The Cognitive Dissonance Of Visiting Friends That Are Doing Poorly

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Over the holidays, I visit everyone I know, and some of them are having a miserable go of it this year. I feel a) bad for them because I really want them to be happy b) relieved that I'm not the only one fucking up, sort of glad they are too.

Don't you?

― Dancing Queen, Thursday, 11 December 2003 08:52 (twenty-one years ago)

Example: I've had some very intense roommate troubles this past year that really managed to fuck me up financially and dampen my lust for life, doubly because I know I should be stronger than letting it get to me. So when I visited a friend whose ex-roomie left her hanging with two months of utilities and a mysterious online purchase bill, I was thinking 1) how awful! 2) yesssssss.

― Dancing Queen, Thursday, 11 December 2003 09:02 (twenty-one years ago)

i'd experience relief far more often than schadenfreude but generally just sympathy

― the surface noise (electricsound), Thursday, 11 December 2003 09:47 (twenty-one years ago)

Only real joy I can get out of this is when I see some sign that my having shown up has made the other person happier, as occured recently.

Ex-friends who are doing poorly are another matter.

― Colin Meeder (Mert), Thursday, 11 December 2003 10:11 (twenty-one years ago)

I see that look in peoples' eyes when they visit my house! Money doesn't exactly pour into my life. But I am rich on the inside. Must be all that sorboline I've been eating.

― colin s barrow (colin s barrow), Thursday, 11 December 2003 11:15 (twenty-one years ago)

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