Birthdays Alone C\D

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I only ask coz all my friends are away when I turn 28 on Sunday. Okay i work in Bangkok so finding some sort of companionship is not really a problem but that was not what I had in mind. I guess its down to Kao San to get drunk with random backpackers. (Who are all getting much younger like policemen)

― Kelly, Wednesday, 24 March 2004 08:54 (twenty-two years ago)

on my birthday this year, I was alone. I spent the day before and day after having a time of it, but on my birthday itself I found myself sitting alone in front of a window overlooking the street, looking sadly at a cupcake with a single candle in it, which I then blew out. I looked out the window and saw a small child laughing at me. It hurt, man.

― Gear! (Gear!), Wednesday, 24 March 2004 08:56 (twenty-two years ago)

sorry but it was funny

― nelson (Oops), Wednesday, 24 March 2004 08:59 (twenty-two years ago)

I'm reviving this thread because this is going to be me in a few weeks and I'm trying to convince myself that it doesn't really matter, but the truth is that it DOES matter and I'm depressed that the one time I actually want someone to make a fuss, no one is going to, and even if I did have a party on the only available date, no one would turn up because it's already been claimed for another ILXer's party, and besides, no one would turn up anyway because everyone HAAAAAAAAATES me and I'm going to have a pity party and just eat some worms.

― Psycho Kate (kate), Wednesday, 24 March 2004 15:42 (twenty-two years ago)

Why don't you have a party on a different date? I share my birthday who two other friends, both of them stalwarts of a social circle that I recently (okay, five years ago) entered and has become my mail group of friends. So one of them has always had a quiet party (Jan 2nd is a shit day for proper parties), which leaves me out of options other than turning up. So I just had a party a few days later - great success!

― Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Wednesday, 24 March 2004 15:52 (twenty-two years ago)

Because we're out of town from the day before my birthday till a couple of days after my birthday.

It's not even the "someone else is having a party on the only day available" that's bothering me, but the whole "partner scheduling his big event on the day of my birthday" thing which is bothering me more than I thought. He doesn't understand why it's such a big deal, because, as he pointed out, he had an opening the day after his birthday and didn't celebrate his birthday at all because he was too busy getting the exhibit set up. BUT HE DOESN'T CARE ABOUT BIRTHDAYS!!! And I do!

Sigh.

Sorry, I'm not really looking for advice, I just want to vent.

― Psycho Kate (kate), Wednesday, 24 March 2004 15:56 (twenty-two years ago)

Not to mention the whole "Oh my god, I have no friends, people only used to come to the parties because of the band, and now I don't have the band any more, they won't even remember my birthday" thing despite the fact that I used to jump up and down and make such a huge fuss that people felt obligated to go and perhaps I'm just suffering from fuss-withdrawl...

Because honestly, just cause I have no identity outside of a stupid pop band doesn't mean that I don't have any friends... or does it? Wah!

― Psycho Kate (kate), Wednesday, 24 March 2004 16:04 (twenty-two years ago)

My advice would be to find a party tonight with a lot of your friends at it, and go there :)

― Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Wednesday, 24 March 2004 16:06 (twenty-two years ago)

Now where would such a thing be happening? Hrmmmm...

(BTW, I mean IRL friends, rather than ILX friends, even if it's getting hard to tell the difference these days...)

― Psycho Kate (kate), Wednesday, 24 March 2004 16:08 (twenty-two years ago)

I like the idea of being alone on my birthday, I wish I could find a way to work this out.

― El Diablo Robotico (Nicole), Wednesday, 24 March 2004 16:10 (twenty-two years ago)

i'm getting birthday anxiety. i'd been successfully ignoring the fact that mine's coming up very soon, but a few people have mentioned it over the past few days and now it's staring me in the face. i had to deal with a ton of "what are you doing? you don't know? god, you'd better figure something out fast" comments over the weekend, which makes me want to crawl into a hole with a fistful of ambien until next month.

― lauren (laurenp), Wednesday, 24 March 2004 16:18 (twenty-two years ago)

I didn't have a birthday last year. This was a good thing in some ways but I fear it has contributed to my constant forgetting of my age.

― Ricardo (RickyT), Wednesday, 24 March 2004 16:20 (twenty-two years ago)

Don't worry, I remember. (You were 73 - remember, you called it your "classic bus route" year? You don't? You did, dear).

― Sarah (starry), Wednesday, 24 March 2004 16:21 (twenty-two years ago)

You're lucky, Lauren, the only person that's even mentioned mine is my partner's mum. At least she remembered!

The more parties I go to of other people's birthday (bad time of the year for that for me, as well) the more depressed I get about the fact that I can't do anything for mine.

(I'm still convinced that if I called a FAP for my birthday, that no one would come cause I've never actually instigated a FAP in London.)

― Psycho Kate (kate), Wednesday, 24 March 2004 16:21 (twenty-two years ago)

I mean, what if they had a FAP and no one came? God, the neuroses ILX provokes...

― Psycho Kate (kate), Wednesday, 24 March 2004 16:30 (twenty-two years ago)

Does that mean I'm 74 or 73 now?

― Confused of N7 (RickyT), Wednesday, 24 March 2004 16:31 (twenty-two years ago)

No dear, 153.

― Sarah (starry), Wednesday, 24 March 2004 16:31 (twenty-two years ago)

Ah yes, runs outside my door, marvellous.

― Ricardo (RickyT), Wednesday, 24 March 2004 16:32 (twenty-two years ago)

Fuck off, this is my thread for self pity, stop talking about bus routes all over it.

― Psycho Kate (kate), Wednesday, 24 March 2004 16:42 (twenty-two years ago)

Calm down dear, I'm really a very good birthday angst sympathizer.

― Ricardo (RickyT), Wednesday, 24 March 2004 16:47 (twenty-two years ago)

Am I on telly?

― Psycho Kate (kate), Wednesday, 24 March 2004 16:49 (twenty-two years ago)

AAAIIIIIIYYEEEEE!!!!!!

PINK PANTHER YOU FREAKING ROXOR!!!

I am now not going to be spending my weekend alone. Busted are spending it with me.

Oh, I'm so happy. yaaayyyy!!!

― Psycho Kate (kate), Wednesday, 24 March 2004 18:59 (twenty-two years ago)

Er?

― Ned Raggett (Ned), Wednesday, 24 March 2004 19:01 (twenty-two years ago)

I kinda like spending my birthday alone, you know just taking the dog for a walk and then heading of to the record shops to spend vast quantities of cash! Though, I guess I'm never really alone alone.

― jel -- (jel), Wednesday, 24 March 2004 19:03 (twenty-two years ago)

I could probably do this with relative ease, I guess. I don't ever make much of a fuss about my b-day as it is very close after christmas and new years. One time I had a surprise party that a lot of people came to, that was nice. I never really plan much on my own though, usually just quietly kicking about pretending nothing is any different from usual.

― webcrack (music=crack), Wednesday, 24 March 2004 20:03 (twenty-two years ago)

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