This is me, so take it or f@#king leave it!!

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As I was contributing to the 'How are you feeling about ILX...' it occured to me that it really matters to me what people think. Of course it shouldn't, I know I'm a good person generally, so wtf? If someone bitches about a post of mine (why i tend to avoid ILM like the plague!) it really gets to me. But why should it?

― Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Wednesday, 25 June 2003 11:33 (twenty-two years ago)

Because you're human, and that's what humans do?

― Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Wednesday, 25 June 2003 11:35 (twenty-two years ago)

because it makes you face your own self doubt

― electric sound of jim (electricsound), Wednesday, 25 June 2003 11:35 (twenty-two years ago)

But is this something that bothers everyone or just the chosen few?

― Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Wednesday, 25 June 2003 11:47 (twenty-two years ago)

probably everyone who has a few spare seconds to think

― electric sound of jim (electricsound), Wednesday, 25 June 2003 11:55 (twenty-two years ago)

You have to be pretty fucked up before you start taking the 'This is me, so take it or f@#king leave it' line so I wouldn't worry about it Pinkpanther. OK, so yeah like everything you can go too far the other way too.

― N. (nickdastoor), Wednesday, 25 June 2003 12:00 (twenty-two years ago)

Do you take it personally if nobody answers a thread of yours though?

― Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Wednesday, 25 June 2003 12:04 (twenty-two years ago)

That has never happened. Do you mean 'post'? If no show me your unanswered question and I will reply.

― N. (nickdastoor), Wednesday, 25 June 2003 12:05 (twenty-two years ago)

Ha ha, thanx, but I meant when you post something & it kind of sits there for ages unanswered. Sometimes it can make u feel a bit shitty. But having said that, i guess you have to be feeling a bit shitty in the first place to let it bother you that much.

― Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Wednesday, 25 June 2003 12:10 (twenty-two years ago)

If people don't respond to a thread of mine I tend to assume it probably wasn't worth starting in the first place and anxiously wait for it to be bumped off the bottom of the recently-answered bit and into ILX history. But usually only when I'm at my most paranoic, and everyone likes otters http://www.petsynergy.com/otter.jpg.

― Alex in Rotherham (Alex in Doncaster), Wednesday, 25 June 2003 12:13 (twenty-two years ago)

Don't worry about it, let it go.

― jel -- (jel), Wednesday, 25 June 2003 12:34 (twenty-two years ago)

Oh no, don't get me wrong, I don't go home at night & worry myself about it. I was more questioning if others had a 'i dont care what people think about me' attitude or not.

― Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Wednesday, 25 June 2003 12:37 (twenty-two years ago)

i tend to swing pretty rapidly between the 2 attitudes. it pretty much depends on how much i've had to drink.

― Bob Shaw (Bob Shaw), Wednesday, 25 June 2003 12:40 (twenty-two years ago)

I wouldn't say that I don't care what people think about me, coz I like to know if people like me and what I say, but I'd rather not know if they don't.

― jel -- (jel), Wednesday, 25 June 2003 12:41 (twenty-two years ago)

I care whether I upset anybody or not, but with still trying to put my own opinion across. I am a coward, if I think I will rub anyone up the wrong way I won't say anything (there are lots of other people to do it for me anyway).
I don't care if nobody responds to my posts though, well maybe slightly...

― Fuzzy (Fuzzy), Wednesday, 25 June 2003 14:14 (twenty-two years ago)

Don't worry so much.
I get like this on and off. I mean, some days I'll post for a while and feel like nobody is conversing with me in particular, so what's the point? But then I feel silly about being so self-conscious and I log back on. And sometimes I'll revive a whole bunch of my own threads at once trying to get some interaction going on one of topics. *sigh*
But anyway, I really want to meet some ILXors in NYC but nobody is settling on any FAP plans :(.

― Sarah McLUsky (coco), Wednesday, 25 June 2003 16:01 (twenty-two years ago)

Haha, for the last week, as I realized I was approaching 1000 lifetime posts, I thought to myself, "Should I start a thread to celebrate?" But then I thought that would be self-serving, and maybe someone like Ally could get away with that, but I probably couldn't. So I just made a comment on the "Hello ILE" thread: "This is my 1000th lifetime post on ILX, thanks for everything, folx" etc. etc. I thought at least I'd get a comment or two, but no, then someone posted a huge cartoon gopher and a huge cartoon lobster, and that was that. :(

― jaymc (jaymc), Wednesday, 25 June 2003 16:10 (twenty-two years ago)

I find that the amount that I care about what someone else thinks of me is directly correllated with how much respect I have for that person. (Direct flattery works in there, too.)

― Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Wednesday, 25 June 2003 16:36 (twenty-two years ago)

Hi, Dan. I REALLY respect you.
Love, SArah

― Sarah McLUsky (coco), Wednesday, 25 June 2003 18:29 (twenty-two years ago)

CONGRATULATIONS JAYMC. Never fear, I have noticed your 100th post! Yay you! In fact I will post a thread for you!

― Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Thursday, 26 June 2003 10:41 (twenty-two years ago)

''If someone bitches about a post of mine (why i tend to avoid ILM like the plague!) it really gets to me. But why should it?''

I don't know. maybe you've lost yr mind?

― Julio Desouza (jdesouza), Thursday, 26 June 2003 10:49 (twenty-two years ago)

Well thank you Julio! What a nice thing to say!

― Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Thursday, 26 June 2003 10:50 (twenty-two years ago)

this is meeeee! ;-)

but seriously (the previous post was a joke, I like you pinkpanther): it just doesn't bother bcz the person doesn't really know me or has ever met me.

― Julio Desouza (jdesouza), Thursday, 26 June 2003 10:55 (twenty-two years ago)

Haha, I'm not looking for a 'hands up if you like me' thread, i was just wondering, cos sometimes it pisses me off, other times I just think 'piss off mother trucker ~~hat~~'!

― Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Thursday, 26 June 2003 11:05 (twenty-two years ago)

Well, maybe it is misleading to worry about what people think of one as concerns stuff posted on ILX - I don't spend enough time on here to give people a huge basis on which to judge me personally. For those who are a very big part of the forum it is different, perhaps.

I am recalling that if I got anything out of all that time I spent on the local dialup BBS as a high schooler, it was that I either had to take what's said online w/as much good humor as possible & not get all worked up about it, or I'd be constantly involved in about twenty flamewars a day.

― daria g (daria g), Thursday, 26 June 2003 13:43 (twenty-two years ago)

*raises hand*

― Chris Radford (Chris Radford), Thursday, 26 June 2003 13:56 (twenty-two years ago)

Dan is right. Someone like Mark S (a predictable but good example) treating me with loathing or contempt would hurt a million times more than MrNewPosterWhoIDon'tKnow. I don't mean to suggest I won't respect someone's opinion until I've read 5000 posts by them, but I've almsot limitless respect for Mark, and (for those who don't know) we've sat together in pubs talking many times (including last night) and I really like him too, and so on. Of course bad feelings from him would count more than from random strangers.

Also, how much minor things like not getting a response affect me varies depending on mood. In a good and confident mood (as now: yesterday was an exceptionally good day, with huge success at work then a good evening FAPping), it would take something seriously negative from someone I like/respect to trouble me much, whereas another day simply not getting a response somewhere might bother me.

― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Thursday, 26 June 2003 20:03 (twenty-two years ago)

Do you take it personally if nobody answers a thread of yours though?

Occasionally, but on those days I'm already wound up over other things. But that's a part of me I like the least.

― j.lu (j.lu), Thursday, 26 June 2003 23:26 (twenty-two years ago)

I think Martin & J.lu are OTM, it doesnt bother me all of the time, there are just certain days when you are pissed off anyway & ile can sometimes just make it worse or loads better. It has everything to do with your mood.

― Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Friday, 27 June 2003 07:42 (twenty-two years ago)

I'll admit to enjoying the occasional namecheck but by and large I'm not overly bothered. I think that unless you're saying something VERY provocative/distinctive/funny whatever you have to post here quite a while before you sink into people's consciousness. I still look at posters and wonder who they are before realising they've been here for longer than me, and probably don't have a clue who I am either.

― Matt (Matt), Friday, 27 June 2003 09:09 (twenty-two years ago)

I don't care anymore. I had this stage of being bothered for some reason, maybe when I thought I might get to know new people and blahblahblah... but, no. This is just somewhere to fire off the occasional soundbite, and if it gets ignored, wow, my life is so totally not altered by it. It isn't worth caring about.

(Endearing cynicism? I don't care about that, either.)

― ChristineSH (chrissie1068), Friday, 27 June 2003 15:48 (twenty-two years ago)

the only people who's opinions of me matter are my friends, and they already like me. so its WIN-WIN! everyone else, whatever!

― di smith (lucylurex), Friday, 27 June 2003 22:01 (twenty-two years ago)

two years pass...

1000 posts? Amateur.

― jaymc (jaymc), Thursday, 27 April 2006 15:06 (nineteen years ago)

That's what an otter looks like???

― JTS (JTS), Friday, 28 April 2006 22:26 (nineteen years ago)

how do you know how many posts you've made?

― fandango (fandango), Saturday, 29 April 2006 01:02 (nineteen years ago)

I just found it (wasn't loading for me) never mind.

― fandango (fandango), Saturday, 29 April 2006 01:03 (nineteen years ago)

I'm not sure I found what I need...

― fandango (fandango), Saturday, 29 April 2006 01:17 (nineteen years ago)

I posted feverishly to ILX a while ago, but seldom had much interaction. At the time it was disappointing, as I was posting *because* I had time to spare and wanted to interact to kill some time. Nowadays, I have less time to spare and tend to post and run -- I have nicknamed myself the "strike-and-scoot ILX poster" and I seldom if ever get a chance to see if anyone responded or interacted at all. Which is kind of sad in a way, I think, cuz like fandango, I'm not sure that I get or give what I need.

― Wiggy (Wiggy), Saturday, 29 April 2006 02:18 (nineteen years ago)

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