Do you hate people who share your first name?

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I just realised after a post on ILM that I have an irrational hatred of people who share my first name. Anyone named "Kate" - I just hate them and feel like they have no right to the name, it is mine, I am the only Kate there is, and no others should be allowed, they should have to be assigned letters or numbers to distinguish them from me, the ONE TRUE KATE.

This is especially true for celebrities, as noted, I LOATHE Kate Radley and that actress Kate whose name I've blotted from memory.

But somehow, Katie's are excused from my wrath, as the diminutive form of the name already clearly distinguishes them from me.

Obviously, there are multiple Nicks and Marks on this board, and there is still confusion, despite some of the most prominent posters having those names.

How do you react when you meet people who share yer name? Do you embrace them as a member of some cosmic family, or do you shun them like the scurvy dogs they are for daring to intrude upon your good pure name?

kate, Thursday, 3 April 2003 09:11 (twenty-two years ago)

very few people share my first name. I find them a source of some fascination.

DV (dirtyvicar), Thursday, 3 April 2003 09:12 (twenty-two years ago)

yet to meet anyone with mine!

jeanne picot (jeanne picot), Thursday, 3 April 2003 09:15 (twenty-two years ago)

Most people with mine settle for "Dan". Good.

Daniel_Rf (Daniel_Rf), Thursday, 3 April 2003 09:22 (twenty-two years ago)

Subquestion: how do you feel about people who try to diminutise your name? Daniel, will you not settle for people calling you Dan? I refuse to answer to "Katie". It is not my name, and the use of it is ruthlessly discouraged.

kate, Thursday, 3 April 2003 09:24 (twenty-two years ago)

there are loads of us Chrisses, it's not a problem.

chris (chris), Thursday, 3 April 2003 09:26 (twenty-two years ago)

I ph34r them entering my circle of friends as then there would be a fight over which of us gets to be the Alpha Emma. Also many female slebz called Emma are not great eg Emma Thompson, Emma B the rub Radio 1 DJ / rub tits out type 'actress' etc.

So basically yeah, all other Emmas should be eradicated.

(I like Em or Ems too. But not Emmy. yuck. cue all chums now calling me that always)

Emma, Thursday, 3 April 2003 09:27 (twenty-two years ago)

I have an irrational FEAR of the marianna from the sinister list.

marianna, Thursday, 3 April 2003 09:28 (twenty-two years ago)

i've never met an evil Steve, some of us might be pretentious fucks but generally we ok - and its a good name for bastardising i.e. Steve-O, Sven, Sevvy...

my gf is a kate altho she seems to prefer katie as well, i'm not keen as it just sounds more 'infantile' - like Stevie is a bit lame, if you hate fun

stevem (blueski), Thursday, 3 April 2003 09:30 (twenty-two years ago)

Do not fear the sinister Marianna - she's lovely! And has only posted here once, so you're safe anyway.

I don't mind other Elizabeths, although other Lizzes in my immediate circle would be a tad confusing. On my floor in the first year of university there were: 2 Elizabeths, 2 Rebeccas, 2 Rosies, 1 Anna + 1 Hannah. Somewhat trying but amusing. I really really hated the guts of a Lizzy in my year at school though, which may explain my antipathy to being called that now, apart from by my mad uncle the vicar.

Liz :x (Liz :x), Thursday, 3 April 2003 09:35 (twenty-two years ago)

All other Colins are wankers.

Colin Meeder (Mert), Thursday, 3 April 2003 09:39 (twenty-two years ago)

and Colindale is crap too ;)

stevem (blueski), Thursday, 3 April 2003 09:45 (twenty-two years ago)

Does that include Colin the daschshund from the Rotten Borough of Dunny on the Wold, who voted Baldrick into Parliament?

Fred Nerk, Thursday, 3 April 2003 09:52 (twenty-two years ago)

i don't mind jims because i'm not really a jim

electric sound of jim (electricsound), Thursday, 3 April 2003 09:56 (twenty-two years ago)

"Michaelangelo" is actually a compound--on my ID it's Michael Angelo. (looks good in print, I'm a writer, why not?) generally people call me Michaelangelo, Michael, or Matos. And yes, I HATE being called "Mike"--I recently cured my roommate of the habit, happily enough. No, I do not have an irrational distrust of people w/my name/s. I have an irrational distrust of people who do my job. I immediately get defensive and suspicious of other music critics, especially ones who write about dance music, unless I'm already a huge fan of their work. It's endemic to the trade, I think, and I wish I were above it, but it still happens sometimes.

M Matos (M Matos), Thursday, 3 April 2003 10:00 (twenty-two years ago)

I also hate other people called Joe. But then again I hate nearly everyone

j0e (j0e), Thursday, 3 April 2003 10:03 (twenty-two years ago)

Jim, the good news is that not being a real Jim needn't stop you from opening a franchise like 'Jim's Advanced Brain Surgery' or 'Jim's World Peace Negotiations'. Neither would any other pedantic considerations, like for instance lack of qualifications or aptitude.

Fred Nerk, Thursday, 3 April 2003 10:04 (twenty-two years ago)

don't know any Ronans, it wouldn't be a problem I guess cos I am perpetually fitzy to mates anyway.

Ronan (Ronan), Thursday, 3 April 2003 10:05 (twenty-two years ago)

I like all the Rachels I have met, I think. Sometimes when I write of say my name a lot, it starts to seem really weird, so at those times it's quite nice to be able to switch on Friends or something and hear it bandied about quite normally.

Archel (Archel), Thursday, 3 April 2003 10:12 (twenty-two years ago)

I was surrounded by other Marks all through childhood. It was as if parents naming their sons in 1970-71 had a collective imagination failure and opted for Mark (and it seemed, Matthew and Martin) en masse. So there were two problems; being surrounded by ppl w/ the same name as me, AND having loads of ppl with other "Ma" names which I would often be called in error.

Then uni - and relief! No Marks on my course at all! It was Bristol Uni, tho, so plenty of Tarquins ;). My relief was short-lived as *all four* demonstrators on the Plant Sciences practical course were called Mark. One of them, however, for some unspecified reason preferred to be known as Blotbag.

Liz is correct; sinister Marainna *is* lovely. ILx Marianna has nothing to ph34r.

MarkH (MarkH), Thursday, 3 April 2003 10:12 (twenty-two years ago)

If I went around getting all angsty every time I met someone with my name, I'd have been one of the founding members of Linkin Park, I'm sure.

Andrew (enneff), Thursday, 3 April 2003 10:39 (twenty-two years ago)

Haha Blotbag.

I referred to Sinister Marianna in an email as 'Marianna M.' once, and when i read it back I couldn't work out why I'd got her last initial wrong as I know perfectly well it is L. But now it occurs to me that ILX Marianna may have been insinuating herself into my thoughts...

Archel (Archel), Thursday, 3 April 2003 10:41 (twenty-two years ago)

God that Coastaltown dude is a cunt.

Matt DC (Matt DC), Thursday, 3 April 2003 10:46 (twenty-two years ago)

I hate fitzroy simpson, former manchester city starlet

Ronan (Ronan), Thursday, 3 April 2003 10:49 (twenty-two years ago)

The all new peteb on ILx has confused me a touch - and confused the pinefox even more. I don't mind other Pete's as long as they realise I am the one true Pete. This sanguine attitude probably comes from having a father with the same name as me.

Pete (Pete), Thursday, 3 April 2003 10:52 (twenty-two years ago)

We should be calling you 'Junior' then.

Matt DC (Matt DC), Thursday, 3 April 2003 10:53 (twenty-two years ago)

Mr Norton means people know how to spell my name right.

Graham (graham), Thursday, 3 April 2003 10:55 (twenty-two years ago)

There aint that many famous Paulines and those that are are not famous for being attractive, are they? The 2 I've actually know I've hated but just coz they were evil and nasty, not coz of their name, honest...

smee (smee), Thursday, 3 April 2003 10:55 (twenty-two years ago)

You mean, the other Pete B ISN'T you? Man, am I confused, then. See, that is the sort of thing scares me. What if someone called, like Kate St.John or Kate St.Hubbins started posting here!

kate, Thursday, 3 April 2003 10:55 (twenty-two years ago)

it's ok, Pete, i'm pete, like that, see?

I've always vaguely thought Peter was a very common name, but, I don't know anyone else who has it. I think I like my name more because of this. If I met some other Pete(r) I think I'd get pretty protective.

(sub-question: full-names vs. diminuitives. personally i don't see why anyone called Peter wouldn't want to be called Pete...)

pete b. (pete b.), Thursday, 3 April 2003 10:57 (twenty-two years ago)

AAARRRRGGGGHHHH!!! I'M SEEING DOUBLE!!!

kate, Thursday, 3 April 2003 10:58 (twenty-two years ago)

Kate StJohn

Matt DC (Matt DC), Thursday, 3 April 2003 10:59 (twenty-two years ago)

My dad's called Peter and nobody has ever called him Pete to my knowledge, I'm gonna check next time we speak though...

smee (smee), Thursday, 3 April 2003 11:01 (twenty-two years ago)

(I actually know about Kate St.John - I was frequently mistaken for her on, like Spiritualized newsgroups and the like. Yeah, I hate HER, too. She is the imposter. I am the REAL Kate the Saint.)

kate, Thursday, 3 April 2003 11:06 (twenty-two years ago)

i am not shallow enough to judge people on their names alone. my father and i have the same name, and although i hate him, i don't think thats the reason.

thuddd (thuddd), Thursday, 3 April 2003 11:07 (twenty-two years ago)

I like all the other Nicks on ILX, so I don't really worry about it here, though I wish I had picked a more unique name at the beginning. In real life, I meet surprisingly few Nicks, though this may be due to my dismal social life. In middle school, when a new Nick moved to my school, everyone called him Nicholas to distinguish, and I think he hated me because of it. Tough shit. You snooze, you lose.

Nick A. (Nick A.), Thursday, 3 April 2003 11:17 (twenty-two years ago)

I like all the other Marks on ILx. And I don't think there's any danger of ppl confusing me with them.

MarkH (MarkH), Thursday, 3 April 2003 11:27 (twenty-two years ago)

I don't know many people who share my first name, apart from a pop star, a former Queen and some heiress or other but since these people are not in my immediate circle of friends it doesn't bother me too much. What *does* bother me is having my name shortened or otherwise mucked about with. I hate that.

C J (C J), Thursday, 3 April 2003 11:29 (twenty-two years ago)

I think I've just figured out your name, CJ. I like it, do you not use it out of a desire for privacy?

I think the Nicks on ILX have made Nick a favourite name of mine. Nick Dasto0r is the malignant force among them, the exception etc.

The other Marks rox0r too, though I agree with MarkH about the early 1970s and our name. My mum blames it on Captain Mark Phillips. When I was living in Italy, I was out with 6 other people for dinner one night, and all 4 males were called Mark. Hilarity ensued!

Mark C (Mark C), Thursday, 3 April 2003 11:38 (twenty-two years ago)

I'm called Peter at work and one of my friends uses it, but to the rest of the world its Pete. On a book jacket I'd be Peter though, plus my middle initial (incase my Dad claims credit).

Pete (Pete), Thursday, 3 April 2003 11:43 (twenty-two years ago)

There were FIVE Richards in my primary school class, but I felt no hatred for any of them. Nowadays I don't actually know that many, despite it being a fairly common name.

AFA ILX IC that Gillanders geezer seems like a fine sort of fellow to me.

RickyT (RickyT), Thursday, 3 April 2003 11:51 (twenty-two years ago)

Too true. I hate all other Sarahs and especially Saras even though my name is spelled with an H. When I thought the new girl at the office was named Sarah, I burned with rage. It turned out her name was Summer. Ha ha. So I forgive her. But strangely, my best friend in high school was named Sarah. And we tired of hearing people call us the Sarahs. Hmm...

Sarah McLusky (coco), Thursday, 3 April 2003 11:51 (twenty-two years ago)

STARRY TO THREAD!

Matt DC (Matt DC), Thursday, 3 April 2003 11:52 (twenty-two years ago)

Steve M seems like a very nice fellow indeed but I can't back up his "all Steve's are diamond geezers" claim. A la Pete, I switch between Stephen at work and Stevie elsewhere. Stevie's en masse just seem cooler to me than Steve's, viz: Stevie Smith, Stevie Nicks, Stevie Wonder, Stevie Jackson, Stevie Gerrard, erm... Stevie Ray Vaughan...

Jerry the Nipper (Jerrynipper), Thursday, 3 April 2003 11:53 (twenty-two years ago)

And you're "Steve" when we play footie, Jerry...

Mark C (Mark C), Thursday, 3 April 2003 11:55 (twenty-two years ago)

:(

Jerry the Nipper (Jerrynipper), Thursday, 3 April 2003 11:56 (twenty-two years ago)

There's ILX Nichole, but her name is spelled a little differently. It never really bothered me when someone else has my name, it's no big deal.

Famous Nicoles don't bother me either. NK is an okay actress, but if she were somebody lame like a Jennifer Love Hewitt-type then maybe it would irritate me.

Nicole (Nicole), Thursday, 3 April 2003 11:57 (twenty-two years ago)

the cat next door is named minna, i quite like her.

minna (minna), Thursday, 3 April 2003 12:02 (twenty-two years ago)

The opposite, actually. Whenever I run into another g-Geoff I think "ah, yes, another one of the elect." j-Jeffs, however, I will CRUSH UNDER MY BOOTHEEL.

g--ff c-nn-n (gcannon), Thursday, 3 April 2003 12:03 (twenty-two years ago)

STARRY TO THREAD!
Whoopsies!!!! Sorry, Starry. 'Cept you, of course!!!

I've probably mentioned this before, but in my 7th grade English class, the teacher asked us all to discuss different names and their conotations. Selena, the most popular girl in the whole school, raised her hand and said, "I've always found SARAHS to be really snotty and stuck up," and realizing I was sitting beside her quickly added, "Uh, no offense to Sarah or anything."

Sarah McLusky (coco), Thursday, 3 April 2003 12:07 (twenty-two years ago)

today was the first day of class and these two guys sitting behind me introduced themselves to each other as "Curtis" and "Stephens"

BIG HII'M aka the teendriver (crüt), Monday, 23 August 2010 18:34 (fifteen years ago)

do you hate them

to be rill rill (samosa gibreel), Monday, 23 August 2010 18:46 (fifteen years ago)

at least neither of them was named crutis

mookieproof, Monday, 23 August 2010 18:47 (fifteen years ago)

I HATE THEM

you doesn't hasta call me johnson (CaptainLorax), Monday, 23 August 2010 18:51 (fifteen years ago)

I have a pretty obscure but not 100% original name, and so I know people who have met people with my name, but I have never met anyone with my name. I sorta never want to.

iatee, Monday, 23 August 2010 18:51 (fifteen years ago)

my first name is very common. on average, people with my name are slightly better than everyone else in the world

you doesn't hasta call me johnson (CaptainLorax), Monday, 23 August 2010 18:58 (fifteen years ago)

I'm pretty cool with people who share my name because they tend to be pretty cool. After reading the original post I'm glad my name is the diminutive form of Kate. Yeesh. I thought I'd grow to become a Kate one day or turn into a full blown Kathleen but they just never stick. Even if I don't tell people my nickname or try to use the more adult form of it they somehow figure it out or add the -ie. It permeates my being.

I'm suspicious of people with my last name who aren't related to me. I have never met one in person.

peacocks, Monday, 23 August 2010 18:59 (fifteen years ago)

Not too many T3ds around. which is nice for me.

johnsons in my pubescence, other than my own (the table is the table), Monday, 23 August 2010 19:01 (fifteen years ago)

there is a facebook group featuring sixty-some people with my exact name, which might as well be White Bread

mookieproof, Monday, 23 August 2010 19:04 (fifteen years ago)

I don't know any!

Jesus doesn't want me for a thundercloud (Laurel), Monday, 23 August 2010 19:05 (fifteen years ago)

i have only met a half-dozen remys, only one of whom was male. i think we're cool, i guess. jeremys – my given name – are a dime a dozen, and they usually suck.

SYNTAX ERROR (remy bean), Monday, 23 August 2010 19:07 (fifteen years ago)

on fbook there are eight people who share my exact name, and they all seem to reside in the uk

johnsons in my pubescence, other than my own (the table is the table), Monday, 23 August 2010 19:08 (fifteen years ago)

definitely the only person on the planet w/ my full name and although I like the concept, I'd rather have google-anonymity. gf's super common full name gets 634,000 google results vs. 23 for me.

iatee, Monday, 23 August 2010 19:10 (fifteen years ago)

i have a common name but the exact spelling of mine is rarer and more old-fashioned

goole, Monday, 23 August 2010 19:13 (fifteen years ago)

there's a guy round these parts who posts with my first name as his display name, except he's applied to it this whimsical or whatever formatting scheme, and for that i hate him. drives me nuts cause it's such a beautiful and noble name that should never under any circumstances be subjected to such lexical asshattery, yet there it always is, ridiculing me (and to a lesser extent, us)

del griffith, Monday, 23 August 2010 19:25 (fifteen years ago)

and i don't mean 'del,' he cool

del griffith, Monday, 23 August 2010 19:25 (fifteen years ago)

I never meet anyone with my name

glitter hands! glitter hands! razzle! dazzle! (Shakey Mo Collier), Monday, 23 August 2010 19:27 (fifteen years ago)

del griffith's first name is 'Nedaraggett' btw

iatee, Monday, 23 August 2010 19:31 (fifteen years ago)

I apologise if your name is Herman.

My first name is most commonly a surname and a very rare forename, only ever met one in fact, he was 2 years older than me at secondary school.

pfunkboy (Herman G. Neuname), Monday, 23 August 2010 19:32 (fifteen years ago)

hello my name is Nedraggett Jones it is nice to meet you

del griffith, Monday, 23 August 2010 19:34 (fifteen years ago)

My name is rare enough that I don't encounter many people with it, but common enough that every few years I have to shake hands with someone who's like "Doug - that's a great name. You see, I'm a Doug too!" which to me seems like a really awkward introductory gambit.

meat by mistake (kkvgz), Monday, 23 August 2010 19:36 (fifteen years ago)

I was like 7 the first time I met another Doug.

meat by mistake (kkvgz), Monday, 23 August 2010 19:37 (fifteen years ago)

dougs sorta sound like dicks if that's the case

iatee, Monday, 23 August 2010 19:38 (fifteen years ago)

I mean in the asshole sense not in the name 'dick' sense, dicks probably don't say "I'm a dick!" that often

iatee, Monday, 23 August 2010 19:39 (fifteen years ago)

It would be awkward if I hated people who share my first name. My office mate has the same name! Two patron saints of Scotland back here!

Sauvignon Blanc Mange (B.L.A.M.), Monday, 23 August 2010 19:48 (fifteen years ago)

I feel like it would ruin movies and tv shows for me if characters had my first name

iatee, Monday, 23 August 2010 19:54 (fifteen years ago)

if you GIS for "officemate" you get like 80% filipinos

del griffith, Monday, 23 August 2010 19:57 (fifteen years ago)

jeremys – my given name – are a dime a dozen, and they usually suck

u aint lying brother thanks for being a remy

Mr. or Ms. Narc-on-the-couch (tremendoid), Tuesday, 24 August 2010 07:13 (fifteen years ago)

definitely the only person on the planet w/ my full name and although I like the concept, I'd rather have google-anonymity.

the only people i've met with my first name have been nice middle-aged ladies, hard to hate.

missed two gucci mane punchlines and had to rewind (c sharp major), Tuesday, 24 August 2010 07:35 (fifteen years ago)

all the Heathers I've ever met have been disconcertingly normal and hard to dislike. nothing like the movie either.

her breath came in short pants (sciolism), Tuesday, 24 August 2010 08:18 (fifteen years ago)

yes. how could i not hate someone trying to steal my name?

a dystopian society awaits if we continue on this path. (contenderizer), Tuesday, 24 August 2010 08:20 (fifteen years ago)

i've wanted to do a noise band composed entirely of people with my first name (which is Sarah) for a while - I could probably easily round up 6 or 7 that I hang w/regularly

sarahel, Tuesday, 24 August 2010 08:29 (fifteen years ago)

though in high school it was ridiculous, because not only were there regularly two other Sarahs - we all had the same middle name - (which does start with an "e")

sarahel, Tuesday, 24 August 2010 08:31 (fifteen years ago)

I have a very common name - more or less a hibernian John Smith. Good for superficial googleproofing, but some awful shits do share it - gun nuts, catholic frat boys, etc.

o ffs now i have an indie/alt.country band. I hadn't seen that before.

tetrahedron of space (woof), Tuesday, 24 August 2010 09:06 (fifteen years ago)

I've known surprisingly few other Toms, and generally have been 10,000 times more awesome than them so hating not really worthwhile.

ledge, Tuesday, 24 August 2010 09:08 (fifteen years ago)

I have not worked out how I feel about Karens.

Karen seems to be a Norse version of Catherine and I *HATE* Catherines but perhaps the Viking-ness makes up for it.

Karen D. Tregaskin, Tuesday, 24 August 2010 09:10 (fifteen years ago)

hate this guy: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shmuley_Boteach

symsymsym, Tuesday, 24 August 2010 09:45 (fifteen years ago)

definitely the only person on the planet w/ my full name and although I like the concept, I'd rather have google-anonymity. gf's super common full name gets 634,000 google results vs. 23 for me.

― iatee, Monday, August 23, 2010 12:10 PM (Yesterday) Bookmark

i am in this exact same situation, and I know exactly what you mean. Weird hebrew-american names represent!

symsymsym, Tuesday, 24 August 2010 09:47 (fifteen years ago)

your name is shmuley boteach?

a dystopian society awaits if we continue on this path. (contenderizer), Tuesday, 24 August 2010 09:48 (fifteen years ago)

oh wait, first name thread

a dystopian society awaits if we continue on this path. (contenderizer), Tuesday, 24 August 2010 09:48 (fifteen years ago)

cuz otherwise that is kind of a long shot

a dystopian society awaits if we continue on this path. (contenderizer), Tuesday, 24 August 2010 09:49 (fifteen years ago)

yes that's true

symsymsym, Tuesday, 24 August 2010 09:53 (fifteen years ago)

I am the coolest Dan alive

dyao, Tuesday, 24 August 2010 09:56 (fifteen years ago)

Cooler than Dan Perry? Hmmmmmmm

It dreamed to Tom D. of the Caucasus (Tom D.), Tuesday, 24 August 2010 09:58 (fifteen years ago)

no no no, you don't understand, Dan Perry is the name of my dog

dayo, Tuesday, 24 August 2010 10:07 (fifteen years ago)

I got really annoyed when I was about 7 and met someone with the same name as me. A few years ago I was in Boots and a girl was running around while her mother was shouting her (my?) name at the top of her voice. I got talking with the mum but the girl didn't want to talk to me because I stole her name. Fair enough.

8 (88), Tuesday, 24 August 2010 10:07 (fifteen years ago)

They're the only two people I've ever met with my name, there was a minor Simpsons character with aswell though, and that annoyed me too.

8 (88), Tuesday, 24 August 2010 10:09 (fifteen years ago)

Feel 4U, Boobarella.

Chaim Poutine (NickB), Tuesday, 24 August 2010 10:16 (fifteen years ago)

two months pass...

Oh great. Another Kate to hate.

GET YR OWN NAME, BEE-YATCH, I HAD IT FIRST.

Wheal Dream, Tuesday, 16 November 2010 11:59 (fifteen years ago)

i just hate people tbf

Jefferson Mansplain (DG), Tuesday, 16 November 2010 12:06 (fifteen years ago)


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