Is it normal to have no interest in dating whatsoever?

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I don't know what it is, but I've had little to no urge to actually go out to bars and spend money on booze and then stagger about all self-conscious of my bad hair and my bad teeth in my attempts to charm complete strangers. Society seems to be kind of hostile or mocking to those who don't try to pull a girlfriend every week and get laid three times a month, and it's pissing me off. I live in Minnesota, so I see people a lot uglier than me gettin' some, but I'm worried that there's a lot I need to improve to actually be worthwhile in the whole looks department.

Damn it.

― nate detritus (natedetritus), Wednesday, 26 November 2003 19:20 (twenty-two years ago)

who's whatsoever, and is he/she being pushy?

― Huckleberry Mann (Horace Mann), Wednesday, 26 November 2003 19:23 (twenty-two years ago)

I don't think it's abnormal to not want to date in the manner described.

But, do you want to date at all ever? I mean, I wouldn't be so hung up on looks...

― jel -- (jel), Wednesday, 26 November 2003 19:28 (twenty-two years ago)

Dating is like hitting a home run or getting into Narnia--if you're trying too hard it's probably not going to work.

Or not.

― mookieproof (mookieproof), Wednesday, 26 November 2003 19:28 (twenty-two years ago)

But, do you want to date at all ever?

Occasionally. But I keep forgetting to try.

― nate detritus (natedetritus), Wednesday, 26 November 2003 19:29 (twenty-two years ago)

Actually, it's more like dunking a basketball--if you really believe you're able to do it, then you probably are.

― mookieproof (mookieproof), Wednesday, 26 November 2003 19:30 (twenty-two years ago)

don't worry about it then

― Huckleberry Mann (Horace Mann), Wednesday, 26 November 2003 19:30 (twenty-two years ago)

Nate, your question's like asking, "Is it normal to not like fruit?" and then elaborating with, "I mean, it's all mushy and rotten and it smells like the bus."

― Tep (ktepi), Wednesday, 26 November 2003 19:32 (twenty-two years ago)

Actually, I'm just tossing out horrible metaphors. You're pretty fucken cool--I'd do you myself for some of those 700MB mixes of death. I say be yourself and things will turn out grebt.

(nb I am in no way an expert)

― mookieproof (mookieproof), Wednesday, 26 November 2003 19:32 (twenty-two years ago)

you're conflating "dating" with "going to the hook-up bars to hunt skank". two slightly different things.

for some people i know, dating involves going to the local Hands-On Museum drunk and having entirely too much fun, or laughing too loudly in movie theaters and throwing raisenettes.

― Jeremy the Kingfish (Kingfish), Wednesday, 26 November 2003 19:35 (twenty-two years ago)

Where do I find girls to throw Raisinettes with?

(no that was not a euphemism)

― nate detritus (natedetritus), Wednesday, 26 November 2003 19:39 (twenty-two years ago)

Yes, my social life is fanfuckingtastic obviously

― nate detritus (natedetritus), Wednesday, 26 November 2003 19:40 (twenty-two years ago)

WHERE IS A SERIOUS GIRL WHO AIMS RAISINETTES?

― nickalicious (nickalicious), Wednesday, 26 November 2003 19:41 (twenty-two years ago)

d'you think that it's harder to meet new friends in Minnesota than elsewhere? It's a theory that made the rounds when I lived there.

― mookieproof (mookieproof), Wednesday, 26 November 2003 19:44 (twenty-two years ago)

Bruce: . . .I'm sorry, I'm seeing someone.

Dave: Oh, no no no no no. You misunderstand. I'm not--I'm not hitting on you, honestly. Look. You can. . .

Bruce: . . .Please, do yourself a favor. Quit before you get hurt.

Dave: What are you talking about?

Bruce: Before you know it, it will be Bam.

Dave: Bam, what?

Bruce: Bam--I love you. Bam--I need you. Bam--I'll leave [crosses in front of Dave] my wife and kids for you. Bam--just where the hell were you?

Dave: Wh--Well, I don't even have a wife, okay?

Bruce: How convenient for _you_.

Dave: No. It's not neccessarily so convenient. I mean, a wife might be very useful is some situations like, like moving a couch. But, since I don't have a wife, I can't move my couch.

Bruce: Well, how sad. You're having couch troubles.

Dave: No. I'm not having couch troubles. I don't even have a couch. I don't have a couch and I don't have a wife. Okay?

Bruce: Well, where do you sit and who do you sit with?

Dave: I stand, alone.

― bad jode (Jody Beth Rosen), Wednesday, 26 November 2003 19:44 (twenty-two years ago)

(sorry, that was just on)

― bad jode (Jody Beth Rosen), Wednesday, 26 November 2003 19:45 (twenty-two years ago)

d'you think that it's harder to meet new friends in Minnesota than elsewhere?

Maybe. Notice that almost all of the people that post here who used to live in Minnesota don't anymore.

― nate detritus (natedetritus), Wednesday, 26 November 2003 19:49 (twenty-two years ago)

Nate, seriously - try using Friendster! Look up friends of friends that seem cool and single, and drop them a friendly note! You know, just invite them along to a show or whatever.

― Broheems (diamond), Wednesday, 26 November 2003 19:49 (twenty-two years ago)

drop them a friendly note

If it ever actually got delivered.

― Ned Raggett (Ned), Wednesday, 26 November 2003 19:50 (twenty-two years ago)

Is that what Friendster's for? I thought it was just the punchline to a ton of blogger jokes.

― nate detritus (natedetritus), Wednesday, 26 November 2003 19:51 (twenty-two years ago)

That's one of my favorites actually Jode!

― nickalicious (nickalicious), Wednesday, 26 November 2003 19:52 (twenty-two years ago)

Do you still have interest in fucking, is the one I want to know about.

― Gear! (Gear!), Wednesday, 26 November 2003 19:54 (twenty-two years ago)

Yeah, but I usually deal with that the easy way

(I've already said too much)

― nate detritus (natedetritus), Wednesday, 26 November 2003 19:56 (twenty-two years ago)

Is that what Friendster's for? I thought it was just the punchline to a ton of blogger jokes.

post of the month - right there people¡

― dyson (dyson), Wednesday, 26 November 2003 19:58 (twenty-two years ago)

Are you not dating because you're lazy / afraid? Are you not dating because you're too busy / focused on other goals?

― Dean Gulberry (deangulberry), Wednesday, 26 November 2003 19:59 (twenty-two years ago)

I guess I don't have a whole lot of interest in dating myself. I have enough good friends to keep me company when I need it, and who needs sex when I can just jerk off? (Of course, there are probably also a whole host of psychological issues behind this.)

― jaymc (jaymc), Wednesday, 26 November 2003 20:01 (twenty-two years ago)

People who watch Dawson's Creek regularly tend not to have a healthy interest in dating. I know that much, for sure.

― Francis Watlington (Francis Watlington), Wednesday, 26 November 2003 20:11 (twenty-two years ago)

Are you not dating because you're lazy / afraid? Are you not dating because you're too busy / focused on other goals?

A little from column A, a little from column B

― nate detritus (natedetritus), Wednesday, 26 November 2003 21:31 (twenty-two years ago)

I don't want dating or the sexing, I just want the kissing.

― nickalicious (nickalicious), Wednesday, 26 November 2003 21:32 (twenty-two years ago)

What jaymc said.

― Charles McCain (Charles McCain), Wednesday, 26 November 2003 21:35 (twenty-two years ago)

I guess I don't have a whole lot of interest in dating myself.

I don't have a lot of interest in dating you either.

― hstencil, Wednesday, 26 November 2003 21:39 (twenty-two years ago)

I don't want dating or the sexing, I just want the kissing.

Are there kiss buddies, you know, like fuck buddies? Because I want one.

― Miggie (Miggie), Wednesday, 26 November 2003 22:06 (twenty-two years ago)

I don't have a lot of interest in dating you either.

:( Is it because I won't put out, Hstencil?

― jaymc (jaymc), Wednesday, 26 November 2003 22:13 (twenty-two years ago)

yeah plus you smell.

― hstencil, Wednesday, 26 November 2003 22:15 (twenty-two years ago)

Ah. Duly noted.

― jaymc (jaymc), Wednesday, 26 November 2003 22:23 (twenty-two years ago)

I don't much fancy the scenario you describe at the top - I use web dating sites instead, as I've said several times. I'm very in favour of this method.

― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Wednesday, 26 November 2003 23:18 (twenty-two years ago)

nickalicious i kiss you

― mookieproof (mookieproof), Wednesday, 26 November 2003 23:21 (twenty-two years ago)

I suffer from this ailment as well. It's crippling. I have an interest, but no desire to go out there and meet someone. I'm shy as all hell and women are scary. And I rather eat glass than "cruise chicks" or whatever.

― Jeanne Fury (Jeanne Fury), Wednesday, 26 November 2003 23:24 (twenty-two years ago)

And it doesn't help when the crushes I have are never reciprocated. SuXor.

― Jeanne Fury (Jeanne Fury), Wednesday, 26 November 2003 23:25 (twenty-two years ago)

I am in favour of meeting someone randomly without adjusting my current lifestyle. Unfortunately this approach hasn't quite worked.

― Ronan (Ronan), Wednesday, 26 November 2003 23:26 (twenty-two years ago)

I must be the luckiest guy in the world.

― hstencil, Wednesday, 26 November 2003 23:28 (twenty-two years ago)

mecca lecca hi, mecca hiney ho!!

― Tracer Hand (tracerhand), Thursday, 27 November 2003 00:14 (twenty-two years ago)

As I've recently discovered, you don't need a girlfriend when you have CAMWHORES.

― Dom Passantino (Dom Passantino), Thursday, 27 November 2003 00:34 (twenty-two years ago)

East Anglian sluts?

― Patrick Kinghorn, Thursday, 27 November 2003 00:48 (twenty-two years ago)

That's a tautology if ever I heard one.

― Dom Passantino (Dom Passantino), Thursday, 27 November 2003 00:50 (twenty-two years ago)

I am in favour of meeting someone randomly without adjusting my current lifestyle. Unfortunately this approach hasn't quite worked.
-- Ronan (ronan.fitzgerald...), November 26th, 2003.

hmm yes, like the old dropping a book in the library thing, you both reach for it, look up and stare into each other's eyes...

― elizabeth (elizabeth), Thursday, 27 November 2003 03:12 (twenty-two years ago)

(shortly after your skulls collide, I presume)

― nate detritus (natedetritus), Thursday, 27 November 2003 03:41 (twenty-two years ago)

mecca lecca hi, mecca CHONEY ho..

― mark p (Mark P), Thursday, 27 November 2003 04:08 (twenty-two years ago)

THis is the point where Dan creates enemies by flaunting the fact that he's happily married. Smug fucker.

― Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Thursday, 27 November 2003 05:39 (twenty-two years ago)

can you tell how jealous i am, dan¿ look.
look how jealous i am.
can you tell¿

― dyson (dyson), Thursday, 27 November 2003 05:44 (twenty-two years ago)

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