I Can't Turn My Face into a Heart: The role of personality in attractiveness

Anyway that was not my point, I mean you can say someone is hot or whatever, I mean it's not like CHristian Bale is a good personal friend of mine but he's still hot. But like I couldn't actually fancy him, I mean he could be a total muff head for all I know.

I currently have a big crush which is why I started the fancying people you hate thread.

I don't really subscribe to the not attractive physically thing though, how can you think someone you love or fancy is ugly or not pretty. Also you don't kiss their personality or sleep with it either, to be frank.

I think people underrate the importance of physical attraction because it seems the right thing to do or the nicer thing to do. You can be crude, or blunt, or extremely verbose about it, but the fact is that physical attraction governs the relationship world without alot of mercy.

Oh dear. Should we tell him?

When I first met Nick (you), I thought he looked kind of like Doogie Howser's friend, but a little cuter. But after talking to him just a tiny bit I found him to be really attractive.

"Personality" is a code-word for "booty".

Also he told me I was in "no way [his] type" and he had no interest in sleeping with me before we met!

Andrew, my sister kind of sucks, I'll sell her to you if you wanna hang out with her.

I hate the fact that I love writing about music to the point that I sometimes hate it, and I wonder is it myself I am hating, for loving a job I hate. I wonder are other writers self haters, or am I merely hating myself as an extended form of self love. Either way there's some ego involved but I'd love to read a book about the psychology of the average music writer, it's a fucking weird profession.

My point I guess in a wider sense is that it's easy for someone to become an indulgence rather than a crush, ie they fit a certain desire you have for a certain type of relationship. For example if you enjoy not enjoying things then you can enjoy being irritated to the point where it becomes intensely cute and difficult to shake off. That kind of relationship is entirely about personality and yet it shapes your physical impression of the person aswell.

I am so hungover.

I adore when Ronan does this sort of analyis. He excels at it like no other.

There was an old UK game show where the host kept saying "The clue is in the question". In case you're wondering why they haven't sold yet...

The problem comes later, doesn't it, when you outgrow that "type": unless you built a sense of respect and mutual interests within the relationship, then won't you sprint away from that person? The sharpest personality isn't enough, unless there is some other, stronger connection at play.

for some reason the looks thing can be totally pushed aside for me, as long as the person is not physically repulsive to me...how they are personality-wise really determines what i wind up feeling for them, in the end.

take the example of Psychobitch, in the office where i intern. she is what most people would call physically attractive - nice slim figure, radiant face, shapely hair, friendly hair. but she's also a FUCKING NIGHTMARE TO DEAL WITH IN ANY WAY AS SHE IS EXTREMELY HIGH-STRUNG AND TURNS EVERYTHING INTO A CRISIS SITUATION. THIS IS WHY EVERYONE IN THE OFFICE HATES YOU A____. WE DON'T CARE ABOUT YOUR BREASTS WHEN YOU DON'T EVEN HAVE A HEART YOU FUCKED UP NAZI BUFFALO WITCH

Ronan, are you dating Tanya Headon?

As everyone knows I have posted innumerable posts about this topic. But really it just takes the right person to say the right thing to show me how much I'd been deluding myself.

The key moment for me came last night when G asked if she could take a picture of me for her new video mobile phone. Now as most of you know I am exceptionally photophobic, and even when I am obliged to have a photo taken for passport/work ID purposes I do so under extreme sufferance. But this time I was happy to oblige...and G & I were good friends anyway, which again does make a difference...and put on my best smile. "Aw Marcello," said G, smiling at me, "that's nice! What a lovely face you have when you smile!" Not being ironic or sarcastic - she meant it! And I have to say that it hit the spot (it actually wasn't a bad picture either!).

The last person to say that to me was Laura. So you can understand how hard my spot was hit.

G is also self-conscious about her looks, and I kept telling her that she didn't have to worry, she was gorgeous and anyone who didn't see that was a blind, ignorant asshole who didn't deserve her anyway! (In turn, that kind of hit her spot...)

So there you have it. My theory scuppered, as I always hoped it would be. Maybe the whole subtext of my last two years is that I was just waiting for someone to say it to me. As well as the thousands of other things she said... :-)

but you do, you really do.

do you really want to be in bed beside someone with a completely turn-off personality? it permeates everything. you *do* kiss people's personalities! the most conventionally beautiful guy on the planet could be standing there and unless the right personality is there, I wouldn't *want* to kiss him.

Neither is every body!

omg

When I first met Nick (you), I thought he looked kind of like Doogie Howser's friend, but a little cuter. But after talking to him just a tiny bit I found him to be really attractive.

-- Sarah McLUsky (coco), Thursday, September 11, 2003 12:18 PM (4 years ago) Bookmark Link

i think dude's name was "vinny"

apparently vinnie is in leatherheads

He was in NEWSIES and god did I ever have a cruch on him:

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Second from left...........

I was skim reading new answers and could've sworn this said 'Rank the members of Heart in order of attractiveness'.

Vinny alright, but he was no Boner from Growing Pains.

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