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you could have done things differently. you would be in a much better situation if you had taken a different tack...

so, why didnt you?

― gareth (gareth), Thursday, 24 July 2003 14:10 (twenty-two years ago)

I don't know mum. *sobs*

― Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Thursday, 24 July 2003 14:12 (twenty-two years ago)

is it easier to put the blame onto someone else?

― gareth (gareth), Thursday, 24 July 2003 14:12 (twenty-two years ago)

Jesus Gareth, what a downer.

― N. (nickdastoor), Thursday, 24 July 2003 14:12 (twenty-two years ago)

A lot of the great things that have happened in my life and loads of the great people I've met would never have happened had it not been for a load of bad shit happening first. Why speculate on what might have happened?

― Matt DC (Matt DC), Thursday, 24 July 2003 14:13 (twenty-two years ago)

eh? everything is pre-ordained. the Garethead meme was meant to happen, accept it maaaan.

― stevem (blueski), Thursday, 24 July 2003 14:13 (twenty-two years ago)

yes, i should have said "no i don't want to go out with you" and i wouldn't be in this position. simple. easy. whatevs

― electric sound of jim (electricsound), Thursday, 24 July 2003 14:13 (twenty-two years ago)

(Bad shit that was in some ways the result of my own decisions, mistakes, that is)

(xpost)

― Matt DC (Matt DC), Thursday, 24 July 2003 14:13 (twenty-two years ago)

perhaps you should be more self-critical?

― gareth (gareth), Thursday, 24 July 2003 14:14 (twenty-two years ago)

Because at every turn I make the wrong decision. I don't know if I just have poor judgement or if I'm self-destructive.

― Larcole (Nicole), Thursday, 24 July 2003 14:14 (twenty-two years ago)

but what was that you did wrong? what should you have done?

― gareth (gareth), Thursday, 24 July 2003 14:14 (twenty-two years ago)

"We don't make mistakes, we have happy accidents."

― nickalicious (nickalicious), Thursday, 24 July 2003 14:17 (twenty-two years ago)

I'm afraid that if I made a list it would be very long, and I don't think my mistakes are of any interest to anyone but myself.

― Larcole (Nicole), Thursday, 24 July 2003 14:18 (twenty-two years ago)

I was too young to know any better, too full of my parents' fear. The good part is that I'm not too old to try it again and get it right this time.

― Colin Meeder (Mert), Thursday, 24 July 2003 14:19 (twenty-two years ago)

i went to new york, i should have stayed at home ;-)

― zebedee (zebedee), Thursday, 24 July 2003 14:29 (twenty-two years ago)

I am a full-fledged impulsive personality who sees something she wants and goes for it whole-hog. I honestly believe this results in more good than bad but runs into the non-theoretical issue of fucking up often.

― Ally (mlescaut), Thursday, 24 July 2003 14:34 (twenty-two years ago)

I kept drinking when I should have switched to water.

― Kenan Hebert (kenan), Thursday, 24 July 2003 14:35 (twenty-two years ago)

Where to begin?

― Ned Raggett (Ned), Thursday, 24 July 2003 14:41 (twenty-two years ago)

the last line is relevant, but read the whole thing!

― Aaron A., Thursday, 24 July 2003 14:41 (twenty-two years ago)

I'm with the 'what's the point of overanalyzing my life - what's done is done' crowd. No point WHAT IFing all day. I seriously don't think I've ever made a mistake so bad that it affected my life path in some big negative way. I make mistakes all the time, but they usually work themselves out within a week or so. Basically, I haven't learned anything yet in life I guess. I hurt some people's feelings, but I'm sure they've forgotten by now. And I'm always trying to improve myself, so why cry over the past? It's so, like, not now.

― Sarah McLUsky (coco), Thursday, 24 July 2003 14:41 (twenty-two years ago)

What a great attitude to have Sarah. (that's sincere btw!)

― Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Thursday, 24 July 2003 14:43 (twenty-two years ago)

maybe I should have stayed on my History of Art/Film course, but I didn't, so, oh well.

― jel -- (jel), Thursday, 24 July 2003 14:43 (twenty-two years ago)

Sorta wish I had yer confidence there, Sarah.

― Ned Raggett (Ned), Thursday, 24 July 2003 14:44 (twenty-two years ago)

I have confidence in sunshine! I have confidence in rain!...

― Sarah McLUsky (coco), Thursday, 24 July 2003 14:50 (twenty-two years ago)

I love it when Gareth asks these really vague questions that inspire instant and profound guilt/phear/shame.

I didn't do it differently because I don't care.

― Nick Southall (Nick Southall), Thursday, 24 July 2003 15:14 (twenty-two years ago)

I wish I could have Sarah's attitude, as I know my own is pretty terrible.

― Larcole (Nicole), Thursday, 24 July 2003 15:15 (twenty-two years ago)

Is anyone else hear a callous empath? (IOW, you recognize and understand how things you have done have affected others, but unless the people affected are actually related to you, you kind of don't give a fuck?)

― Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Thursday, 24 July 2003 15:18 (twenty-two years ago)

Are you referring to me, Dan? I just meant that the only real guilt I feel about past mistakes is how they've affected other people. I don't really think I've ever hurt anyone that badly.

― Sarah McLusky (coco), Thursday, 24 July 2003 15:32 (twenty-two years ago)

RE: not giving a fuck: are you all sociopaths?

me?
i would have called the police.
i would have protected myself.
i would not have given people the benefit of the doubt.
i would not have trusted anyone.
i would have made sure i had all the paperwork.
i would make sure things i paid for were cataloged and with my name on the title.
that is what *i* would do different.

Now for the "so, why didn't you?" part:
-misplaced trust
-misplaced trust
-misplaced trust
-failure to protect self

― Orbit (Orbit), Thursday, 24 July 2003 15:37 (twenty-two years ago)

Are you referring to me, Dan?

I was referring to myself!

I'm very afraid that my answer to the question "Are you a sociopath?" might be "Yes, but I try not to let that get in the way."

― Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Thursday, 24 July 2003 15:39 (twenty-two years ago)

"Remember son, it's better to regret things you HAVE done than things you haven't done". When in doubt, whip it out

― dave q, Thursday, 24 July 2003 15:52 (twenty-two years ago)

oh and if you see your Mum this weekend, will you be sure to tell her...

― stevem (blueski), Thursday, 24 July 2003 15:54 (twenty-two years ago)

STEVEM! STEVEM! STEVEM!

*NER NER*

― Ned Raggett (Ned), Thursday, 24 July 2003 15:54 (twenty-two years ago)

*hi-fives Ned*

― stevem (blueski), Thursday, 24 July 2003 15:55 (twenty-two years ago)

(seriously tho I regret everything I've EVER done. even worse, I've never been in a position to make a choice about doing all these shitty things because the accumulated consequences of all the previous fuckups have made making decent 'choices' impossible. somebody was talking to me the other night saying "I've got to make a really big decision that'll affect the course of my life, has that ever happened to you", and reflecting on this I couldn't think of a single time, everything has just been either a reflex or the taking the only path available. believe me, my life is seriously fucked, no room anymore to maneuver whatever)

― dave q, Thursday, 24 July 2003 15:55 (twenty-two years ago)

maybe it's fucked because you acted on reflexes?

― Orbit (Orbit), Thursday, 24 July 2003 17:18 (twenty-two years ago)

so how would you have preferred to have been?

― gareth (gareth), Friday, 25 July 2003 11:36 (twenty-two years ago)

like bobba fett

― james (james), Friday, 25 July 2003 11:37 (twenty-two years ago)

it has to be like this because 99% of humans have to learn the hard way.

it has to be like this because 99% of people have no faith whatsoever and are far too excited about the possibility of you failing.

Last night I nearly got into a fistfight with one of my best friends because he has the worst way of phrasing things in the whole world. He meant well, and luckily we got it sorted out, but we very nearly came to blows and there was a lot of yelling and it still sort of hurts.

― Millar (Millar), Friday, 25 July 2003 11:47 (twenty-two years ago)

three weeks pass...

perhaps you have handled things better in the last month?

― gareth (gareth), Tuesday, 19 August 2003 11:11 (twenty-two years ago)

Hmm, not sure about that, things have been pretty tough.

― Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Tuesday, 19 August 2003 11:22 (twenty-two years ago)

two months pass...

what were you thinking, when you woke up this morning?

― charltonlido (gareth), Sunday, 16 November 2003 23:55 (twenty-two years ago)

"I wish my stubbed bruised toe wouldn't hurt so much. Hey, it doesn't!"

― Ned Raggett (Ned), Sunday, 16 November 2003 23:55 (twenty-two years ago)

goddammit that sunlight comes in at the wrong angle

― Tracer Hand (tracerhand), Sunday, 16 November 2003 23:56 (twenty-two years ago)

it's sunday, right?

― A Girl Named Sam (thatgirl), Monday, 17 November 2003 00:06 (twenty-two years ago)

i had a long and involving dream where i made meaningful connections and told people things i've been wanting to tell them for a long time and then i woke up, but just before i felt that crushing emptiness i felt a deep confusion and disorientation, because my cupboard door was open and in my fuzzy-brained state with my head still on the pillow i thought it was actually the front door of the room i was in and i didn't recognize anything and i couldn't figure out where i'd woken up. and then the crushing emptiness.

― mitch lastnamewithheld (mitchlnw), Monday, 17 November 2003 00:07 (twenty-two years ago)

shut the fuck up, cat

― Broheems (diamond), Monday, 17 November 2003 00:12 (twenty-two years ago)

this morning it was really bright out and i thought my roommate had already gotten up and left and i had to get up too, so i yelled "oh shit!" then i felt bad because my roommate was still in the room, half asleep, and then she woke up. and she hates swearing.

― Maria (Maria), Monday, 17 November 2003 00:13 (twenty-two years ago)

Was that an explosion or what that thunder?!?!? Shit, another one. And another, that is not thunder, that is something blowing up. Another one, that's four so far. Is war declared and battle come down? Are we being bombed? WTF?

::lies quietly trying not to even breathe::

Another one, that's five! What's going on, should I look out the window or will it blow in? OK, I'll wait a few minutes then go check teletext if there are sirens.

::falls back asleep::

I still don't know what the explosions were. They didn't sound like firecrackers, but they might have been construction/demolition.

― Citizen Kate (kate), Monday, 17 November 2003 10:29 (twenty-two years ago)

'It can't be morning.'

― Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Monday, 17 November 2003 10:38 (twenty-two years ago)

'Who are the FUCKING TOSSERS having the argument UNDER OUR BEDROOM WINDOW at 6.30 AM...oh gawd it's the BINMEN and their special new friends with the car they don't want to move...unngghhhh.'

― suzy (suzy), Monday, 17 November 2003 10:49 (twenty-two years ago)

I don't know why I went into work today.

― Allyzay, Monday, 17 November 2003 14:53 (twenty-two years ago)

I know why I'll be leaving at the end of the day though.

― Huckleberry Mann (Horace Mann), Monday, 17 November 2003 15:03 (twenty-two years ago)

Is it beer?

― Markelby (Mark C), Monday, 17 November 2003 15:09 (twenty-two years ago)

It is beer.

― Huckleberry Mann (Horace Mann), Monday, 17 November 2003 15:09 (twenty-two years ago)

that would be a good country music line, "I don't why I came here, but I know why I'll be leaving" and then this real swinging chorus of coyotes in three part harmony sings "Beer"

― Huckleberry Mann (Horace Mann), Monday, 17 November 2003 15:10 (twenty-two years ago)

"Are they drilling a hole into my bedroom wall?"

― tokyo rosemary (rosemary), Monday, 17 November 2003 15:39 (twenty-two years ago)

If it wasnt for that horse, i would have never made it through college.

― Spinktor the Unmerciful (mawill5), Monday, 17 November 2003 15:40 (twenty-two years ago)

it's pretty early, innit? should call Stacy, but lie and say my shoulder hurts if she gives me that windows-unloading job.

― oops (Oops), Monday, 17 November 2003 16:51 (twenty-two years ago)

every morning I wake up wishing I could go back to sleep, although last week there was no one at home so I stayed in bed till around 2 or 3 daily. it was sweet.

― Ronan (Ronan), Monday, 17 November 2003 16:53 (twenty-two years ago)

one month passes...

Who would care if you wasnt around?

― Zivyinhi, Wednesday, 14 January 2004 18:47 (twenty-two years ago)

nobody

― Orbit (Orbit), Wednesday, 14 January 2004 18:52 (twenty-two years ago)

I didn't because I didn't think of it at the time, I didn't realize it would be an issue.

― luna (luna.c), Wednesday, 14 January 2004 19:03 (twenty-two years ago)

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