Which do you prefer, funerals or weddings?

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I like them both so much, I can't decide.

― colin s barrow (colin s barrow), Monday, 1 September 2003 03:17 (twenty-one years ago)

I like weddings better because I've been to a couple with open bars during. That sort of thing would be awkward at a funeral.

― hstencil, Monday, 1 September 2003 03:22 (twenty-one years ago)

Hooking up at a funeral is probably less likely than at a wedding.

― tokyo rosemary (rosemary), Monday, 1 September 2003 03:23 (twenty-one years ago)

TS: hooking up with a bridesmaid VS. hooking up with a pallbearer?

― hstencil, Monday, 1 September 2003 03:26 (twenty-one years ago)

Depends on whose dead and who's gettin' hitched, I guess.

Although I avoid either type of ceremony whenever possible as I invariably faint and cause a ruckus.

― jewelly (jewelly), Monday, 1 September 2003 03:26 (twenty-one years ago)

I never understood the "hooking up at a wedding" thing, but then again I've only been to family weddings and who wants to hook up with their second cousin who's a fat rugby player?

― Trayce (trayce), Monday, 1 September 2003 03:32 (twenty-one years ago)

don't speak too soon rosemary.

― dengo matherton (dubplatestyle), Monday, 1 September 2003 03:41 (twenty-one years ago)

Hooking up at funerals is huge. Don't ask me why, I've never been to one. Not sure if I'll change that.

Not nuts about weddings. I'm really not much for ceremonies at all -- haven't gone to graduations except the girlfriend's and only because it was my first time meeting her family. But I'll take weddings over funerals.

― Tep (ktepi), Monday, 1 September 2003 04:08 (twenty-one years ago)

i hate having to get dressed up and at least funerals are supposed to be cathartic (not sure if i believe that, frankly) whereas weddings are just dumb.

― dengo matherton (dubplatestyle), Monday, 1 September 2003 04:11 (twenty-one years ago)

if i could roll to either in my ripped pajama pants and t-shirt then it's all good.

― dengo matherton (dubplatestyle), Monday, 1 September 2003 04:12 (twenty-one years ago)

...weddings are just dumb.

Are you nuts, man?!?!?

― hstencil, Monday, 1 September 2003 04:13 (twenty-one years ago)

weddings are a lot of fun, I mean, jess! At least they can be.

― hstencil, Monday, 1 September 2003 04:14 (twenty-one years ago)

nb: i have only been to one wedding.

― dengo matherton (dubplatestyle), Monday, 1 September 2003 04:14 (twenty-one years ago)

Funerals just ... well. They're important to some people, so I won't go on about it. They're not for me. I haven't yet decided if I'll go to, say, my mother's, assuming she dies before me. I've avoided them so far.

But weddings at least make some sort of sense, at the core. There's a lot of almost pornographic silliness surrounding them, but of course I think that -- I don't even like church.

The next wedding I'm going to is one I'm in. The bride keeps offering to let me out of it, knowing my dislike for ceremonies and formal wear, and I keep having to reassure her. Since I'm in the bridal party, not the ... groomal ... party, I'm catering the bachelorette party rather than going to the strip clubs.

― Tep (ktepi), Monday, 1 September 2003 04:16 (twenty-one years ago)

i don't want a funeral when i die. i don't know what i want instead.

― dengo matherton (dubplatestyle), Monday, 1 September 2003 04:16 (twenty-one years ago)

"Just stand me up in the garbage with my hat on." < /mary tyler moore show>

― dengo matherton (dubplatestyle), Monday, 1 September 2003 04:19 (twenty-one years ago)

I wanna be shot into space.

I've been to a wedding on a mountain (most recently) and in a old New Orleans mansion. Those and my brother's (when I was best man and wore a tux) were the most memorable.

― hstencil, Monday, 1 September 2003 04:20 (twenty-one years ago)

See, why should there be an instead? That's one of my problems with it. That's the one damn thing in my will, now that I don't have kids to worry about: don't give me a funeral. I basically say that five or six times. No funeral, no wake, no burial, no ceremonial dumping of ashes into the Mississippi, no God help me Enya music, no "Everybody Hurts," no urns, no coffins. There doesn't need to be an instead. I'm dead. Leave me alone. Get creative with your own shit, mine's put away.

― Tep (ktepi), Monday, 1 September 2003 04:21 (twenty-one years ago)

why can't I be shot into space, Tep?

― hstencil, Monday, 1 September 2003 04:22 (twenty-one years ago)

the only wedding i've ever been to was my parents (mom and stepdad) when i was around 8 or 10. it was in the ballroom of a hotel, and i ate orange duck because i wanted to know what duck tasted like. halfway through i came down with a fever and had to be taken home.

― dengo matherton (dubplatestyle), Monday, 1 September 2003 04:22 (twenty-one years ago)

I was best man at my (male) best friend's wedding a year or two back, That was totally fun! A non-church affair, they even played the main Star Wars theme as their "march". Thats how weddings should be, just a big happy party, not this stiff boring long winded "wedding at Caana" speches in church and NO ALCOHOL AT RECEPTIONS *mutters about overly straight laced relatives and wanders off...*

― Trayce (trayce), Monday, 1 September 2003 04:22 (twenty-one years ago)

(PS Yes I am female, the best man was me and the "bridesmaid" was a guy, long story)

― Trayce (trayce), Monday, 1 September 2003 04:23 (twenty-one years ago)

in a old New Orleans mansion

Oooh. The one I'm going to in November is on a plantation a little ways out from New Orleans. It's a very nice looking place. There are certainly good things about this particular wedding.

Oh, stence, you can be shot into space. I don't mind other people having funerals or funereal alternatives. (Although I don't want to go. Actually, I'd go see someone be launched into space.) I just don't want it done to me.

― Tep (ktepi), Monday, 1 September 2003 04:23 (twenty-one years ago)

I have only been to one wedding. my girlfriend's parents' friend's daughter's. wild.

― RJG (RJG), Monday, 1 September 2003 04:24 (twenty-one years ago)

every wedding I've been to in a church has had alcohol at the reception! And I've gotten mad trashed!

― hstencil, Monday, 1 September 2003 04:25 (twenty-one years ago)

I have really religous fine upstanding cousins :/ They used to think coke was Bad. They're sort of like the Flanders'. Gah.

― Trayce (trayce), Monday, 1 September 2003 04:34 (twenty-one years ago)

"but why would the fruit punch advisory board give us bad advice?"

― dengo matherton (dubplatestyle), Monday, 1 September 2003 04:35 (twenty-one years ago)

two words: Catholic weddings.

(we outdrank the Knights of Columbus)

― hstencil, Monday, 1 September 2003 04:36 (twenty-one years ago)

If I get married it will be on a beach. Actually I'm trying to talk my cousin into having her wedding at a beach or in some pretty outdoor setting, rather than a church. I don't know what it is about churches and funeral homes, but somehow my nervous system rejects them and shuts down if I'm in them too long. And my cousin wants me to be a bridesmaid, a request which should flatter and honor me but, given my history, seems pointless and cruel.

― jewelly (jewelly), Monday, 1 September 2003 04:37 (twenty-one years ago)

I missed my cousin's wedding on the beach at sunset in Hawaii, dammit!

― hstencil, Monday, 1 September 2003 04:38 (twenty-one years ago)

I preferred my mother's wedding to my father's funeral.

Neither had booze, though. Well, maybe they did, I was too young for drinking.

― tokyo rosemary (rosemary), Monday, 1 September 2003 04:41 (twenty-one years ago)

I was going to get married on the beach of a little island in St Lawrence Gulf, somewhere up-provence from Montreal... but then of course my fiancee had to go and dump me and spoil the plans, didnt he, the bastid!

― Trayce (trayce), Monday, 1 September 2003 04:46 (twenty-one years ago)

Irish funerals are great if you like getting smashed and singing.

― colin s barrow (colin s barrow), Monday, 1 September 2003 04:58 (twenty-one years ago)

it is true, irish walking down the street or leaving a job, or just fucking living in Ireland is great if you like getting smashed and singing.

I've been to 3 weddings, the best was my brothers last year since I knew all his friends and was more part of the occasion than if it's a cousin or whatever. Also the music was good.

― Ronan (Ronan), Monday, 1 September 2003 08:32 (twenty-one years ago)

how can you prefer funerals to weddings? for there to be a funeral someone has to have died, which is not generally a good thing. this is a stupid question.

― Dave Stelfox (Dave Stelfox), Monday, 1 September 2003 08:37 (twenty-one years ago)

i was a bridesmaid at my sisters wedding, my dress was really beautiful - long dark green, with long black gloves. and i got a GREAT haircut for it. therefore - though i am ideologically opposed to marriage - i like marriages better.

― The Lady Ms Lurex (lucylurex), Monday, 1 September 2003 09:08 (twenty-one years ago)

Duh. I prefer weddings. I have only ever been (and will only ever go) to funerals of people I knew and loved and there was NOTHING enjoyable about them.

― Archel (Archel), Monday, 1 September 2003 09:38 (twenty-one years ago)

yeah. funerals suck.

― The Lady Ms Lurex (lucylurex), Monday, 1 September 2003 09:47 (twenty-one years ago)

Same as Archel - except I haven't had so much fun at weddings either. My ex's sisters and brothers had a whole bunch of them between them while I was with her, and they were all rubbish parties. I'm surprised, at the age of 44, how few weddings I've been to other than these - I guess my friends are not much the marrying kind. But I've not yet lost a friend to death either, so I'll happily settle for zero of both, if that's the deal.

― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Monday, 1 September 2003 19:49 (twenty-one years ago)

haha the first night i was in dublin i witnessed two fistfights which ended in drunken singing

― gabbo giftington (dubplatestyle), Monday, 1 September 2003 19:50 (twenty-one years ago)

(also they ate potatoes on pots of gold)

― gabbo giftington (dubplatestyle), Monday, 1 September 2003 19:50 (twenty-one years ago)

funerals and weddings seem most important to parents and children.
if i'm not one of those, i'd rather not go to the traditional version of either event.
i do like non-traditional weddings and wakes though.

― Orbit (Orbit), Monday, 1 September 2003 19:52 (twenty-one years ago)

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"you're a dirty little birdy."

― RJG (RJG), Monday, 1 September 2003 20:34 (twenty-one years ago)

I prefer funerals.

― Anthony Miccio (Anthony Miccio), Monday, 1 September 2003 20:37 (twenty-one years ago)

Anthony, means that I prefer funerals.

― Carey (Carey), Monday, 1 September 2003 20:41 (twenty-one years ago)

RJG said:
I have only been to one wedding. my girlfriend's parents' friend's daughter's.

Which is odd because I could have sworn I saw him at mine.

I'm sure if any of my friends have a wedding it will be fun. I'm sure if any of them have a funeral, it won't. I can't imagine any serious circumstance in which a funeral could be preferable to a wedding.

However, family occasions in themselves are almost always dud, or at least a lot of effort to keep as close to the side of classic as possible.

― ailsa (ailsa), Monday, 1 September 2003 21:55 (twenty-one years ago)

I meant that I have only been to one wedding ceremony.

: )

― RJG (RJG), Monday, 1 September 2003 21:56 (twenty-one years ago)

Funerals are far more special to me than weddings, because you see people without their customary masks on, and above all because you have the opportunity to celebrate a whole life among friends, and to remember what is most valuable about being alive.

― colin s barrow (colin s barrow), Monday, 1 September 2003 22:41 (twenty-one years ago)

Slipknot funerals are particularly special.

Last year I realised that in my life I'd been to four weddings and a funeral, but then I remembered that I'd been a fifth wedding and then a remembered a bazillion others from when I was a choirboy.

― N. (nickdastoor), Monday, 1 September 2003 22:48 (twenty-one years ago)

From Ecclesiastes, the only part of the Bible I've ever related to:

Sorrow is better than laughter: for by the sadness of the countenance the heart is made better.
The heart of the wise is in the house of mourning; but the heart of fools is in the house of mirth.

What a depressing fella, eh?

See E.M. Cioran for more details on how to enjoy funerals more than weddings.

― colin s barrow (colin s barrow), Monday, 1 September 2003 22:52 (twenty-one years ago)

I've been to 1 wedding and 4 funerals.
which would make me a person who didn't date a supermodel wearing a dress attached with safety pins. And I haven't launched some bawdy career of a prostitute. I'm not devilishly handsome and naughty in interviews and neither are any good. they are all just a bunch of wank (!) of artificial ceremony, my second most despised thing after ron howard.
double suck if it's a catholic funeral and they do that dodgy shit with the stinky incense.

― Nellie (nellskies), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 06:17 (twenty-one years ago)

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