How do you keep things interesting when they fail to live up to your ideas of what they COULD be?

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Part of what fuels me creatively, in my writing, is the unknown... I'd like to think there's a mystery behind almost everything, if you look hard enough, and the intrigue of trying to figure out someone new is astonishing -- a raw, priceless mind-fuck to be savored for as long as possible...

But maybe it's a curse more than anything, because precious few experiences I've had with people actually live up to what I thought they could be. Is it just me? Maybe I'm guilty of trying too hard? I mean, in the end, how many real experiences can ever look grand next to the 80-ft. stone wall of pure fantasy that your mind's already erected???

― Scott Kos (Scott Kos), Thursday, 24 April 2003 16:19 (twenty-two years ago)

Yes.

― nickalicious (nickalicious), Thursday, 24 April 2003 16:24 (twenty-two years ago)

"yes"? As in I'm trying too hard? As in it's just me??

― Scott Kos (Scott Kos), Thursday, 24 April 2003 16:44 (twenty-two years ago)

Aim low, my boy

― buttch (Oops), Thursday, 24 April 2003 16:47 (twenty-two years ago)

I'm sorry, I was just being a smart-ass.

Honestly, I understand your dilemma, and personally, I actually get very inspired by the mundane and banal and bland, mostly in that, when you acknowledge that most moments/experiences are like this and don't live up to those possibilities, it makes the really great moments that much more worthwhile. Plus, it seems more true to life; I'd rather fully involve myself in something realistic/true-but-not-mind-blowingly-amazing than something living-up-to-all-possibilities-but-unreal/untrue.

― nickalicious (nickalicious), Thursday, 24 April 2003 16:48 (twenty-two years ago)

perhaps it's a sign of immaturity?? Of thinking so much of my own expectations that they blind me to what real interactions and life experiences are really all about?? A form of narcissism?? *smiles* Hell, I don't know. I maintain a small, close-knit circle of "people that matter" but outside of that... I couldn't aim any lower than my current expectation, unless I started bringing a shovel with me everywhere I go...

― Scott Kos (Scott Kos), Thursday, 24 April 2003 16:54 (twenty-two years ago)

At any rate, my (perhaps cloudy) intention was to see if others find themselves experiencing the same feeling.

― Scott Kos (Scott Kos), Thursday, 24 April 2003 16:54 (twenty-two years ago)

I'm reminded of the one piece of advice ol'man Mann gave me upon my HS graduation:

"Horace, m'boy, life is a shit sandwich. The more bread you have the less shit you have to eat."

― Horace Mann (Horace Mann), Thursday, 24 April 2003 17:00 (twenty-two years ago)

I think I've been a lot happier since I stopped trying to figure people out and started just enjoying whatever parts of themselves they chose to share or reveal. Does anyone really enjoy being pinned and mounted like a butterfly?

― felicity (felicity), Thursday, 24 April 2003 17:22 (twenty-two years ago)

oh you're wide open on that one!

― g--ff c-nn-n (gcannon), Thursday, 24 April 2003 17:23 (twenty-two years ago)

I know. I am serious, though.

― felicity (felicity), Thursday, 24 April 2003 17:24 (twenty-two years ago)

I smoke up.

It may not keep things interesting, but they bother me less.

― luna (luna.c), Thursday, 24 April 2003 17:24 (twenty-two years ago)

Sometimes, I think the sagest piece of advice I can offer anyone -- including m'self -- is: "No matter what you think, just keep it to yourself. When in doubt, ALWAYS shut da fuck up".

― Scott Kos (Scott Kos), Thursday, 24 April 2003 17:26 (twenty-two years ago)

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