"I want to fall in love."

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Have you ever felt like this? I've just got back from seeing All the Real Girls (portrayal of beautifully idiosyncratic love and the destructive nature of sex; "love is a cruelty by which we transform our wills to live together") and was struck throughout by this overwhelming feeling that I'd like to fall in love. I thought that was quite weird because a. I've never felt like that, b. love isn't really something you can want into existence and c. a & b. Have you ever felt like this or am I just being weird here and taking note of a non-rare occurence?

― David. (Cozen), Saturday, 9 August 2003 16:18 (twenty-three years ago)

love isn't really something you can want into existence

ahem :

http://www.ecstasydata.org/images/2001/681_lg_white_heart.jpg

― Sommermute (Wintermute), Saturday, 9 August 2003 16:25 (twenty-three years ago)

I don't think it's that uncommon to have a general feeling of wanting to fall in love - perhaps first in the early 20s and probably coming back in the mid to late 30s.

Observing friends when they're looking for a Significant Other, I'm struck how sometimes it seems almost arbitrary who it is.

― Bob Six (bobbysix), Saturday, 9 August 2003 16:31 (twenty-three years ago)

this is not unusual Cozen.

― Ronan (Ronan), Saturday, 9 August 2003 16:48 (twenty-three years ago)

of course, everyone has even if only for a few minutes (USUALLY only for a few minutes, ahem)

― M Matos (M Matos), Saturday, 9 August 2003 16:51 (twenty-three years ago)

the key is to not worry about it. and the odd summermute solution here and there too.

― Ronan (Ronan), Saturday, 9 August 2003 16:54 (twenty-three years ago)

This is pretty much where most relationships start.

― Tep (ktepi), Saturday, 9 August 2003 17:22 (twenty-three years ago)

I've been feeling like this all year. So far I've only had crushes, and those generally at a distance.

― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Saturday, 9 August 2003 17:31 (twenty-three years ago)

The last time I felt like this, I fell in love within four hours. Note that I do not suggest that this was a good idea.

― Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Saturday, 9 August 2003 18:31 (twenty-three years ago)

I only fall in love if I've decided to not ever again date anyone ever and that I hate other people, this is a fact.

― Ally (mlescaut), Saturday, 9 August 2003 18:50 (twenty-three years ago)

I only fall in love if she has a boyfriend.

― Ronan (Ronan), Saturday, 9 August 2003 18:52 (twenty-three years ago)

and is shorter than me.

― Ronan (Ronan), Saturday, 9 August 2003 18:52 (twenty-three years ago)

and has electroclash hair/clothes

― Ronan (Ronan), Saturday, 9 August 2003 18:52 (twenty-three years ago)

maybe I'm just describing one person here, shit I really thought I was over her

― Ronan (Ronan), Saturday, 9 August 2003 18:53 (twenty-three years ago)

I felt the same way during that damn movie.

― bnw (bnw), Saturday, 9 August 2003 18:54 (twenty-three years ago)

But I thought you already were in love with Mary and I, are we breaking up? :(

― Ally (mlescaut), Saturday, 9 August 2003 18:54 (twenty-three years ago)

i fall in love with people every day. or maybe that's better put as "i fall in lust with people every day."

― Tad (llamasfur), Saturday, 9 August 2003 18:55 (twenty-three years ago)

You were just platonic summer flings to me. But don't hate the playa, hate the game.

― bnw (bnw), Saturday, 9 August 2003 18:57 (twenty-three years ago)

I feel so used...

― Ally (mlescaut), Saturday, 9 August 2003 18:58 (twenty-three years ago)

i feel the need to start singing a rick astley song right about now

― Tad (llamasfur), Saturday, 9 August 2003 18:59 (twenty-three years ago)

he's bangin' son

― Ronan (Ronan), Saturday, 9 August 2003 19:00 (twenty-three years ago)

I'm not in love
So don't forget
It's just a silly phase I'm going through
And just because I call you up
Don't get me wrong
Don't think you've got it made
I'm not in love
Oh no
It's because

I'd like to see you
But then again
It doesn't mean you mean that much to me
So if I call you
Don't make a fuss
Don't tell your friends about the two of us
I'm in love
Oh no
It's because

(Be quiet...big boys don't cry...)

I keep your picture
Upon the wall
It hides a nasty stain that's lying there
So don't you ask me
To give it back
I know you know it doesn't mean that much to me
I'm not in love
No no
It's because

Ooh, you'll wait a long time for me
Ooh, you'll wait a long time
(repeat)

I'm not in love
So don't forget
It's just a silly phase I'm going through
And just because I call you up
Don't get me wrong
Don't think you've got it made
I'm not in love
I'm not in love

― Julio Desouza (jdesouza), Saturday, 9 August 2003 19:12 (twenty-three years ago)

Not unusual at all. Very few things are actually unique.

― Nick Southall (Nick Southall), Saturday, 9 August 2003 19:25 (twenty-three years ago)

(Tip, from this film: some queer mix of D4ve Boyl3 and Boomhauer.)

― David. (Cozen), Tuesday, 12 August 2003 08:06 (twenty-three years ago)

I think most people feel like this. Feel good movies always portray falling in love as a few ups & downs but ultimately a happy ending. Who wouldn't want that?

― Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Tuesday, 12 August 2003 08:22 (twenty-three years ago)

I ph34r this film.

― Dave B (daveb), Tuesday, 12 August 2003 08:23 (twenty-three years ago)

Oh come on, you know you want to!

― Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Tuesday, 12 August 2003 08:25 (twenty-three years ago)

I am envious of my friends who are crazy in unrequited love even though they are 90% miserable. How crap is that? I am In Love too, of course, but not in that 'oh my god I feel actually SICK with this' way.

And in the past I'm sure I have wanted to fall in love so much that I 'faked it' to myself with people who really weren't right.

It's really normal, I suppose.

― Archel (Archel), Tuesday, 12 August 2003 08:26 (twenty-three years ago)

I don't think I want to fall in love anymore.

― luna (luna.c), Tuesday, 12 August 2003 08:31 (twenty-three years ago)

of course you do Luna! It's wonderful, i promise!

― Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Tuesday, 12 August 2003 08:31 (twenty-three years ago)

Initially, but when it's over... god...

― luna (luna.c), Tuesday, 12 August 2003 08:33 (twenty-three years ago)

well, you can't dwell on the if it's over thang!!!

― Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Tuesday, 12 August 2003 08:44 (twenty-three years ago)

I guess I am dwelling a bit. Ignore me!

― luna (luna.c), Tuesday, 12 August 2003 08:53 (twenty-three years ago)

NEVER lady!!

― Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Tuesday, 12 August 2003 08:58 (twenty-three years ago)

I haven't been able to feel 'sick' over this sort of thing since I got over crushing on women who I really knew nothing about, except what I'd mostly made up/exaggerated to the point where it came to the same thing. Now I just really want to fuck/cuddle/hang out/talk crap w/them, the big abstract idea of LOVE that transcends all else (this was my ideal bac then, anyway) just doesn't seem to make much sense and what I'm left is a lot better (mostly as it actually exists), and harder to sicken myself with.

― Andrew Thames (Andrew Thames), Tuesday, 12 August 2003 10:38 (twenty-three years ago)

("I am happy for anyone in love.

Exceptions: They're an ex and have fallen for someone before I do. They are someone I'm in love with and they aren't in love with me. They are in love with someone apalling and likely to bring them into my pubspace."

The most oTm thing that the person who said this has ever said, possibly.)

― David. (Cozen), Tuesday, 12 August 2003 10:41 (twenty-three years ago)

Southall OTM btw, and you can will "love" into existing w/the greatest of ease

― Andrew Thames (Andrew Thames), Tuesday, 12 August 2003 11:04 (twenty-three years ago)

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