Yr ex admitting publicly that he likes you "just as much as before." Now what?

Ken, the only person I'm 'sort of' seeing is him.

Pink, I don't know. I'm a different person now than when I was with him. For the better. I'm not in love with him now but that could probably change if we started dating again. I just worry about myself falling into old, negative patterns with him.

*sigh*

FWIW I was desparately in love with him when we were together. I saw us spending our lives together and was devasted when he broke up with me.

Did he know this? Maybe he was kind of scared away by this level of commitment, but has now come around and realizes that he's more on the same page as you once were.

Never say never, I broke up with mr teeny amongst high personal drama and eventually begged him to take me back.

We started having ex-sex while he was still seeing someone else and both said that's all it was. He's broken up with her and is definitely acting towards me like it's more than sex. Ending his emails with lines of "xo", saying he misses me etc. I'm a bit more reticent.

When we were together he could be very jealous and possessive. I found myself being focused on keeping him happy and gave up a lot of my independance for that. I don't want that to happen again. But I guess that's mostly up to me, right?

That being said...dude, Sam, nothing else you've said about him so far on thread makes this sound like a good idea. I'm pretty sure that, like anyone, you're not going to lay out the entire life story here but from what you're saying, this sounds like something that you shouldn't get involved in, and that maybe the ex-sex should stop.

I think that, if you really did think it was a good idea to get back with him, you wouldn't be asking ILX. At least that's the way I behaved with my relationship questions (YMMV)

ally's right in that you are who i usually turn to when i want i know is the truth validated.

Urgent and key point: when a coupling of this sort is new, exciting, fun and commitment-free, it feels great, perfect, wonderful. The problem is it doesn't stay that way. He wants you right now, and he's enjoying that as it's exciting and unpredictable and a challenge.

BUT if he was an asshole to you before, the odds are it'll be the same again. But it'll take until he gets bored. I know his infidelity with you shouldn't be a deal-breaker, but it's still a shitty thing to do to *someone*, and combined with his other flaws he doesn't sound like that great a prospect.

If you can genuinely see a future for the two of you, and if you believe he can too, then maybe it's worth it. If not, then it'll only end and end nastily.

(p.s. some of my friends are convinced that sometimes you need to get back together with an ex to be sure that you weren't right together the first time round. Personally, I think that's nonsense. But who knows)

And thinks that you only liked her for sex?