Parties after clubs, good or bad?

hmm, they can seem a good idea at time, but cause much pain later on. if club finishes at 2 then yes good, i mean, you're not going to be sleeping i guess. but if you leave club at 5 or later, its just prolonging the inevitable, and there is no way its going to be 1am again no matter what you do. i mean, we all see those casualties right? 3pm and still wired to fuck. its like, no way. the sooner you get back to normal, the sooner the next night comes round.

and its always good to go home still in good form, wanting more, rather than dragging every last drop out of the night

Oooof. You young people have so much energy!

I hope you're not out chasing casual sex and fighting the inevitable slumber with illegal reefers n whatnot.

My favourite parties after clubs tend to be in my own house, actually they're not even parties but I had had mad times just coming home slightly early with beer already bought, and maybe decks set up or just my own cds, and 2 or 3 mates.

I often have a better time at the after-parties than the clubs*, for any/all of the following reasons:

A) Imagine there's a girlie what you want to talk to. At the party, you CAN. At the club, you can SCREAM and not much else.

B) Many opportunities to make music; parties always end up with somebody passing me da mic or me playing some dude's drums while he's puking/fucking/dead/etc.

C) reefers

D) You have the option of crashing on the floor or in the stairwell or in the back yard etc.

E) If for some reason you end up nekkid it's far less likely you'll go to jail.

*it should be noted that in this place what I live in, the clubs are required to close by 1:00 AM, thus parties after clubs are INTEGRAL in the wee hours

they're great. unless you're too tired to go. in which case don't go.

but nickalicious, going to sleep and waking up next morning in strange house not knowing anyone=worse than several kicks in the head.

i've never been to a party after a club. Usually Im well passed out by 2am these days. Back in college we would go to parties and then eat shrooms and stay up for the rest of the night.

Very good point Ronan. I try not to do this at people's houses I don't know (although in my "it's-a-small-world" bumfuck little city, it would be rather hard for me to crash on a floor and it not belong to someone I'm not at least slightly acquainted with).

I like to tell stories as obvious. One time I went to a spring weekend at UMASS. We had been drinking since 9am and partied until lord knows what time. I remember wandering away from a party...the next morning I woke up face down in a pile of laundry in someone's dorm room. I have no idea who it was, nor how i got there. But i did make out with a girl earlier in the night.

I'm a bit of an introvert -- not exactly scared of people, but uneasy being faceless in a crowd. I like conversation more than anything. Drunken conversation is especially fun. Parties are great for this. Clubs are not. And nick is right about the girls, and the reefers, and the nakedness.

I'm a big fan of the parties that seem to go on forever with a good amount of intensity. I'm always upset when I'm at a party and it's going good, and people start talking about how tired they are or people start passing out or going home.

I like stories too Chris, that's what I was hoping this thread would bring.

I have been to a few great ones.

On one occasion I went to this townhouse just outside Dublin and it was all older people who were playing disco and house records and gave me beer, spliffs, hugs, etc, it was the best thing ever. I had gone along with two girls I met at the club. It was probably one of the best nights I ever had.

Last time I went to one I think everyone in the house was gay, there were no girls there and it was kind of funny, some guy had his arm around me and was chatting away and then we exchanged numbers and I only began to realise this. It was a lovely party all the same, kind of amusing, they wouldn't let us in first because lets face it we knew noone, and the two main guys in the house had a massive fucking argument over it, one of them wanted to let us in.

Eventually the second guy caved and when I was going the next morning he was unbelievably embarassed cos we'd got on quite well and so he was like "YOU ARE ALWAYS WELCOME HERE, I'M SO SORRY".

It was an odd one, that night.

There was also a time, that didn't involve me....my best friend went to college about 10 miles from where I went to college. A few of my friends from school packed it in and went to visit my best friend one night. Luckily one of my friends didn't drink so he drove. After an all night Tequila bender we decided to drive home. My friend W, who is Big Pun size decided he had to throw up on the ride home. We were on the highway and just pulled over. He fell out of the car and started to puke. Of course the other three of us were trying to lift him up and get him back into the car. We couldn't budge him. He told us to leave him there. On the side of the highway. We couldn't do this, but debated it. Finally we got him back in the car. When we got back to school we got him up to his room, which was next door to mine. He started throwing up again all over while yelling out "Don't let me die like Hendrix". W, was a guitar player in the college jazz band...So we eventually got him to bed. The next day I woke up and went in to check on him. I walked in and he was butt naked hanging out of his window with a porno in the VCR and passed the fuck out. He had a sunburn on one side of his face.

You play the decks Ron? Far out. Is it difficult to learn? Does it take time to learn or can it become quite easy after some extensive practise. I'm assuming you have to know your tunes and records, the rhythms and beats and all but is decking really difficult to learn? Does it depend on the individual? Does it come naturally to some and others haven't got a hope in hell in learning? I'm just asking because I'm supposed to be learning them pretty soon and eventually play at a "chicks on decks" night in Glasgow. In the meantime there's two females and any other male DJ's who want to play have to dress as chicks. Will be a good night. I'm so excited to learn. Any tips?

Bad for me certainly.

Oh and personal to thredned: forget about turntable skills. Know your music--extensively. Know your audience--thoroughly. Lots of kids know how to spin records; not that many know what to play.

I'm down on parties at the mo. I don't know any single people anymore who want to hang out after a show or anything like that.

Actually I sort of think the hook-up factor is the biggest thing about this. Crass, sure, but whatever, making it easier for people to get together is surely a public service. Clubs work better for flirting, and then suddenly everyone's headed out and it's way too big of a thing to actually make any further connection with someone -- you just met once place, and flirted, that establishes nothing. If you drag on to a party, suddenly you're not only able to talk to people, but now there's already this sense that you're, like, in some sort of group with them, cause look, you all just went someplace smaller together, collectively. And it's a proven fact that when it's six in the morning and people are really tired and have been staring at each other for hours and hours, they basically go "what the hell, let's get it on," cause you're already sitting there together all worn-out and haggard, it's hardly a big step.

That said, guess what: you're not going to get laid or even trade numbers without anyone who'll call. Seriously. Stop kidding yourself and go home.

6:00 am after drinking all night and you're tired and haggard is not the best time to "get it on".

Don't let me die like Hendrix"
hahaha, oh lord that's good.

No, Sean, but it's certainly one of the easiest.

The other thing is that, well, I don't know about elsewhere, but from what I've seen the bulk of people actually prefer not to get together really obviously in front of their friends (or else are quite reasonably embarrassed to be thinking about this with me or anyone I go out with regularly), so it winds up late because everyone is outlasting one another, like "No, I think I'll stick around for just a little bit, you can go ahead and take off without me." People would rather mention days later that "remember that person I was talking to," as opposed to a big obvious middle-of-the-night "attention everyone I am currently leaving to go get it on with this person." Not to mention the way some people sort of shop around.

Chris V, I shouldn't make fun of your mate but that was a hilarious story! Hanging out the window WITH A PORN VIDEO ON!? The mind boggles.

I like going back to mine after clubs, with friends, and just smoking spliffs, watching trash TV and chatting. Nice way to chill and relax so you can (eventually) sleep. This kind of clubbing is a bit new to me though, I'm still trying to get used to it. I was always a goth club type (drink, dance, go home) so the whole thrills pills n bellyaches thing is still a bit of a social mystery to me, but fun nonetheless!