Being drunk and tempted to email someone you had a crush on and still think about C/D

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Even though it has been two years...
I am tempted, are you?

― Aaron Grossman (aajjgg), Sunday, 18 May 2003 06:37 (twenty-two years ago)

Don't do it.

― Sean (Sean), Sunday, 18 May 2003 06:44 (twenty-two years ago)

why not?
i am one of those bland people for whom random impulsive acts would be positive ;-)
and i am sober enough to type a coherent message ala:
hi i was digging through some old papers and found your email address and i was just wondering how you are doing?

― Aaron Grossman (aajjgg), Sunday, 18 May 2003 06:48 (twenty-two years ago)

what the hell, do it---what have you got to lose?

― oops (Oops), Sunday, 18 May 2003 06:49 (twenty-two years ago)

WHOO WHOO also you should get a tattoo

― Millar (Millar), Sunday, 18 May 2003 07:00 (twenty-two years ago)

yea i never do stuff like this which is why you should

― Mary (Mary), Sunday, 18 May 2003 07:01 (twenty-two years ago)

do it

― duane, Sunday, 18 May 2003 07:03 (twenty-two years ago)

don't do it

― duane, Sunday, 18 May 2003 07:03 (twenty-two years ago)

duane is OTM

― oops (Oops), Sunday, 18 May 2003 07:10 (twenty-two years ago)

FUCK YOU OOPS JUST FUCK YOU FUCK YOU FUCK YOU

― Millar (Millar), Sunday, 18 May 2003 07:12 (twenty-two years ago)

I read that as a NWA chorus. Kudos.

― oops (Oops), Sunday, 18 May 2003 07:20 (twenty-two years ago)

Millar is OTW!!

― duane, Sunday, 18 May 2003 07:22 (twenty-two years ago)

oops is OTP!!

― duane, Sunday, 18 May 2003 07:23 (twenty-two years ago)

yeah, you know me

― oops (Oops), Sunday, 18 May 2003 07:23 (twenty-two years ago)

here we go yo! here we go yo! so wassa wassa wassa C/D

― Millar (Millar), Sunday, 18 May 2003 07:29 (twenty-two years ago)

As long as the message isn't a huge three page missive like I sent one of my exes once (which ended up encouraging him to start psuedo-stalking me again), then you're ok. The message that you said above is fine--worst that happens is the person laughs at you behind your back and doesn't respond. It's not like "Hey! I just found your email again--how are you?" is a message that lays your heart out on the line...

― Ally (mlescaut), Sunday, 18 May 2003 08:04 (twenty-two years ago)

Nominally dud. However an ex sent me an e-mail recently and I haven't ruled out responding.

― j.lu (j.lu), Sunday, 18 May 2003 19:02 (twenty-two years ago)

Dud, just b/c you'll probably be embarrassed by it later. Trust me, I do this *all* the time and am always embarrassed later. :(

― That Girl (thatgirl), Sunday, 18 May 2003 19:47 (twenty-two years ago)

that's no reason not to do something--you might be embarrassed later, but later later you'll be happy you went for it.

― slutsky (slutsky), Sunday, 18 May 2003 20:11 (twenty-two years ago)

Saying hello is okay,
Booty call is not...

― brg30 (brg30), Sunday, 18 May 2003 21:41 (twenty-two years ago)

Back in college I e-mailed a girl from high school I really liked and hadn't talked to in years. It was nice and when I was in her town on vacation I hung out with her a little. Nothing came of it, but it was nice to see her. Ally is OTM. Those kinda e-mails are fine, dandy and flattering to the recipient.

― Anthony Miccio (Anthony Miccio), Sunday, 18 May 2003 22:06 (twenty-two years ago)

Man! I nearly did this this weekend via text message and i'm so glad i didn't.

― dog latin (dog latin), Sunday, 18 May 2003 23:46 (twenty-two years ago)

I rule this behavior. Actually it was usually more: get drunk, spend lots of time online trying to dig up phone numbers and contact information for a girl I was in love with when I was 15. Once or twice actually contact her. Or other people I had crushes on. This never really turned out to be a bad, bad idea, more just an annoying waste of time for them, I think, and embarassing for me later on. DO IT!

― anthony kyle monday (akmonday), Monday, 19 May 2003 00:41 (twenty-two years ago)

Don't do it. Move on. Repeat these things and move away from the computer.

― Calz (Calz), Monday, 19 May 2003 00:51 (twenty-two years ago)

Yeah - I did that when I discovered enemiesreunited. She never replied though, damn her bitch arse.

― N. Ron, Monday, 19 May 2003 02:08 (twenty-two years ago)

well i am not drunk anymore so you will all have to wait until next weekend to see tha final chapta ;-)

― Aaron Grossman (aajjgg), Monday, 19 May 2003 03:01 (twenty-two years ago)

I think i will actually send the email sometime this week but only after i shave and get a haircut

― Aaron Grossman (aajjgg), Monday, 19 May 2003 04:03 (twenty-two years ago)

why, are you including a picture?

― Mary (Mary), Monday, 19 May 2003 04:49 (twenty-two years ago)

"hi i was just digging thru some old pictures of myself to try and figure out which one to send you"

― Tracer Hand (tracerhand), Monday, 19 May 2003 05:09 (twenty-two years ago)

i think your sample email is right-on in tone and length

― Tracer Hand (tracerhand), Monday, 19 May 2003 05:12 (twenty-two years ago)

Doing it while drunk = dud.
Waiting till you're sober, then if you still feel like it going ahead = classic.

― Matt DC (Matt DC), Monday, 19 May 2003 07:47 (twenty-two years ago)

no do it on benzos or barbs or something, you'll be more relaxed

― duane (lucylurex), Monday, 19 May 2003 07:49 (twenty-two years ago)

what Matt said. writing things like this when drunk can be a good cathartic thing to do. sending them is not. look at it later on, when sober, and after a couple of days, edit it if necessary, and then send

― gareth (gareth), Monday, 19 May 2003 07:52 (twenty-two years ago)

don't do it WHILE DRUNK.

when you've sobered up i) you'll have a better idea of whether it's a good idea or not and ii) you will write a more coherent mail.

― DV (dirtyvicar), Monday, 19 May 2003 08:26 (twenty-two years ago)

dont whatever you do keep telling yourself "i would gladly drop my life as it stands and leave it all for you if you turned up on my doorstep (including my current girlfriend who i would be very happy with had you never existed)" and then find out her boyfriend dumped her on the exact same day you thought about her for the first time in 18 months and think it must be a sign and then spend the next fucking weeks going mad and thinking about leaving your girlfriend even tho u no it wont evah evah work but still she once held your hand five years ago and the memory of that still means more 2 u than the actuality of any wonderful event with your real g/f including amazing sex and closeness and stuff BEKOZ IT WILL DRVE U MADDHEADED.

― NOT TELLING, Monday, 19 May 2003 08:50 (twenty-two years ago)

you must do it while drunk bcz it will things 'interesting'. that can only be a good thing.

― Julio Desouza (jdesouza), Monday, 19 May 2003 09:11 (twenty-two years ago)

Yes, but she's more likely to meet you and have sex with you if you don't come over like a gibbering drunken stalker mentalist, which is more interesting in the long run, surely?

― Matt DC (Matt DC), Monday, 19 May 2003 09:13 (twenty-two years ago)

well he could give two emails: one is while he was drunk where he comes over like a stalker mentalist and then one where he sobers up. the second email should include an apology if he did come over like a stalker mentalist. she might like the fact that he was email her while drunk, who knows, she might find it funny.

― Julio Desouza (jdesouza), Monday, 19 May 2003 09:16 (twenty-two years ago)

Hey Julio at the next FAP I expect to see you knocking back some strong cider to make things interesting.

― Tim (Tim), Monday, 19 May 2003 09:35 (twenty-two years ago)

Why email when you can call?
What girl/boy out there doesn't live for that 3 a.m. phone call, esp. when it's from a different time zone where it isn't 3 a.m., but the caller doesn't care anyway, because they just wanna hear your voice.
Whatever you do, when you answer that call, don't be having sex with anyone related to the caller.

― HoraceMann, Monday, 19 May 2003 09:36 (twenty-two years ago)

''Hey Julio at the next FAP I expect to see you knocking back some strong cider to make things interesting.''

yes, I'll be hoping to do a version of oasis' 'slide away'.

― Julio Desouza (jdesouza), Monday, 19 May 2003 09:50 (twenty-two years ago)

I agree with Ally as well. As long as it doesn't seem like you've been secretly obsessing about this person for years, and you just want to say 'hi', that's nice.

I totally disagree with Julio. The two email thing with the second one apologizing for being drunk and sending something inappropriate would (and has) creeped me out, and the second email only makes it worse...makes me suspicious of a jekyll/hyde thing, even if that isn't really the case.

So I say do it! just make it short and sweet. crushes rock.

― colette (a2lette), Monday, 19 May 2003 10:14 (twenty-two years ago)

this thread is fun!
i think i would actually be better off writing drunk because i am more cautious and reserved whilst drunk. the sample email above was typed drunk. do you see?
as for the shave and haircut, well, i feel all scratchy and shitty now and not in the mood for meeting people if it comes to that.

― Aaron Grossman (aajjgg), Monday, 19 May 2003 17:26 (twenty-two years ago)

Dear Crush,

Okay, so I've been [hic] thinkin boutchooo cuz I founded this picture of us all smiling and all twee and like totally "aw innit that cute?" and decided to [hic] google your name and track down your email address and email you this ramblinglyish [hic] totally drunken email. Did I mention I was drunk? So anyway, like [hic] Prince once said "I love you more than I did when you were mine". Peace. - Nick

inner monologue: "Don't click send. Don't click send. Don't click send. Don't click send. DON'T CLICK SEND!!!!"

drunken index finger: "oops, I think I just clicked send"

D'OH!

― nickalicious (nickalicious), Monday, 19 May 2003 17:58 (twenty-two years ago)

sneaky: don't mention the crushee's name, so if you get an e-mail back saying "wtf?" you say "oops--i was drunk and meant to send that to the person just above you in my address book..."

― mookieproof (mookieproof), Monday, 19 May 2003 18:10 (twenty-two years ago)

I've never actually done it (I'm rockin' the late night phone call), but now I sort of secretly half want to get one.

― luna (luna.c), Monday, 19 May 2003 18:15 (twenty-two years ago)

don't do it. the past is the past. its time to move on.

― di smith (lucylurex), Monday, 19 May 2003 23:05 (twenty-two years ago)

do it!! the past is - in a very real sense - the future. TIME TO MOVE ON.

― duane (lucylurex), Tuesday, 20 May 2003 00:49 (twenty-two years ago)

time keeps on slippin slippin slippin

― Jody Beth Rosen (Jody Beth Rosen), Tuesday, 20 May 2003 00:51 (twenty-two years ago)

one year passes...

Ok, this is a message to a girl I had a little fling with who was DJing at a bar across the street from where I was drinking:

To: XXXX
Date: Jan 27, 2005 2:29 AM
Subject: omgwtflol
Body: tonight i was drunk and almost wandered into the bug jar but i thoought better of it and just ate english muffins

― Reviewer: Sir Potomus (Washington, DC) - See all my reviews (ex machina), Friday, 28 January 2005 16:47 (twenty-one years ago)

THIS IS NOT YOUR BLOG, JON.

It's Hari's.

― TOMBOT, Friday, 28 January 2005 17:01 (twenty-one years ago)

the bar served english muffins? What an awesome bar.

― Allyzay Highlights The Fallacy of Radiohead (allyzay), Friday, 28 January 2005 20:02 (twenty-one years ago)

i went home and ate them. 4 in fact

― Reviewer: Sir Potomus (Washington, DC) - See all my reviews (ex machina), Friday, 28 January 2005 20:44 (twenty-one years ago)

i had one for breakfast this morning.

― adam.r.l. (nordicskilla), Friday, 28 January 2005 20:45 (twenty-one years ago)

i had 3 bowls of cereal and got gassy because i am not used to dairy.

― Reviewer: Sir Potomus (Washington, DC) - See all my reviews (ex machina), Friday, 28 January 2005 21:04 (twenty-one years ago)

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