do you ever doubt your essential goodness?

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also: do you think this is a common trait across all humans or a sort of psychic custard resultant from formative indoctrination into certain organized religions?

mark p (Mark P), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 13:06 (twenty-two years ago)

I was with you up to "...a sort of...".

Mark C (Mark C), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 13:18 (twenty-two years ago)

I'm full of the custard, definitely. But I doubt other people's essential goodness just as often.

Archel (Archel), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 13:20 (twenty-two years ago)

mark c: do you think this is a common trait across all humans or specifically resultant from formative indoctrination into certain organized religions?

mark p (Mark P), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 13:22 (twenty-two years ago)

Built-in, definitely. From an evolutionary standpoint, it's freaking gold.

Wait, the rhetorical answer to your question is "No," right?

Jesse Fuchs (Jesse Fuchs), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 13:25 (twenty-two years ago)

This is a common trait across all humans. It's practically what "human" means.

Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 13:26 (twenty-two years ago)

From a Riot Grrrl manifesto in the "Radical Feminism" thread:

"BECAUSE we are unwilling to falter under claims that we are reactionary "reverse sexists" AND NOT THE TRUEPUNKROCK-SOULCRUSADERS THAT WE KNOW we really are."

Like I said, evolutionary gold. And that's not (necessarily) a put-down -- being unswervingly convinced of your essential goodness is a very efficient way of getting things done. The question is, of course, what those things turn out to be.

Jesse Fuchs (Jesse Fuchs), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 13:28 (twenty-two years ago)

do you mean the sort of indoctrination from a religion which might have left effects on a society without it being the system of beliefs of the majority (eg the christian impact on western society which has hangovers like easter and christmas) or do you mean people who were individually raised into a religion?

The Lady Ms Lurex (lucylurex), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 13:28 (twenty-two years ago)

not rhetorical at all, jesse. i know a lot of people who seem never to fuss over this sort of thing, hence the thread.

isn't saying it's good from an evolutionary standpoint buying into the myth of the noble savage tho?

mark p (Mark P), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 13:29 (twenty-two years ago)

wait wait wait nevermind. jesse, i thought you were saying that the DOUBT was built-in.

mark p (Mark P), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 13:30 (twenty-two years ago)

lucylurex: people individually raised into certain religions (which have hangovers like guilt and self-distrust)

mark p (Mark P), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 13:32 (twenty-two years ago)

I would think that being full of custard would be inherently good in itself.

JuliaA (j_bdules), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 13:33 (twenty-two years ago)

I didn't even know what a church or religion was until I was about 7, and never learned much abt religion until my lit classes in HS started talking abt biblical references. I've always felt like I was a good person, but I'm constantly re-evaluating my ideas and actions to make sure I meet my own standards. So from personal experience, I don't think religion has much to do with it.

teeny (teeny), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 13:34 (twenty-two years ago)

psychic custard -> nasty comedown

mark p (Mark P), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 13:35 (twenty-two years ago)

i wasn't raised religiously but i sure got the guilt and self-distrust. being unswervingly convinced of your opinion is totally dud. the excerpt jesse provided doesn't seem like a good example of that kind of stubbornness, it reads more like someone trying to convince themselves they are right so they can get on with whatever they think is good for the world.

The Lady Ms Lurex (lucylurex), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 13:37 (twenty-two years ago)

being unswervingly convinced of your essential goodness is a very efficient way of getting things done

jesse being unswervingly convinced of your essential RIGHTNESS is a very efficient way of getting things done; qualitative goodness has nothing to do with your example (see: every genocidal religious leader ever)

mark p (Mark P), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 13:39 (twenty-two years ago)

being unsure whether something is right does not equate to being unsure of your opinion/actions, not by any means, this is the entire crux of the issue.

Ronan (Ronan), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 13:40 (twenty-two years ago)

i wouldn't say i was "a good person" because what i think, is largely irrelevant, especially when morality is determined largely by the society i exist within. does it matter what i think when it is other peoplee who will judge whether or not i am actually a nice guy or a total shit? i think yr own perceptions of self are not of much importance when it comes to matters of good and bad and the best thing you can hope for is to be comfortable with who you are - after all hitler proibablyu thought he was doing the right thing. so i guess the answer is no, i don't coz if someone tells me i'm being a wanker i either explain why or if i believe myself to be in the wrong, attempt to change my outlook/actions or see the other view. this is about as reasonable as people get, i think...

Dave Stelfox (Dave Stelfox), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 13:42 (twenty-two years ago)

I think I am good person definitely, usually putting other people's needs before my own, which is how I would tend to determine it. Does it stem from religion? Maybe.

Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 13:43 (twenty-two years ago)

(qualifier: i only get doubtful of my goodness when i'm down and feeling insecure.)

The Lady Ms Lurex (lucylurex), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 13:46 (twenty-two years ago)

i don't know everyone in the world, so i couldn't say if its a human trait or not.

The Lady Ms Lurex (lucylurex), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 13:48 (twenty-two years ago)

i am all abt cruelty and pain so the ans is of course no.

Julio Desouza (jdesouza), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 13:48 (twenty-two years ago)

Mark, I'm confused. Weren't Hitler, Stalin, Mao, Momus, etc., essentially convinced of their essential goodness as well as their essential rightness, at least in a "Well, ya gotta break a few eggs to make an omelet" sort of way? Maybe this is just semantics.

Jesse Fuchs (Jesse Fuchs), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 13:48 (twenty-two years ago)

uh, jesse, was hitler essentially good?

mark p (Mark P), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 13:50 (twenty-two years ago)

to rephrase: are the presiding binaries of good person/bad person owed specifically to theological ideas (see: heaven, getting into)?

mark p (Mark P), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 13:50 (twenty-two years ago)

Although I suppose none of them are really genocidal religious leaders. Okay, now I'm more confused. It seems like whoever was in charge of the Crusades or whatnot was very, very convinced of their essential goodness. Well, not essential, with the original sin thing and all, but Jesus-derived goodness. Hmm.

Jesse Fuchs (Jesse Fuchs), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 13:51 (twenty-two years ago)

not necessarily jesse: i think a lot of political leaders are comfortable to think of thmselves as (some of the time) unpleasant hardmen who get the job done — ie not in themselves "good", but their evil is necessary to produce good in the world, therefore "right"

(i'm not especially talking abt hitler or momus, but eg abraham lincoln is often said to have embraced, almost willed, his assassination as a personal atonement for the blood his decisions had shed, EVEN THOUGH he absolutely thought those decisions were correct...)

mark s (mark s), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 13:53 (twenty-two years ago)

in other words the distinction can be and is made, even if not everyone makes it

mark s (mark s), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 13:55 (twenty-two years ago)

i'm not especially talking abt hitler or momus

this quote in itself justifies the existence of ilx

Dave Stelfox (Dave Stelfox), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 13:56 (twenty-two years ago)

uh, jesse, was hitler essentially good?

Uh, this is a rhetorical question, right? :) I think the question is whether Hitler was convinced of his essential goodness, not whether, from any sane or rational standpoint, he was, which he obviously wasn't. To be honest, though, I'm not enough of a Hitlerologist to really know the answer to this. I do know that Mao seemed to believe, in a literal sense, in "essential goodness", given his endorsement of the Blank Slatist theory of culture -- i.e., all babies are born equally unblemished and good, and it's only societal influences that ever makes anyone do any bad things.

Jesse Fuchs (Jesse Fuchs), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 13:56 (twenty-two years ago)

TS: momus v the reverend canaan banana

Dave Stelfox (Dave Stelfox), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 13:56 (twenty-two years ago)

blair is a prime minister who appears to like to think of himself as both right AND good; thatcher certainly always thought the first of herself, but wasn't — publicly — bothered about the second

mark s (mark s), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 13:57 (twenty-two years ago)

my qualification of good and bad people probably has a lot in common with how a lot religious qualifiers work. but they are not connected.

RJG (RJG), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 13:59 (twenty-two years ago)

all babies are born equally unblemished and good

i was also brought up catholic and we're big on original sin...

Dave Stelfox (Dave Stelfox), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 14:00 (twenty-two years ago)

not necessarily jesse: i think a lot of political leaders are comfortable to think of thmselves as (some of the time) unpleasant hardmen who get the job done — ie not in themselves "good", but their evil is necessary to produce good in the world, therefore "right"

Okay, that makes perfect sense as a distinction, and I agree with it. With your advanced logic circuits, it's clear why you're considered two iterations ahead of the ILX Mark P model.

Jesse Fuchs (Jesse Fuchs), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 14:00 (twenty-two years ago)

jesse you keep saying "goodness" when you actually mean "justness".

there's a big difference between asking yourself "am i a good person?" (the bugaboo being that it's basically an impossible question to answer, cf. hornby's unreadable book) and "am i doing the right thing?" (which can be answered resolutely without ever deference to any traditional precepts of 'goodness')

mark p (Mark P), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 14:00 (twenty-two years ago)

(sorry x-post)

mark p (Mark P), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 14:01 (twenty-two years ago)

ever

mark p (Mark P), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 14:02 (twenty-two years ago)

as are a lot of christian religions - hence baptism, therefore people not inherently good from a theological perspective leading to doubts etc. however, i am agnostic religiously and agnostic about people's capacity for good/evil... society plays a big part inm making people who they are and getting back to hitler, he was actually allowed to become the moster he undoubtedly was by this society, so it's not all his fault and his alone...

Dave Stelfox (Dave Stelfox), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 14:02 (twenty-two years ago)

evolutionary psychologists (sorry to bring him up again, but guys like pinker) would argue strenuously against the notion of ye noble savage, asserting instead that humans come in a wide-ranging mish-mash of intrinsically good AND evil, of which both binaries have traditionally served higher and important evolutionary purposes.

accepting that (which i think i do), it's logical to contend that it is NOT necessarily a given that everyone will be concerned with questions of their essential goodness. so what (if anything) can we suggest about the ones that are?

mark p (Mark P), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 14:05 (twenty-two years ago)

haha pinker = also two iterations away from me!!

however i attribute my superiority to the beneficent gaze of mr blobby

mark s (mark s), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 14:06 (twenty-two years ago)

that they are WEAK AND DESERVE TO PERISH WHEN I ASSUME MY RIGHTFUL POSITION AS GLOBAL DICTATOR < /momus >

Dave Stelfox (Dave Stelfox), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 14:08 (twenty-two years ago)

I think it's impossible to claim that you have lived a life free of religious influences.

Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 14:09 (twenty-two years ago)

however i attribute my superiority to the beneficent gaze of mr blobby

who is curiously 18 iterations BEHIND you

mark p (Mark P), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 14:10 (twenty-two years ago)

children of a lesser blob

mark p (Mark P), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 14:11 (twenty-two years ago)

i wish i had said that

mark s (mark s), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 14:30 (twenty-two years ago)

I doubt mine all the time...

luna (luna.c), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 14:33 (twenty-two years ago)

yeah but your quite nice luna whereas hitler, momus and myself are not...

Dave Stelfox (Dave Stelfox), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 14:37 (twenty-two years ago)

I occasionally doubt my essential badness, but then I do something stupid and end up convinced of it anyway.

hstencil, Tuesday, 2 September 2003 16:50 (twenty-two years ago)

Whenever I doubt my essential goodness I check my sticker and see the "now with 50% more flavonoids" tag and the "product of USA" tag and realize I'm chock fulla essential goodness. Part of this complete breakfast.

nickalicious (nickalicious), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 16:57 (twenty-two years ago)

do you think that maybe doubting one's own goodness is essential to being "good" at all? can you be good without self-questioning? isn't "being good" (by which I'm very vaguely defining as acting compassionately & without malice as much as possible) as much a process with many tough decisions & mistakes to be made, as a constant state?

s1utsky (slutsky), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 17:00 (twenty-two years ago)

mmmmmmm
custard....

Orbit (Orbit), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 17:03 (twenty-two years ago)

A belief in our goodness is innate. But an infant's or child's initial definition of goodness is wholly centered on itself. If it is good for me, then it is good. The two are inseperable. Me is at the very center and core of "good".

Paradoxically, the job of culture and religion is to retrain this goodly/godly feeling, by instilling doubt in our essential goodness. It sharpens our sense that we are capable of doing bad things to the point where we are able to refrain from acting on all our impulses. That lets us operate more smoothly in a social setting. Damn good thing, too. Without this retraining we'd be murdered by the adults before puberty.

Aimless, Tuesday, 2 September 2003 17:25 (twenty-two years ago)

Have we completely skirted around the notion that "good" is an entirely culture-relative/not-qualifiable-concept for the duration of this thread then?

nickalicious (nickalicious), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 17:30 (twenty-two years ago)

THERE IS A TRIBE IN [__________] WHO BELIEVE IT IS GOOD NOT TO EXIST CZ I MADE THEM UP FOR THE SAKE OF SHOUTING

mark s (mark s), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 17:43 (twenty-two years ago)

isn't "being good" (by which I'm very vaguely defining as acting compassionately & without malice as much as possible) as much a process with many tough decisions & mistakes to be made, as a constant state?

Er, no. In the vast majority of cases the good (= compassionate, non-malicous) thing to do is extremely clear, we just don't do it because we don't want to.

Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 17:45 (twenty-two years ago)

could it be argued that the rationalization of the distinction between right and good in the case of world leaders arises because of the scope of the influence of their actions (sorta like necessary evil in religion - a right action may reflect badly on an individual but is good for society)?

youn, Tuesday, 2 September 2003 18:40 (twenty-two years ago)

could it be argued that the rationalization of the distinction between right and good in the case of world leaders arises because of the scope of the influence of their actions...

Assuming that these leaders ARE doing the 'right' thing to help others--- and not to simply look good to their peers---it depends on how far their influence truly stretches (ie. do they truly have the ability to help others, or are they a figurehead for someone else?)

Nichole Graham (Nichole Graham), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 18:49 (twenty-two years ago)

But then, fr'instance, maybe in his tweaked head Dubya really thinks some of his actions that all-of-the-rest-of-the-world-sees-as "wrong"/"bad" are "right"/"just", as though the way he was brought up was to believe, fr'instance, that US military intervention is the best means of dealing with global hostilities; these are relative terms that aren't always the same from one person to the next. Where one might honestly truly think it is 'right' to drop bombs all over creation chasing down elusive terrorists, the next person (like I dunno ME) might not agree with them.

nickalicious (nickalicious), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 18:55 (twenty-two years ago)

A lot more people than just Dubya himself thinks he's doing the right things.

oops (Oops), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 18:58 (twenty-two years ago)

Well that's what I'm trying in a roundabout make-no-sense-kinda-way to get at; is that "good" doesn't mean the same thing to the next person. Now, I think the fact that I question my "goodness" (or to be more specific ratio of hurt vs. help I contribute to the world) is more a sign of supposed benevolence than were I to be "firm in my convictions" or whatnot, but even this is relative to my own personal views on "right" and "wrong".

nickalicious (nickalicious), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 19:02 (twenty-two years ago)

It's hugely important to my self-respect to believe that I am a good person, and to keep striving to make that the case. It is important to me that I am able to largely defend myself against any serious accusations in the area of morality and ethics. This isn't primarily a religious position at all - I'm an atheist, and by christian standards a bad person, not just via atheism - but I can't entirely disentangle religious influences from all of this. I'm with Dan, I don't think anyone can.

Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 19:02 (twenty-two years ago)

and by christian standards a bad person

I hope you mean by the standards of various churches, rather than it being impossible to be a christian and consider you a good person.

Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 19:05 (twenty-two years ago)

Religion stems from morality, not vice versa.

oops (Oops), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 19:08 (twenty-two years ago)

maybe i have goodness and justness confused, but it seems hard to determine whether or not someone is good without evidence, and the evidence would have to be thoughts or actions. the latter has effects. then is it just whether or not you think horrible things?

youn, Tuesday, 2 September 2003 19:09 (twenty-two years ago)

Though I do see the point that now, after religion is already in place, individuals can get their morality from religion and it's impossible for anyone to say religious morality has played absolutely no part in their own morality.

oops (Oops), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 19:11 (twenty-two years ago)

then is it just whether or not you think horrible things?

Just because you think about doing a horrible action, this does not make you a worse person than you were five seconds before. Goodness is based on how you conduct yourself, despite inner feelings

Nichole Graham (Nichole Graham), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 19:22 (twenty-two years ago)

but actions are right or wrong. i think the question falsely presupposes that human beings have an essential nature.

youn, Tuesday, 2 September 2003 19:29 (twenty-two years ago)

I'm hopeful that I'm a good person, but am keenly aware of my human limitations. That is why I continually go to Confession, pray for absolution, view myself in harsh tones, etc. But almost all my actions and almost all my thoughts are for the good of someone else (i.e. save for the few times when I indulge myself).

I'm also hopeful that those of you who know what my religious background is wouldn't assume that I think of you any less because of your difference in religious opinions. I've had the chance to meet some wonderful human beings who are secular humanists (basically atheists with hearts of gold) whom I felt God (the God I worship) would be very pleased with. Just because you don't happen to believe in God doesn't mean you're not a good person in my eyes. I would also appreciate some open-mindedness my way, too, because it does really disappoint me whenever someone is automatically dismissive of my faith and calls it a "crutch" to lean on or consider me brainless or mindless for being Christian.

Just because you think about doing a horrible action, this does not make you a worse person than you were five seconds before. Goodness is based on how you conduct yourself, despite inner feelings

I would hope so, Nichole. Because I feel so guilty about thinking some of the things I think of that I instantly feel the need to ask forgiveness to God. One of my parish priests says it's all right to think most of the thoughts I was thinking about, just so long as it doesn't take hold of me and leads to something that would hurt someone else. I want to believe that.

Hmm. Maybe this is all a part of how self-critical I am. I do hope I always stay on the ball about trying to be as nice as I possibly can be because I truly want people to be happy, save for those who have done unforgivable or unpleasant things to me or those who treat me badly (which right now covers maybe 15 people at most out of the thousands I've met just IRL).

Does this make a bit of sense at all?

Just Deanna (Dee the Lurker), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 19:40 (twenty-two years ago)

me: ...and by christian standards a bad person
Andrew: I hope you mean by the standards of various churches, rather than it being impossible to be a christian and consider you a good person.>

Yes, Andrew - in fact, I'd probably have said "Christians' standards" if I'd meant the other. My favourite Christian here, for instance (my dear friend Anthony), seems to consider me a good person. But there are various areas where my morality and that generally considered good by Christianity differ. This doesn't exercise me at all, except when I'm asked, as on this thread.

Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 20:07 (twenty-two years ago)

do you think that maybe doubting one's own goodness is essential to being "good" at all? can you be good without self-questioning? isn't "being good" (by which I'm very vaguely defining as acting compassionately & without malice as much as possible) as much a process with many tough decisions & mistakes to be made, as a constant state?

this is what i was getting at.

mark p (Mark P), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 20:53 (twenty-two years ago)

I would hope so, Nichole. Because I feel so guilty about thinking some of the things I think of that I instantly feel the need to ask forgiveness to God. One of my parish priests says it's all right to think most of the thoughts I was thinking about, just so long as it doesn't take hold of me and leads to something that would hurt someone else. I want to believe that.

There's no reason that you shouldn't, Dee. So-called 'dirty' thoughts are what make us human....and I'm not necessarily talking about sex, either. Your priest is right: just having those thoughts isn't worth guilty feelings.

Nichole Graham (Nichole Graham), Tuesday, 2 September 2003 21:08 (twenty-two years ago)

There's no reason that you shouldn't, Dee. So-called 'dirty' thoughts are what make us human....and I'm not necessarily talking about sex, either. Your priest is right: just having those thoughts isn't worth guilty feelings.

Well, hopefully this is the case. I just feel like I should be superhuman at times, you know? With as few flaws as I possibly can have. Else I disappoint myself. As for the whole "sex" thinking -- *laughs* kinda hard to think about something I really have no clue about. The dirtiest thoughts I have are thoughts of kissing. Sad and pathetic for my age? Maybe. And maybe another example of freakdom, too. Um, I'll shut up now.

Just Deanna (Dee the Lurker), Wednesday, 3 September 2003 02:22 (twenty-two years ago)


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