the being dumped blues

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Ian Johnson (orion), Friday, 28 November 2003 07:08 (twenty-two years ago)

oh no.
:-(

donna (donna), Friday, 28 November 2003 07:14 (twenty-two years ago)

sorry!

Emilymv (Emilymv), Friday, 28 November 2003 08:05 (twenty-two years ago)

relationships are overrated :(

ken c, Friday, 28 November 2003 11:04 (twenty-two years ago)

Sorry :(

I find baking a cake helps. A bit.

Archel (Archel), Friday, 28 November 2003 11:05 (twenty-two years ago)

You can now go out and have sex with other people.

Markelby (Mark C), Friday, 28 November 2003 11:26 (twenty-two years ago)

You can now masterbate and not feel guilty!

Johnney B (Johnney B), Friday, 28 November 2003 11:38 (twenty-two years ago)

everybody OTM! I R jealous

the surface noise (electricsound), Friday, 28 November 2003 11:57 (twenty-two years ago)

You can lose 2 stone in 2 weeks!

Sorry though :-(

Madchen (Madchen), Friday, 28 November 2003 12:06 (twenty-two years ago)

Masturbation makes people feel guilty?

(also, sorry if I seemed insensitive above. I do feel for you)

Markelby (Mark C), Friday, 28 November 2003 12:13 (twenty-two years ago)

I now have about 10 years worth of unfelt guilt to suddenly work through :(

Archel (Archel), Friday, 28 November 2003 13:05 (twenty-two years ago)

dude you'll live...every end is also a beginning...listen to "all kindsa girls" by the real kids

du@ne, Friday, 28 November 2003 14:18 (twenty-two years ago)

i am amazed that the only people who responded to this thread are people i don't know at all.

but i can have sex with other people, yes.

but masturbation never makes me feel guilty?

Ian Johnson (orion), Friday, 28 November 2003 23:05 (twenty-two years ago)

"...hey, don't knock masturbation. It's sex with someone you love."

Jeremy the Kingfish (Kingfish), Saturday, 29 November 2003 00:40 (twenty-two years ago)

always projecting.

RJG (RJG), Saturday, 29 November 2003 00:40 (twenty-two years ago)

"sex is good, but you can't beat the real thing..."

weasel diesel (K1l14n), Saturday, 29 November 2003 00:45 (twenty-two years ago)

http://yupki.mine.nu:8081/i/x613yupke.php

Orbit (Orbit), Saturday, 29 November 2003 00:55 (twenty-two years ago)

Go out drinking, wallow in it for a little while (remember...you were dumped. You are the victim!). Enjoy it. Then, dust yourself off and move on. DO NOT seek amends.....that'll turn you into a stalker.

Take solace in the fact that your ex probably feels guilty as sin right now.

Alex in NYC (vassifer), Saturday, 29 November 2003 05:29 (twenty-two years ago)

Do people really lose weight when they've been dumped? The last time I got dumped I immediately went out and inhaled a bagel sandwich.

Mandee (Jerrynipper), Saturday, 29 November 2003 05:55 (twenty-two years ago)

got drunk with my friends tonight, then hurt myself on the walk home. i was trying to climb a fence and slipped.

Ian Johnson (orion), Saturday, 29 November 2003 05:56 (twenty-two years ago)

one year passes...
dammit

-rainbow bum- (-rainbow bum-), Saturday, 19 March 2005 06:56 (twenty-one years ago)

I hate to tell you how he acted when the news arrived
He took some friends out drinking and it's lucky they survived

Amateur(ist) (Amateur(ist)), Saturday, 19 March 2005 15:44 (twenty-one years ago)

And yes this does suck, beyond my ability to put it into words

Amateur(ist) (Amateur(ist)), Saturday, 19 March 2005 15:44 (twenty-one years ago)

This scared me! I thought Ian got dumped again....

Dr. Eldon Tyrell (ex machina), Saturday, 19 March 2005 16:04 (twenty-one years ago)

uhhh I may be dumped soon.

Dr. Eldon Tyrell (ex machina), Sunday, 20 March 2005 02:41 (twenty-one years ago)

GOD dammit.

*waves hand*

and all the stereotypical stuff has followed. last night she was out all night with the stalker-ish guy with the huge crush on her who's part of all our problems.

i want to be a robot right about now.

signed out, Sunday, 20 March 2005 17:47 (twenty-one years ago)

haha no, jon, i am still on the fast track to babies and a house in the suburbs.

getting dumped sucks, though, dudes. my most heartfelt condolences.

Ian John50n (orion), Sunday, 20 March 2005 17:54 (twenty-one years ago)

My exgf and I still hang out even tho she dumped me. it's cute: she tries to sabatoge my new dates by getting me really drunk beforehand.

Silky Sensor (sexyDancer), Sunday, 20 March 2005 18:09 (twenty-one years ago)

nine months pass...
HI GUYS!!! sympathy pls, kthx.

special olympics date-keeper (orion), Tuesday, 10 January 2006 17:28 (twenty years ago)

hugs.

lauren (laurenp), Tuesday, 10 January 2006 17:32 (twenty years ago)

I'm sorry I said something mean about the obsessive interests thread now :( :(

Allyzay must fight Zolton herself. (allyzay), Tuesday, 10 January 2006 17:32 (twenty years ago)

words hurt, ally

Jimmy Mod (I myself am lethal at 100 -110dB) (The Famous Jimmy Mod), Tuesday, 10 January 2006 17:33 (twenty years ago)

hi lauren! i'm sorry i didn't come out to see you before you left. poor & sleepy.

Special Agent Gene Krupa (orion), Tuesday, 10 January 2006 17:35 (twenty years ago)

:(

tokyo nursery school: afternoon session (rosemary), Tuesday, 10 January 2006 17:38 (twenty years ago)

Sorry, bud.

Dr Morbius (Dr Morbius), Tuesday, 10 January 2006 17:42 (twenty years ago)

I'm so sorry, Ian. Breaking up is shitty and dud. Let's hang out tonight.

Laura H. (laurah), Tuesday, 10 January 2006 18:02 (twenty years ago)

Yes, let's! No ulterior motives, or anything.

Laurel (Laurel), Tuesday, 10 January 2006 18:09 (twenty years ago)

would it be easier to meet in the city after work? i kinda wanna go to buttermilk this evening cuz i will want to drink and also because it is their vinyl listening night. so pathetic.

but you know.. i think jon wants to get hot dogs.

Special Agent Gene Krupa (orion), Tuesday, 10 January 2006 18:13 (twenty years ago)

Oh no. Sorry Ian :(

jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 10 January 2006 18:15 (twenty years ago)

As long as you have my book, I don't care -- I'll even skip yoga. Whatever you like, ducks.

Laurel (Laurel), Tuesday, 10 January 2006 18:16 (twenty years ago)

SORRY IAN. I WILL BE IN CITY TONIGHT FOR MALKMUS SHOW. TEXT ME WHERE YOU GUYS ARE AND I WILL COME BY FOR A DRINK AFTER.

ShawShank Rambo Connection (Carey), Tuesday, 10 January 2006 18:26 (twenty years ago)

http://www.whisky.fr/contenu/img/420.gif

Play "Ride On" by AC/DC and drink this.

andy ---, Tuesday, 10 January 2006 18:28 (twenty years ago)

malkmus show tonight? i wanna go.

Special Agent Gene Krupa (orion), Tuesday, 10 January 2006 19:11 (twenty years ago)

it's not a malkmus show, it's a fuckin' rebecca gates show that he'll be at (not clear in what capacity). you couldn't pay me to see that shit.

hstencil (hstencil), Tuesday, 10 January 2006 19:34 (twenty years ago)

what a timely revive.

mark p (Mark P), Tuesday, 10 January 2006 19:36 (twenty years ago)

$9 for a rebecca gates, malk, ida singalong in the tap room is ok by me. it is ok, we won't try to make you accept money to go.

ShawShank Rambo Connection (Carey), Tuesday, 10 January 2006 19:48 (twenty years ago)

ian, shouldn't you be able to get a ticket somehow?

ShawShank Rambo Connection (Carey), Tuesday, 10 January 2006 19:49 (twenty years ago)

although, i feel like i have had heard enough ida for a lifetime.

ShawShank Rambo Connection (Carey), Tuesday, 10 January 2006 19:50 (twenty years ago)

no, ian does not get a ticket.

hstencil (hstencil), Tuesday, 10 January 2006 19:54 (twenty years ago)

i will see to it personally that there is a negative guest list for the show.

hstencil (hstencil), Tuesday, 10 January 2006 19:54 (twenty years ago)

their attention wanders to whatever's just passed by their nose

xpost

Tracer Hand, Monday, 28 April 2008 16:24 (seventeen years ago)

Sorry, I probably should have guessed that but I was searching too hard for some more obscure meaning...

Laurel, Monday, 28 April 2008 16:42 (seventeen years ago)

just pissed off after i (calmly) told her i didnt want to hear from her anymore and she hasnt even bothered responding (yet). says it all really.

there's an irony in there somewhere.

sorry for your break-up, titchy. text dumpings are especially sour - count yourself lucky it wasn't a fax :-)

CharlieNo4, Monday, 28 April 2008 16:52 (seventeen years ago)

or a homing pigeon.

titchyschneiderMk2, Monday, 28 April 2008 17:08 (seventeen years ago)

yeah you wouldn't have found out for ages.

CharlieNo4, Monday, 28 April 2008 17:10 (seventeen years ago)

a telegram might have been nice.

titchyschneiderMk2, Monday, 28 April 2008 17:11 (seventeen years ago)

...or a tatooed baby.

the next grozart, Monday, 28 April 2008 17:24 (seventeen years ago)

Is there a thread for being the dumper...? That can be pretty stressful as well sometimes. Especially if the person is already the frail and insecure type (I'm speaking from recent experience here)...

the next grozart, Monday, 28 April 2008 17:25 (seventeen years ago)

DUMPEE TRANSLATION RESOURCE:

"Complicated stuff I can't really talk about" = Met somebody else, been cheating on you.

"Let's just be friends" = I never want to see you again, in any situation.

I live in fear of getting dumped, think my gf is out of my league anyway...

Bodrick III, Monday, 28 April 2008 17:34 (seventeen years ago)

just as as long as you dont show that fear of being dumped or act like shes out of your league....

titchyschneiderMk2, Monday, 28 April 2008 17:37 (seventeen years ago)

benig dumped i can handle though. its feeling like ive been played or taken for a ride that irks me.

titchyschneiderMk2, Monday, 28 April 2008 17:38 (seventeen years ago)

Maybe I could keep her in the basement for like, 30 years?

Bodrick III, Monday, 28 April 2008 17:46 (seventeen years ago)

prob safe to say that by the end of the 30 years, she wont be out of your league anymore.

titchyschneiderMk2, Monday, 28 April 2008 17:48 (seventeen years ago)

Dunno, most women aren't really into nutters who would keep them locked in a basement for ages. That's the downside I suppose.

Bodrick III, Monday, 28 April 2008 17:49 (seventeen years ago)

why do you want her to respond when you said "leave me alone."? isn't she just doing what you asked her to, and you're getting annoyed by that?

the next grozart, there's a great thread somewhere where everyone is giving matt dc advice on how to break up with someone.

colette, Monday, 28 April 2008 17:53 (seventeen years ago)

bodrick, stop putting her on a pedestal. think of your needs.

"why do you want her to respond when you said "leave me alone."? isn't she just doing what you asked her to, and you're getting annoyed by that?"

yes. her not even saying 'sorry' or something just makes it seem like my hunch that there was fuck all there is right.

titchyschneiderMk2, Monday, 28 April 2008 17:55 (seventeen years ago)

eg - when she texted me yesterday it was to tell me that she got lost while driving not that far from where i live which makes the 'ohhh its too far!' thing more of a joke.

titchyschneiderMk2, Monday, 28 April 2008 17:57 (seventeen years ago)

may i suggest going out and getting really drunk?

bell_labs, Monday, 28 April 2008 18:00 (seventeen years ago)

Why is it so hard for people to just say, "look, I met someone else and I really don't feel anything for you anymore"? Of course it sucks to hear that from someone, but I'd have gotten over a couple of my break-ups a hell of a lot quicker if some honesty would have been used. I'd rather hear it from your mouth than getting half-assed excuses followed by seeing you with another guy two weeks later.

jon /via/ chi 2.0, Monday, 28 April 2008 18:02 (seventeen years ago)

^ this
doesn't solve anything but still really important
xpost to bell_labs

sleep, Monday, 28 April 2008 18:03 (seventeen years ago)

bodrick, stop putting her on a pedestal. think of your needs.

Nah, it's alright, it's been six months now, I think it'll be OK. I'm a bit older, she's at uni, so I worry about all those drunken nights out and sleazy boys.

Bodrick III, Monday, 28 April 2008 18:03 (seventeen years ago)

benig dumped i can handle though. its feeling like ive been played or taken for a ride that irks me.

-- titchyschneiderMk2, Monday, 28 April 2008 17:38 (27 minutes ago) Link

yeah this is otm, it also poisons any real chance you have at a real friendship in the future

deeznuts, Monday, 28 April 2008 18:07 (seventeen years ago)

yeah thats what i txted her. so not having any response just makes me think she cant even be arsed about friendship. its not all bad - ive been dating a couple of other ppl over the last few weeks cos i never felt 100% secure with this one so its not like ive got nothing, but its still a bit shit...

titchyschneiderMk2, Monday, 28 April 2008 18:13 (seventeen years ago)

four months pass...

HAI THERE

remy bean, Sunday, 14 September 2008 23:51 (seventeen years ago)

hope it goes okay....

Local Garda, Sunday, 14 September 2008 23:53 (seventeen years ago)

it would be better if i hadn't been replaced, albeit temporarily, in her affections by a travelling carpet-installation guy.

remy bean, Sunday, 14 September 2008 23:54 (seventeen years ago)

wow, thats some shit

genital grinder (roxymuzak), Sunday, 14 September 2008 23:59 (seventeen years ago)

time will make it better I guess.

Local Garda, Monday, 15 September 2008 00:00 (seventeen years ago)

funny, i was just dumped this weekend, too.

I suppose it's better i wasn't cheated on. but it's hard to hear someone tell you they don't love you.

hard too when they were the person you went to when you were sad.

pterodactyl, Monday, 15 September 2008 00:41 (seventeen years ago)

hard too when they were the person you went to when you were sad. <-- this is exactly true.

remy bean, Monday, 15 September 2008 00:43 (seventeen years ago)

I've had these for like four months now. I really hope they go away soon. She's invited me to her birthday party on friday, and I'll probably end up going even though it's blatantly a terrible idea.

chap, Monday, 15 September 2008 13:34 (seventeen years ago)

Shit, Remy. I'm sorry, man.

i hode interesting bracelet (Pashmina), Monday, 15 September 2008 13:36 (seventeen years ago)

the 'doing stupid things after being dumped which are blatantly terrible ideas' is all part of the vicous cycle and is unavoidable. Even if you've done it a million times before.

Ste, Monday, 15 September 2008 13:41 (seventeen years ago)

Ouch.

Why is it that every person who dumps you ever immediately goes for someone clearly inferior to you shortly after. One of life's many all-caps WTFs.

RabiesAngentleman, Monday, 15 September 2008 13:53 (seventeen years ago)

I nearly revived this thread to post the Wodehouse quote I posted to what's the funniest sentence or two or paragraph you read today? stuff from ilx not allowed!. Bummer to see it revived for more serious reasons. Sorry remy. Go kill some bears if that helps.

Convert your pencil into a large pole (caek), Monday, 15 September 2008 13:59 (seventeen years ago)

three months pass...

My turn! Seven and a half years till this afternoon. Middle of the night now and non one to talk to. Feeling a bit shit to be honest. :(

Chuck_Tatum, Monday, 12 January 2009 08:09 (seventeen years ago)

Just happened to a friend of mine - 7 or so years. He was dumped on his birthday ans she was the one who had an affair. He was more pissed than sad as far as I could tell. Said he ended up going to see a movie alone after he was dumped (The Spirit which ended up being a sucky movie as well).

Herm, what can I tell u since I never get dumped - since I never am in a relationship. All I can say is that you should be due for a spiritual awakening with a fresh new start and new energy.. you have experience of a long lasted love life and that too will help you when finding the right girl

But until then - get angry and bottle up the sadness

❤ⓛⓞⓥⓔ❤ (CaptainLorax), Monday, 12 January 2009 09:07 (seventeen years ago)

Chuck, Whisky. Whisky, Chuck. Sorry to hear about yr situation. Prior to my current 4-year stint, I'd never made it past 1.5 years, so I can't really empathize. Indulge, gallavant, cry your eyes out and burn it out of your system as quickly as possible: this has been the best approach for me in the past.

Pain don't hurt. (Pillbox), Monday, 12 January 2009 10:07 (seventeen years ago)

sorry chuck

Tracer Hand, Monday, 12 January 2009 10:54 (seventeen years ago)

commiserations...hope you can struggle through

Local Garda, Monday, 12 January 2009 10:57 (seventeen years ago)

Oh, man. Commiserations, dude.

Special topics: Disco, The Common Market (grimly fiendish), Monday, 12 January 2009 11:42 (seventeen years ago)

we groove together buddy

Goodnight, Mr. Johnson. (country matters), Monday, 12 January 2009 12:40 (seventeen years ago)

Don't know who to talk to. Crying all day. Partner says she despises me.
My sister is having a baby today, should be one of my life's happiest days.
This is the worst day I've ever lived. Sorry. So sad.

Chuck_Tatum, Saturday, 24 January 2009 21:34 (seventeen years ago)

Sorry, don't answer that.

Chuck_Tatum, Saturday, 24 January 2009 21:38 (seventeen years ago)

I'm so sorry Chuck. It might help to get some fresh air outside, if you can.

the maximum value that ZS obtains given its constraint is 8 (Z S), Saturday, 24 January 2009 21:41 (seventeen years ago)

and you don't have to apologize, it's understandable.

the maximum value that ZS obtains given its constraint is 8 (Z S), Saturday, 24 January 2009 21:41 (seventeen years ago)

chuck! so sorry to hear it. hang in there bud.

s1ocki, Saturday, 24 January 2009 21:44 (seventeen years ago)

five months pass...

Dumped and loving it. Kinda. Almost.
Well, it's not so bad.

Trip Maker, Wednesday, 15 July 2009 13:51 (sixteen years ago)

:-( since when?

Unregistered Googler (stevienixed), Wednesday, 15 July 2009 13:56 (sixteen years ago)

Over lunch yesterday. Classy, eh?
And we even work in the same library!
But it's really not so bad, was the right thing to do, blah blah blah.

Trip Maker, Wednesday, 15 July 2009 14:00 (sixteen years ago)


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