What makes a man/woman sexy?

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It can be an attribute, personality trait, tick or habit, body part, whatever. My answer is probably gender neutral, but I say inner confidence. If someone is confident in their abilities and appearance, I think it adds a great deal to their sex appeal. Thoughts?

― Mac Truck, Monday, 29 March 2004 16:51 (twenty-two years ago)

especially if they have big 'uns.

― The Huckle-Buck (Horace Mann), Monday, 29 March 2004 16:53 (twenty-two years ago)

Big Huns:

http://www.microsoft.com/korea/Games/conquerors/images/civ_big_huns.gif

― Ned Raggett (Ned), Monday, 29 March 2004 16:58 (twenty-two years ago)

the precursor of drive-bys?

― The Huckle-Buck (Horace Mann), Monday, 29 March 2004 17:00 (twenty-two years ago)

Really big muscles and hairy chest. And then, if you're taking about men, it would proabably be...

― Skottie, Monday, 29 March 2004 17:00 (twenty-two years ago)

That whole confidence idea, while playing some part in attractiveness, tends to be vastly overstated.

― JuliaA (j_bdules), Monday, 29 March 2004 17:19 (twenty-two years ago)

http://www.nesplayer.com/animated/eat.gif

― 1, Monday, 29 March 2004 17:20 (twenty-two years ago)

Mac Truck otm.
In newspaper photos Cherie Blair looks like a wide mouthed frog.
On film or in person she's very sexy, as per Mac Truck's theory.

― ..., Monday, 29 March 2004 17:20 (twenty-two years ago)

A lack of confidence can be unattractive in much the same way that a lack of a nose could be, which doesn't mean I'm attracted to people because they have noses.

― Tep (ktepi), Monday, 29 March 2004 17:21 (twenty-two years ago)

Yeah, nose are OK. It's mostly noses.

― N. (nickdastoor), Monday, 29 March 2004 17:23 (twenty-two years ago)

Ok, then if not confidence, what are y'all attracted to?

― Mac Truck, Monday, 29 March 2004 17:25 (twenty-two years ago)

Are you not listening?

― N. (nickdastoor), Monday, 29 March 2004 17:25 (twenty-two years ago)

People can be confident in such a way that it's more repellant than attractive. And vice versa, certainly (lack of confidence can be equally unattractive).

A person's personality in its entirety contributes to the perception of their attractiveness, in addition to how they look aesthetically. Confidence gets singled out rather often--sometimes, it seems, to the exclusion of other traits. (xp times three)

― JuliaA (j_bdules), Monday, 29 March 2004 17:29 (twenty-two years ago)

I like noses. Can this thread be about people with good noses instead?

― Cathy (Cathy), Monday, 29 March 2004 17:31 (twenty-two years ago)

I barely notice noses unless they're very prominent or something. I had a friend who was only attracted to guys with big noses for a time. Heh.

― JuliaA (j_bdules), Monday, 29 March 2004 17:34 (twenty-two years ago)

Ok, then if not confidence, what are y'all attracted to?

I honestly don't know; there are common links among women I've ended up in relationships with, but that's a whole different thing. There are fewer commonalities among the women I've slept with, but obviously that list would be a small percentage of the women I've been attracted to.

Voice and eyes are important, but that's a practical thing: you hear a lot of one and see a lot of the other, so if you don't like them, you're going to notice a lot faster than elbows.

Nonphysically, a mix of interests which includes things I know I like, things I don't like enough to put energy into, and things I end up liking once I'm introduced to them -- but this is a) more a relationship criterion than an attractiveness one, and b) so generic as to be empty.

― Tep (ktepi), Monday, 29 March 2004 17:34 (twenty-two years ago)

What makes a good nose? Why is that sexy?

― Mac Truck (Mac Truck), Monday, 29 March 2004 17:35 (twenty-two years ago)

To a large extent, too -- this is not about noses, xpost kinda -- people find attractive the things they want to be attracted to in order to project something about themselves. It's a more subtle and harmless version of the "not hanging out with the friends who don't make you look cool" thing in 7th grade. People want their tastes to say something about them that isn't said about other people, without, generally, going so far as fetishism. It's the connoisseur myth: the idea that preferring one kind of bottled water, one kind of sea salt, sheets above a certain thread count, means you know more about, and better appreciate, water, food, or fabric.

That doesn't really answer your question.

― Tep (ktepi), Monday, 29 March 2004 17:40 (twenty-two years ago)

what is your definition of a good nose?

mine is sorta big lately.

― Mandee, Monday, 29 March 2004 17:41 (twenty-two years ago)

i personally like nice voices and nice eyebrows.

― mandee, Monday, 29 March 2004 17:43 (twenty-two years ago)

Big lately? Are you Pinnochio?

― Mac Truck (Mac Truck), Monday, 29 March 2004 17:49 (twenty-two years ago)

no. I think i just noticed how big it is.

― mandee, Monday, 29 March 2004 17:50 (twenty-two years ago)

This is a nosy question.

― El Diablo Robotico (Nicole), Monday, 29 March 2004 17:51 (twenty-two years ago)

At the superficial level, I guess I do kinda like a quirky nose, and shiny longish hair, and non-irksome cuteness.

Personality wise, thoughtfulness coupled with a lame sense of humour.

I usually equate the confidence thing with pushiness and brashness which, I don't think is all that sexy, but then maybe that's because I'm not particularly confident.

― jel -- (jel), Monday, 29 March 2004 17:51 (twenty-two years ago)

I'm gonna keep to the nose metaphor re: confidence: noses of normal proportion are virtually invisible (moreso than if they were invisible), because we expect them to be there and they are; noses of unusual proportion draw attention to themselves, which some people like and some people don't.

― Tep (ktepi), Monday, 29 March 2004 17:55 (twenty-two years ago)

The breasts/penis combo is presumably what makes a man/woman sexy.

― VengaDan Perry (Dan Perry), Monday, 29 March 2004 17:58 (twenty-two years ago)

combo?

― Cathy (Cathy), Monday, 29 March 2004 18:00 (twenty-two years ago)

I would give Google examples, but I am at work.

― VengaDan Perry (Dan Perry), Monday, 29 March 2004 18:02 (twenty-two years ago)

if we're getting technical, it's pheromones, innit?

― jel -- (jel), Monday, 29 March 2004 18:03 (twenty-two years ago)

I thought that was moths.

― N. (nickdastoor), Monday, 29 March 2004 18:03 (twenty-two years ago)

I don't think moths have ever made a woman more attractive to me.

― VengaDan Perry (Dan Perry), Monday, 29 March 2004 18:04 (twenty-two years ago)

It can be pheromones, but you can be attracted to people you don't meet in the flesh, too (even leaving aside "meeting on the internet/phone/penpals/whatever," actors and musicians and whatnot). There's that test online, for finding out what body/face/etc. types you're attracted to ... let me see if I can find the url, it's interesting to take even if you don't agree with it.

― Tep (ktepi), Monday, 29 March 2004 18:04 (twenty-two years ago)

on the confidence thing, im one of the most self deprecating people i know, but ive been told by a lot of people that they like the way i carry myself and that i seem confident.
physically i'm into voices and eyes. not just the sound of the voice, but the way people phrase things, how they pronounce specific letters and words, that shit can drive me up the wall. if a girl has really nice eyes that seem to stare right into me and balance out her face well i crumble. particularly a nice pair of brown eyes that seem like theyve got a thin shield of glass around them..... damn.
i like people who's fashion sense gives me the impression that they like colors that i like. i know that's really vague, but i know it when i see it.
personality-wise it's the usual. funny, thoughtful, likes to dance crazy, really into either a)music b)art c)movies d) a+b e) b+c f)a+c or g)all of the above.

― Felonious Drunk (Felcher), Monday, 29 March 2004 18:05 (twenty-two years ago)

Here we go.

(It's not like the "which Care Bear are you" quizzes, it's more like the Keirsey sorter, only visual.)

― Tep (ktepi), Monday, 29 March 2004 18:06 (twenty-two years ago)

Haha, it's like a scientific Your Face Or Mine.

― Cathy (Cathy), Monday, 29 March 2004 18:13 (twenty-two years ago)

intelligence, some form of artistic ability, and a bangin' arse

― mookieproof (mookieproof), Monday, 29 March 2004 18:14 (twenty-two years ago)

big eyes, perhaps confidence but not necessarily bags of it, I like talkers though. sarcasm and all that kind of stuff too. I like hyper or enthusiastic people sometimes, but other times they can be annoying so I don't know if that's a quality or not. I guess I mean those sort of crazy girls you meet in clubs who everyone fancies and who allow everyone to think it's reciprocated. Yeah them.

― Ronan (Ronan), Monday, 29 March 2004 18:23 (twenty-two years ago)

oh, and funny!

― mookieproof (mookieproof), Monday, 29 March 2004 18:25 (twenty-two years ago)

I'm gonna keep to the nose metaphor

All right, but then refer to it as "the nasal metaphor"

― Skottie, Monday, 29 March 2004 18:26 (twenty-two years ago)

the test said:

"I'm a sucker for a pretty face, and I don't care if she's leather or lace"

actually, it was an hmmm interesting test!

― jel -- (jel), Monday, 29 March 2004 18:52 (twenty-two years ago)

If I remember right (maybe I'll take it again), mine said I'm attracted to "very beautiful women," which I thought was sort of an empty statement :) (It said other things, too, though.)

― Tep (ktepi), Monday, 29 March 2004 18:53 (twenty-two years ago)

That .gif isn't making anyone but me laugh to the pain is it?

― nickalicious (nickalicious), Monday, 29 March 2004 18:56 (twenty-two years ago)

"You like men with strong, manly noses, balanced with an equally prominent chin."

I'm not sure what a strong, manly nose even looks like.

― JuliaA (j_bdules), Monday, 29 March 2004 19:00 (twenty-two years ago)

I forgot how many of the photos in this test look photoshopped.

― Tep (ktepi), Monday, 29 March 2004 19:01 (twenty-two years ago)

I took the test too. I thought it was great, but expected a little more in the way of scientific explanations for my preferences. Said I like women with long, narrow faces, big eyes round lips...not too surprising. I don't think there's a guy on this board who would prefer narrow lips. Nothing better than a full set of lips!

― Mac Truck (Mac Truck), Monday, 29 March 2004 19:04 (twenty-two years ago)

"You like men with strong, manly noses, balanced with an equally prominent chin."

Or you like men with strong features...kind of another no brainer.

― Mac Truck (Mac Truck), Monday, 29 March 2004 19:05 (twenty-two years ago)

i don't care how full the lips are as long as they're ON MINE

― mookieproof (mookieproof), Monday, 29 March 2004 19:07 (twenty-two years ago)

"Some may call one of your types "Pretty Boys," but all you know is that they're gorgeous. The combination of classic good looks with small noses, beautiful eyes, and full lips is hard to resist. These guys tend to be clean shaven, have clear skin, and get good hair cuts. They're taking good care of themselves so they can be "pretty" just for you!"

My failing in life is probably related to this somehow.

― El Diablo Robotico (Nicole), Monday, 29 March 2004 19:07 (twenty-two years ago)

i don't care how full the lips are as long as they're ON MINE

Which set?

― Mac Truck (Mac Truck), Monday, 29 March 2004 19:08 (twenty-two years ago)

Short version of my results (click around, it gives you a lot):

25 or older
Very beautiful women
Sharp, narrow chins
Wide and angular "diamond" or heart-shaped faces
Blondes

(That last one doesn't sound like me, but like I said above, I'm not sure what I'm attracted to, exactly.)

― Tep (ktepi), Monday, 29 March 2004 19:09 (twenty-two years ago)

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that is so unsexy.

― Sociah T Azzahole (blueski), Friday, 23 September 2005 12:51 (twenty years ago)

You love it.

― Allyzay knows a little German (allyzay), Friday, 23 September 2005 12:52 (twenty years ago)

: )

― RJG (RJG), Friday, 23 September 2005 13:20 (twenty years ago)

the water spit out of your nose with confidence?

― carly (carly), Friday, 23 September 2005 13:21 (twenty years ago)

I guess we have an answer there - what makes a man/woman sexy?

Be Ally.

― The Brocade Fire (kate), Friday, 23 September 2005 13:32 (twenty years ago)

Or RJG.

― Sociah T Azzahole (blueski), Friday, 23 September 2005 13:33 (twenty years ago)

Ally/RJG hybrid of ubersexy domination OH NO.

― The Ghost of Black Elegance (Dan Perry), Friday, 23 September 2005 13:34 (twenty years ago)

What makes a man/woman envy?

― Sociah T Azzahole (blueski), Friday, 23 September 2005 13:35 (twenty years ago)

: S

― RJG (RJG), Friday, 23 September 2005 13:39 (twenty years ago)

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v356/kenjuggle3/stalker.gif

― The Ghost of Black Elegance (Dan Perry), Friday, 23 September 2005 13:39 (twenty years ago)

This was the thread I was looking for:

What's your type?

Except there it was N who was held up as the super-arrogant "I Am Sex" paragon instead of RJG. ::rolls eyes:: The more things change, the more they stay the same.

― The Brocade Fire (kate), Friday, 23 September 2005 13:45 (twenty years ago)

I don't understand

― RJG (RJG), Friday, 23 September 2005 13:49 (twenty years ago)

They don't make threads like that anymore.

― Sociah T Azzahole (blueski), Friday, 23 September 2005 13:52 (twenty years ago)

And on that thread, redheads feel *more* pain when now they're trying to tell me they're amazons who rise up from the ashes with their red hair and eat men like air. Or something. I can't keep up.

Who am I supposed to be fancying now? Someone tell me because I can't remember.

― The Brocade Fire (kate), Friday, 23 September 2005 14:05 (twenty years ago)

RJG let's have uberchildren to defeat Dastoor's reign of sexy.

― Allyzay knows a little German (allyzay), Friday, 23 September 2005 14:08 (twenty years ago)

Make them wear Viking hats, pls.

― Je4nn3 ƒur¥ (Je4nne Fury), Friday, 23 September 2005 14:09 (twenty years ago)

that thread! wow!

― lauren (laurenp), Friday, 23 September 2005 14:10 (twenty years ago)

It is comedy gold.

― The Brocade Fire (kate), Friday, 23 September 2005 14:13 (twenty years ago)

we better be quick, ally, I just got a phonecall, from him, and he's on his way over

― RJG (RJG), Friday, 23 September 2005 14:16 (twenty years ago)

no one wanted to talk about tottenham.

― lauren (laurenp), Friday, 23 September 2005 14:16 (twenty years ago)

You're cheating on me with N.????!

― Allyzay knows a little German (allyzay), Friday, 23 September 2005 14:17 (twenty years ago)

No, stop that right now. Even just thinking about an RJG and N love triangle would make me explode.

― The Brocade Fire (kate), Friday, 23 September 2005 14:18 (twenty years ago)

if only!!!!

crosspost

― RJG (RJG), Friday, 23 September 2005 14:19 (twenty years ago)

Hi NRJG

― The Brocade Fire (kate), Friday, 23 September 2005 14:20 (twenty years ago)

no one wanted to talk about tottenham.

ha ha, i had the exact same thought. i guess they just weren't sexy enough.

― Sociah T Azzahole (blueski), Friday, 23 September 2005 14:22 (twenty years ago)

You think you know people, but let me give you all some advice: you don't. And that's sexy. Hi RJG!

― Allyzay knows a little German (allyzay), Friday, 23 September 2005 14:25 (twenty years ago)

(I'm really trying to imagine just how gay Hi-NRJG music would really sound.)

― The Brocade Fire (kate), Friday, 23 September 2005 14:29 (twenty years ago)

I'd forgotten that thread. It's a work of joy. (And it's nearly the same people posting on this one...)

― Anna (Anna), Friday, 23 September 2005 14:30 (twenty years ago)

i'm awake now.

― hstencil (hstencil), Friday, 23 September 2005 14:31 (twenty years ago)

The only thing this thread needs is Matt DC writing fake ILX0r pr0n. Oh yes.

― The Brocade Fire (kate), Friday, 23 September 2005 14:32 (twenty years ago)

that bit deserves a medal.

― lauren (laurenp), Friday, 23 September 2005 14:37 (twenty years ago)

nick isn't coming over, now

: (

― RJG (RJG), Friday, 23 September 2005 14:39 (twenty years ago)

oh, hi ally!

― RJG (RJG), Friday, 23 September 2005 14:40 (twenty years ago)

Trust me, we're all disappointed.

Hi, Stence. You've been asleep my entire working day!

― The Brocade Fire (kate), Friday, 23 September 2005 14:40 (twenty years ago)

yeah i went to bed at like 4:30 am, got up around 9, got to work at 11, so...

― hstencil (hstencil), Friday, 23 September 2005 14:59 (twenty years ago)

That's starting to sound like the lyrics to "Mr Brownstone"

― The Brocade Fire (kate), Friday, 23 September 2005 15:01 (twenty years ago)

i've been dancing with mr. cosloy.

― hstencil (hstencil), Friday, 23 September 2005 15:09 (twenty years ago)

I liked that thread. ILE needs more Robbie Lumsden.

― Cathy (Cathy), Friday, 23 September 2005 15:10 (twenty years ago)

ugh, rough day at the office.

― lentil, Friday, 23 September 2005 15:13 (twenty years ago)

To answer thread title: I'm on the side of the zombies in answering "BRAINS". And here I would like to attach a photo of me, made up as a zombie, about to take a bite out of the side of someone's head. Sadly, the photo is at home and I am at the office.

― Laurel (Laurel), Friday, 23 September 2005 15:32 (twenty years ago)

The only thing this thread needs is Matt DC writing fake ILX0r pr0n. Oh yes.

.. and then, suddenly, there they were, Gareth and Ronan, bodies tumbling over over another, one with the music, and one another, hearts pounding like kick drums, the sound of the 303 tickling the ear like the tongue over the nipple, incessant, primordial, boom boom boom, thrust thrust thrust, BANG BANG BANG BANG BANG!

And then... silence.

"So" said Ronan, his gentle lilting brogue struggling to contain the excitement. "How was it for you".

Gareth lay there, for what seemed an interminable amount of time. "It was alright...", he said finally. "But where was the Francois De Roubaix?"

― Matt DC (Matt DC), Friday, 23 September 2005 19:17 (twenty years ago)

I think I may have just guaranteed that no one on ILX will ever find me sexy ever again...

― Matt DC (Matt DC), Friday, 23 September 2005 19:19 (twenty years ago)

A man/woman has the best of both worlds.

― Leeeeeeeee (Leee), Friday, 23 September 2005 21:11 (twenty years ago)

Matt DC, that was a romance novel.

Porn sounds more like this:

Fuck my ass.

You want me to fuck your ass?

Fuck my ass.

take this shit.

Ooh yeah.

This is pornographic.

― PappaWheelie B.C., Friday, 23 September 2005 21:33 (twenty years ago)

I like to think of that as more of the Trife and Strongo version.

― Matt DC (Matt DC), Friday, 23 September 2005 23:58 (twenty years ago)

You have visions.

― Ned Raggett (Ned), Saturday, 24 September 2005 00:07 (twenty years ago)

three years pass...

this was a funny thread almost five years ago

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chemistry and by that I mean stuff like underarm sweat

― Aimless, Tuesday, 3 March 2009 18:43 (seventeen years ago)

It’s the most hotly debated issue of the postfeminist age.

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