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These days I've been finding it a lot easier to keep the things I get upset about from coloring my overall mood. I'm feeling utterly terrific lately -- not that I was miserable before, but everything right now is good, damn good, and that level of contentment and fundamental well-being is not a sensation I'm all that used to. So now, when something makes me angry or annoyed (and I do still get angry and annoyed, but I'm a cranky old misanthrope anyway), I can just isolate it as a Pain In The Ass, spend 30 seconds going "grrrrrr," and walk away from it without spending the next three days being bitter about it.

How are you with this?

― Annouschka (Jody Beth Rosen), Thursday, 6 November 2003 15:54 (twenty-two years ago)

I always supress things when I get upset, so when I do reach the breaking point I tend to go off all out of proportion to the thing that upset me. I think this is bad.

― Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Thursday, 6 November 2003 15:56 (twenty-two years ago)

Terrible. I dwell on things & things upset me all too easily. Pls teach me how to deal!

― Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Thursday, 6 November 2003 15:58 (twenty-two years ago)

And who suffers with all the beatings and whippings that your breaking point brings on, Dan? ME. Er, should I have said that?

― Ned Raggett (Ned), Thursday, 6 November 2003 15:58 (twenty-two years ago)

Pink: *passes to the left*

― teeny (teeny), Thursday, 6 November 2003 15:59 (twenty-two years ago)

(I can dwell on things when I'm upset, and often end up blaming myself.)

― Ned Raggett (Ned), Thursday, 6 November 2003 15:59 (twenty-two years ago)

also, marcello to thread

― Annouschka (Jody Beth Rosen), Thursday, 6 November 2003 16:00 (twenty-two years ago)

I've got a lot better at it lately. I mean, I still hold grudges, I still get irritated at things, but actually I seem to get "wound up" a lot less lately, and when I do get wound up, it passes much more quickly than it used to.

I'd like to be able to write this off to something less obvious, such as "growing up" or "not being in a band any more" or something like that, but I suspect it has a great deal more to do with HSA.

― Citizen Kate (kate), Thursday, 6 November 2003 16:01 (twenty-two years ago)

I have received some bad news recently, and I am finding it very hard not to dwell on it and worry about it. I have been trying to distract myself from thinking about it by reading, playing around with ilx, etc.

― Nicolars (Nicole), Thursday, 6 November 2003 16:03 (twenty-two years ago)

Teeny: ?

― Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Thursday, 6 November 2003 16:04 (twenty-two years ago)

Ned OTM.

― Miggie (Miggie), Thursday, 6 November 2003 16:05 (twenty-two years ago)

perhaps what we is a trollfest to test jody's question.

i feel more or less like jody nowadays, but i wouldn't put it as "fundamental well-being," just an upswing.

― amateur!st (amateurist), Thursday, 6 November 2003 16:07 (twenty-two years ago)

what we NEED

― amateur!st (amateurist), Thursday, 6 November 2003 16:08 (twenty-two years ago)

I've had a lot of stress recently and pretty much no way to talk it out, get rid of it, but generally I am not someone who holds grudges at all. The only way I hold a grudge is if I feel someone's double crossed me or been consistently, inappropriately nasty towards me.

― Allyzay, Thursday, 6 November 2003 16:08 (twenty-two years ago)

HI I AM THE AMAZING JODY

― Annouschka (Jody Beth Rosen), Thursday, 6 November 2003 16:09 (twenty-two years ago)

(xp)

― Annouschka (Jody Beth Rosen), Thursday, 6 November 2003 16:09 (twenty-two years ago)

Funny thing is, I've actually walked away from a lot of trollfests lately. If I want to say something, I say it, but (usually) don't get too engaged.

I wish I knew what the secret was, because then I'd carry on doing it all the time!

Actually, though, I take back the big about it being totally down to HSA. OK, that's part of it, but also - it's more like this sense of, with the band breaking up and everything like that, I've already lost everything that really mattered to me, and found out that it didn't *really* matter. So I feel like I've got nothing left to lose, and that's really quite freeing.

I can't really explain further than that.

― Citizen Kate (kate), Thursday, 6 November 2003 16:10 (twenty-two years ago)

http://www.benzo.org.uk/msnbc1.htm

― amateur!st (amateurist), Thursday, 6 November 2003 16:11 (twenty-two years ago)

also, marcello to thread.

Why?

― marcello to thread, Thursday, 6 November 2003 16:11 (twenty-two years ago)

my last message was an x-post

― amateur!st (amateurist), Thursday, 6 November 2003 16:11 (twenty-two years ago)

The amount of stress i am suffering at the moment, I cant deal with anything!

― Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Thursday, 6 November 2003 16:11 (twenty-two years ago)

(sorry pink, that was a pot joke, perhaps they pass to the right in England? also good luck.)

― teeny (teeny), Thursday, 6 November 2003 16:17 (twenty-two years ago)

Why?

"For the first time, this week’s Church Of Me was written in the open air – in the Saturday sunshine of Norwood Park, from which there is a glorious view of London, lying on the grass, in what can fairly be described as a contented and happy mood. I would go further and describe it as a quietly ecstatic and joyful mood. It is the feeling that one has finally been able to reconnect with the world. A corner has been turned, and I no longer feel as though I am a ghost – instead I am, not so much turning back into a human being, but rather recognising the human being I was all along."

― Annouschka (Jody Beth Rosen), Thursday, 6 November 2003 16:17 (twenty-two years ago)

well you see what happened was a gail blew into my life and took all the upset and pain away... :-)

― Marcello Carlin, Thursday, 6 November 2003 16:21 (twenty-two years ago)

The weather report is favorable!

― Ned Raggett (Ned), Thursday, 6 November 2003 16:23 (twenty-two years ago)

(Well, this is all pointing towards HSA being the answer, rather than everything else.)

I kind of resist this idea, because really I'd like to pretend that I am the mistress of my own mood, and I don't need no man to make me complete. Yet I'm fitter, happier, not drinking too much, more in control, etc. etc. etc. for being in a good relationship.

― Citizen Kate (kate), Thursday, 6 November 2003 16:26 (twenty-two years ago)

Sorry teeny it's nearly the end of the day, half asleep!! But thanks. *passes back*

― Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Thursday, 6 November 2003 16:28 (twenty-two years ago)

Good relationships benefit both parties, Kate. You should expect some sort of symbiosis, otherwise there isn't really a relationship. (IMO)

― Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Thursday, 6 November 2003 16:29 (twenty-two years ago)

Well, HSA says that he's experienced many of the same benefits, so I guess it's true.

― Citizen Kate (kate), Thursday, 6 November 2003 16:31 (twenty-two years ago)

also, elvis telecom to thread

― Annouschka (Jody Beth Rosen), Thursday, 6 November 2003 16:31 (twenty-two years ago)

Well, not exactly the *same* benefits, as he still rants on about Sc@nner and @rt @ngel or whoever is ripping him off this week, but still - positive benefits, but I can't really judge, as I didn't know him before he met me. (Duh statement of the year.)

― Citizen Kate (kate), Thursday, 6 November 2003 16:33 (twenty-two years ago)

My boyf believes he is a changed man purely coz he fell in actual lurve, he is no longer quite so angry and is far more compassionate and open to learning new things. I'm not sure, I think it was a combination of factors.

I also feel I get less stressed and bitter about small things since we got together, but then our relationship has had a tiny wee bit of added stress and that does help to put things into perspective!

― smee (smee), Thursday, 6 November 2003 16:40 (twenty-two years ago)

That was a fucking great xpost though, I say 200 posts later.

― Allyzay, Thursday, 6 November 2003 16:43 (twenty-two years ago)

lemme just reiterate how good i'm feeling lately

― Annouschka (Jody Beth Rosen), Thursday, 6 November 2003 16:44 (twenty-two years ago)

I used to totally freak out and have anxiety attacks over things; somehow I got over it, and now when something bad happens I just think, well at least I'm not going to freak out and make things worse than they actually are! I do think that someone in your life who really knows you and knows how to deal with you when you're stressed out helps a lot. (however I dated mr teeny for three years before I really got a handle on my moods)

― teeny (teeny), Thursday, 6 November 2003 16:46 (twenty-two years ago)

No no, that xpost actually really brightened my day, I'm not being sarcastic or anything.

― Allyzay, Thursday, 6 November 2003 16:46 (twenty-two years ago)

which xpost?

i am happy, yet i find this thread unsettling

― amateur!st (amateurist), Thursday, 6 November 2003 16:52 (twenty-two years ago)

I think I deal by cutting corners, I am never really miserable I guess, in the evenings sometimes I feel lonely if I'm not out but my weekend tends to go from wednesday to sunday so it's not so bad really.

― Ronan (Ronan), Thursday, 6 November 2003 16:54 (twenty-two years ago)

oh right i get it ally

― amateur!st (amateurist), Thursday, 6 November 2003 16:56 (twenty-two years ago)

My moods are usually pretty level (thank you drugs, I guess)--no frolicking through gardens, but no long walks near bridges either. But two days ago, for no apparent reason, I went into a blind fucking rage that slid into a slough of despond. Then the next day back to normal. I don't mind moodiness necessarily, but I'd prefer that it made some kind of sense...

― mookieproof (mookieproof), Thursday, 6 November 2003 17:20 (twenty-two years ago)

"a slough of despond" !!!!

― Annouschka (Jody Beth Rosen), Thursday, 6 November 2003 17:21 (twenty-two years ago)

I am now in a mood in which I use poetic cliches.

― mookieproof (mookieproof), Thursday, 6 November 2003 17:22 (twenty-two years ago)

how about when you're in a relationship that MAKES you lose yr mind?

(um not that that's me. my friend's going through that now, round the bend rather)

(not that it's NOT me. wait I didn't say that no no no I didn't)

― Haikunym (Haikunym), Thursday, 6 November 2003 17:24 (twenty-two years ago)

Yeah, I find it really easy to be momentarily annoyed and raging about something and then 30 seconds later I've forgotten all about it. I think it's a good way to be, you know not dwelling on things and just letting the good things be good. I'm pretty consistent in my moods, most of the time.

― jel -- (jel), Thursday, 6 November 2003 17:44 (twenty-two years ago)

p.s. jody i'm glad you're happy

― amateur!st (amateurist), Thursday, 6 November 2003 17:45 (twenty-two years ago)

As am I!

Teeny OTM way up there, btw. Sometimes when I'm dwelling on something and know full well that it's not worth it, a little smokey treat/dry-erase-memory break is all I need.

― nickalicious (nickalicious), Thursday, 6 November 2003 18:06 (twenty-two years ago)

teeny OTM, amst also OTM about xanax

― Annouschka (Jody Beth Rosen), Thursday, 6 November 2003 18:39 (twenty-two years ago)

valium to thread! honestly. lately i've had shit coming at me from so many different sides that i'd be lost if didn't have mother's little helper.
not say that i'm always a pillhead. if i'm in a relatively good mood overall then i'm great at letting things go, but this month i've been wallowing in low-level anxiety/depression and every little thing assumes wuthering heights-esque proportions.

― lauren (laurenp), Thursday, 6 November 2003 18:56 (twenty-two years ago)

I need a doll!!

http://www.atthemoviesltd.com/big/valleyofdollsos.jpg

― Annouschka (Jody Beth Rosen), Thursday, 6 November 2003 19:16 (twenty-two years ago)

i just need a bouffant and a nice pair of bell-bottomed lounging pajamas and i'm all set.

― lauren (laurenp), Thursday, 6 November 2003 21:30 (twenty-two years ago)

I used to discard a lot of little things that I would have issues with as 'petty', but over time these things would accumulate and push me into a breakdown of sorts. For the past 5 years or so I've had one of these episodes every 6 months. It's pretty fucking horrbile. I've been gradually getting better with this, though.

― Andrew (enneff), Thursday, 6 November 2003 23:35 (twenty-two years ago)

how about when you're in a relationship that MAKES you lose yr mind?

Been there, done that, got the T-Shirt, lost it at the laundrette.

I really used to think that relationships were something that were an additional cause of stress and hassle, because I was always in ones that were making me crazy. All I can say is, it doesn't have to be like that. And if it is like that, then that person should get out of it. Sounds simplistic, and easier said than done. For someone who's not particularly balanced to start with, having a bad relationship that steals your equilibrium is much worse than being lonely.

― Citizen Kate (kate), Friday, 7 November 2003 08:58 (twenty-two years ago)

Kate is otm. I have been through very shitty relationships & fortunately I have come thru it resonably sane & am reeping the rewards of a very loving, supportive & fulfilling relationship.

― Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Friday, 7 November 2003 09:11 (twenty-two years ago)

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