Discussing your sex life when you are married, Dudley dud dud dud.

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An observation to go with the old boy:stud girl:slag tradeoff.

Namely, if you are a lad and single, it's ok/expected to talk/big up/brag about your sex life. But if you're married or long term, its more or less offensive (certainly to the single lad).

That's not me starting a discussion about my own, I never did when I was single anyway.

What say yez?

― mark grout (mark grout), Tuesday, 10 February 2004 15:03 (twenty-two years ago)

TS: old boys vs. stud girls.

― N. (nickdastoor), Tuesday, 10 February 2004 15:07 (twenty-two years ago)

nobody is allowed to discuss their sex life in my presence, i forbid it

― puritanm (blueski), Tuesday, 10 February 2004 15:11 (twenty-two years ago)

I think it's just more repspectful to your partner to not 'brag' about your sex life.

― Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Tuesday, 10 February 2004 15:12 (twenty-two years ago)

Namely, if you are a lad and single, it's ok/expected to talk/big up/brag about your sex life.

Not in my experience. My friends would think you were being a complete wanker if you did this.

― N. (nickdastoor), Tuesday, 10 February 2004 15:13 (twenty-two years ago)

'N' otm here, I think.

― Pashmina (Pashmina), Tuesday, 10 February 2004 15:13 (twenty-two years ago)

I agree with you, like I say I never did. Just my observation that 'received wisdom' dictates this situation...

― mark grout (mark grout), Tuesday, 10 February 2004 15:15 (twenty-two years ago)

The few times I've discussed my/0ur (married) sex lives, it's been w/other couples that we know quite well, and it wasn't bragging, it was more discussing which mildly kinky activities were enjoyable, or not. In retrospect, that does actually seem a little dud!!

― Pashmina (Pashmina), Tuesday, 10 February 2004 15:18 (twenty-two years ago)

In a way, only by not referencing my other half directly (or at all), could I discuss/advise about anything. It's a privacy thing as well as a 'not wanting to come over a big stud/knowitall' situation.

― mark grout (mark grout), Tuesday, 10 February 2004 15:22 (twenty-two years ago)

I shd point out that both of us were present on said occasions as well.

― Pashmina (Pashmina), Tuesday, 10 February 2004 15:28 (twenty-two years ago)

Well that's fine, good, nice and not the scenario really.

More: The person who thinks it's ok to discuss last night's shag/conquest, does not want it set up alongside someone in a long term relationship where it's more a 'given'. And probably better anyway.

(Second time I tried to post this, prev version, lost by browser, made more sense probably)

― mark grout (mark grout), Tuesday, 10 February 2004 15:37 (twenty-two years ago)

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