was i stood up?

Didn't eat dinner? That's your own damn fault. ;)

Give the guy another chance. If he blows that, *then* it's a problem.

There's such a thing as being too suspicious.

But to each her own.

It's not so easy to accept that men can be just as scared, cautious, freaked-out and confused about relationships as women are.

I just know which attitude has had more of a positive effect on me and on my relationships with men.

I'd count this as a first strike, but don't fret about it and probably don't even mention it to him. Complaining about something, even if 200% justified, on a first/second date is going to lose you so many points, no matter how unfair that is. Just see if it's a one-off.

(also, re-reading he did say he'd call you when he got home from work and he did call you then)

Fundamentally, even if Orbit turns out to be right, do you really want to risk giving him up as a bad job? It's better to regret things you have done etc. etc.

Many workplaces object to, or have stringent rules against personal calls while on company time.

I'm with Mark C, though. He said he'd call when he got home from work, and he did. Proceed with caution, but proceed.

Not a justification, but maybe he has some terrible, disfiguring, STD that makes his eye swell up. He may have thought it would go down in time for dinner, but it didn't and he was too embarassed to show. Hey, wait...if he has some terrible, disfiguring STD, maybe you shouldn't get all freshie-freshie with him anyway. Unless he wears latex overalls. But then, that's something altogether different again.

Sensors indicate "dud"

I don't think it is advisable to recommend dating people with eyepatches. Even Pete Burns.

(I've actually said this)

fyi!!!!

ARRRGGGGHHH!!! I hate all you paranoid people on this thread, you'd making me suspicious and paranoid now.

why wouldn't they troll in this manner? you obv have much more emotion involved w/this thread, so service away...

also, the ordering for your date part. i do this with my gf when we go out sometimes. i do not decide what she will be eating or drinking, but i do order the dinner. why am i clarifying this? isn't this somewhat normal? WHAT AM I TAKING CRAZY PILLS?

Excellent logic.

Seriously, is this for real or not? And, real or not real, coordinated halloween costumes are so bossy. I hate them. Hate them, hate them.

That is all.

NO

TROLL

TROLL

DICK

STOOD UP

ok not really but i got drunk

APOCALYPTIC BORE

BOOOOOOOORRRRRRRRRRRE!!!!!!!

http://www.last.fm/music/Amon+Düül+II/_/Apocolyptic+Bore

tombot do you have the hackers soundtrack what is the song on it that goes "I'M INVISBILE IM INVISIBLE IN THE LASER ROOM"

I WANT AN UPDATE

*ahem*
been there, done that.
no patience for passive-aggressive messages like "you are not important so i will not call you"
voice of experience, not pettiness. i am old. old. been there.

-- Orbit (Orbit), Wednesday, October 8, 2003 5:24 PM (4 years ago) Bookmark Link
old and single! *runs away all quick-like*

-- oops (Oops), Wednesday, October 8, 2003 5:26 PM (4 years ago) Bookmark Link

LOL Oops OTM for once.

dudes i wish felicity and spencer still posted

-- the schef (adam schefter ha ha)

carnival of souls ;_;

sorry I had to work late and had a black eye for a few years

wasn't that in the first indiana jones movie

can someone helpe me with this hackers soundtrack track id

i think orbital is the band that it took me the longest to like again of every band ever

wow jon you are drunk
that's cowgirl by underworld

which thanks for making me go look it up so I could realize I don't have that track anymore either FUCK SHIT

i demand lossless version

so it will sound as good as the boombox above my garage smoking pot in 1997

maybe i'll watch save ferris on youtube?

STOOD UP... ON VALENTINE'S DAY

I'm just really confused right now - I'm trying to come up with a logical explanation?

I'm so sorry man, no worse feeling for sure -- deets, if you feel comfortable sharing em?

I would count STOOD UP as my least favorite feeling.
Except the time I left a message on my friend's phone like "so I guess you're not coming to pick me up...well...ok..." because he hadn't picked me up. And it turned out he was on the floor having a seizure while he listened to that phone message resonate through the house. SO, I quit calling people out on it. But unless you are having a seizure or something it does make me feel super emo.

yea that's the problem, always that sinking feeling if you call them on it that there is a legitimate reason and that you'll look like a heel.

i had a girl who frequently did shit like this to me too, like one time we made plans to go karaoking, after several times that she backed out last minute...but prior to that she was having an American Idol viewing party at her house with other friends, which I stopped at first, and they were drinking wine. when it came time for karaoke to start I waited...and waited...and texted her an hour after it started, and she said she hadn't left yet. waited another hour, and then another half hour (and karaoke was more than half over now), and she finally admitted she wasn't coming cuz she had too much to drink.

problem was this occurred during one of the few times in my life that I was severely depressed, and I took it very personally, and on top of the wine I'd already drank that night, I went home and popped two painkillers on top of that....

sorry for the derail -- anyway, Brainwasher, really sorry to hear that it happened to you. I recommend trying to stay as calm about it as possible until you have more details, though you have every right to be angry/upset if it does turn out you got indeed stood up. and that person should fuck off, if that is the case.

If someone doesn't respect you, drop them. Seriously. Now.

Ugh. Fuck that sucks, Brainwasher. I'm sorry to hear that!!!!

Stood up is the worst, worst worst. And yeah, Abbott otm. Unless life-threatening situation/emergency etc, basically the stander-upper is an asshole.

A few years back a good friend and I decided to meet for dinner one Valentine's Day, just a girly dinner, casual no big deal. She was newly single, seemed like a fun nice thing to do and Mr Veg and I aren't huge V Day celebraters anyway. I get our table, and then proceed to sit there alone for half an hour, texting, leaving voicemails, feeling like a right tit...til I get a message "I'm in Benicia looking at houses, sorry I totally forgot let's do dinner next week." Meanwhile I've been holding up a table at a busy restaurant on fucking Valentine's Day and the waiters all want to stab me I'm sure. She was a serial flaker though, I should have known better. Next day I wrote her a long, angry email saying she better cut that bullshit out or we are done. And she's been way less flaky since. Still flaky, but nowhere near as bad as that.

I know it's not the same as being stood up by a date, but honestly, the feeling/humiliation/rejection is about the same level in that moment of stoodupness.

Fuck stander-uppers. No-one is ever so busy that they can't tell that they might not make a pre-arranged date in time, so fucking call. If you forgot and realized too late, fucking call. And if you don't want to be the asshole and say that you just don't want to do dinner...fucking call. Consider that you're more of an asshole for not showing up.

(for the record, I came home and cried my eyes out when my friend stood me up, in case it seemed like I was underplaying the badness of that one.)

that's crap, especially the dismissiveness of the text message!

there was one time my g/f at the time and I were going to meet my (former) best friend and his girlfriend for karaoke. we were at a theatre festival and we made it clear multiple times that we wouldn't be there until between 11 - 11:30. We got there, and didn't see them, and then my g/f comes in upset saying "they left!". They apparently decided not to wait for us and didn't tell us.

We were both mad, and then on our way back, my (former) best friend texts us both saying "It's late, we're tired -- go to bed.". That set both of us off and we basically ripped into them both. Actually it was more my g/f, my best friend's girlfriend was actually her close friend and she told her how upset she was with her. I basically told my friend "I ain't going to sleep now, dick".

I don't get how you get passive aggressive when you're the one that stood someone up but ya know...tomato, asshole....