"I Love You"

However, it is very easy to tell someone that you "wuv" them. I'd like to think of that as a "mini" ILY that you can laugh over rather than stress that you once more, have said the wrong thing. I know I would regret saying it if I didn't mean it, and also if it wasn't mutual.

I believe two people, romantically speaking, have told me they loved me. I never said it back. COS THEY MINGED hahahahahahahhahhaha. Oh, I am a bitch.

I say it a lot, probably too much and periodically decide to say it less so that it's really special, but it never seems to work. It's probably for the best actually because if I did say it less I'd end up being one of those people off the soaps who says "Course I love you, I married you didn't I?" etc.

Excuse me, I need to go tell my mommy that I love her.

For being willing to share a detail that most of us would never be brave enough to own up to, Sarah is My New Icon.

I hope.

Either that or I'm secretly RuPaul.

Excuse me, I have to go have a hysterical fit in the corner...

Fave moment in entire series -- first season, they're all singing happy birthday to Edina, they hold out the cake with candles, she smiles and laughs -- AND BLOWS IT ALL TO HELL WITH A FIRE EXTINGUISHER. Pure, distilled, anti-sentimental loathing and contempt -- oh god I love it, I love it.

like you can by someone flowers as an expression of your love, but that can be interpreted as a cheap an empty gesture in the same way as oft-repeated "I love yous"

BUY someone flowers

Sorry i should have said i'm not one for saying it all the time, not never.

I’m a very affectionate person, I’ll have you know.

jordan where is that dialogue you posted from? feeling siena over here

"seinfeld"

ok thx

lol

My immediate family always said it to each other all the time. I think every conversation w/any of my parents or siblings ends with "Bye, love you." I've never said it to my grandma, aunts, uncles, or cousins, though. They've certainly never said it to me, though my mom every once in while has felt the need to say, "You know your grandma loves you." My grandma is mean and crazy and acts like she hates everyone, I'm pretty sure she doesn't love me at all. It would be so weird to hear her say she did.

My youngest brother has to end every evening by saying "G'night,, love you, sweet dreams," in that order, and expects you to repeat it. If you just repeat part of it, or in the wrong order, he'll get cranky and say it again until you get it right. It would be a funny way to mess with him if it clearly didn't distress him greatly for you not to just repeat it back.

I say it to my husband all the time, he says it to me all the time. I really like that.

Sometimes my husband's mom says she loves me. In fact, she says it as often as my parents do. She kisses me, too, when she sees me. I turn my cheek to that, and I feel weird saying, "I love you" beck to her, since we've had a fairly hostile relationship. Whenever I say it back as a reflex I fell like I fell for a trick, though she's not set it up as a "trick." She's just more affectionate than most people are and I don't know how to handle it.

I have a dear friend or two from high school who I'll say "I love you" to in a platonic way. And I say it to my pets all the time. The end.

Some of you are saying you say it multiple times a day, doesn’t it lose value if it’s constantly being said and wouldn’t it sound more genuinely meant if said less?

While I don't think the above is true, ime the inverse is true: the less frequently it is said, the more it means when one gets one.

it only means less if it's meant less.

Romantically, two people, and really retroactively one shouldn't have been said.

Friendship wise, many. I don't think the phrase can ever be overused unless you don't mean it, then once is too many times.

I say "I love you" to all my friends and family when it's appropriate. And I've said it to all my girlfriends at the time I was dating them. It's not that big a deal to tell people who mean a lot to you that you care.

musicfanatic OTM. screw this "waiting for the right time" shit.

eh there's a lot to be said for waiting for the right person though.

absolutely. and I do think you need to wait for the right time the FIRST time you say it to someone romantically, but after that, ya know, if you feel like it, say it....

Poll - do you all ever say it while in the sack with your woman (not necessarily after sex, but possibly)?

I had a girl complain once when I did it saying that she felt like I only told her I loved her when she was naked. I felt bad but I mostly did it because it followed a very intimate and special moment. I said it other times too, and she didn't say it back all the time, so sometimes I think I beat myself up for that one too much.

This thread is so weird. I mean, love and relationship threads on ILX generally make me feel like an alien from outer space, but.. wow.

It's like a whole bunch of people going o_0 at how they don't understand how humans can be or get so damaged.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=syw6aGuYJnQ

It's like a whole bunch of people going o_0 at how they don't understand how humans can be or get so damaged.

I think it's more a combination of rejection of the idea of permanent damage plus some frontin' plus people not all signed up to the same notion of love etc

Bodies can be permanently damaged by experiences. Why should minds be any different?

withholding verbal expressions of genuine love is weird and sorta raises questions.

― Get the Flaps Out (Shakey Mo Collier), Wednesday, March 17, 2010 3:17 AM (15 hours ago) Bookmark

this is not true of certain cultures

ilx dearth of empathy shockah. xpost

TS "damaged" vs "altered"

yeah, partly. I wouldn't deny the possibility of damage, but I'd want to say that it's a specific choice of word that represents an individual's experiences and attitudes more than an objective truth about minds.

http://stuffwhitepeopledo.blogspot.com/2009/06/say-i-love-you-lot.html

http://ecx.images-amazon.com/images/I/41i2teiTiyL._SL500_AA300_.jpg

I've never said I love you to my parents nor have they to me, but we know it's there. so ymmv

the differences in usage make sense to me. when people give each other more space and demand less from each other and you respect the distance of the public/private split, saying 'I love you' becomes about bridging that gap. Obv. it can just be said as a pleasantry, but then its for show & derives its flippancy from employing such a sincere sentiment, so still the same model. if your model is that expression comes through establishing long-term commitment to specific behaviour/values through actions, then saying it could be irrelevant, not the proper channel, maybe even a way of dodging expectations.

I'd say saying it is more fraternal than paternal, involves less responsibility, its less a comment on how the two of you act together and more a comment on what you think&feel about them separate to that. you can obv use this model w/out ever saying it. I think saying it to your lover can be almost like affectionately&respectfully backing off, stating your investment in them regardless of behaviour/actions.

I say I love you to my parents all the time because I do and I want them to know it. They do the same.

In terms of romantic love, have said it and meant it to five ppl.

I've never said I love you to my parents nor have they to me, but we know it's there. so ymmv

this. And i can't imagine saying it now unless something big was happening/about to happen - just saying 'i love you' out of the blue like that would strike me as suspicious tbh.

"Sit down. No please, sit down. Now, firstly- WE LOVE YOU........"

yeha tbh that doesn't sound like it's going in a good direction.

I don't think I've said it to my parents, or sister, though I know I've written it and sincerely meant it. I should say it, where I have the chance still.

"Hello, darling.
Yes, I love you darling!
Yes, I loooooove yoooooou!"

well, you'll know what I'm hearing instead of 'darling'

<struggles>

writer of epic symphonies, matchmaker supreme

Phew, our connection is still there; that is what I was thinking! Love you acoleuthic! ;-)

*blushes*

ooh that's awkward, he didn't say it back

i love...another

amahler

(that's)

nvr say this 2 ne1

That's OK, my internet love doesn't need reciprocation.

uh

how does this work

The phonemes have to flow just right. It takes practise.

You can practise in front of a mirror, if you're self-concious.

you shouldn't regret saying this should you? i think you should be able to say it more and not have to fret over the consequences.

what i'm saying is i think i gotta to stop getting drunk and saying this to virtual-strangers/ crushes if it's the big deal that it's supposed to be.

but then..

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BGEOYmMe-aI

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9kx5rNw0rq4

I love you I love you I love you what's your name