Do you spend the majority of your time alone?

jel- yes i am interacting with ppl here at uni but not in a 'social' kind of basis. in the internet or when you chat you are alone bcz the people you are chatting too are 'virtually' there.

sometimes it worries me. i've started eating out alone in restaurants, reading, which i'm getting guite comfortable with.

last time i was reading when the waiter brought the meal that was actually for my neighbour. but as i was reading i did not notice (it was the same sort of dish anyway) i started eating, when my neighbour trew jealous glances at my plate cause she got the (cheaper) version of the same dish by mistake. when the waiter noticed his mistake i was alreqady halfway through the meal.

i was reading joe orton diaries :-0

it worries me sometimes that being alone makes you too weird.

I detest this living with someone stuff - I miss having my own house where everything was as I wished and I was alone and content and didn't have to be nice or kind or thoughtful, except when I wanted to. Although our house is set-up so that we have our separate spaces, including bedrooms, the house has an open floorplan, and no matter where you are in the house, you can still hear someone else, which just plain sucks.

It's funny, sometimes I really miss having that Alone-Time which I don't really get any more, being in a cohabitory relationship. In some ways, I am a quite solitary person and really prefer it that way. But I guess the snuggles make up for it.

well, do u?

bf is on vacation for the next few weeks - just realized that i havent seen anyone but the girl @ the bodega and the women that runs that dosa place since late sunday nite. generally pretty cool w/this tbh but working from home i have noticed that i spend a lot of time by myself ~~ and this is pretty long. maybe kind of weird?

work from home, school from home
so much time, time alone

http://funky-chaos.org/enth/joined/620_homealone.gif

^^ this is me, all the time

ha. i stay up an extra hour or two a lot of nights just to have time alone. most of my waking hours are spent in the company of wife, children or coworkers. (and in between, people on the sidewalks and subways.) i like all the company, but i also like time and space to myself.

yah ive been pretty resistant to living w/someone again because having your own place is so boss most of the time. but i rarely have to go into work now and its alienating a little bit ~~~ as much as my old job sucked it was cool to have ppl to goof around w/

I often like being alone more than I like being with people. I'm pretty sociable but don't really like big groups and much prefer to spend time one on one or with just a couple ppl.

I've realised that with my current partner I'm almost never alone - I'm either at work surrounded by the (lovely) nongs I work with, or I'm at home with the lad. Due to our differing hours we each get about an hour either morning or evening on our own as the other is out, and thats about it.

He always complains we nevber go to gigs and I'm all "dude just go with some of your other friends or something" cz secretly I just wish he'd go out on his own sometimes so I can get some damn alonetime. It drives me bonkers having no space to myself, as much as I dearly love my guy.

i spend a lot of time at work wishing i was alone, does that count?

no

but i rarely have to go into work now and its alienating a little bit

yeah since i was transferred my presence at the office is irrelevant; everyone i work with is in other buildings or other states. but with the nature of my job more than one day/week working at home would drive me insane so i go in 4 days and basically interact only with people i used to work with.

i like being alone but i sort of crash pretty hard when i don't want to be and am.

this summer i have spent almost 100% of my time alone w/ the exception of going to class for two hours a day. i really don't mind it, i feel like i'm enriching my life in a way cuz i'm reading/listening to music/watching movies a lot, but i kind of feel like being super okay with chilling alone all the time is kind of a crutch for me. whenever i go out w the acquaintances who are here this summer all i do is think about going home, so idk. i spend a lot of time on ilx/talking to ilx people too, but hey what're ya gonna do

i dont think i could work from home tho, i need more structure

yes Jordan, that is what I've experienced. Sometimes you (meaning, I) can get way -too- into the groove of being alone ... and it makes it kinda hard to keep up the social life. It's like, "well, I can have fun and feel good by myself without all the group politics, the stupid phone calls/texts, the sweaty drunken bar nights where no one gets laid, etc." Then people forget about you ... and you're out of the loop ... and life becomes kinda shit.

the worst is ppl who are always invited to social things and always decline, then they find out they weren't invited to a thing (because after a while fuck inviting them) and they get the irrits.

imo

haha thats totally me ;_;

idk y but getting invited to shit and then deciding to chill @ home, read a book, watch a movie is rad and relaxing. but having nothing to do - even if u dont really want to go out - totally sucks.

fair enough, wilter. I am that person. but I mostly get mad at myself.

The root: when you grow up being a black sheep/not fitting in (ILX reader shocker), spending time alone is a dangerous and addictive escape.

the thing is like, i never feel like i have nothing to do. with the fucking internet and tv and xbox and itunes and AIM it's like, so easy to go "well i'll have fun no doubt, drink some beers"

totally. add a sack o green in the mix, and you're never seen again.

xactly

haha thats totally me ;_;

idk y but getting invited to shit and then deciding to chill @ home, read a book, watch a movie is rad and relaxing. but having nothing to do - even if u dont really want to go out - totally sucks.

― ₪_₪ (Lamp), Wednesday, July 22, 2009 11:44 PM (2 minutes ago)

and man once you're an "adult" i'm sure it's much easier and sensible to do this. also when i'm home i'm much more inclined to stay home, since ive been chilling with these dudes since HS and i'm about going to be dropped out of the "loop", as opposed to college

the thing is like, i never feel like i have nothing to do. with the fucking internet and tv and xbox and itunes and AIM it's like, so easy to go "well i'll have fun no doubt, drink some beers"

@ some point i get sick of these things and want to go out~~~ it just seems like im way more likely to get cabin fever when i dont have some easy solution to it

he worst is ppl who are always invited to social things and always decline, then they find out they weren't invited to a thing (because after a while fuck inviting them) and they get the irrits.

Argh Im kind of this person but I dont get the irrits, I just get sad.

Sash and Jim persist in asking me to things regardless! What a bunch of lads. One day I will turn up and everyone will die of a heart attack.

don't really have friends in this town, and have little interest in making any tbh, so when not at work/with hubby i'm on my own - but i like to potter about the house, listen to music, sing, and i like to do things at my own pace, v little tolerance for other ppl the older i get. sure to get zinged for this, but ilx satisfies a lot of my daily social needs, and best thing about it is i don't have to give it my full attention at any point.

sometimes if i feel like going out ill go to the movies or something. mostly my good friends are all gone and the ones that are here just kinda bore me so mostly WHEN I USED TO GO OUT I WOULD KNOW EVERYONE THAT I SAW/ NOW I GO OUT ALONE IF I GO OUT AT ALL

xxpost exactly trayce u don't get the irritz.

I don't really care that much about it, it just happened recently and was annoying

Yeah its hardly fair to get shitty for being left out of things you never go to anyway!

What happens when almost everyone begins to bore you? Is that some kind-of medical condition? Just about all of my friends have been romantic interests ... girlfriends or gay dudes into me.

Today sitting at lunch with the other interns, they went on for nearly a half hour about Vitamin Water. What the fuck is that? I know that kinda shit makes up about 90% of "regular people" small talk ... but how do you do that? I can't manage to even pretend to be able to do those things.

On the flip side, it's few and far between when you meet other heads and weirdos out there that you don't already know

welcome back burt_stanton!

"welcome"

No, burt_stanton is gone forever, I'm afraid. Don't wait up for him ... don't cry, Juggalo Soldier.

he lives on in all of us

so i guess were never truly alone

I only just realised exactly HOW MUCH time I spend alone the other week, when I was quarantined, had medicine waiting for me half a mile away at a chemists, and realised that I had absolutely no one that I could ask to go and get it for me.

I spend perhaps 90% of the time that I am not at work, alone. Most of the time I'm at work, if I have my headphones on, I'm functionally alone anyway.

I realised recently that the reason I twitter so much is to say all those random things and observations that would normally be said to the person next to you, but there is no person.

I'm not sure at which point the solitary life passes from something a bit eccentric to something perhaps pathological, but I think I may have passed that point, or be about to pass it very soon. This kind of scares me, but I'm not sure what else to do about it.

It's kind of hard for me to post this now. I feel quite cautious about posting anything, post-ban. I expect someone will be along to mock my post shortly.

I'm alone all the time when not at work, but don't feel lonely.

I think it's the "by choice" aspect that makes one not feel lonely.

(at the moment it doesn't feel like this is by choice, ergo, the sense of isolation.)

Oh for gods sake, just shut up, Kate, why do I keep posting to this place? It makes me feel worse, not better. :-(

I spend barely any time alone these days; probably 10% or less.

the worst is ppl who are always invited to social things and always decline, then they find out they weren't invited to a thing (because after a while fuck inviting them) and they get the irrits.

― wilter, Wednesday, July 22, 2009 11:42 PM (Yesterday) Bookmark

so OTM it hurts

That's funny, I was just thinking this morning in bed, while lazing around waiting for the alarm, that I spend a lot more time alone as an adult than I was allowed to as a child or teen...but the time in my head now is so much calmer and mostly...sort of putting my active thoughts on hold so my underbrain can process things. It's like a "sleep" function.

Kinda the way I feel, really. It's a good counterbalance to a public service job like mine.

I just wish he'd go out on his own sometimes so I can get some damn alonetime. It drives me bonkers having no space to myself, as much as I dearly love my guy.

Tell him! My husband told me he wanted some time alone in the evening. So after eating and watching some television, we go our seperate ways. heh. But yeah srsly we spend time apart. I can totally understand and now actually enjoy it myself. Especially with two kids (and a shop), there's an overdose and you need some time on your own.

I believe that in a real way, the fact that I spend a lot of my time alone is the result of years of unconscious decisions, not to mention stubbornness. I've been wanting to be left alone most of the time roughly since birth. Classic introvert here. I have friends, but not scads of them; I go out, but not a lot; I can be social, but I have to recharge alone afterward, instead of being recharged by the experience itself. If I'm bored, I don't start calling people, I start building things. Being alone ALL the time is depressing, of course, but being alone most of the time is just frickin' dandy by me.

My eternal nemesis is the "salesman" personality type.

"being alone" is less of a thing for me these days than "having a quiet, tranquil place where i can think."

Well, "being alone" for me can also mean surrounded by people, but people in the park, not people I am expected to talk to.

I spend a lot of my time alone, mostly by choice. My job doesn't entail a whole lot of face-to-face interaction with others, I don't know many people in Chicago that I would just hang out with, and I'm kinda generally introverted overall. It's kind of weird, because I'm getting more involved with theater stuff and am around people in a social setting a lot more than is usual for me, but they're mostly big extroverts and I usually feel lost among them whenever we aren't working together.

I dunno. I can be very social and outgoing but I'm also incredibly inconsistent in that regard. So more often than not I opt out of being a social butterfly altogether so as to not create unrealistic expectations and the resultant disappointment. I'm just way better at being alone consistently, I guess.

I'm totally at ease with being in sales - I've been doing this since I was about 20 and my parents ran a shop since I was seven - and actually happy I have this otherwise I'd be so cut off from the world. There's nothing I find more fun than talking with strangers... for a short period of time. Then I close the shop behind me.

I'm almost never alone, I mean I'm alone on public transport I guess if the other people on it don't count, but otherwise I always have someone there.

Sometimes this bugs me and I want a bit of space/personal time. But generally when I do get this, I'm surprised by how much it does bother me being on my own. Even though I'm not really on my own as long as I've got instant messenger.