When was the last time you got very upset in public?

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Urgh last night I went out with my brother and his friends, not my brother who lives in London but my other one, who's 24. He's big into canoeing and things so the friends were mostly his paddling people, who all are generally ok and sound I thought.

So we had a few drinks at a table quiz, and it was good fun, uneventful, we came 4th etc etc. Then afterwards we went to another pub.

I was talking to my brothers friends, two of them, just general conversation and sort of drunken banter. Anyway the conversation moves onto my hair, for some fucking reason and the lads are like "what does your hair look like straight" and laughing sort of irritatingly. So I said I'd show them and was about to mash it down a bit when both of them just fucking grabbed me and were like "we'll straighten your hair Ronan yeah ahhsfdjhashdga".

I couldn't believe it, I realise this sounds faintly ridiculous (it gets worse) but both are about three times the size of me and I was quite hurt. So I was kind of asking them to let me go and they wouldn't so I guess I struggled a bit, at which point I accidentally hit a girl who was sitting at the bar in the face.

And at this stage the two lads just go all serious (or mock serious) and are like "Ronan apologise for fuck sake", which I did instantly anyway, not that they bothered to join me. The girl was completely disgusted, don't blame her really.

Anyway it was too much at this point, I got incredibly upset, part angry and part almost tearful. I can't remember having been so annoyed anytime in the last ten years or so, but then I can't remember having something like that happen to me anytime since primary school.

To top it off my brother was just like "oh you must take a slagging". I mean I can take verbal abuse and dish it out until the cows come home but two people twice my size grabbing me and then that resulting in me looking like an utter asshole is far more than a slagging.

I'm still extremely upset by it all, I got a taxi home straight away and I don't think I'll ever be going out with my brothers friends again. I can't believe how childish they were being, if they'd even apologised to the girl with me I'd not have got so annoyed but as it was it was utterly ridiculous.

I still feel totally humiliated by it all. grrr.

― Ronan (Ronan), Monday, 5 April 2004 08:29 (twenty-one years ago)

Ronan, that sounds awful. My sympathies. I cried in the middle of a shopping precinct recently after a nasty episode with a shop assistant.

― Pinkpanther (Pinkpanther), Monday, 5 April 2004 08:36 (twenty-one years ago)

That sounds like a really shitty experience Ronan; I don't blame you for being upset.

The last time I got really upset in public was a few years ago in a crap job. I was at the end of my tether and ending up screaming at my bitchy coworker in front of the whole office, then storming out red-faced and bawling. Dignified.

Still, sometimes you just have to show how you feel.

― Archel (Archel), Monday, 5 April 2004 08:37 (twenty-one years ago)

they sound like a proper pair of arseholes Ronan, don't beat yourself up about it.

― Ste (Fuzzy), Monday, 5 April 2004 08:42 (twenty-one years ago)

Those situations suck, especially when any sticking up for yourself gets parlayed by the perpetrators into further diss ammo - "Oh look he's overreacting and soft." - and it happens too fast to let any logic in. Just try to sleep it off, no problem, and tomorrow shoot up their houses.

― LC, Monday, 5 April 2004 08:42 (twenty-one years ago)

Ronan, no one would blame you. The girl in question probably knew the score too, the look of disgust could just have easily been for you brother's friends.

Last time I got really upset in public was Friday when I discovered after a week and a half of screaming at them down the phone Emap still hadn't managed to pay me, resulting in bank charges into tripple figures (which they have said they will pay, but now the bank hate me anyway). I started crying in the middle of the office I am currently working in. More out of frustration than anything else.

― Anna (Anna), Monday, 5 April 2004 08:43 (twenty-one years ago)

It happens on too regular a basis for me to really keep track of, but I've got poor impulse control, especially where alcohol is concerned, so it's usually my own fault. Unlike your situation, Ronan, so I don't blame you for getting upset.

― Super-Kate (kate), Monday, 5 April 2004 08:43 (twenty-one years ago)

How hard did you hit the girl? This all sounds disgustingly horrible. I hardly ever get that upset or angry in public, although there was one moment about two months ago when I had to get up and leave a crowded bar full of my close friends and get as far away from there as possible.

― Matt DC (Matt DC), Monday, 5 April 2004 08:44 (twenty-one years ago)

probably when (in an alcohol induced rage) I offered to stab all of ATP in the throat.

― chris (chris), Monday, 5 April 2004 08:46 (twenty-one years ago)

"Portage THIS, assholes!"

::smacks obnoxious Irish fratboys about the face and groin with splintered oar, Buffy-style::

Oh, Anna. That really does suck.

― suzy (suzy), Monday, 5 April 2004 08:46 (twenty-one years ago)

my sympathies Ronan. i hope you find comfort in listening to Agoria ft Villeneuve's 'Stereolove (Me & Timy mix)' INSANELY LOUD. i certainly do.

― stevem (blueski), Monday, 5 April 2004 08:47 (twenty-one years ago)

i tend to be a bit of a ned flanders, i just keep my calm and bottle it up.

(tick tick tick...)

― Ste (Fuzzy), Monday, 5 April 2004 08:48 (twenty-one years ago)

I amn't sure how hard I hit her, I didn't even know I'd done it to be honest until someone told me. She looked pretty sore though, I honestly can't believe at 24 these guys still do that kind of thing. fuckers!

― Ronan (Ronan), Monday, 5 April 2004 08:50 (twenty-one years ago)

I made a complete dick of myself on Friday by yelling at the evangelical wife of one of my friends and storming off. It was at the tail end of an otherwise reasonable theological discussion. She did the old smug patronising 'well, if you're an atheist, there's still hope for you yet' thing, I pointed out (blood boiling) that this really irritates me, she repeated it(!) and I blew up. I regretted it as soon as I'd started, but was so enraged I couldn't stop myself. First time I've really lost my temper in ages. All I'd had to drink was one g+t, two glasses of red, and a very small whisky, but looking back on it I was really drunk.

― Ricardo (RickyT), Monday, 5 April 2004 09:01 (twenty-one years ago)

There's still hope for you yet!

― LC, Monday, 5 April 2004 09:03 (twenty-one years ago)

Ah, go fuck yourself.

― Ricardo (RickyT), Monday, 5 April 2004 09:07 (twenty-one years ago)

there's still hope for the pope; the pope smokes dope.

― RJG (RJG), Monday, 5 April 2004 09:11 (twenty-one years ago)

I was in Edinburgh last year at festival time and walking fown from the Castle along that windy road that goes down to (I think) Princes Street when I saw a blind guy in full regalia playing the bagpipes.

I totally lost it and ranted about what sort of fucking country leaves 80 year old blind men to wank for coins from fucking tourists, went and gave him a fiver and harrumphed so hard with my frailing arms that the bag of kiwi fruit I was holding burst scattering them and causing them to roll down the hill until they got squished by traffic. This totally undermined the righteousness of my rant and published it into the realms of the ridiculous.

― Dave B (daveb), Monday, 5 April 2004 09:19 (twenty-one years ago)

that sounds pretty crazy, dave. you were on the mound, btw, I should think.

ronan's story is pretty crazy, too. I try to be more outraged, than anyone else, in pretty crazy situations.

― RJG (RJG), Monday, 5 April 2004 09:22 (twenty-one years ago)

Ricky, dude, the only sane answer to being patronised in that way is to tell the evangelist that she's right - hope does lie with the atheists and the atheists alone as the religious have totally buggered up the world. Or a simple, "I feel really sorry for all those people who think they're going to Heaven. They've been scammed by men in dresses."

― suzy (suzy), Monday, 5 April 2004 09:23 (twenty-one years ago)

Published = pushed

― Dave B (daveb), Monday, 5 April 2004 09:31 (twenty-one years ago)

(I don't think I've stopped arguing with in-yr-face religious people since I was 12)

By way of answering this question myself, probably it was yelling at:

-anyone who has ever nicked a taxi from me
-the driver of the 55 who wouldn't call police on the shoplifters me and a Magma worker chased into his bus, plus the shoplifters, who were cordially invited to bend over and be my bitches.
-people being rude on various nights of ruin

― suzy (suzy), Monday, 5 April 2004 09:35 (twenty-one years ago)

I do apologise, I misread this thread as "When was the time time you got very upset in a public loo?"

Carry on.

― Johnney B (Johnney B), Monday, 5 April 2004 10:25 (twenty-one years ago)

at your convenience

― stevem (blueski), Monday, 5 April 2004 10:35 (twenty-one years ago)

Barry to thread.

― Markelby (Mark C), Monday, 5 April 2004 10:37 (twenty-one years ago)

???

My brothers name is actually Barry.

― Ronan (Ronan), Monday, 5 April 2004 10:39 (twenty-one years ago)

Ronan that sucks, I hate it when people manhandle you and take the piss and then throw it back in yr face when you react, it happened to me a bit in school so I can relate ugh.

Last time I can recall a public spazout was at a club, when my partner from overseas who'd come to Aus to be with me dissapeared half the night and when I finally found him, he decided to tell me he didnt want to be with me after all, he wanted to be with his friend from Sydney who was also at said club.

Course, because I'd had a few I sat down and burst into tears and was inconsolable for some time. That was a weird night for sure.

― Trayce (trayce), Monday, 5 April 2004 10:53 (twenty-one years ago)

Goodness, I never knew that. Sounds terrible.

― ipsofacto (ipsofacto), Monday, 5 April 2004 10:56 (twenty-one years ago)

Ah it was some years back. We actually kept going out some time after that, but yah know, LDRs.. it kinda put me off. (no offense Kate hehe)

― Trayce (trayce), Monday, 5 April 2004 11:00 (twenty-one years ago)

no, i know *exactly* what you mean :)

― ipsofacto (ipsofacto), Monday, 5 April 2004 11:00 (twenty-one years ago)

Poor Ronan. People who still act like school bullies really, really upset me.

The last time I got upset in public... Actually, I think it was when Ally C, RJG and N ganged up on me and made out I didn't understand their Seinfeld joke when they know I hate Seinfeld and besides I did get it and Ally pushed it a bit far and I ran into the ladies and had to redo my mascara. Ahem. We made friends again pretty quickly.

ps. would it be naughty of me to think of you as ilx's Dennis Rickman?

― Madchen (Madchen), Monday, 5 April 2004 11:04 (twenty-one years ago)

I WAS NOT THERE

YOU MAKE ME A FUCKER ALL TOO OFTEN

― RJG (RJG), Monday, 5 April 2004 11:06 (twenty-one years ago)

thank goodness I'm not in public, just now...

:'''(

― RJG (RJG), Monday, 5 April 2004 11:07 (twenty-one years ago)

Huh? Was that "no offense" aimed at me or another Kate, Trayce? I'm confused.

― Super-Kate (kate), Monday, 5 April 2004 11:07 (twenty-one years ago)

no not at you

― the surface noise (electricsound), Monday, 5 April 2004 11:08 (twenty-one years ago)

Meeeeeeeeeeeeeee! I'm kate too. Kate o'brien atchaservice

― ipsofacto (ipsofacto), Monday, 5 April 2004 11:09 (twenty-one years ago)

Last Tuesday, after I'd been to my local pub quiz, I was walking with some friends back to their flat. We were walking alongside each other, and the man on the end decides it would be very funny to suddenly barge sideways into me, knocking me into the person on my right, them into the person on their right, and so on until the last one ended up on the ground. For some reason, he couldn't see what I was so angry about. I bottled most of it up, although one of my friends did notice how I was feeling and tried to sort things out later.

― caitlin (caitlin), Monday, 5 April 2004 11:11 (twenty-one years ago)

You weren't? OK, I absolve you.

― Madchen (Madchen), Monday, 5 April 2004 11:17 (twenty-one years ago)

Eep! Now it makes sense! Happy-Super-Double-Kate-Power-Vibes to you, Ipso!

― Super-Kate (kate), Monday, 5 April 2004 11:18 (twenty-one years ago)

Got into a fight with my mother last week. What it comes down to is that she can snidely insult anybody as she sees fit but no criticism of her must ever reach her ears or her constitution will crumble like a sandcastle.

― stockholm cindy (Jody Beth Rosen), Monday, 5 April 2004 13:22 (twenty-one years ago)

Last week I completely lost it with this one little asshole in my 7th period.

As he stormed out of the room and down the hall I stood outside my dollar hollering at the top of my lungs, arguing with him. Up and down the hall teachers looked out and shut their doors.

embarrassing yes, but all of us up here have those moments.

― Ask For Samantha (thatgirl), Monday, 5 April 2004 13:57 (twenty-one years ago)

Ummm, snap? After being called all the cuntzzz and bitches by this icky woman who happened to marry my father, I snapped after five years of verbal, physical, psychological and grandparent abuse and called her a fat cow. Cue WWIII.

Sam, if I had to revisit junior high every day, even for money, I'd die inside.

― suzy (suzy), Monday, 5 April 2004 14:04 (twenty-one years ago)

last week. an acquaintance of mine who likes to wind people up managed to get two burly fellows very angry at him. i have no idea why i felt so strongly, but i decided that i needed to "get his back." never mind that one of the potential assailants was like 6'6" to my 5'5". i'm sure whiskey had something to do with this decision. lots of shouting and shoving ensued.

― lauren (laurenp), Monday, 5 April 2004 14:05 (twenty-one years ago)

*already dead*

― Ask For Samantha (thatgirl), Monday, 5 April 2004 14:07 (twenty-one years ago)

i really wanted to kick a guy in the shins on friday night (he stroked kate's potential crush's mullet, and then grabbed my ass and he was wearing a terrible gold medallion.

but my friends stopped me.

― colette (a2lette), Monday, 5 April 2004 14:29 (twenty-one years ago)

Last Friday afternoon when my #1 client decided to call to complain about me and threaten to move to a different agency--and, after I'd busted my ass all week trying to please them, it was just too much. I nearly started bawling on the phone, and burst into big soppy tears as soon as we hung up.

― mandee, Monday, 5 April 2004 14:33 (twenty-one years ago)

Colette, if I've been there, I would have *thrown* you at him to facillitate shin-kicking!

(Just for the medallion, let alone the other behaviour...)

― Super-Kate (kate), Monday, 5 April 2004 14:38 (twenty-one years ago)

Ronan's story reminds me in a way of a time when I was in school and this immature cockwhipe who happened to be half-a-foot taller than me (putting him at 7') pulled my backpack from my back and hawhawingly threw it out a second story window into the thick ass bushes below. This occurred at 10:59 am, my next class (the door to which I was just outside of) was about to begin. I had a huge paper due in this next class. The paper was in my backpack. As he chuckled to himself "haw haw your backpack is outside aren't I a big funny assface haw haw" I booked fullspeed down the stairs and out the door to retrieve it, and as I ran fullspeed down the hall back to the class I was now late for, this doucebag sticks his foot in my path and I fall on my face on the concrete hall floor. By this point I start to give him a scolding, over which he speaks at the top of his lungs "LA LA HA HA YOU'RE GONNA FAIL YOUR CLASS" and finally I've HAD ENOUGH and swing my backpack (which contains 30+ pounds of books) towards his head only to hit this girl I like in the shoulder. With his hawhawing and whatnot I guess she thinks we're playing around and she's like "gawd GROW UP". I will never forgive that gigantic cockfucker.

― nickalicious (nickalicious), Monday, 5 April 2004 14:46 (twenty-one years ago)

It's not quite covered by the subject, but I was walking into work, reading a book at dusk one Sunday, nearly there, three youth walking towards me, catcalls of "hey mister, give us a 100 dollars" (?!?!?), as they passed me, one of them reached out and clouted me on the back of the head, leaving me to walk into work with a feeling of "Kill em all, everyone, just kill em all". Which took about an hour to subside.

― Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Monday, 5 April 2004 15:00 (twenty-one years ago)

i got very mad at the weekend as well ronan, do you think this could be related to the smoking ban? all that nice clean pub air could be affecting our behaviour in unusual ways.

anyway, we were in bruxelles (Dublin pub), and one of my friends starts going mad with another friend about spilling something on his jumper. i think that he's getting a bit too aggressive about a stain on his jumper, so i start taking the piss a bit. then he starts getting aggressive with me, and then we both get aggressive and start firing snide comments at each other. the other people are either yelling at us to stop or looking meek and embarrassed by the whole thing (they were not as drunk as we were). it goes on for a few minutes, then we shut up, then he leaves to go home.

so he rang me today to apologise, and i apologised as well, so everything is ok now. after a couple of day's wondering whether it was going to be sorted out between us it's a relief, so all is well. :-)

― weasel diesel (K1l14n), Monday, 5 April 2004 15:10 (twenty-one years ago)

i actually set up a thread about it...

― weasel diesel (K1l14n), Monday, 5 April 2004 15:12 (twenty-one years ago)

ha, kate, i was thinking that we're probably quite dangerous when drinking around slimy men...it sounds like we both end up wanting to fight them (i find myself defending my smaller friends who get groped on various dancefloors)

― colette (a2lette), Monday, 5 April 2004 15:16 (twenty-one years ago)

I can't remember, maybe when I was a kid? *shrug*

― jel -- (jel), Monday, 5 April 2004 15:23 (twenty-one years ago)

I seem to recall you itching to start a fight with some Jarhead mofo at ATP, colette.

― Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Monday, 5 April 2004 15:25 (twenty-one years ago)

jeez, i don't even remember that. those vodka-puppies were dangerous!

― colette (a2lette), Monday, 5 April 2004 15:26 (twenty-one years ago)

Yeah I saw that thread Kilian, I was going to mention it here, it really is hard to express anger or upset about something publicly. I am still kind of off about this, knocked the wind out of my sales a bit I guess, been in a weird mood all day. It's so long since anything like this happened I'd forgotten how it feels.

― Ronan (Ronan), Monday, 5 April 2004 17:05 (twenty-one years ago)

When I was called up in front of the class and I was only wearing a vest, and..........Oh no. That was a dream. Still get it though.

― Dorien Thomas (Dorien Thomas), Monday, 5 April 2004 17:19 (twenty-one years ago)

I was sad to say goodbye to THE DUBLINERS today.

I didn't cry or nothing, though; it doesnae really count.

― the finefox, Monday, 5 April 2004 17:24 (twenty-one years ago)

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