SEDUCTION LESSONS

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please.

― garble garble (orion), Saturday, 27 March 2004 01:13 (twenty-two years ago)

nice fuck, wanna shoes?

― oops (Oops), Saturday, 27 March 2004 01:16 (twenty-two years ago)

dammit i'm hopeless

― oops (Oops), Saturday, 27 March 2004 01:16 (twenty-two years ago)

www.craigslist.org

― Lil' Won Jilliams (ex machina), Saturday, 27 March 2004 01:17 (twenty-two years ago)

girls find it incredibly charming when you shyly ask a sweet relationship-type question but forget to log out.

― teeny (teeny), Saturday, 27 March 2004 01:35 (twenty-two years ago)

The Sex Factor and how to get it

― N. (nickdastoor), Saturday, 27 March 2004 01:37 (twenty-two years ago)

― Matt (Matt), Saturday, 27 March 2004 01:58 (twenty-two years ago)

I've never been good at it. I just trip over meself whilst speaking and generally come across as a sad sack loser.

― WishICouldHelp (Gear!), Saturday, 27 March 2004 02:11 (twenty-two years ago)

You probably don't want to know anything about seduction. Seduction's a sport, and one that attracts crappy people to both sides of the field. You probably just want to get laid. Honestly, if you don't have a specific person in mind or a weird kink to satisfy or some other high-maintenance factor in play, it's pretty much just a matter of letting that be known. People tend to make it out to be much more difficult than it is, for one reason or another.

― Tep (ktepi), Saturday, 27 March 2004 02:20 (twenty-two years ago)

And basically, like with all the other tongue-tripping forms of anxieties, get rid of your subconscious assumption that there's at least one person in the room with magic powers.

― Tep (ktepi), Saturday, 27 March 2004 02:23 (twenty-two years ago)

i'm not sure what you mean by that tep but it seems wise.

― s1ocki (slutsky), Saturday, 27 March 2004 02:26 (twenty-two years ago)

Anxiety about conversation and social interaction seems to all stem from the assumption that one is at a disadvantage to at least one other person in the room. That's the only situation in which it's possible to make a fool out of yourself, right? (Not necessarily, no, but from the POV of our hypothetical worrywort here.)

Sometimes, you are at a disadvantage, in one form or another: you're asking for a promotion, you're a student in class (or a teacher in class, just different disadvantages), whatever. But most of the time, it's just people in a room, and there's always another room.

― Tep (ktepi), Saturday, 27 March 2004 02:32 (twenty-two years ago)

Oh, and on point: people who are nervous around the desired sex often imply that there's something special or unusual or unknowable about men/women/midgets/Dan Perry, which is just the magical powers thing again.

― Tep (ktepi), Saturday, 27 March 2004 02:34 (twenty-two years ago)

that's pretty much what i thought you meant, and it makes a lot of sense. i don't have much social anxiety, but like everyone i suppose it sometimes hits, and it's usually due to one person who i'm convinced is looking at me cockeyed.

― s1ocki (slutsky), Saturday, 27 March 2004 02:37 (twenty-two years ago)

See, exactly. We all have moments (me too), and that's cool if we recognize them as moments and not big wonkin mysteries ("how could I ever talk to a BOY? he'd see right through me!" / "dude, girls can smell your fear")

― Tep (ktepi), Saturday, 27 March 2004 02:41 (twenty-two years ago)

Where does one even start trying to meet girls?

― blah blah (orion), Saturday, 27 March 2004 02:45 (twenty-two years ago)

it's usually smirky people who do me in. i hate smirky people. (xp)

― s1ocki (slutsky), Saturday, 27 March 2004 02:47 (twenty-two years ago)

Prison? xpost

― Bryan B Sure (Bryan), Saturday, 27 March 2004 02:48 (twenty-two years ago)

They're right over there!

Actually, that's a harder question for me, since "they're right over there" is probably true but not helpful. But they're pretty much everywhere, and other than churches and classrooms there aren't many places left where you can't have at least a brief conversation. Most of my "sorry, I have a girlfriend" moments have been in places that aren't obvious social areas (shopping for sunglasses, waiting for a Greyhound, smoking outside a library...)

Go out and do stuff, basically. Whatever it is you're interested in. Expand your social group, not just the people you nod to or could get a cigarette from, but the people you'd lend twenty dollars to even if you'd never see it again -- and make sure some of them are girls, and know other girls.

― Tep (ktepi), Saturday, 27 March 2004 02:50 (twenty-two years ago)

oh, wise tep, man of motivational words.

― Ian Johnson (orion), Saturday, 27 March 2004 02:52 (twenty-two years ago)

what's this seduction lesson thing?!?! you can't teach someone to be good-looking.

― ken c (ken c), Saturday, 27 March 2004 02:52 (twenty-two years ago)

That's why everyone keeps spreading the rumor that fantastically good-looking people can't fuck worth a damn.

― Tep (ktepi), Saturday, 27 March 2004 02:54 (twenty-two years ago)

That was one of my best ones ever.

― Bryan B Sure (Bryan), Saturday, 27 March 2004 02:55 (twenty-two years ago)

haha wait that sounded all wrong - what i mean is if you are not like.. pug-ugly, just be normal and i'm sure the opposite sex will be all like, wahey he's not ugly and not weird and you'll get some action.

if you're pug ugly then like, be a goth and put a load of make up on.

― ken c (ken c), Saturday, 27 March 2004 02:55 (twenty-two years ago)

If I told you you had a beautiful body, would you hold it against me?

― Prude (Prude), Saturday, 27 March 2004 03:23 (twenty-two years ago)

hey, here's a lesson to you all: don't expect to find cute girls at the record store on a friday night.

― Ian Johnson (orion), Saturday, 27 March 2004 04:17 (twenty-two years ago)

That's because all the cute girls are on the computer screen.

― Dan I. (Dan I.), Saturday, 27 March 2004 05:03 (twenty-two years ago)

I went to the record store Thursday night and told all the cute girls to be at my house, Friday night, 8.30 sharp.

― Johnney B (Johnney B), Saturday, 27 March 2004 09:22 (twenty-two years ago)

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