If you could change one thing about yourself...

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What would it be? I mean, really think about it. What's the one thing you absolutely can't stand about yourself. I'm not talking so much about external factors, I'm talking about the internal personal stuff.

― Asker of the Question, Tuesday, 25 November 2003 19:24 (twenty-one years ago)

I think I would have to say I'd want to be less emotionally giving. I have to learn how to tell people no sometimes.

― Asker, Tuesday, 25 November 2003 19:26 (twenty-one years ago)

The list is too long.

― Ned Raggett (Ned), Tuesday, 25 November 2003 19:28 (twenty-one years ago)

sloth, wrath, envy, greed, gluttony, pride, smell

― fiddo centington (dubplatestyle), Tuesday, 25 November 2003 19:29 (twenty-one years ago)

I would not be such a dick.

― Huckleberry Mann (Horace Mann), Tuesday, 25 November 2003 19:30 (twenty-one years ago)

I'm somewhat defensive, sometimes. If I could change that, I'd fight fewer inner battles.

― Nichole Graham (Nichole Graham), Tuesday, 25 November 2003 19:32 (twenty-one years ago)

*I'd be able to remember things.
*I'd not be clumsy and hurt myself so often.
*I'd not trust everyone.

― nickalicious (nickalicious), Tuesday, 25 November 2003 19:34 (twenty-one years ago)

That's three, huh? ha ha

― nickalicious (nickalicious), Tuesday, 25 November 2003 19:34 (twenty-one years ago)

Fuck you.

― Huckleberry Mann (Horace Mann), Tuesday, 25 November 2003 19:36 (twenty-one years ago)

Oh yeah, try NOT to be such a dick all the time, Huck.

― Huckleberry Mann (Horace Mann), Tuesday, 25 November 2003 19:37 (twenty-one years ago)

What were we talking about?

― nickalicious (nickalicious), Tuesday, 25 November 2003 19:38 (twenty-one years ago)

I wish I could let things go, I tend to obsess over things that ultimately aren't all that important.

― El Diablo Robotico (Nicole), Tuesday, 25 November 2003 19:38 (twenty-one years ago)

i need to show up to something on time, for once.

― phil-two (phil-two), Tuesday, 25 November 2003 19:39 (twenty-one years ago)

i need to be able to let go of my feelings towards people (like my obsessive hatred towards my old boss). as the quebecois say (and this is my translation) "i wake up in the middle of the night just to hate him."

― cybele (cybele), Tuesday, 25 November 2003 19:50 (twenty-one years ago)

holy crap! I know lots of quebecois (mostly quebecoises), and never heard that expression. what is it in its original? i think i should get that tattooed on my body somewhere, because I am a very spiteful and hate filled person, despite all my attempts to be "not a dick"

― Huckleberry Mann (Horace Mann), Tuesday, 25 November 2003 19:54 (twenty-one years ago)

My first thought is to say my mental disorders but does that count? Also, despite how miserable they make my laugh at times. . .who would I be without them? Is that a preferable state? I don't know. . .

Past that, I would eradicate the part of me that obsesses over messy-haired boys on planks-with-wheels as it is rather embarrassing.

― A Girl Named Sam (thatgirl), Wednesday, 26 November 2003 08:15 (twenty-one years ago)

I'd probably be a bit more ambitious.
I'm dreadfully much so a child of recent times, as at 23 I don't really have any goals in life. I've never really missed them, except occasionally I talk to someone who has such high and lofty plans, and it makes me wonder why the hell my head never runs around trying to think of such things.

Also, I wish I'd like people more.

― Øystein H-O (Øystein H-O), Wednesday, 26 November 2003 08:29 (twenty-one years ago)

Worry less. This year I've worried every other minute.

― nathalie (nathalie), Wednesday, 26 November 2003 08:54 (twenty-one years ago)

I love Quebecois sayings, cybele! Theyre so cool.

I cant pick one thing, as I'm sure most people couldn't. Maybe my terrible lack of discipline. ie, things I want to do, I'd actually DO, not sit about saying "god I suck I should do X/not do Y".

which covers not writing enough, not getting the work I really want, drinking too much &c.

― Trayce (trayce), Wednesday, 26 November 2003 10:03 (twenty-one years ago)

i'd like to change my inability to be more like Fonzie

― stevem (blueski), Wednesday, 26 November 2003 10:18 (twenty-one years ago)

My first thought is to say my mental disorders but does that count? Also, despite how miserable they make my laugh at times. . .who would I be without them? Is that a preferable state? I don't know. . .
Past that, I would eradicate the part of me that obsesses over messy-haired boys on planks-with-wheels as it is rather embarrassing.

-- A Girl Named Sam (dallasdeadgir...), November 26th, 2003 8:15 AM.

I don't quite understand the philosophy/psychology behind this statement (particularly the bold bit, obv.). I've known two very dear people in my life who've said almost the exact same thing to me, and probably three or four others who would have had we ever had the chance to discuss it properly.

Sam, would it be OK if I started a thread using this post?

― Nick Southall (Nick Southall), Wednesday, 26 November 2003 10:21 (twenty-one years ago)

I wish I could replace all the muscles and bones of my back with bionics and hardened steel so I never have to experience this kind of PAIN again.

― Citizen Kate (kate), Wednesday, 26 November 2003 10:22 (twenty-one years ago)

Oh yeah. Pneumatic cock.

― Nick Southall (Nick Southall), Wednesday, 26 November 2003 10:24 (twenty-one years ago)

Or perhaps just 'be more motivated'.

― Nick Southall (Nick Southall), Wednesday, 26 November 2003 10:25 (twenty-one years ago)

And 'don't be so reductionist about feelings'.

― Nick Southall (Nick Southall), Wednesday, 26 November 2003 10:26 (twenty-one years ago)

Smaller tits.

― Madchen (Madchen), Wednesday, 26 November 2003 10:38 (twenty-one years ago)

I'll have them.

― Nick Southall (Nick Southall), Wednesday, 26 November 2003 10:41 (twenty-one years ago)

*takes out large knife, carves off breasts and hands them on a plate to Nick, Saint Agatha stylee*
http://www.catholic-forum.com/saints/sta04002.jpg

― Madchen (Madchen), Wednesday, 26 November 2003 11:04 (twenty-one years ago)

Change one thing about myself? Are you kidding me? It'd have to be a list of at least ten things, all distinct from one another and all in desperate need of attention. I think that, putting it in terms of a singular something that could be viewed at as a general category I could use for a few of those things, I'd say that I'd probably want to be a "someone", vs. an undefinable personality.

― Tenacious Dee (Dee the Lurker), Wednesday, 26 November 2003 11:51 (twenty-one years ago)

I'd like to lose my ability to lie too easily.

― Rob M (Rob M), Wednesday, 26 November 2003 11:51 (twenty-one years ago)

I'd like to be happier.

― neil simpson (neil simpson), Wednesday, 26 November 2003 12:00 (twenty-one years ago)

less lazy.

― Ronan (Ronan), Wednesday, 26 November 2003 13:53 (twenty-one years ago)

i'd have an orange for a head

― duane, Wednesday, 26 November 2003 14:28 (twenty-one years ago)

I'd like to feel less worthless.
Or worth anything at all.

― mei (mei), Wednesday, 26 November 2003 14:34 (twenty-one years ago)

Yes Nick. Unless you already have. Had a bit of a sleep-in today. ;)

― A Girl Named Sam (thatgirl), Wednesday, 26 November 2003 17:32 (twenty-one years ago)

i'd think before I spoke.

― possible m (mandinina), Wednesday, 26 November 2003 17:38 (twenty-one years ago)

I lived near Ste-Agathe, Quebec once..

― Huckleberry Mann (Horace Mann), Wednesday, 26 November 2003 17:42 (twenty-one years ago)

The worthless thing, yeah. I'd like to be someone who seemed nice and interesting.

Fantasy!

― ChrissieH (chrissie1068), Wednesday, 26 November 2003 18:15 (twenty-one years ago)

I'd find some sort of way to better focus on things -- actually keep up a steady routine and organize my day so I don't wind up spending half of it screwing around on the Internet and watching TV. Just an increased motivation that would result in more completed writing, my actually finishing projects, deciding to actually go out and find a girlfriend, that kind of shit.

― nate detritus (natedetritus), Wednesday, 26 November 2003 19:11 (twenty-one years ago)

I guess the one thing I'd most like to change relates to general confidence in social situations, you know like not thinking "oh I haven't spoken for a while" "oh, I dunno what to say now" "God, I'm so boring"...That sorta thing.

― jel -- (jel), Wednesday, 26 November 2003 19:15 (twenty-one years ago)

i would insert laser beams into my eyeballs. instant paralysis for those who choose to cross boundaries and/or otherwise piss me off.

― Emilymv (Emilymv), Wednesday, 26 November 2003 19:49 (twenty-one years ago)

Woody Allen speaks for me: "My one regret in life is that I wasn't born someone else."

In fact, no contest in recent years: get rid of the depression. I don't think of this illness as an inherent part of me, any more than when I have a cold.

― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Wednesday, 26 November 2003 20:36 (twenty-one years ago)

Emily is cool.

― Huckleberry Mann (Horace Mann), Wednesday, 26 November 2003 20:40 (twenty-one years ago)

Mr. Mann will be left unlasered.

― Emilymv (Emilymv), Thursday, 27 November 2003 01:00 (twenty-one years ago)

as the quebecois say (and this is my translation) "i wake up in the middle of the night just to hate him."

what's the French? because that is awesome.

also Nick's question about who would I be without them?:
when that's all you know, you are forced to wonder what exactly is you and what exactly is mental disorders

― mookieproof (mookieproof), Thursday, 27 November 2003 01:08 (twenty-one years ago)

Yes mookie's hitting on it. I really don't know what it's like to be balanced mood-wise. I've always either been depressed or manic. What does equallibrum feel like? Who I'd be if I smoothed out these extremes of my personality? In some ways, it's a frightening question.

― A Girl Named Sam (thatgirl), Thursday, 27 November 2003 02:49 (twenty-one years ago)

my bank account

― cinniblount (James Blount), Thursday, 27 November 2003 02:57 (twenty-one years ago)

appreciation
of my lucky fuckin' life
is much needed here.

― Haikunym (Haikunym), Thursday, 27 November 2003 03:02 (twenty-one years ago)

i wish i had more pudding

― cinniblount (James Blount), Thursday, 27 November 2003 03:05 (twenty-one years ago)

if there was one thing i would change it would be my inability to give you more pudding.

― Orbit (Orbit), Thursday, 27 November 2003 03:08 (twenty-one years ago)

Sorry folks--I can't remember the translation...I'll ask my pal tomorrow. Given that it seems that I now have an additional person I should be getting up at night and hating, I think I should make it my business to say it in the right language.

― cybele (cybele), Thursday, 27 November 2003 04:38 (twenty-one years ago)

i thought about this question, read over the replies, and tried to answer. then i realized it is explained better in this poem by dean young called instructions for living, which starts like this: "You will never know enough." it took this thread for me to understand the first line.

You could take heart in the first line.

― youn, Thursday, 27 November 2003 06:53 (twenty-one years ago)

sorry, my earnestness was meant for "is suicide a rational decision?"

― youn, Thursday, 27 November 2003 06:55 (twenty-one years ago)

Urgh. I'm actually going to start that thread now.

― Nick Southall (Nick Southall), Thursday, 27 November 2003 09:44 (twenty-one years ago)

Probably a good idea. Because I've been thinking about this, even though I haven't posted about it.

― Citizen Kate (kate), Thursday, 27 November 2003 09:46 (twenty-one years ago)

overkill.

― RJG (RJG), Thursday, 27 November 2003 09:46 (twenty-one years ago)

"Who would I be without it...?"

― Nick Southall (Nick Southall), Thursday, 27 November 2003 10:20 (twenty-one years ago)

four years pass...

What happened to the poll thread about this? It's vanished.

― the pinefox, Wednesday, 6 August 2008 15:02 (seventeen years ago)

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