When was the last time you felt bad? Like, you wanted to confess or something if you thought it would make you feel better?

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I put up a bunch of signs to sell my guitar amplifier for $200. This polite guy responded, was really nice and everything in a sort of innocent kind of way, I guess. He was speaking broken english w/a spanish accent and he had just moved here semi-recently. Just seemed like the sort of guy that probably went to church, took care of his mom and all that sort of stuff. He wanted to know if I was interested in joining his band and played a CD of his music and whatever.

Anyway, he told me he would come back the next week after he got his next paycheck and told me to sell it if someone wants it, but if not, he'll come back and buy it. So, a week later he calls me on Sunday morning and asks if I sold it, which I hadn't. He said he could stop by Monday and pick it up and asked for a good time to stop by. I said 4:00 and told him to just call first or whatever, but 4 was a good time. So, today (monday, I mean) he shows up at 5:30 at the exact moment I get a call from a client (or I should say potential client) and my girlfriend lets him in and I wave to him that I'll be a minute because I'm on the phone. The phone conversation goes on for a few minutes and my girlfriend starts getting annoyed and blabbing in the background while I'm trying to talk to this client. Finally, she comes in (it's been about 3 minutes) and says, "HE'S GOT A CAB WAITING OUTSIDE!" So, I ask the guy on the phone to hold on a minute and say, "Sorry, I didn't realize you had a taxi, here, you want it?" and start dragging the amplifier out.

The guy hands me $140 and it just pissed me off for reasons that aren't entirely his fault. I had a shitty day today. My landlord charged me an extra $100 rent for a bogus reason, then my 2 o'clock appointment called up and cancelled on me at exactly 2 o'clock and I had rejected a freelance opportunity earlier this morning because I had this prior engagement (and was expecting to get paid during this meeting). 2 other dipshits that asked me to do web site comps for them decided to stop answering my emails and then this guy shows up to buy my amplifier at 5:30 without calling first and hands me $60 less and is trying to haggle with me while I'm in the middle of an important phone call.

I told him I couldn't be bothered with this now, I have a client on the phone and basically started ignoring him and went back on the phone. The guy starts yapping at me, "But you said we make a deal, how much? $160? $180? That amp is not worth $200." And I got really annoyed and said, "Yeah it is worth $200-- WELL DON'T BUY IT THEN!" and waved him away like a peasant."

He left pretty confused and probably totally pissed off. Haggling is normal and I think the poor guy was broke, anyway. Now, I want to find him and pay him for the cab and give him the amplifier for $100 just because I was so rude.

Man, I hate that when I get all upset like that. And the thing is, the whole thing was pointless because I think I made such a bad impression to the guy on the phone, he'll probably just be yet another client that stops answering my emails. I covered the mouthpiece so he didn't hear me yelling and everything, but I kept rambling, "Hold on a sec? Somebody's here. Yeah, hello? I'm sorry, just a second? Now where were we?"

Scaredy Cat, Tuesday, 4 March 2003 07:24 (twenty-three years ago)

Wait, you told the guy to show up at 4:00 and he shows up at 5:30? That's it right there. This guy showed blatant disrespect for by showing up late, and not bothering to call first. He got exactly what he deserved. It's a lesson that may serve him well later in life. punctuality is important.

Mr. Diamond (diamond), Tuesday, 4 March 2003 07:51 (twenty-three years ago)

Btw, that's not to imply that you're not an easy-going guy; people get waylayed; these things happen; etc. etc... However, the burden of this particular social situation rests w/ him it would seem.

I don't know what kind of city you live in, but most places, cabs are plentiful. Why did he keep the cab waiting? If he thought it would be a quick transaction (Strange in itself, if the price had not yet been agreed upon) it is somewhat understandable. But when you are otherwise engaged, his lateness gives him no right to your attentions. He should have waived off the cab, apologized for his lateness, finished the transaction, and called another cab. It doesn't cost anything extra for another cab beyond the entry fee ($1.50 where I am).

Don't beat yourself up about it.

Mr. Diamond (diamond), Tuesday, 4 March 2003 07:57 (twenty-three years ago)

'she has the right to steal, shes colored' how humble of you to want to make it up to the childlike respectful immigrant with a show of your copious wealth, after all dude probably goes to church and stuff, theyre such a simple people

y55, Tuesday, 4 March 2003 08:00 (twenty-three years ago)

NO, sorry, the guy's a dick. You have no reason to feel bad at all.

Showing up an hour and a half late = TOTAL NO-GO. Especially if you've asked him to call first and he hasn't.

And trying to pay $140 when you've clearly specified that the amp is $200? He wouldn't try that shit at Sam Ash, so you don't have to take it, either.

The last thing I feel bad about is the whole mess with Horton. No matter how many times I tell myself that he was a dick, and that he acted badly, it didn't make my reaction justified, and at the time I felt really good for being so nasty but now I just feel like a cunt. :-(

kate, Tuesday, 4 March 2003 08:02 (twenty-three years ago)

He was late. He didn't phone. He wouldn't pay. Fuck him.

Dr. C (Dr. C), Tuesday, 4 March 2003 08:06 (twenty-three years ago)

why does everyone feel the need to be like 'now cmon you wouldnt put up with this shit if he was white!!' you said yourself dude was probably broke, on account of being foreign and all

y55, Tuesday, 4 March 2003 08:15 (twenty-three years ago)

have a heart!! chico works hard at the construction site/burrito restaurant his old catholic mama i bet, you can afford it

y55, Tuesday, 4 March 2003 08:18 (twenty-three years ago)

or you could listen to the rest of the thread and not succumb to the politically correct liberal guilt associated with 'get the fuck out of my office you fucking spic im on an important business call!!!'

y55, Tuesday, 4 March 2003 08:22 (twenty-three years ago)

Get that chip off yer shoulder, y55.

kate, Tuesday, 4 March 2003 08:39 (twenty-three years ago)

wait, you're thinking of calling a guy that messed you around, got in a strop with you over nothing etc etc, and you're going to let him have it for less??? what the fuck?

call the guy back, tell him he he can have it for $250. if he shows up on time.

gareth (gareth), Tuesday, 4 March 2003 09:23 (twenty-three years ago)

y55, the guy wasn't a stereotype, he was a real person and if I summed up the situation incorrectly, it would only be if he was lying to me about his whole life story the first time we met and really good at pretending to be humble and harmless if he's not really that way at all. And he did work at a restaurant (though he didn't specify "burrito" restaurant).

Thanks for making me feel better, everyone, but I think the fault was mostly mine because I probably wasn't explicitly clear enough for him. There was some miscommunication at times because he didn't really understand some things I said here and there. He probably thought I told him to show up any old time after 4 or something and probably took something I said to mean the price was negotiable or something.

After a good night's rest, it doesn't seem so bad, though.

Scaredy Cat, Tuesday, 4 March 2003 13:21 (twenty-three years ago)

I felt bad last night because I got in an argument with my bf over absolutely nothing. We were both really tired and cranky and I blew things out of proportion. Silly me.

Sarah Hotnights (coco), Tuesday, 4 March 2003 14:18 (twenty-three years ago)

SC, even if there was miscommunication over time and the fixedness of the price, you do not haggle by handing over far less than the asking price - you start discussing it. You ask "would you take X?" and so on. You know this might take time, and if the other party is on the phone, and you weren't showing at a tightly arranged time, you have to be prepared to wait a few minutes. This guy is fucking you around and trying to screw you. Do not feel even slightly guilty.

Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Tuesday, 4 March 2003 18:30 (twenty-three years ago)

four years pass...

Lo siento, Mr. Non-English Speaking Man, I really thought there was another ride on that Metrocard. If I could've understood you or given you a ride somehow I would have considered it, but my train was pulling up and I was way too drunk and broke to dither around. I hope you got where ever the fuck it is that you wanted to go.

it's okey with me, Sunday, 2 September 2007 07:03 (eighteen years ago)


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