i was told that i was "a terrible flirt" the yesterday...

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...meaning, that i'm quite good at it, not that i'm terrible in the literal sense. is this a good or bad trait to have?

― Dave Stelfox (Dave Stelfox), Thursday, 14 August 2003 14:45 (twenty-two years ago)

quit bragging.

― Horace Mann (Horace Mann), Thursday, 14 August 2003 14:48 (twenty-two years ago)

"the yesterday" is my new favourite couple of words, btw

― Dave Stelfox (Dave Stelfox), Thursday, 14 August 2003 14:48 (twenty-two years ago)

I have nothing to offer on this subject, sorry.

― Ally (mlescaut), Thursday, 14 August 2003 14:49 (twenty-two years ago)

Stop it Dave, you're turning me on.

― Tracer Hand (tracerhand), Thursday, 14 August 2003 14:50 (twenty-two years ago)

Maybe if you gave us a description of your technique we could help you out?

― Aaron W (Aaron W), Thursday, 14 August 2003 14:50 (twenty-two years ago)

Probably good. It can mean not being taken seriously ("oh, you're just flirting" / "no no, I'm trying to get you in bed") and it could potentially piss off an SO, but those are not universal occurrences.

― Tep (ktepi), Thursday, 14 August 2003 14:51 (twenty-two years ago)

i'm just thinking that i think it's quite fun thing to do but it does piss off girlfriends etc...

― Dave Stelfox (Dave Stelfox), Thursday, 14 August 2003 15:01 (twenty-two years ago)

and i was mainly wondering who else likes doing it and thinks this is a good thing to be - not bragging!

― Dave Stelfox (Dave Stelfox), Thursday, 14 August 2003 15:03 (twenty-two years ago)

Yeah, different girlfriends are gonna take it different ways (depending on how you flirt, too). You'd want to make sure it's not coming across as "I'm just keeping my bridges clear, in case we split."

(I don't particularly flirt except for the sake of a joke and am pretty much blind to flirting aimed at me, so that stereo effect you hear is caused by half of what I say emanating from my ass.)

― Tep (ktepi), Thursday, 14 August 2003 15:04 (twenty-two years ago)

the whole point of flirting is basically that it is a joke 95 per cent of the time...

― Dave Stelfox (Dave Stelfox), Thursday, 14 August 2003 15:06 (twenty-two years ago)

Yeah, that's how I'd see it, but there's always those guys who are basically hitting on anything that'd fog a mirror, and I'm sure they call it flirting, too. But I'd see it differently, whether I was the guy, the target, or an SO on the sidelines.

― Tep (ktepi), Thursday, 14 August 2003 15:08 (twenty-two years ago)

totally, so if it's obviously a joke, then it's not "terrible" but actually quite "good" it's the adjective that's at issue here!

― Dave Stelfox (Dave Stelfox), Thursday, 14 August 2003 15:09 (twenty-two years ago)

Oh yeah, I think anyone calling you "a terrible flirt" has got to mean the kind of flirting that's good from anyone's standpoint (except those who hate fun). And now that I think about it, I think it's almost always gonna indicate two other things, too -- 1) pretty good social skills, and 2) a pretty upbeat outlook on life, cause how can you flirt when you're depressed? ("I like those pants. Wanna slit my wrists?")

― Tep (ktepi), Thursday, 14 August 2003 15:12 (twenty-two years ago)

("I like those pants. Wanna slit my wrists?")

that is funny, but may work with goth girls and morrisey fans...

― Dave Stelfox (Dave Stelfox), Thursday, 14 August 2003 15:15 (twenty-two years ago)

I refuse to believe Morrisey fans flirt. Well, maybe at funerals.

(That's always weirded me out, the "it's easy to get laid at funerals" thing -- I get why, I just don't get the process. How do you go from mourning to moaning?)

― Tep (ktepi), Thursday, 14 August 2003 15:16 (twenty-two years ago)

this i have never ever done...

― Dave Stelfox (Dave Stelfox), Thursday, 14 August 2003 15:19 (twenty-two years ago)

i think it depends how3 you flirt. like if thats the only way you can interact with women, then its a bad trait to have. i've known a few guys like that and i have absolutely no respect for them, cos god its so tragic and immature. if you flirt with women occasionally and are able to have a genuine platonic interest in them, it isn't objectionable.

― The Lady Ms Lurex (lucylurex), Thursday, 14 August 2003 22:36 (twenty-two years ago)

...meaning, that i'm quite good at it, not that i'm terrible in the literal sense

Are you sure? Was it a woman who told you this? And did she, or any of the other women you flirted with, subsequently have sex with you?

― jewelly (jewelly), Friday, 15 August 2003 01:43 (twenty-two years ago)

Nooo, see, we were differentiating between flirting and hitting on! Don't turn him into one of the fratboys.

― Tep (ktepi), Friday, 15 August 2003 01:45 (twenty-two years ago)

You guys were differentiating? Christ, this thread is way more sophisticated than it looks. I'm in over my head, obv.

― jewelly (jewelly), Friday, 15 August 2003 01:50 (twenty-two years ago)

Yeah. Like, I only flirt with women or men who have refused me. I only hit on men who have refused me.

― Chris P (Chris P), Friday, 15 August 2003 01:55 (twenty-two years ago)

how did i miss this? dave you dirty dawg!

― Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Friday, 15 August 2003 13:12 (twenty-two years ago)

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