This is the thread where you wish Tep good luck

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In mere moments my girlfriend will be accepting her Classics MA from Tulane, and I will be spending two hours of the ceremony and an unknown amount of time both before and after it alone with her family, whom I've never met -- and they've all been asking lots of questions about me and my family. They're from rural eastern Washington, and at first I was all like "okay, they'll be nice and all," and then I remembered jess might be from eastern Washington (Olympia's eastern, isn't it?) and that I am therefore fucked (P.S. I love jess).

I've never been to a graduation before. Didn't bother with any of mine, and my brother got his GED, or I would've gone to his high school graduation.

It's meant to be somewhat formal, but the only pants I own that aren't jeans are these black shiny things which make me look like at any moment I could be busting out the suburban gang signs. So I'm wearing jeans and a maroon shirt (with buttons, this is a rarity for me) and a black T-shirt. And sneakers. I don't own dress shoes, either. At least my @#*! tattoo won't be showing.

I have the impression they're fairly practical folk, and I'm a writer who writes sex guides and smut and books about vampires and rockstars. I'm hoping they don't ask what I write about, and if they do, that I'm able to satisfy them with brief descriptions of some of my other stuff.

So this is the part where you wish me luck.

Tep (ktepi), Friday, 16 May 2003 12:15 (twenty-three years ago)

Good luck! Olympia is actually western Washington, but Jess has stories regardless, and eastern Washington...well, yes, the stereotypes apparently are heavily true. Just say you're a writer about this and that. :-)

Ned Raggett (Ned), Friday, 16 May 2003 12:21 (twenty-three years ago)

You'll blow em away with your classic one-liners, Tep.

Good luck!

And remember...they can smell fear.

Nordicskillz (Nordicskillz), Friday, 16 May 2003 12:22 (twenty-three years ago)

What ARE these stereotypes, pray tell?

Nordicskillz (Nordicskillz), Friday, 16 May 2003 12:22 (twenty-three years ago)

I think jess is from south Jersey or something like that, so you're in the clear. just remember edgar martinez = saint, brian bosworth = goat, and you'll be fine.

James Blount (James Blount), Friday, 16 May 2003 12:23 (twenty-three years ago)

What ARE these stereotypes, pray tell?

DB, Jess and anyone else who has expounded on them to me to thread!

Ned Raggett (Ned), Friday, 16 May 2003 12:24 (twenty-three years ago)

basically the theory is they control the media

James Blount (James Blount), Friday, 16 May 2003 12:24 (twenty-three years ago)

And they wouldn't like Tep because...

Nordicskillz (Nordicskillz), Friday, 16 May 2003 12:30 (twenty-three years ago)

he doesn't buy enough newspapers

James Blount (James Blount), Friday, 16 May 2003 12:33 (twenty-three years ago)

ugh, i remember when my wife graduated from undergrad and I had to go to dinner with her family. About 40 people. Her uncle kept calling me Mr. Chris. And he did the same thing at my wedding 7 years later. Assbag.

Chris V. (Chris V), Friday, 16 May 2003 12:33 (twenty-three years ago)

Mr. Chris?!!! - did he work at a massage parlor or something?

James Blount (James Blount), Friday, 16 May 2003 12:35 (twenty-three years ago)

Hahahaha!

Nordicskillz (Nordicskillz), Friday, 16 May 2003 12:36 (twenty-three years ago)

Good luck Tep, it sounds like you've got your work cut out!!

Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Friday, 16 May 2003 12:38 (twenty-three years ago)

My girlfriend's family treat me like a Pet!Walking!Talking!Englishman! complete with accent and everything. Sometimes I walk in the room, and they just say "come on, TALK FOR US!". I've got used to it.

Nordicskillz (Nordicskillz), Friday, 16 May 2003 12:38 (twenty-three years ago)

You'll blow em

A sure way to get them on your side, I would think.

(I am an empty douchebag today; completely useless.)

Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Friday, 16 May 2003 12:51 (twenty-three years ago)

SEE? I didn't even know Olympia was western WA. They'll be all "Yeah, we're from near Spokane," and I'll be all, "Oh yeah? I know people in Olympia," which is like when people tell me "You're from New Hampshire? I was in Idaho once."

(Oddly, Lindsey once dated the guy who this very weekend is marrying one of my best friends. I wonder if I should bring this up. We didn't meet through these friends, but through my ex.)

Tep (ktepi), Friday, 16 May 2003 12:55 (twenty-three years ago)

I should not mention meeting her through the ex, since it's an obvious invitation to, "You have an ex? Why do you suck at relationships?"

Tep (ktepi), Friday, 16 May 2003 12:57 (twenty-three years ago)

Maybe I should pretend to be French, and not understand anything they say, nor speak anything but "Passez-moi une croissant, por favor." (Which is not even French, really, I know.)

Tep (ktepi), Friday, 16 May 2003 12:58 (twenty-three years ago)

Try it out for the first half-hour.

Nordicskillz (Nordicskillz), Friday, 16 May 2003 13:03 (twenty-three years ago)

Then run like the wind.

Archel (Archel), Friday, 16 May 2003 13:05 (twenty-three years ago)

Don't pretend to be French, although they may assume that anyway. Also, don't bring up your high school days and the Secret Service.

hstencil, Friday, 16 May 2003 13:09 (twenty-three years ago)

... or my father who's been indicted on terrorism and firearms charges and is a tax evader, or my brother the ex-convict, or possibly the fact that my mother is living in sin.

Family-wise, I will focus on "my mother's family has been in New England for four hundred years and is mostly in banking."

Tep (ktepi), Friday, 16 May 2003 13:18 (twenty-three years ago)

I have the first two pimples I have had since I was a wee Tepling. I'm nearly 28! There should be biological laws against the simultaneity of thinning hair and pimples.

Thank you for the luck-wishing. Today my Indian name is Runs At The Mouth.

Tep (ktepi), Friday, 16 May 2003 13:29 (twenty-three years ago)

Or you could just say fuck it and talk about all those things. You can complete this package by assuming the greasy German poet persona of Val Kilmer in The Saint.

Ned Raggett (Ned), Friday, 16 May 2003 13:29 (twenty-three years ago)

My main genuine worry is that once I tell them I'm in religious studies, they will ask me what my religious beliefs are, which is a sticky issue. I have yet to learn the small-talk polite response to that one, beyond, "Don't ever eat babies."

Tep (ktepi), Friday, 16 May 2003 13:32 (twenty-three years ago)

Just tell them you're focusing on the theologian/religion scholar aspects and that you prefer not to discuss your religious beliefs.

Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Friday, 16 May 2003 13:34 (twenty-three years ago)

"God says you're not ready to be told yet."

Tep (ktepi), Friday, 16 May 2003 13:37 (twenty-three years ago)

Yes, say exactly that. Then piss on them.

Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Friday, 16 May 2003 13:38 (twenty-three years ago)

Good luck!

Not all the people from eastern WA are that bad- there are a few people I know at my company who grew up out there, and I get along with them just fine. So maybe yr girlfriend's parents will be cool- you can always hope.

lyra (lyra), Friday, 16 May 2003 13:40 (twenty-three years ago)

I figure they'll be cool, just not sure if they'll pick up on my own native coolness. I make very quiet first impressions.

Tep (ktepi), Friday, 16 May 2003 13:47 (twenty-three years ago)

That's where the pissing comes in.

Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Friday, 16 May 2003 13:47 (twenty-three years ago)

I'd have to splash a lot, though. I will not preface it with "say hello to my little friend."

Tep (ktepi), Friday, 16 May 2003 13:50 (twenty-three years ago)

There's a thought, though. Speak in nothing but catchphrases and movie quotes.

"So you're still in school?"
"Just when I thought I was out ... they pulled me back in."

"I'm not sure you're right for our daughter."
"If you strike me down, I shall become more powerful than you can imagine."

Tep (ktepi), Friday, 16 May 2003 13:53 (twenty-three years ago)

My girlfriend's family treat me like a Pet!Walking!Talking!Englishman! complete with accent and everything. Sometimes I walk in the room, and they just say "come on, TALK FOR US!". I've got used to it.

My parents do the same thing to my boyfriend, N-skillz. I think they like him more than they like me.

Mandee, Friday, 16 May 2003 13:57 (twenty-three years ago)

"So when are you going to put a ring on her finger, hm?"

"One ring to rule them all ... AND IN THE DARKNESS BIND THEM."

Tep (ktepi), Friday, 16 May 2003 13:58 (twenty-three years ago)

My friend's advice to me, when I was sort of testing out responses to likely questions: "No no no. Don't talk about how young your brother is. He's older than your girlfriend, man."

Tep (ktepi), Friday, 16 May 2003 13:59 (twenty-three years ago)

Tep you cradle robber.

Ned Raggett (Ned), Friday, 16 May 2003 14:08 (twenty-three years ago)

She's four years younger than me, seven years younger than the youngest person I dated prior to her, and something like twelve years younger than the oldest. It IS very odd. I should not emphasize this.

I have cats. I will talk about cats. Everyone loves cats and ninjas!

Tep (ktepi), Friday, 16 May 2003 14:12 (twenty-three years ago)

I'm pumping myself up with Bananarama just in case her father is secretly Johnny from The Karate Kid.

Tep (ktepi), Friday, 16 May 2003 14:15 (twenty-three years ago)

Where so in eastern Washington? There are some cool people, but if we're assuming stereotypes, yeah I wouldn't brag about how you "fucked with the man" or anything. Assume eastern Washington = Idaho, for all intents and purposes.

Walla Walla is a nice little town I hear (aside from being near the big penitentiary). Then, I've heard the Tri-cities area like Richland is just incredibly conservative and boring. Or is it the Pullman/Moscow area? or Clarkston/Lewiston?

donut bitch (donut), Friday, 16 May 2003 14:46 (twenty-three years ago)

I wouldn't brag about how you "fucked with the man"

Or "fucked with a man," that would raise questions.

Ned Raggett (Ned), Friday, 16 May 2003 14:47 (twenty-three years ago)

Smoke bombs.

No seriously, good luck, they'll love you.

luna (luna.c), Friday, 16 May 2003 14:53 (twenty-three years ago)

(Failing that, set off the smoke bombs, and as Archel said, run like the wind).

luna (luna.c), Friday, 16 May 2003 14:59 (twenty-three years ago)

don't forget to sweep the leg.

Chris V. (Chris V), Friday, 16 May 2003 15:01 (twenty-three years ago)

Harrington, WA -- very small town near Spokane, apparently.

We got along very well. Her mother hugged me, her father was very impressed with my GREs (... they came up. I wasn't being that guy.), and less than an hour after taking a photo of me and the girlfriend with an Indiana pennant, I found out that I got in.

(Apparently. The asst. director "has good news," so either I got in or she's really excited about Pepsi Vanilla hitting the market.)

Dude. Dig it. I'm moving to INDIANA. To a townhouse with on-site sauna and TENNIS COURT. In TWO WEEKS. I am NOT PACKED EVEN A LITTLE BIT. I am using CAPS LIKE ALLY. I have three writing assignments due before then.

I have a feeling I'm not gonna be around much till June.

Tep (ktepi), Saturday, 17 May 2003 01:53 (twenty-three years ago)

Good luck!

I went to my second graduation in jeans and t-shirt, half my class did.

jel -- (jel), Saturday, 17 May 2003 09:19 (twenty-three years ago)

Yay, congrats and good luck at being a hoosier! Search for the what to do in Bloomington thread. (I'm assuming Indiana = IUB)

teeny (teeny), Saturday, 17 May 2003 13:56 (twenty-three years ago)

Rah! Success be thine!

Ned Raggett (Ned), Saturday, 17 May 2003 14:26 (twenty-three years ago)

Congrats, Tep - that's fantastic!

Well, except the actual moving part. I hate moving.

But dammit, yay you!

luna (luna.c), Saturday, 17 May 2003 18:05 (twenty-three years ago)

congratulations to your girlfriend, tep and good luck with her family.

di smith (lucylurex), Sunday, 18 May 2003 01:17 (twenty-three years ago)

This is the thread in which I say thank you to everyone, mention the fact that I'm going on a SWAMP TOUR with The Family tomorrow (luckily first impressions are already good, so I won't be fed to the alligators), and then frown at my ambivalence. I'm glad to be moving to Bloomington. I'm very glad to have been accepted to the program I wanted (Western European Studies -- I can take classes from like 16 different departments, and learn Akkadian and Hungarian if I damn well want). I'm glad I'll be moving with my girlfriend instead of trying to swing the long-distance thing.

On the other hand, New Orleans is the only place that has ever felt like home: even when I was very young, like five years old, I complained about living in New Hampshire, and have at best tolerated the places I've lived since. I'd been feeling like I was ready for a little break, maybe, but this will be five years ... I'm very sad about it. Not depressed, not in my cups, and I won't resent Bloomington like a step-parent -- in fact, I think I'll like it. But it's like losing a good friend or a pet.

I was 21 when I moved here, and will turn 28 just after moving away. Those are important years, especially for me. I've written three novels here. Before New Orleans, I'd been paid a grand total of $12 for my writing; since then, I've paid the rent with it a couple times, licensed a roleplaying game complete with merchandise, written webcomics and plays and smut and sex advice and a book introduction, started painting, gained a tattoo, lost a gallbladder (pssst, your punchline is: where the fuck did you get the tattoo?). Some of that I'll take credit for. Some of it I couldn't or wouldn't have done elsewhere.

Then again, I'll be very-slightly-closer to a major league ballpark.

Sorry to bring the thread down, but I suppose it's my thread to bring down; this is the part where I pour myself a drink and give myself an hour to brood, cause after tomorrow there's just no time: I've got less than two weeks to pack six years into cardboard boxes, and about 12,000 words I need to write in the same time to make deadlines.

Tep (ktepi), Sunday, 18 May 2003 03:30 (twenty-three years ago)

Good luck, Tep.

lyra (lyra), Sunday, 18 May 2003 03:49 (twenty-three years ago)

Best of luck indeed. :-)

Ned Raggett (Ned), Sunday, 18 May 2003 16:34 (twenty-three years ago)


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