So if you could change one thing about yourself, would you?

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Moving on from Kate's thread which moved around to a general thread about appearances. Would you change anything?
For example would you make yourself thinner or would you just give yourself the power to accept who you are?

― Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Monday, 21 July 2003 09:45 (twenty-three years ago)

In general I am pretty happy with myself, I would def shift some weight if I could click my fingers & it miraculously happened. It's one of the things that really gets me down sometimes. It's not even as if I'm big or anything! rest of my life is peachy, so I would only change that def!

― Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Monday, 21 July 2003 09:47 (twenty-three years ago)

the only thing i get particularly distressed about is hair loss, so i'd probably change that, but in reality i'm sure my toxic personality does my life far more damage

― electric sound of jim (electricsound), Monday, 21 July 2003 09:49 (twenty-three years ago)

I have a mole on my head in the very place where one day I will go bald. It will look like a currant there, and girls won't stroke my head the way they stroke most bald men's heads.

― thoth (Jake Proudlock), Monday, 21 July 2003 09:53 (twenty-three years ago)

Physically, my skin. It's a mess. Mentally, my anxiety in social situations.

― RickyT (RickyT), Monday, 21 July 2003 09:59 (twenty-three years ago)

i'd do away with my claustrophobia - perhaps i can overcome it eventually anyway but it would very convenient if it could disperse just like that and never come back. otherwise, it would be good if i wasnt so lazy i guess.

physically? better skin

― stevem (blueski), Monday, 21 July 2003 10:13 (twenty-three years ago)

actually, the one thing i would change is my immunity level. i want to be immune to all the nasty stuff thats probably gonna get me in later life (diabetes? cancer of some sort? senile dementia?)

― stevem (blueski), Monday, 21 July 2003 10:14 (twenty-three years ago)

I would like to have straight hair instead of crap wavy bushy hair.

― Chriddof (Chriddof), Monday, 21 July 2003 10:19 (twenty-three years ago)

Having a different body shape would be nice - not being so BIG and having such huge shoulders and thick hips. But weight is an impossible thing to ever really get sorted out, because, as I pointed out on the HSA Beard thread, how you feel about your weight is so closely tied to what made you put that weight on.

I can't even say "to accept myself the way I am" because again, that goes back to self esteem issues, which are even more complicated. (Heck, I'd get rid of my shyness or my depression before I'd ask for self esteem, on the scale of "things I'd like to change.")

But... if we were talking about purely physical things, well 1) I'd like to have thicker hair. Preferably perfectly straight, but hey, if it were just a bit THICKER instead of this babyfine flyaway stuff, I'd be happy. 2) I'd like to have a straight nose instead of this stupid skijump I'm stuck with. I really hate my nose. It's so stupid and babyish.

― kate (kate), Monday, 21 July 2003 11:08 (twenty-three years ago)

I'd like to be taller and have a bigger dick.

― Nick Southall (Nick Southall), Monday, 21 July 2003 12:05 (twenty-three years ago)

I often wish I was shorter. Most often, when surrounded by tiny English men over whom I tower and who are resultingly terrified of me.

― kate (kate), Monday, 21 July 2003 12:07 (twenty-three years ago)

How tall r u?

― Nick Southall (Nick Southall), Monday, 21 July 2003 12:09 (twenty-three years ago)

Hey Nick that's 2 things!! I wish I was taller, I am only 5'3. With my boy being 6'2 it can be quite a pain sometimes, i mean his jeans are always too long!

― Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Monday, 21 July 2003 12:11 (twenty-three years ago)

So I've got to choose taller or a bigger dick? Gosh. Um... Well I'm about average willy-size (I'm just greedy and want a meaty schlong) but I'm only 5'8". Fuck it - I'll lose the two stone I'm carrying that I shouldn't be, cos that will make me look taller and as if I had a bigger dick!

― Nick Southall (Nick Southall), Monday, 21 July 2003 12:14 (twenty-three years ago)

Just shave Nick!! ahem!

― Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Monday, 21 July 2003 12:17 (twenty-three years ago)

I'd like to turn my self-awareness/consciousness down a good few notches. If not that, then my hair, nose, cleft lip, pot belly and vice.

― Archel (Archel), Monday, 21 July 2003 12:25 (twenty-three years ago)

VOICE!

― Archel (Archel), Monday, 21 July 2003 12:25 (twenty-three years ago)

I would like to lose this beer gut i have developed over the years. I'd like to do it without doing any actual exercise either.

― Chris V. (Chris V), Monday, 21 July 2003 12:25 (twenty-three years ago)

Do you only have *one* vice, Archel?

― caitlin (caitlin), Monday, 21 July 2003 12:26 (twenty-three years ago)

funny how people's physical gripes seem to take precedence over mental/psyche-related ones

― stevem (blueski), Monday, 21 July 2003 12:40 (twenty-three years ago)

i have self esteem issues, but of course, when I am a skinny wee slip of a girl, that will all disappear! *laughs hysterically*

― Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Monday, 21 July 2003 12:41 (twenty-three years ago)

Well, I thought that was the focus of this thread. Hence why I concentrated on purely physical ones.

Or am I misunderstanding the question? Is it not "would you like a nosejob?" but "would you rather have a nosejob or the self confidence to accept your stupid skijump nose the way it is?"

Because fixing self confidence problems would be WAAAAYYY more effective, but probably much harder to do. It's much easier to have a nosejob, liposuction, etc. than it is to instantly and effectively aquire a positive self esteem.

― kate (kate), Monday, 21 July 2003 12:43 (twenty-three years ago)

I have very few self-confidence problems anymore. Dunno why.

― Nick Southall (Nick Southall), Monday, 21 July 2003 12:47 (twenty-three years ago)

more confidence for me please

― gareth (gareth), Monday, 21 July 2003 12:47 (twenty-three years ago)

More self-confidence would be a great thing for me -- I think the lack of it has become a hindrance in a lot of things I would like to do, like writing or getting a better job.

― Larcole (Nicole), Monday, 21 July 2003 12:53 (twenty-three years ago)

HSA always says that the trick with Self Confidence is to act as if you have it, and then you will get it. Just take the jump and ask to do things - blag your way into things - and you will get them, increasing your self confidence.

However, I always have the reverse effect. I act as if I have confidence, ask to have things, then I do not get them, and retreat to a little pile of goo and believe that I didn't get what I wanted because I suck and never try again. :-(

― kate (kate), Monday, 21 July 2003 12:58 (twenty-three years ago)

If I could change one thing about myself, I'd be a robot.

― Ally (mlescaut), Monday, 21 July 2003 13:06 (twenty-three years ago)

well that too, obviously

― gareth (gareth), Monday, 21 July 2003 13:10 (twenty-three years ago)

Gareth, you can't change your answer. Even though yours is ludicrious. You have enough self confidence to do that "Yo, you wanna have, like, a 40?" thing repeatedly in front of others=you are a genius wellspring of confidence.

― Ally (mlescaut), Monday, 21 July 2003 13:11 (twenty-three years ago)

Actually, I think I'd have my pride removed. That would go a long way...

― kate (kate), Monday, 21 July 2003 13:11 (twenty-three years ago)

I would like to not have had a bone tumor and resulting hardware inside my leg.
I would like to not have hypothyroidism, which fucks up every other gland in your body. Besides that, I wouldn't change anything. Is that too much to ask? ;-)

― Orbit (Orbit), Monday, 21 July 2003 13:19 (twenty-three years ago)

I can't remember the quote accurately, but I go along with Woody Allen when he said "My one regret in life is that I wasn't born someone else."

― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Tuesday, 22 July 2003 11:44 (twenty-three years ago)

yeh i reckon gareth is brimming with confidence - look at the size of that massive hid!

― stevem (blueski), Tuesday, 22 July 2003 11:50 (twenty-three years ago)

I'd have my laziness removed. U+K.

Physically, it's a toss up between losing body hair and retaining the youthful ability to eat myself stupid and not put on any weight.

Oddly, I don't really mind being bald, though if I get a proper genie that gives three wishes instead of thsi skinflint ILX one, I'd have that sorted too.

― Mark C (Mark C), Tuesday, 22 July 2003 12:06 (twenty-three years ago)

No, I've decided - psychologically, I would give myself the ability to handle boredom without going STARK RAVING MAD. Maybe I'd just make myself stupid and complacent. Much better.

― kate (kate), Tuesday, 22 July 2003 12:08 (twenty-three years ago)

Oh weight, weight, weight. I'm not fat, but I'd really like to have a flat stomach and just less surplus wobble.

― Anna (Anna), Tuesday, 22 July 2003 12:19 (twenty-three years ago)

I'd want clear, perfect skin...it's the only thing that bothers me a bit. It's really not even that bad though.

― teeny (teeny), Tuesday, 22 July 2003 12:31 (twenty-three years ago)

I would to go for the 'elephant man' look for the season.

― Julio Desouza (jdesouza), Tuesday, 22 July 2003 12:46 (twenty-three years ago)

I wish I was a little bit taller, I wish I was a baller, I wish I had a girl who looked good I would call her.

― skeelo (nickn), Tuesday, 22 July 2003 22:41 (twenty-three years ago)

I would have a penis reduction.

OH COME ON PEOPLE!!!! It was only a matter of time, surely.

― colin s barrow (colin s barrow), Tuesday, 22 July 2003 22:45 (twenty-three years ago)

I want to be able to move so fast that not even bullets can touch me. Then I would fight crime and save lives.

― Millar (Millar), Tuesday, 22 July 2003 22:49 (twenty-three years ago)

I don't think I could settle on just one thing about myself to change. Maybe keep my current height, but with a very small-boned skeleton.

― j.lu (j.lu), Tuesday, 22 July 2003 22:53 (twenty-three years ago)

I might be a few inches taller (say 3"), but I like everything else about myself....

― Nichole Graham (Nichole Graham), Tuesday, 22 July 2003 23:24 (twenty-three years ago)

physically, i wish i had dark hair. oh, and i'd be a lesbian too but that's a bit of a stretch

mentally/ emotionally - oh so many things, but i'm not losing sleep over it either

― ron (ron), Tuesday, 22 July 2003 23:34 (twenty-three years ago)

i'd like to have periods which aren't painful.

― The Lady Ms Lurex (lucylurex), Tuesday, 22 July 2003 23:37 (twenty-three years ago)

ron, why would you like to be a lesbian?

― The Lady Ms Lurex (lucylurex), Tuesday, 22 July 2003 23:38 (twenty-three years ago)

i'd like to have periods which aren't painful.

Or messy.

― Nichole Graham (Nichole Graham), Tuesday, 22 July 2003 23:44 (twenty-three years ago)

nah i like my blood.

― The Lady Ms Lurex (lucylurex), Tuesday, 22 July 2003 23:46 (twenty-three years ago)

you get to be a girl and have sex with girls, sounds good to me, at least on the surface

― ron (ron), Tuesday, 22 July 2003 23:50 (twenty-three years ago)

you don't get to have sex with girls. you get to have sex with queer girls, who are few and far between. queer girls are often bi and for them its easier to find guys to have sex with than other girls. i don't know what the dykes are like where you are, but round here its hard to find dykes i have anything in common with, and the ones i do have anything in common with all have girlfriends. so yeah, having lesbian sex would be nice, it'd be real nice if it were more available.

― The Lady Ms Lurex (lucylurex), Tuesday, 22 July 2003 23:58 (twenty-three years ago)

whinge whinge

― The Lady Ms Lurex (lucylurex), Tuesday, 22 July 2003 23:58 (twenty-three years ago)

physically, i would love it if my fucked-up back and fucked-up stomach would stop regularly turning my body into a little cage of pain.

mentally, I would like to ditch the anxiety that leads me to drink.
(often aggravating my stomach and making me do things that mess up my back, like picking up 225-pound EMTs on a bar bet.)

I wish I had my real front teeth back, or at least real crowns.

I wish I were less afraid of humans; then I could go outside and stretch my back more. I'd also be more generous then.

― Ann Sterzinger (Ann Sterzinger), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 00:00 (twenty-three years ago)

Physically, I've never liked my nose.

Emotionally, I'd like to be less open/trusting/easily hurt.

― luna (luna.c), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 00:02 (twenty-three years ago)

Physically, I'd be a fuckload healthier. I've been sick, to different degrees, for almost two years non-stop. I miss being able to smoke and drink and have fun without feeling miserable during and after.

Emotionally, i'd be less distant or I'd care about more things. Most stuff, general minor opinions, I just don't care.

― miloauckerman (miloauckerman), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 01:17 (twenty-three years ago)

i hear you di, and i'd also have to give up my white american male perks. hence "on the surface" ;-) plus, sex already few and far between , hehe -nothing lost there

― ron (ron), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 01:31 (twenty-three years ago)

physically: my paunch and my extremely unhealthy addictions (coffee, cigarettes...i seemed to have weaned myself off booze mostly)

emotionally: my life

― strongo hulkington (dubplatestyle), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 01:33 (twenty-three years ago)

I'd like to not need sleep. Or maybe just an hour of deep REM sleep, with none of the lead-in or wake-up. Just flip the switch, bam, recharge, get back to work.

Think that pretty much covers physical and non-physical in one swell foop.

― Tep (ktepi), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 01:40 (twenty-three years ago)

can i have your left over sleep?

― ron (ron), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 02:00 (twenty-three years ago)

By all means!

― Tep (ktepi), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 02:07 (twenty-three years ago)

sleep is about the only thing i enjoy nowadays. so that's not going to change.

― Tad (llamasfur), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 02:09 (twenty-three years ago)

Don't forget if Ron was a lesbian he'd be able to sleep with you, Di, so everyone's a winner!

― Mark C (Mark C), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 16:43 (twenty-three years ago)

Physically, I'd like to be Carrie Brownstein so I could have sex with Ron.

― Leee (Leee), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 20:41 (twenty-three years ago)

Seriously, I wish I weren't so apt to injury. I'm like Ken Griffey. If I could stay healthy, I would actually enjoy working out and all that self-improvement biz.

― Leee (Leee), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 20:42 (twenty-three years ago)

how have i not noticed that i've been sleeping with c.b.??

― ron (ron), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 22:34 (twenty-three years ago)

I'm into C.B.!

― N. (nickdastoor), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 22:41 (twenty-three years ago)

ten-four good buddy!

― strongo hulkington (dubplatestyle), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 22:42 (twenty-three years ago)

I'd like to be employed.

― Sean (Sean), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 22:47 (twenty-three years ago)

total removal of all bones inc teeth obv

― mark s (mark s), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 22:49 (twenty-three years ago)

One at a time, girlboys.

― Carrie B. (Leee), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 22:50 (twenty-three years ago)

smokeys in my tail

― ron (ron), Wednesday, 23 July 2003 23:34 (twenty-three years ago)

one year passes...

Physically, hmmm, probably my shoulders.

― jel -- (jel), Wednesday, 1 September 2004 16:49 (twenty-two years ago)

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