being convinced that someone is about to dump you

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that dreaded phrase 'I need to talk to you' ... wondering how to deal with it (if being really sweet when you meet is just an underhand way of making them feel worse about it or even back out) ... analyzing their tone of voice ... desperately thinking what else it might be about ... should you tell them if it's a false alarm after all..

*sigh*

― AN Other, Thursday, 5 February 2004 19:44 (twenty-two years ago)

Would you really want them to back out of it, if that's what they meant? I think you should just try to just hear what they have to say. It's very thoughtless to make someone wait any amount of time after saying something like that, though - I hope you find out what they meant soon and it's okay.

― jazz odysseus, Thursday, 5 February 2004 19:51 (twenty-two years ago)

It's hard news to take if that's the case, but think of how much worse it is to be involved with someone who doesn't really want to be with you. I'd much rather know and be cut free. Also, if you really feel that might be the case and it isn't, it's time to analyze why you feel that you are about to be dumped.

― webcrack (music=crack), Thursday, 5 February 2004 21:37 (twenty-two years ago)

At least they want to tell you! That is 1,000,000% better than the ol' avoid/ignore-them-til-they-get-the-point tactic!

― nickalicious (nickalicious), Thursday, 5 February 2004 23:05 (twenty-two years ago)

but i love that tactic! :(

― the surface noise (electricsound), Thursday, 5 February 2004 23:20 (twenty-two years ago)

No way - people who do that are complete cowards who deserve to be stabbed in the face!

Ok, not really, but the urge is certainly there.

― Kim (Kim), Thursday, 5 February 2004 23:53 (twenty-two years ago)

What sucks also is when you say "I want to talk to you..." and then the other person assumes it's something to fear when in reality you just wanted to schedule some alone time to talk. Christ.

― dean! (deangulberry), Friday, 6 February 2004 00:09 (twenty-two years ago)

"I want to talk to you... about Christ."

― Tracer Hand (tracerhand), Friday, 6 February 2004 01:06 (twenty-two years ago)

If anyone ever, EVER uses the "ignore them til they get the point" tactic on me again, I will make their sorry excuse of a life even less worth living. It is a low cunty lazy approach, and bides no one any fucking dignity. No matter how over someone you are, at least tell them SOMETHING.

(Can you tell it doesnt impress me? heh)

― Trayce (trayce), Friday, 6 February 2004 01:11 (twenty-two years ago)

"I want to talk to you... about the wonderful opportunity that is AMWAY!"

― Aaron W (Aaron W), Friday, 6 February 2004 01:12 (twenty-two years ago)

Trayce, that's exactly what my ex did to me. I should be over it to the point where I don't need to talk about, but we had a great relationship, totally open and communicative, and when he decided he wanted out for whatever reason, he just ignored me, was rude to me, hung out with me but barely acknowledged me, etc. It was a horror, and I still resent him for it.

― Sean (Sean), Friday, 6 February 2004 01:18 (twenty-two years ago)

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