Much to my disgust, I can be a jealous person. Is this something everyone suffers from? What's it all about anyway? How can you get past the jealousy?
― Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Friday, 10 October 2003 10:55 (twenty-one years ago)
my jealousy subsides when i get to know the target of my jealousy better and learn about both their good points and bad points, strengths and weaknesses...and i always feel better when i can see the bigger picture. jealousy is mostly irrational and often based on bogus presumptions e.g. the idea that someone else is better than you or has a better life than you.
― stevem (blueski), Friday, 10 October 2003 11:07 (twenty-one years ago)
i think though that jealousy is confused with envy all the time but i'm never sure which is worse. i think i've had a bit of 'friendly jealousy' towards people which works along the same line as friendly rivalry really.
― stevem (blueski), Friday, 10 October 2003 11:09 (twenty-one years ago)
Hang on a second, what's the difference between jealousy and envy again?
― kate (kate), Friday, 10 October 2003 11:14 (twenty-one years ago)
Jealousy is for your stuff, envy for other peoples.
― Ricardo (RickyT), Friday, 10 October 2003 11:17 (twenty-one years ago)
I don't get jealous (which involves turning the other person into your rival), but I do get highly envious (which just means you really pine for a particular possession or quality). All the time. There are some people on this forum, for example, who've been nice to me, but I can't get past the fact that I envy them tremendously, either because of accomplishments they've made, or because of their intellect, or because they're more attractive than I am, or because they seem to lead a much fuller and more rewarding life, or because they're some sort of prodigy, or any combination of the above. The level of envy I feel varies from person to person, too -- there are some whom I envy just a little tiny bit (a la this one particular young person who seems so much more mature at her age than I could've ever hoped to have been), and some whom I envy a lot.
I have no idea how one could get past these feelings; normally, when I'm envious of someone offline, I'm able to find one particular aspect about them that makes me be able to move past it, but here, that is so much harder to do. I also don't know why I feel this envy so much; I suppose it might have something to do with self-image, but I'll have to entrust this answer to the professionals.
Good questions, all of them!
― Many Coloured Halo (Dee the Lurker), Friday, 10 October 2003 11:22 (twenty-one years ago)
I don't think I'm particularly jealous, then. I am hella envious, though. Though avarice isn't my sin, I'm not jealous of other people's stuff, more their whole lives and things they get that they don't deserve etc. etc. etc.
― kate (kate), Friday, 10 October 2003 11:22 (twenty-one years ago)
curiously there are
two other threads on jealousy on ILE (at least ones with 'jealousy' in the title) and all these threads have occurred in October. so not only is October apparently the month for pink elephants (and panthers), you also get the green eyed monster as a bonus :O
― stevem (blueski), Friday, 10 October 2003 11:23 (twenty-one years ago)
I get angry at people with opportunities afforded them who don't accept graciously. I don't get at all jealous emotionally.
― Nick Southall (Nick Southall), Friday, 10 October 2003 11:32 (twenty-one years ago)
thats because october when sun enters scorpio...scorpios to thread! (they own it)
― Vic (Vic), Friday, 10 October 2003 15:48 (twenty-one years ago)