How long have you waited for someone?

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Y'know... waited for someone? Is there that somebody that, if the situation were presented, you'd run away with foreveradeverandever? I know that question has been done before, mine is more along the lines of "are you waiting now?" How long have you held a candle for someone? Is anyone in an active holding pattern like I am?

― The usual poster... (ModJ), Thursday, 13 November 2003 23:21 (twenty-two years ago)

― @d@ml (nordicskilla), Thursday, 13 November 2003 23:23 (twenty-two years ago)

seems like there are two questions there. I think I hold a torch for several people, but it's not like I haven't moved on... I think.

― Spencer Chow (spencermfi), Thursday, 13 November 2003 23:23 (twenty-two years ago)

we'll always have the boathouse, spencer.

― fiddo centington (dubplatestyle), Thursday, 13 November 2003 23:27 (twenty-two years ago)

my, she was yar.

― Spencer Chow (spencermfi), Thursday, 13 November 2003 23:28 (twenty-two years ago)

In my head there's only one, but I can see where I loused up the phrasing. More to Spencer's point -- the "I think" part. I thought I had too, and yet here I am. Do certain people just "have your number" so to speak?

― Ups (ModJ), Thursday, 13 November 2003 23:29 (twenty-two years ago)

i don't wait for anyone. any past relationship, failed chances, missed opportunities, over and done.

― fiddo centington (dubplatestyle), Thursday, 13 November 2003 23:31 (twenty-two years ago)

So Jess is tougher than I...

― Ups (ModJ), Thursday, 13 November 2003 23:33 (twenty-two years ago)

Liar.

X-post.

― Nick Southall (Nick Southall), Thursday, 13 November 2003 23:34 (twenty-two years ago)

no, it's true. i learned my lesson long ago in regards to this.

― fiddo centington (dubplatestyle), Thursday, 13 November 2003 23:41 (twenty-two years ago)

So what was the final straw?

― Ups (ModJ), Thursday, 13 November 2003 23:42 (twenty-two years ago)

I'm surprised. I assumed that, like myself, your nasty, cynical edge is based firmly on the kind of romanticist idealism that you can enver... quite... fucking... kill.

― Nick Southall (Nick Southall), Thursday, 13 November 2003 23:42 (twenty-two years ago)

That's certainly the case for me.

― Sean (Sean), Thursday, 13 November 2003 23:45 (twenty-two years ago)

Cynics and romantics are the same, aren't they?

― Ups (ModJ), Thursday, 13 November 2003 23:47 (twenty-two years ago)

I'd say so.

― Nick Southall (Nick Southall), Thursday, 13 November 2003 23:48 (twenty-two years ago)

Four years. It's rubbish.

― anonymity, Thursday, 13 November 2003 23:49 (twenty-two years ago)

They can be.

― oops (Oops), Thursday, 13 November 2003 23:49 (twenty-two years ago)

OK, so has anyone ever had someone COME BACK to them after all the "if you set it free and it returns" stuff?

Right now I'm on 3 and a half, by the way...

― Ups (ModJ), Thursday, 13 November 2003 23:50 (twenty-two years ago)

3 and a half years, rather...

― Ups (ModJ), Thursday, 13 November 2003 23:51 (twenty-two years ago)

i thought this was primarily about sex. watch it with those italics.

i'd be interested in knowing how many people who consider "waiting" or waiting to be an option are focused, self-determined, productive people. not many, i'd bet.

and what does this say about self esteem? hrm.

― Dean Gulberry (deangulberry), Thursday, 13 November 2003 23:54 (twenty-two years ago)

9 years. Only I'm over it now. Sorta. And not actually waiting. Just 'hung-up'.

― Lies (Nick Southall), Thursday, 13 November 2003 23:55 (twenty-two years ago)

I have an ex from a year ago that I'd readily fuck, given the chance, but I wouldn't want to date him again. That might fall into a different category than this thread.

― anonnnn, Friday, 14 November 2003 00:22 (twenty-two years ago)

the final straw was waiting for someone to come back for three or four years and then they did and then our relationship fell apart and then they hated me and then they died. it would have been much better if i had kept the previous relationship - good times and bad - in the past (it ended sorta amicably...to the point where we were friends) - in the past, rather than trying to revive it. i'm not saying it can't work, just that i won't take the chance again.

― fiddo centington (dubplatestyle), Friday, 14 November 2003 00:59 (twenty-two years ago)

having just gone through a fairly painful breakup, i am much more interested in trying to salvage some sort of working friendship out of it than hoping it will come back in a few years "when we're both ready" only to potentially end horribly again. this may be defeatist, but life's too short.

― fiddo centington (dubplatestyle), Friday, 14 November 2003 01:01 (twenty-two years ago)

also, having just spent two years in a relationship i can use more friends than "partners" right now, anyway.

― fiddo centington (dubplatestyle), Friday, 14 November 2003 01:03 (twenty-two years ago)

OTM on that last point

― the surface noise (electricsound), Friday, 14 November 2003 01:04 (twenty-two years ago)

yeah finding them is the hard part.

― fiddo centington (dubplatestyle), Friday, 14 November 2003 01:06 (twenty-two years ago)

accepting them is the harder part

― Kim (Kim), Friday, 14 November 2003 01:44 (twenty-two years ago)

this thread has seriously depressed me

― fiddo centington (dubplatestyle), Friday, 14 November 2003 04:32 (twenty-two years ago)

Now you know how I feel... sheesh...

― Ups (ModJ), Friday, 14 November 2003 04:35 (twenty-two years ago)

Yes I would. But unfortunately he has some booty-ass live-in girlfriend. Bitch.

I still would run away with him if he asked though. In the mean time I just fuck him when we get the chance.

― A Girl Named Sam (thatgirl), Friday, 14 November 2003 05:29 (twenty-two years ago)

See that's what I'm talkin' about. How long were you together; if you were at all?

― ModJUps (ModJ), Friday, 14 November 2003 05:40 (twenty-two years ago)

http://www.meredy.com/jurado01.jpg

― gabbneb (gabbneb), Friday, 14 November 2003 05:46 (twenty-two years ago)

Are you talking to me Mod? I've dated the guy for about 5 months now. He's had the live-in the whole time but whatevah. . .

― A Girl Named Sam (thatgirl), Friday, 14 November 2003 05:48 (twenty-two years ago)

I'm starting to think I'm some kind of robot. I dont get hung up over anyone for more than maybe 6 months. The only exception was an overseas boyfriend who I waited 7 months to meet, another 5 months to see again... only to be told our enagagement was off.

And I got over that after about 3 months.

I like that I cope, but I feel a bit weird that I can switch it off so easily. I hold torches for no one whatsoever. Is that strange?

― Trayce (trayce), Friday, 14 November 2003 06:16 (twenty-two years ago)

I only hold torches for people who don't want me as much as I want them. When someone falls in love with me I run away in revulsion. Isn't that sick?

― A Girl Named Sam (thatgirl), Friday, 14 November 2003 06:18 (twenty-two years ago)

I waited for a half-hour, then she showed up at the bar and we had a pretty okay date although I didn't get a kiss and it didn't really work out. No matter though.

― hstencil, Friday, 14 November 2003 06:21 (twenty-two years ago)

I wonder if holding a torch for someone is kind of the inversion of having a huge 'crush gone obsession' for someone. In place of idealized fantasies of what the person is like and what your relationship would be like, you have like this frozen image of them and how things were, when really they probably aren't that person anymore. I guess these things tend to become their own beasts.

― bnw (bnw), Friday, 14 November 2003 06:27 (twenty-two years ago)

I waited for my friend for an hour earlier this year in the car, it was a summers evening and Energy Flash came on the radio, then Tony Senghore. In the end it transpired he had expected me to go home and come back.

― Ronan (Ronan), Friday, 14 November 2003 06:27 (twenty-two years ago)

A couple of years. While his relationship crumbled. And then when we finally got each other, we didn't know what to do with each other, and the whole thing ended within a couple of weeks. Sigh.

― Citizen Kate (kate), Friday, 14 November 2003 09:50 (twenty-two years ago)

Almost a decade ago, it began. I lived through some terrible, terrible experiences that made the other person wait, unintentionally... surprised I lived through it at all.. now I know the other person has moved on (was forced to when OTHER PEOPLE GOT INVOLVED) but I feel pulled towards them again and have been building my strength up for the last few years to give this it a shot again; so ask me by next year...

― Vic (Vic), Friday, 14 November 2003 10:47 (twenty-two years ago)

i've been waiting for kirsten since, my oh my, it feels like anutha century.

― enrique (Enrique), Friday, 14 November 2003 10:48 (twenty-two years ago)

since 'small soldiers'?

― RJG (RJG), Friday, 14 November 2003 10:49 (twenty-two years ago)

So long, I've been looking too hard, I've been waiting too long
Sometimes I don't know what I will find, I only know it's a matter of time
When you love someone, when you love someone
It feels so right, so warm and true, I need to know if you feel it too

Maybe I'm wrong, won't you tell me if I'm coming on too strong
This heart of mine has been hurt before, this time I wanna be sure

I've been waiting for a girl like you to come into my life
I've been waiting for a girl like you, your loving will survive
I've been waiting for someone new to make me feel alive
Yeah, waiting for a girl like you to come into my life

You're so good, when we make love it's understood
It's more than a touch or a word can say
Only in dreams could it be this way
When you love someone, yeah, really love someone

Now I know it's right, from the moment I wake up till deep in the night
There's nowhere on earth that I'd rather be than holding you tenderly

I've been waiting, waiting for you, ooh, I've been waiting
I've been waiting
(I've been waiting for a girl like you, I've been waiting)
Won't you come into my life?

― haha, Friday, 14 November 2003 11:23 (twenty-two years ago)

Ronan OTM

― Tracer Hand (tracerhand), Saturday, 15 November 2003 03:24 (twenty-two years ago)

The Long Game: Classic Or Dud?

― Tracer Hand (tracerhand), Saturday, 15 November 2003 03:24 (twenty-two years ago)

Carried a torch for someone for close to three years, only to see her again after I'd been married a year -- and then she made a move on ME!! I suspect emotional complexity rather than bad timing was the issue, so I'm probably better off, bla bla bla.

― Colin Meeder (Mert), Saturday, 15 November 2003 09:22 (twenty-two years ago)

The dude I hold out for isn't a long-game really. I've had and do have him on a regular basis, so how can that be a crush?

― A Girl Named Sam (thatgirl), Saturday, 15 November 2003 10:00 (twenty-two years ago)

two years pass...

Shit. I have just seen someone I had not seen for a couple of years. She told me she'd split from her boyfriend. Once, many years ago, we held hands. I feel like throwing everything away and running off.

― The Unusual Poster, Thursday, 23 February 2006 19:34 (twenty years ago)

What do you currently have, that you'd be throwing away? Anything of value?

― C J (C J), Thursday, 23 February 2006 19:58 (twenty years ago)

do you have any factory records seven inches?

― amateurist0, Thursday, 23 February 2006 20:08 (twenty years ago)

the knowledge you can't pick the things back up again, is what makes it so liberating. and...why we never do it

― terry lennox. (gareth), Thursday, 23 February 2006 20:19 (twenty years ago)

i sometimes wonder if i am waiting for myself

― terry lennox. (gareth), Thursday, 23 February 2006 20:26 (twenty years ago)

― gabbneb (gabbneb), Thursday, 23 February 2006 20:31 (twenty years ago)

i did this for three years in college, what a fucking waste of time

― kyle (akmonday), Thursday, 23 February 2006 20:38 (twenty years ago)

Several years with someone I love is what I have to throw away. I'd say it was invaluable if I hadn't revived this thread. Of course I'll do nothing. Except email her. Because she asked me to. But we've been friends now for more years than I've been involved with someone else.

― The Unusual Poster, Thursday, 23 February 2006 20:44 (twenty years ago)

Waiting for someone is a mug's game. It's like losing a game of Scrabble by clinging on too long to a set of tiles that's one short of making a great word.

― Alba (Alba), Thursday, 23 February 2006 21:00 (twenty years ago)

Changing all your tiles, when they make a good five letter word, in case you could miraculously make a nine letter word, classic or dud?

― jwehuowghbwu, Thursday, 23 February 2006 21:08 (twenty years ago)

I think you know the answer to that.

― Alba (Alba), Thursday, 23 February 2006 21:11 (twenty years ago)

I just saw Walk The Line, by the way, so I'm a bit screwed up on my attitude to this question, if truth be told.

― Alba (Alba), Thursday, 23 February 2006 21:13 (twenty years ago)

I should make clear, they don't actually play Scrabble in it.

― Alba (Alba), Thursday, 23 February 2006 21:13 (twenty years ago)

http://sketch.psycho-ward.org/godot.jpg

― ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, Thursday, 23 February 2006 21:14 (twenty years ago)

Yes. Robert Louis Stevenson had it right too. Better to travel than to arrive.

― ehvughveiug, Thursday, 23 February 2006 21:28 (twenty years ago)

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