bit, but I choose to be flattered by this request.

― weasel diesel (K1l14n), Monday, 17 February 2003 10:48 (twenty-two years ago)

What do you expect from a guy? They are fucking idiots. If you want to know if you look hot, ask a girl. They will give you a better answer, and if you are lucky, they'll even make out with you. ;)

― lola falana (lola falana), Tuesday, 18 February 2003 05:46 (twenty-two years ago)

I was going to take offence at that until I realised that I'm a fucking idiot.

― SittingPretty (sittingpretty), Tuesday, 18 February 2003 12:35 (twenty-two years ago)

"You look like an elf" -- Mind you this was way before Lord of the Rings came out, and I think he meant a jolly Keebler elf and not the pretty ones like Legolas and Arwen. Um, thanks? Does this mean I should take up residence and tree and start baking cookies?

― Nicole (Nicole), Tuesday, 18 February 2003 13:53 (twenty-two years ago)

"You have the most beautiful breasts I've ever seen"

Um, yeah, that's great but what about the rest of me? I may be being ungrateful but I'm just not flattered by this.

― smee (smee), Tuesday, 18 February 2003 14:02 (twenty-two years ago)

*laughing* Thanks for the advice, lola. Unfortunately, right now there are no females around that I'd want to ask - I need to get out more *grin*

― I'm Passing Open Windows (Ms Laura), Tuesday, 18 February 2003 20:40 (twenty-two years ago)

Hey now, not all straight guys have such lame compliments. If I had a SO *sigh* and she was wearing what IPOW describes, I'd tell it looks HOT!!!

Totally unrelated question (although I guess sorta related to JBR's post): why is every woman I date bisexual, to some degree? Not that I have a problem with it (I don't), it's just a common trait. Also, they all seem to have January birthdays. WTF?

― hstencil, Tuesday, 18 February 2003 20:44 (twenty-two years ago)

"You're too pretty for your own good"

― N. (nickdastoor), Tuesday, 18 February 2003 20:47 (twenty-two years ago)

"Your lips.. oh god.. I want to suck them right off your face...."

Um, yeahhhhh

― luna (luna.c), Tuesday, 18 February 2003 20:49 (twenty-two years ago)

Thanks, hstencil. And I've no idea about your taste in women, but go with it if it makes you happy and don't question fate - and my birthday is in May *grin*

― I'm Passing Open Windows (Ms Laura), Tuesday, 18 February 2003 21:30 (twenty-two years ago)

My, uh, "taste" in women is pretty catholic (i.e. universal, I don't mean I have a nun fetish), and if I was bothering to be with someone right now, I hope I'd find her to be attractive!

I'm pretty bad with birthdays (I never know what to get people), but I'll see what I can do. At least I know not to get you green tanktop and green boxer shorts.

― hstencil, Tuesday, 18 February 2003 21:35 (twenty-two years ago)

I get the "You have the most beautiful breasts I've ever seen" line a lot. Except that it's phrased like so... "Did I ever tell you that you've got GREAT breasts???"
Yes. And what am I supposed to say to that? I mean, it's nice and all, but why not something more along the lines of, "Do I ever tell you how beautiful you are?" (or pretty/sexy, depending on what I want to hear at the time)

― you know (coco), Tuesday, 18 February 2003 21:40 (twenty-two years ago)

Ah - a red tanktop and boxers would be fine, hstencil. Or a *large* gift certificate to Amazon.com (my current order is over $400 right now, and I am still adding to it - I need someone to subsidize my habit!)

― I'm Passing Open Windows (Ms Laura), Tuesday, 18 February 2003 21:47 (twenty-two years ago)

I'll see what I can do, but only after reminding you that my birthday is in September.

― hstencil, Tuesday, 18 February 2003 21:52 (twenty-two years ago)

*grin* Deal - I'll send you some photos.

― I'm Passing Open Windows (Ms Laura), Tuesday, 18 February 2003 21:57 (twenty-two years ago)

My boss today: 'That was excellent work, I liked the way you handled that - very thorough, almost to the point of being pedantic.'

THIS IS PRAISE????

― Lara (Lara), Tuesday, 18 February 2003 21:59 (twenty-two years ago)

Yikes! I mean, great!

― hstencil, Tuesday, 18 February 2003 21:59 (twenty-two years ago)

I'm having a hard time imagining any boss I've ever had (save one) using the word "pedantic."

― hstencil, Tuesday, 18 February 2003 22:00 (twenty-two years ago)

Perhaps he meant to stress 'almost to the point of being pedantic' or *the fear* he thinks I'm anal.

― Lara (Lara), Tuesday, 18 February 2003 22:02 (twenty-two years ago)

(FWIW I didn't think he was mocking you at all jess.)

― Cozen (Cozen), Tuesday, 18 February 2003 22:03 (twenty-two years ago)

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