You're my best friend and I hate you

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hope it gets better, for you.

Of course, if your friend doesn't stick with you through difficult times, you can feel free to cut the friendship loose because that friend wasn't a good one to begin with, just to let you know.

I said, "Hence the name."

One of my friends said "What?"

I just said, "That's how it got its name."

I thought everyone knew that phrase.

Choker. It's like a necklace but it fits tightly around your neck.

...before you make her sniff the glove...

What do want?

Your birthday's coming up right?

My mom and I went to the store today and the guy at the cashier gave me some Valentine's Day stickers. I told him my birthday is on Valentine's Day and he gave me more stickers.

they still like you, yes?

Yeah I guess. I'm a good friend but I think I'm starting to make it more obvious that I'm getting annoyed by them.

try to be patient. i'm sure that they don't mean to annoy you, especially since they still like you.

You do not know my best friend. It's almost like it's her mission in life to annoy people, and I'm the main target. She likes to annoy. She will say the stupidest thing and ask the same question a milllion times. (I know, my what post. But she asks for the simple reason of annoyance)

Oh, one thing that really bothers me is that she thinks she could beat up just about anyone sometimes. Man. I am way stronger than her. I'm stronger than all my friends. And I mean stronger physically and mentally.

When she tries to threaten people, it looks like a joke, but she takes it seriously. Then they kind of make fun of her by pretending they're scared of her, and she thinks they really are.

I don't mean to sound like I'm having a go but geez, enjoy being a kid, cuz it only gets worse from here believe me. Lighten up a little! Theyre TWELVE (presumably), you dont need to be so hard on kids for acting like KIDS!

God the world makes me cranky sometimes.

yeah, sorry for the thread hijack... saw the thread title and was suddenly reminded of a couple of old friends that i had to ditch, because as aja says, i just wanted to "yell and curse" at them far too often. i hear ya.

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I have one. My best friend, I've known for years. Went through some rough times, with his divorce last year. I was there for him as much as I could be, made sure to keep him active, always invited him out, but he often declined and I understood.

I met someone at a hobby of mine that I decided I was interested in, and a friend of mine gave me a tip that she was interested in me. So I asked her out, and was stupid enough to tell the best friend.

Now, the best friend happened to know this person from many years earlier (though at the time, he wasn't sure how), but he didn't talk to her or know her currently. No sooner did I tell him about her that he hijacked a Facebook thread that her and I were having and threatened to tell old stories about me. Nothing harmful, but in the weeks coming he was always replying to her facebook posts and occasionally making flirtatious comments and having lengthy conversations with her on there.

I wound up starting to date this girl, and the behavior continued. Then both of them remembered where they knew each other from and it got worse. And he'd still semi-hit on her. But I was ok with it because it was still semi-innocent.

Then then started instant messaging each other...a LOT. I'd find out he was talking about me, too, and while it was semi-joking, he wasn't exactly talking me up. He'd tell her embarassing things about me or things that didn't paint me in a good light.

It got more and more frequent to the point where it'd interrupt my own conversations with her. Then, he met a friend of this girl's who he became interested in. Finally...I said, he can leave my date alone. So we invite him out so he can talk to her.

And he does, a little, but pretty much just talks to MY date most of the night. I almost think he's doing it on purpose, just to annoy me to the point where I just say "fuck it" because he doesn't like it that I have a date and he doesn't.

Or maybe I'm just overreacting? Who cares anymore....

he wants to fuck your girlfriend, if he is not doing it already

sounds like either a) your friend is interested in getting w/your girl or b) wants you not to have a girlfriend so that you're "even."

thinking more the latter. Oh, forgot to mention...anytime I'd spend most of the weekend with the girl, he'd put up facebook statuses whining about being alone. and on one occasion accused me of 'leaving him behind' since I didn't invite him to a movie when the two of us went.

Which begs another sub-question. Is it possible to call a friend a 'best' friend, and yet when ranking friends in terms of trust, put 3-4 other friends on top of him in that list?

I'd say you might want to re-evaluate his "best friend" status. But, as you said, he has recently been through a really rough patch in his life, and maybe he's tired of being pitiable, and thus he's being kinda a dick to compensate. But then we have no idea what led to his divorce.

maybe someone who still has their diary from when they were 10 can help answer that.

xp estela: BJO's friend does remind me of what I was like at age 10.

Where did they end up knowing each other from?

yea, I gave him a mulligan for a while due to the rough patch. But the thing is...he isn't making the effort to improve things for himself. 5-6 months ago, I thought he was trying a lot harder than he is now. But then again...I can't exactly say I know what it feels like either.

They knew each other from church years earlier...not even close friends really, just acquaintainces in their youth.

My best friend in HS would try and appropriate every single guy I ever expressed interest in. Even the ones I was seriously dating, she'd call out of the blue late at night and stuff. They just thought she was a creepy psycho.

So did I after it didnt stop.

he sounds like a dbag thru and thru, i would "break up" with him

But then we have no idea what led to his divorce.

if i'm thinking of the right best friend there was a long dismal thread about it at the time that was replete with oh forgot to mentions, it was hard to condemn the fleeing bride.

the bride cheated on him and then said it was his fault.

which happened...oh.....several months before the much less egregious error the friend made. Which she used as the reason for the split until it was finally revealed later that she had cheated.

xpost Yeah I thought where they knew each other from was going to be the twist...

if it were it'd make more sense.

alright, I feel better having said it. that has to count for something.

I think you have to decide how committed you are to helping your friend.

I met someone at a hobby of mine that I decided I was interested in,

this is the sentence that fascinates me

it's written wrong. he means he decided that he was interested in the someone, not in the hobby.

needs a ,

or 2

What was the hobby?

Was it this? http://ponyplay.org/ponyplay.html

So he's basically trying to piggyback onto your relationship, right? Like he's in no state for finding anyone on his own, so he'll just insinuate himself into your couple and mooch off of you. Even all the stuff about embarrassing stories sounds like his way of "claiming" you -- both letter her know that you're "his" friend and making it so her whole process of getting to know you somehow routes through him, so that he remains a part of things.

I guess hopefully that's just a function of being lonely and needy and clinging, and he hasn't taken the lesson from his marriage that you might as well steal other people's significant others instead of having them steal yours.

Sometimes, after the same girl puts a cold metal bit put between your teeth for the eighth week running, some little look she gives really makes you notice her for the first time.

Put.

That's a weird word, when you look at it.

I mean, that "embarrassing stories" stuff seems like a really common thing people do when they want attention and one of their friends is getting it -- like laying claim to the person, stealing the attention and spotlight back, and sort of mildly demeaning the person and building themselves up, all the while acting like the whole thing is fond and they're great friends. (What I think these people don't realize is that they're still talking about you.)

Oh, Dan. Dan, Dan, Dan.

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xp nabisco: I think it also is a way to demonstrate familiarity and intimacy - I think it only is "building themselves up" in the sense that is a) putting the story's subject down and b) demonstrating that familiarity. It's a way for the person to feel included and important. But maybe that's what you mean by "laying claim to the person," and we're basically saying the same thing.

basically exactly yes

i feel like i missed some memo where i am supposed to start taking bo jackson overdrive threads seriously now or something

i still want to know the hobby that shall not be named tho

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Why do I never notice BJO until he has a "friend drama"?

love those dogs!
and the hobby idea!
but don't get Hand's metal bit post.

luck?

the "metal bit" bit was a reference to pony play.

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bjo needs better friends

what is pony play ?

What was the hobby?

Was it this? http://ponyplay.org/ponyplay.html

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truthfully I only talk about the ones I have trouble with. consider me guilty as a newscaster.

well I appreciate everyone's insight. thx

I'm dead in the water now. My other friend said it best, shoulda stopped this before it became a problem.

The girl I'm dating muttered something the other day about how I should care more about my best friend...of course my side doesn't matter. It was tabled shortly after but it will come up again, I'm sure.