why are the majority of men I'm attracted to

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already involved with someone? i don't do anything about it but it's becoming really depressing.

― no ordinary lover, Friday, 15 August 2003 19:07 (twenty-two years ago)

would you want to do anything abt it? that could really complicate yr life you know.

crushes on the unobtainable: dud or motherfucking dud?

― Julio Desouza (jdesouza), Friday, 15 August 2003 19:10 (twenty-two years ago)

Classic!

― Carey (Carey), Friday, 15 August 2003 19:12 (twenty-two years ago)

dud, but not that big a deal. suck it up and find someone else.

― The Four Singing Beatles (Jody Beth Rosen), Friday, 15 August 2003 19:18 (twenty-two years ago)

9000000 new "suck it up" jokes by morning

― The Four Singing Beatles (Jody Beth Rosen), Friday, 15 August 2003 19:19 (twenty-two years ago)

If someone can come up with 9000000 new suck it up jokes by morning, I will give them my shoes.

― Tep (ktepi), Friday, 15 August 2003 19:23 (twenty-two years ago)

these better be the best shows in the entire world

― stevem (blueski), Friday, 15 August 2003 20:04 (twenty-two years ago)

Best thing about being unemployed = everyone is unattainable! (This might just be me, though.)

Wait a sec - unOBtainable? Julio, are you unemployed, too?

― David R. (popshots75`), Friday, 15 August 2003 20:09 (twenty-two years ago)

Quit talking about me!!

― Millar (Millar), Friday, 15 August 2003 20:22 (twenty-two years ago)

the majority of men i'm attracted to are women. cha-ching.

― Jeanne Fury (Jeanne Fury), Friday, 15 August 2003 20:37 (twenty-two years ago)

We were made for each other.

― Kenan Hebert (kenan), Friday, 15 August 2003 20:38 (twenty-two years ago)

Wait, did you guys just give away the ending to The Crying Game.... AGAIN? *sob*

― donut bitch (donut), Friday, 15 August 2003 20:40 (twenty-two years ago)

Oh, come on.

*singing*

You know all there is to know about the crying game...

― Kenan Hebert (kenan), Friday, 15 August 2003 20:44 (twenty-two years ago)

no, i wouldn't ever do anything about it really. and i do suck it up. i'm not a glutton for punishment, nor is this some twisted 'i only want them because i can't have them and therefore i feel safe and don't have to have a relationship, but can moan about unrequited love and so feel somewhat strangely fulfilled' thing, either. it just seems to be the way it is. the majority of men i find myself interested in always end up being attached to other people. it blows.

― no ordinary lover, Friday, 15 August 2003 21:25 (twenty-two years ago)

for the longest time I couldn't seem to become attracted to anything but married women and/or girls who were already in relationships. I thought it was something pathological with my brain, like for some reason I was afraid of becoming too involved with a girl so I only crushed on unavailable ones as a defense mechanism, self-sabotage or something. But apparently I got over it. Give it time.

I'll agree that it can be pretty miserable though.

― Millar (Millar), Friday, 15 August 2003 21:34 (twenty-two years ago)

hmm i'm intrigued, having never had this issue. if someone is in a relationship they just don't register on my "possibilities" radar.

― Orbit (Orbit), Friday, 15 August 2003 22:01 (twenty-two years ago)

If I may x-post with the "Simpsons lines" thread, I've come to think of this as "I-Want-What-the-Dog's-Having" Syndrome.

― jewelly (jewelly), Friday, 15 August 2003 22:03 (twenty-two years ago)

I hooked up with a married man. It is the bullshit.

― Ally (mlescaut), Friday, 15 August 2003 22:14 (twenty-two years ago)

You know that kinda makes you an asshole, right?

― David. (Cozen), Friday, 15 August 2003 22:15 (twenty-two years ago)

Yes, I'm well aware of this.

― Ally (mlescaut), Friday, 15 August 2003 22:17 (twenty-two years ago)

No, it makes him one, unless you were involved w/someone too

― Andrew Thames (Andrew Thames), Friday, 15 August 2003 23:11 (twenty-two years ago)

Andrew basically OTM

― Millar (Millar), Friday, 15 August 2003 23:13 (twenty-two years ago)

it makes *both* parties assholes imho

― Orbit (Orbit), Friday, 15 August 2003 23:37 (twenty-two years ago)

No it doesn't, it just makes Ally in a regrettable situation. The involved person is the only one with asshole status.

― isadora (isadora), Friday, 15 August 2003 23:42 (twenty-two years ago)

I'm already admitting to being the asshole. It's not exactly honorable to have affairs with yr married bosses!

― Ally (mlescaut), Friday, 15 August 2003 23:48 (twenty-two years ago)

I vote for the guy's wife being the asshole, if it's compulsory to vote.

― Eyeball Kicks (Eyeball Kicks), Friday, 15 August 2003 23:52 (twenty-two years ago)

I'm voting for Jeremy Piven being the asshole, he seems like one.

― Ally (mlescaut), Friday, 15 August 2003 23:53 (twenty-two years ago)

Yeah, him too.

― Eyeball Kicks (Eyeball Kicks), Friday, 15 August 2003 23:54 (twenty-two years ago)

In my own experience (which I am applying everything to, as you do) I actually do believe that the guy's wife was the asshole. But that could be my sneaky asshole status being revealed (Ally: in admittnig to asshole-ness you may be being more honorable than me). Anyway it was a long time ago and not really true.

― isadora (isadora), Friday, 15 August 2003 23:56 (twenty-two years ago)

i dunno. i was involved in something like this and i think it's all usually very complicated and something you can't really judge from afar. sometimes people are stuck in relationships and need some impetus to leave. however i'd advise to wait for them to leave and get over it before jumping in yourself. unless you're going to open the 'open relationship' can of worms...

― lolita corpus (lolitacorpus), Saturday, 16 August 2003 01:27 (twenty-two years ago)

"""Wait, did you guys just give away the ending to The Crying Game.... AGAIN? *sob* """

LMAO

I think you go for these men because, subconsciously, you dont really want it to work out anyway. You want your relationships to fail.

― jed-e-3, Saturday, 16 August 2003 01:32 (twenty-two years ago)

, nor is this some twisted 'i only want them because i can't have them and therefore i feel safe and don't have to have a relationship, but can moan about unrequited love and so feel somewhat strangely fulfilled' thing

did you not see that? actually that is the complete opposite of what i want.

― no ordinary lover, Saturday, 16 August 2003 01:36 (twenty-two years ago)

no i didnt see it.

― jed-e-3, Saturday, 16 August 2003 01:47 (twenty-two years ago)

''Wait a sec - unOBtainable? Julio, are you unemployed, too?''

not yet.

― Julio Desouza (jdesouza), Saturday, 16 August 2003 07:27 (twenty-two years ago)

I hooked up with a married man. It is the bullshit.

Me too! I agree...

― phil-two (phil-two), Saturday, 16 August 2003 07:35 (twenty-two years ago)

ha!
why are the majority of men i'm attracted to gay?

― gaz (gaz), Saturday, 16 August 2003 07:51 (twenty-two years ago)

Why do all these homosexuals keep sucking my cock?

― Kenan Hebert (kenan), Saturday, 16 August 2003 08:10 (twenty-two years ago)

Because you keep dropping dollar bills.

― Nick Southall (Nick Southall), Saturday, 16 August 2003 08:15 (twenty-two years ago)

yeah I know this feeling. except with women.

― Ronan (Ronan), Saturday, 16 August 2003 09:19 (twenty-two years ago)

You can't help who you crush on, can't help whom you find supremely attractive and adorable and wonderful and amazing. But I suppose that there could be times when you actually crush on someone who IS single, who ISN'T seeing anyone, whom you still MIGHT find completely unattainable, wholly untouchable, partly because you view this individual as such a Wonder of a Human Being that must obviously find someone better than you preferable to you yourself. That's another level of unattainableness. Um, not that I would have any experience with this feeling or anything. Well, maybe I would. And maybe this should belong in the "ILE Crushes" thread.

Anyway, there must be some wonderful person around you who IS available, who IS completely crushable. Of course, this could still lead to mental roadblocks of "Oh, well I'm not good enough for him and he deserves a lot more than what I can offer him," but at least this obstacle is yours and yours alone to overcome instead of the pesky "Dude, he's already INVOLVED with someone" scenario you seem to be forever stuck in.

― Just Deanna (Dee the Lurker), Saturday, 16 August 2003 16:00 (twenty-two years ago)

bah. i think it has to do with the age of folks that i'm attracted to. by this point, everyone is in long-term relationships, and hasn't hit their first divorce yet.

― Kingfish (Kingfish), Saturday, 16 August 2003 16:34 (twenty-two years ago)

Dee, I think you're wrong. Fancying people you can't have is essentially fear of taking a risk.

― Mark C (Mark C), Saturday, 16 August 2003 18:49 (twenty-two years ago)

Unavailable is so sexy.

His brother Uninterested ain't half bad either.

― BurmaKitty (BurmaKitty), Saturday, 16 August 2003 19:10 (twenty-two years ago)

it's a serious pain in the butt - i know all about this except i'm a straight man, so naturally, it's works (or actually doesn't, bearing in mind the thread title) with women for me. affairs are shite and i would strongly advise anyone contemplating one to not bother or anyone in one to get out - FAST. they hurt other people intensely and will 99.9 percent of the time end up really hurting you, too.

― Dave Stelfox (Dave Stelfox), Saturday, 16 August 2003 19:19 (twenty-two years ago)

i think dee is right. you can't control who you are attracted to. however you can control what you do about it. but if someone is desireable it's highly likely someone else found them desireable too and so much of relationships is timing.

― lolita corpus (lolitacorpus), Sunday, 17 August 2003 03:44 (twenty-two years ago)

why are the majority of men I'm attracted to...

NED RAGGETT!

(Ned, don't worry...I'm going to sleep for the night and will stop posting your name for a while. I'm just having fun here, but I do hope to meet you some day when I'm in So. Cal. If you are tired of being a 'good sport' then take down the HOT photo of yourself on your webpage! :)

― BurmaKitty (BurmaKitty), Sunday, 17 August 2003 03:53 (twenty-two years ago)

BurmaKitty: President of the New Ned Raggett Fan Club. ;)

(Oh just you wait dearies. There WILL be a New Ned Raggett Fan Club.)

Mark C, I don't think I'm really wrong. I think if you habitually find yourself falling for unavailable people, there's an underlying reason why, but if you just find yourself occasionally in predicaments wherein you find yourself highly attracted to someone who for one reason or another is beyond your reach, then I feel I'm right. So there. *grin*

lolita, you are 100% right. You bring up some really good thinking there. Thank you for that.

― Just Deanna (Dee the Lurker), Sunday, 17 August 2003 04:00 (twenty-two years ago)

*rolls eyes* Oh good grief! (For those wondering, here's the old fan club.)

― Ned Raggett (Ned), Sunday, 17 August 2003 04:03 (twenty-two years ago)

Maybe men in relationships are simply more attractive than men not in relationships.

― Frank Kogan (Frank Kogan), Sunday, 17 August 2003 04:34 (twenty-two years ago)

that's what chris rock always said.

when you were single, no one was thinking about your ugly ass
then your woman got a hold of ya, she cut your hair, wash you down.... cleans the crust out yo eyes... now everybody wanna fuck ya
when you were single, no one was callin yo ass up, now your phone ringing off the hook; crazy freaking sex calls, "hey what chu doing, me and my girlfriend are having a dick sucking contest, and we thought u'd be a good judge"
You never got that call when you were single! Now you get it every Tuesday!

― Kingfish (Kingfish), Sunday, 17 August 2003 04:43 (twenty-two years ago)

*rolls eyes* Oh good grief! (For those wondering, here's the old fan club.)

And here's the new one!

(note: the links don't work. yet. maybe.)

― Kenan Hebert (kenan), Sunday, 17 August 2003 05:01 (twenty-two years ago)

FANFIC!

― Tep (ktepi), Sunday, 17 August 2003 05:04 (twenty-two years ago)

Ned/Dan/Winnie the Pooh/She-Ra slash to thread

― Tep (ktepi), Sunday, 17 August 2003 05:05 (twenty-two years ago)

"As Ned's shimmering body emerged from the lake, Dan felt a familiar sensation beginning in his loins."

― Kenan Hebert (kenan), Sunday, 17 August 2003 05:09 (twenty-two years ago)

It's a sign from God telling you to dyke it up and sell the videos on farthammer.com.

― Helltime Producto (Pavlik), Sunday, 17 August 2003 05:10 (twenty-two years ago)

Could it be that Ned is the L. Ron Hubbard of new millenium?

― Larcole (Nicole), Sunday, 17 August 2003 21:33 (twenty-two years ago)

L. Ned Raggett

HMMMMM.

Dianedics.

― Ned Raggett (Ned), Sunday, 17 August 2003 21:38 (twenty-two years ago)

(I should add that the new fan club is a thing of bemusing wonderment. Rah Kenan!)

― Ned Raggett (Ned), Sunday, 17 August 2003 21:40 (twenty-two years ago)

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