Asexuality

nary.

Heh, yeah that's why I added the "or anything else" bit.

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silly but good!

On a serious note, I was asexual as a teenager. Great adaptative behavior -- the only interactions I had with the opposite sex back then were when the boys from the high school across the street attempted to humiliate me (attempts that WEREN'T successful, I should note, thanks to the suspiciousness I carried around with me for such scenarios). I was perfectly satisified with the type of celebrity crush I had back then, as well, which just involved looking at pictures of these celebs and admiring their physical appearance. Never even thought of kissing them; just fantasized about platonic friendships while not actually holding my breath for such a thing to occur.

I suppose one could say that considering my lack of sexual experience and the relative chasteness of my present-day crushes, I'm still continuing to be asexual, but I have started to feel some emotions awakening over the past couple of years or so. Nothing racy -- just moving away from being asexual.

With just anyone? At this particular time? Oh yes, absolutely.

But who knows what could possibly happen with the entrance of that aforementioned "real, honest-to-goodness relationship"? Can't possibly predict what will happen then.

Do you feel there is something "wrong" with being asexual?

Honey, very few things in this crazy world of ours are set in stone. I'm coming to believe this more and more each day. I mean, for instance, take the asexuality thing. I stated upthread that my asexuality's been for "adaptative purposes", meaning that as of now it's been a means for me to live the kind of life I've living without complications. If it wasn't for this absence of sexual feelings, I think I would've buried myself in the grave of desperation dug by unfulfilled wants and desires. If my circumstances were to change, however, who knows what could happen?

Do you feel there is something "wrong" with being asexual?

No, absolutely not. I don't see anything "wrong" with having the same frame of mind that I've had for as long as I can remember. In fact, I kinda wish more people were asexual. At the very least, it would make me feel as though I'm not as odd as I feel for having a lack of intimate experiences.

Well, repressing your sexuality doesn't necessarily mean you are asexual though does it?

I don't feel attracted to men's or women's bodies.
It's not that I don't want to think about it.

Err... on a serious note... Maybe you have a hormone imbalance? Or are you on any medications?

(I think that's enough of my Quincy impersonation)

bah I think it's simply a matter of focusing away from sex to avoid mental complications and muddle.

very useful!

I can't manage it anymore myself though, my sex fantasies lately seem limited to crushes on dead celebs because I keep getting rejected by living people around me - IN MY HEAD. fuck, my brain hates me

I don't feel attracted to men's or women's bodies.
It's not that I don't want to think about it.

Well, I wasn't attracted to men's or women's bodies for a rather long time, m'dear. Especially when I was a teenager -- I didn't feel as though I "didn't want to think about it", it's just that it never factored into the equation. Sometimes when I would overhear conversations with various classmates of mine describing how things were going with their boyfriends, I would feel a little twinge of envy, but honestly, at that time I doubt very highly that I would've known what to do with a boyfriend at the time. Maybe just suggested we go to a movie and then never think about even holding hands or anything like that.

Maybe to fit in and be like everyone else?

Dee owns this thread - I've seldom seen her more insightful.

I was thinking for some people that fear of being lonely is much more of motivation to want to get involved in a relationship with another, more than desire for sex.