Today one of my housemates is moving out. I only found out abouth this yesterday from a mutual friend of ours. We knew it was comign , again through third parties, she's not talked about it with us at all. Her reason for leaving is not being able to get along with one of our other housemates, one of her oldest friends. For now she is moving in with another friend but in three weeks time she is moving into a place on her own, this scares us. we genuinely worry that she might be dead in 6 months if she lives on her own, she has apparently half heartedly tried to take her own life before
she is very unhappy with her life at the moment. she seems to be thrashing around trying to control things and hurting lots of people in the proces not least herself. She hates her job, (her boss is one of the vilest people I have ever met), but can't leave it for 12 months without buying herself out of it. she is under a lot of pressure from her parents to come and live back home, they are strong methodists. for a long time they have dissaproved of everything she has done and she has always had them to react against but jsut recently they changed tack and offered to buy her out of her job, and help her get started in music, whatever their motives in this, she see this as their last gasp attemp to regain control of her life (parents last child finally fleeing the nest).
I really don't know what to do, she is not speaking to us, she is not behaving rationally or characteristically for her. She won't let us speak to her. We've tried giving her space, we've tried talking to her, all I get is silence, all my other housemate gets is abuse.
I really don't know what to do. any ideas? any questions?
― Ed, Friday, 26 October 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)
Does she have a therapist , pyschatrist or Primary Care
physican ? If so your first course of action is to call them. Then
call her friend and make SURE she does not move out . Then sit down
and talk to her Ed, tell her how you feel .
― anthonyeaston, Friday, 26 October 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)
Hi Ed,
Something has had to have happened for her to have the need to move
out. Perhaps she needs her space? You may think it's strange, that
some folks need time alone. I know this for a fact cos I'm one of them.
She may have a complete turnaround and come back to her friends, and
appreciate you even more. Just my opinion.
Gale
― Gale Deslongchamps, Friday, 26 October 2001 00:00 (twenty-four years ago)