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I am a best man at a wedding this weekend and it got me thinking, over the next two years there is a strong possibility that all the following will happen:

Get married
have a baby
learn to drive
buy a house
get a better job (or move upwards where i am now)

these are huge changes to my life which i am very excited about but when viewed as a combined list seem almost daunting.

what huge changes are you expecting over the next couple of years and are you excited about them?

― james (james), Monday, 9 June 2003 08:59 (twenty-two years ago)

Is this thread designed to make us feel bad?

― N. (nickdastoor), Monday, 9 June 2003 09:10 (twenty-two years ago)

no honestly it isn't, i was thinking about what i was going to go through as i've hit the age where i have stopped messing about and just cruising along doing nowt and now i've hit a period where evrything will change and i could be construed as being a grown up!

i just wanted to share this and see if others where in the same boat (Nordicskillz for instance going to the US of A)

― james (james), Monday, 9 June 2003 09:18 (twenty-two years ago)

Um,

hopefully buying a house
hopefully getting married
definitely having a baby
switch to working part time to look after the baby
getting a cat/dog

Hopefully in that order & not in the too distant future.

― Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Monday, 9 June 2003 09:22 (twenty-two years ago)

Well definitely gonna be trying for a baby, hopefully everything will be ok. Oh & hopefully getting engaged at the top of the list.

― Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Monday, 9 June 2003 09:24 (twenty-two years ago)

The married and the baby are, to put it mildly, unlikely barring a sudden turn of events and a shotgun. The house would be nice, but probably contingent on the job making me a lot of money in a short period of time. Definitely not driving, I like to walk to everywhere. Which means a house in the city centre, which is even more unlikely. Nadgers.

― Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Monday, 9 June 2003 09:28 (twenty-two years ago)

Marriage, and starting my MA. That's quite enough to be getting on with I think!

― Archel (Archel), Monday, 9 June 2003 09:30 (twenty-two years ago)

my life seems to be remarkably free of major changes. I've been in the same job for two and three quarter years. I have lived in the same city for almost ten years and the same house for eight of those years. I think I am a very cautious person who doesn't handle change easily. Although my parents are very different in terms of their overall personality, they are also cautious ppl. Whether by nature, nurture or a combination of both, I have inherited this characteristic.

― MarkH (MarkH), Monday, 9 June 2003 09:39 (twenty-two years ago)

I'll probably be going to university in Glasgow (hundreds of miles from where I live now) in October which is exciting and daunting. Other than a rather dramatic change of scenery, I'm not expecting any huge changes. Even the idea of learning to drive is too terrifying for me.

― Cathy, Monday, 9 June 2003 09:41 (twenty-two years ago)

without meaning to hijack my own thread but

**hi-jack**

how scary is learning to drive - i am daunted by the prospect of it, it seems almost impossible even though so many people can drive (of all mentalities)

― james (james), Monday, 9 June 2003 10:01 (twenty-two years ago)

I can't drive and I don't intend to learn.

― MarkH (MarkH), Monday, 9 June 2003 10:05 (twenty-two years ago)

Driving at all is easy. Driving safely strikes me as pretty hard. I think everyone is pretty much a danger to themselves and everyone else for their first few weeks of post-test driving.

― N. (nickdastoor), Monday, 9 June 2003 10:12 (twenty-two years ago)

If like me, you pass your test but never have a car to drive regularly, then you are still a danger, ten years on.

― N. (nickdastoor), Monday, 9 June 2003 10:13 (twenty-two years ago)

I'm pretending that my refusal to learn to drive is based on ethical principle, but really it's pure fear. I'm a fairly dangerous pedestrian, I'd hate to think what I'd be like as a driver.

― Cathy, Monday, 9 June 2003 10:18 (twenty-two years ago)

so far i have cultured an environment destroying reson to my delayed car driving but in all honesty this is a sham, im just scared of having to learn something new

― james (james), Monday, 9 June 2003 10:23 (twenty-two years ago)

if i can do it, anyone can do it!!

― Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Monday, 9 June 2003 10:31 (twenty-two years ago)

I'm pretending that my refusal to learn to drive is based on ethical principle, but really it's pure fear. I'm a fairly dangerous pedestrian, I'd hate to think what I'd be like as a driver.

That sounds like an ethical principle to me. Also, snap.

― Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Monday, 9 June 2003 10:45 (twenty-two years ago)

I have already committed to a major career change, baby and house possibly to follow. I am terrified.

― Colin Meeder (Mert), Monday, 9 June 2003 16:37 (twenty-two years ago)

trying for a baby. my junk doesn't work right i fear.

― Chris V. (Chris V), Monday, 9 June 2003 16:50 (twenty-two years ago)

Hmmmmm.

1. Moving out of the south, either to DC, New York, or somewhere on the Pacific Coast.
2. Buying a house with the boys.
3. Being healthy enough to go back to serious traveling.
4. Finishing an MA and getting another BA.
5. Starting my tortoise rescue group.
6. Adopting several hedgehogs.

― I'm Passing Open Windows (Ms Laura), Monday, 9 June 2003 18:26 (twenty-two years ago)

Anything is possible, but I've given up on thinking anything is likely to happen. It would be wonderful to have a "real", better job but I've lost almost all hope there.

― Nicole (Nicole), Monday, 9 June 2003 18:32 (twenty-two years ago)

1. being unemployed.
2. becoming destitute.
3. becoming homeless.
4. dying a violent and gruesome death.

― hstencil, Monday, 9 June 2003 18:36 (twenty-two years ago)

4a. by crazy sex with hot new girlfriend.

― teeny (teeny), Monday, 9 June 2003 18:39 (twenty-two years ago)

well that might happen before I become homeless!

― hstencil, Monday, 9 June 2003 18:41 (twenty-two years ago)

In the next year or two:

1. moving to new city
2. Leaving job of 7 years (and I'm only 27; this is huge for me)
3. trying to get new job in field but possibly failing and having to start new career

There's a chance I might get married, I guess. We've been dating for ten years and we're really just too lazy. If you could order marriage like a pizza, maybe. We get pizza like three times a week.

― teeny (teeny), Monday, 9 June 2003 18:44 (twenty-two years ago)

Driving is easy in good conditions. Driving in any combination of a) nightime, b) busy crowded streets, c) snow d) rain e) a broken down crappy car f) a Honda can make things a bit more difficult.
If you can afford it, learn to drive standard first so you don't have to relearn how to drive.

― Mr Noodles (Mr Noodles), Monday, 9 June 2003 18:45 (twenty-two years ago)

p.s. james: freaked out about driving but not about BABY?? WTF??

― teeny (teeny), Monday, 9 June 2003 18:46 (twenty-two years ago)

I'm moving on Saturday = big change (600 miles or so)

― nora (nora), Monday, 9 June 2003 18:48 (twenty-two years ago)

Shit. My life is static. Over the course of August and September 2001 I got married, got a permanent job and bought a house. Since then I have had no major life changes at all, and in the next two years (at least) I envisage it will still stay exactly the same.

Unless I can convince Mr Ailsa to buy a cat or a dog (no babies round here please).

― ailsa (ailsa), Monday, 9 June 2003 20:17 (twenty-two years ago)

world domination through chain letters...

Other than that, my mind's a blank.

― gery forbes (gery), Monday, 9 June 2003 20:43 (twenty-two years ago)

Out of the list of:

Get married
have a baby
learn to drive
buy a house
get a better job (or move upwards where i am now)

The only thing I've got down is the driving thing - the chances of the other four things happening to me are somewhere between none and zero.

The next two years are still kinda booked for me, but in the 2-3 year plan, the only likely things happening are:

Quitting job
Liquidating assets
Travelling for at least a year or more.
Strong possibility of not coming back in forseeable future

― Chris Barrus (Chris Barrus), Tuesday, 10 June 2003 22:28 (twenty-two years ago)

since marriage and babies are out of the question and i've done the rest, apparently i've not got much to look foward to. maybe buying my next house? i dunno..

― electric sound of jim (electricsound), Tuesday, 10 June 2003 22:46 (twenty-two years ago)

I get out of the military in November. I plan to stick around in this area since this is where the jobs are. Still scared to death. I have to buy a new wardrobe.

― Millar (Millar), Tuesday, 10 June 2003 22:53 (twenty-two years ago)

Do you just wear a uniform all the time at the moment?

― N. (nickdastoor), Tuesday, 10 June 2003 23:12 (twenty-two years ago)

Strong possibility of not coming back in forseeable future

Ur, what does this mean exactly?

― donut bitch (donut), Tuesday, 10 June 2003 23:17 (twenty-two years ago)

Emigration, m'dear DB. Given some of the idiocies of this country, I sympathize.

― Ned Raggett (Ned), Tuesday, 10 June 2003 23:24 (twenty-two years ago)

As long as he doesn't go to Goa to live with Richey.

― Nicole (Nicole), Tuesday, 10 June 2003 23:26 (twenty-two years ago)

It's not so much an "Escape From USA" as it is a desire to live abroad for a bit.

― Chris Barrus (Chris Barrus), Thursday, 12 June 2003 04:40 (twenty-two years ago)

Lesse, I've already been married, been pregnant, bought cars, had more than one career, etc.. So what's left?

hmm, rehab, more abortions, offically filing for bankruptcy instead of just ignoring the debtors.

Yay adulthood!!!

― That Girl (thatgirl), Thursday, 12 June 2003 05:34 (twenty-two years ago)

yep been married, had 'careers' and cars, and the last major life changes were: marriage ending, leaving country that had been home for 17 years to come 'home', falling pregnant and subsequently ending up single, sole parenthood arrived and here i am.
i think i have pretty much had enough of major life changes for a while, thanks :-)
although i am looking at buying a house ( hopefully ). thats exciting!

― donna (donna), Thursday, 12 June 2003 06:04 (twenty-two years ago)

I graduated from college (university, really) in May 2002, so I'm not really due for more major changes in the next year or so.

What I predict will change, though:
1. Dad will pass away (unless he surprises us again).
2. Mom and I will move to a smaller home.
3. I will either have all my hair fall out due to stress or develop an ulcer due to stress. I'd prefer the latter, really. More sympathy, or at least less cruelty.
4. I will get a new computer. (Have had this one around since 1996.)
5. Er, that's it.

Really scared of most of these changes, really. I don't really care for change, though I do know it has to happen. If the twenties are supposed the "golden years" of one's life, I got stuck with the fool's gold. ;)

*warning: above is not meant to be a public plea for sympathy*

― Dee the Lurker (Dee the Lurker), Thursday, 12 June 2003 06:10 (twenty-two years ago)

On driving, though:

I think it's fun, for the most part. There are times where it sucks royally, but a lot of the time I'm actually quite happy to be driving. At least I know that no matter how the day shapes up, at least I will get to listen to my music while I'm driving.

Yes, it is hard to be as safe a driver as possible. There are a bunch of idiots out there on the road, and sometiems that idiot can be you. Still, you can go a very long time indeed without getting into an accident.

― Dee the Lurker (Dee the Lurker), Thursday, 12 June 2003 06:13 (twenty-two years ago)

dee, don't want to give sympathy if you don't want it, but hope that everything works out for the best...

...plus, your post made me feel a bit like a brat for my worries about life changes (not digging the job that i've got but i either have to keep it or move back to the states because of work permit issues). i've had a fair bit of change in the last 18 months (moving to a new country, moving house several times, finishing my MSc, etc.) but most of it has been exciting and good.

― colette (a2lette), Thursday, 12 June 2003 12:56 (twenty-two years ago)

Change James' "two years" to "three years" and I match him point for point I think. There's other stuff I'd like to happen which will involve willpower on my part (i.e. won't happen).

― Tico Tico (Tico Tico), Thursday, 12 June 2003 13:04 (twenty-two years ago)

mine are the exact same as archel's

― mandee, Thursday, 12 June 2003 13:28 (twenty-two years ago)

So Mandee shall we have a double wedding, or just a double graduation party? :)

― Archel (Archel), Thursday, 12 June 2003 13:44 (twenty-two years ago)

hmmm... LEarning how to drive... I had to take driving lessons a few times because I got in a big accident. Whoopsies. And I was majorly scared of driving obviously. But I've got that one down already...

I would really like to switch jobs in the next 2 years, but I have no idea what I'd want to do instead. I mostly enjoy my job, except for reasons I've mentioned a gazillion times. Making more money would be nice. Paying off some debt would be nice.

I would also really like to buy a house. Renting is fine, but I want more! THough, sometimes, renting makes me feel more relaxed because I'm not tied down to anything... hmmm...

The idea of ever having a baby freaks me out. The idea of never having a baby freaks me out. That one is TBC.

Getting married? Dunno. Staying with current bf? Yes, def.

― Sarah McLusky (coco), Thursday, 12 June 2003 13:53 (twenty-two years ago)

Hmm. I guess we're due to have a baby soon. EEEK.

― Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Thursday, 12 June 2003 14:02 (twenty-two years ago)

i can drive, anyone can drive.
apart from that, i bought a house two years ago...
my major changes in the near future are, hopefully, moving to another city to live with my girl. no marriage involved, but i like the idea of the baby. i'll try to convince her.

― joan vich (joan vich), Thursday, 12 June 2003 14:14 (twenty-two years ago)

I sometimes think about having a baby, but Dan and I have the fear because his nephew is the most horrible shrieky monstah ever and if I ended up with a child like that I would end up donating him to the Salvation Army. I'm sorry, but I'm brat-intolerant.

― Nicole (Nicole), Thursday, 12 June 2003 14:17 (twenty-two years ago)

Let's have a double graduation party! That sounds fun! Double wedding sounds like the Brady Bunch reunion special when Jan and Marcia have a double wedding.

― Mandee, Thursday, 12 June 2003 14:17 (twenty-two years ago)

YAY DAN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

― Chris V. (Chris V), Thursday, 12 June 2003 14:18 (twenty-two years ago)

Hmm. I guess we're due to have a baby soon. EEEK.

I'm sure you will set about this business with all the appropriate vim and vigor.

But yeah, are you serious? Is it confirmed? IS THERE TO BE DAN OR JOEI JR? All your comments about bootyflakes will be paid back with your daily examinations of diapers...

― Ned Raggett (Ned), Thursday, 12 June 2003 14:19 (twenty-two years ago)

The idea of a mini-Dan Perry is an amusing and intriuging one.

― Nicole (Nicole), Thursday, 12 June 2003 14:22 (twenty-two years ago)

This putative child would be raised very well. I mean that both in the serious sense and the "My young one, the world really doesn't have enough intentionally awkward comments, I deem you must carry on the tradition" sense.

― Ned Raggett (Ned), Thursday, 12 June 2003 14:24 (twenty-two years ago)

Wow. You guys are grown-ups. My main ambition is never to have potluck roomates again.

― Kenan Hebert (kenan), Thursday, 12 June 2003 14:40 (twenty-two years ago)

Give us details, please, Dan.

― Sarah McLUsky (coco), Thursday, 12 June 2003 15:02 (twenty-two years ago)

Make some music, write a book, art, film, PHd, that sorta thing. I do not expect to get married or have kids, at least not for 10 years yet.

― jel -- (jel), Thursday, 12 June 2003 15:02 (twenty-two years ago)

Well, Sarah, the man puts his penis in the woman's vagina...

― NA. (Nick A.), Thursday, 12 June 2003 15:03 (twenty-two years ago)

I did the big change thing--I gave away my apartment and all my stuff, quit my job, and moved to Kingston, Jamaica to do development work for two years. Things didn't quite work out (UNDERSTATEMENT OF THE YEAR--PERHAPS DECADE) and now I'm back home in Montreal. Nothing--and I mean nothing--will really shock me about my life now or, probably, ever.

― cybele (cybele), Thursday, 12 June 2003 15:05 (twenty-two years ago)

Cybele, I'm your real father.

― Darth Vader (Nick A.), Thursday, 12 June 2003 15:08 (twenty-two years ago)

Really? How lovely!

― cybele (cybele), Thursday, 12 June 2003 15:13 (twenty-two years ago)

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