It's a start -- but it can be a better one than the detractors will
allow for. :-)
― Ned Raggett, Sunday, 2 September 2001 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)
Intellectually and philosophically, very well, but unless you meet
people and spend lots of time with them you won't know how they apply
their thoughts and what their habits are like, and that's a big part
of someone's personality.
― Lyra, Sunday, 2 September 2001 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)
I knew you all intimately — worse luck —
before the interweb ever existed. It just
confirms my fears.
― mark s, Sunday, 2 September 2001 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)
You didn't know me *that* intimately, dear. But the one night with the
sailors was interesting, true.
― Ned Raggett, Sunday, 2 September 2001 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)
Mark: you mean you intimately knew a nine-year-old boy, 25 miles and
10 light years from Charing Cross, who thought "Rattle and Hum" was
quite a good, soulful record from what little he'd heard of it, and
would have thought anyone resigning from any job over such a matter
was the most distant, incomprehensible, absurd thing in the world?
Oh no. I simply can't believe that :).
― Captain Swing, Sunday, 2 September 2001 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)
You can't know strangers better, but you can get to know your
friends better, cos when people write things down they don't go
away, and you don't have to wonder whether you imagined it
― maryann, Sunday, 2 September 2001 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)
You can kid yourself you know somebody if you're that way inclined.
― Madchen, Monday, 3 September 2001 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)
Internet is where you could meet people...a sustainable friendship is
only really possible by using other means of contact.
― jel, Monday, 3 September 2001 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)
"I don't know" is the answer to the question, but then part of
friendship maybe is accepting that you know somebody as well as you
know them, and that's that.
I love meeting people who I only know on the Internet - I'm almost
always surprised, and generally in a good way. As for friendship on
the Internet generally...I have found that it can, sometimes, be
easier to talk about personal stuff, to confide and advise, with
people you only know online because they aren't involved with you and
your social circle, and their perspective can be useful. You only
need to look at some of the threads on this forum to see people doing
that.
But doing that involves a certain amount of honesty about yourself,
too, otherwise what they say is useless. So ideally the friendship,
and confidence, and so on should be mutual. I probably did used to
think no, you can't be proper friends with somebody on the Internet,
it's not the same.
Now I think it's harder but you can have a deep and worthwhile and
hopefully lasting friendship with somebody you only know online. They
don't neccessarily know the texture of your offline presence - the
tone of voice, the body language, how you smile, the repartee, the
general hanging out - and that is a big loss. But e-mail and chat and
forum stuff has a texture of its own in any case.
So brief and banal summary - with any friendship you get out what you
put in. Internet friendships are no different really.
― Tom, Monday, 3 September 2001 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)