The thrill of the chase

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Why is it we always want what we don't have..then once we get it we discard it and find something..or someone better. I seem to do this with boys...maybe it's because i've never been rejected. I play games...see if they respond..then they start calling and wanting to date...and I freak..leave and avoid there calls. Can anyone relate?

― Madison, Monday, 3 May 2004 17:04 (twenty-one years ago)

it's because i've never been rejected

it's not that you've never been rejected, you're just to self-absorbed to get the hint.

― The Huckle-Buck (Horace Mann), Monday, 3 May 2004 17:06 (twenty-one years ago)

No..not self-absorbed...just confident. And it's true..I'm not trying to sound snotty or rude. But I really have never had a guy look at me and say no I'm sorry not interested...

― Madison, Monday, 3 May 2004 17:07 (twenty-one years ago)

That's not what Bruce Willis told me...Moonlighting inna house!

― The Huckle-Buck (Horace Mann), Monday, 3 May 2004 17:08 (twenty-one years ago)

But I really have never had a guy look at me and say no I'm sorry not interested...

People don't always say those things out loud. It certainly sounds like you don't.

― kirsten (kirsten), Monday, 3 May 2004 17:09 (twenty-one years ago)

Good point Kirsten. But then why am I always the one to avoid calls...not return messages? If they wreen't interested wouldn't THEY be the one to stop making effort?

― Madison, Monday, 3 May 2004 17:10 (twenty-one years ago)

Probably. The thing is, though, that if you were the one calling them all the time and wanting to date them, there's a good chance they'd avoid you, too. And if they were avoiding you, you'd want to call them all the more. So, by putting yourself in the not-returning-phonecalls stance, you assume the upper hand and, therefore, the position of chased rather than chaser.

― kirsten (kirsten), Monday, 3 May 2004 17:14 (twenty-one years ago)

Argh! It's shit like this that makes me glad to be single.

― Prude (Prude), Monday, 3 May 2004 17:17 (twenty-one years ago)

Yes that's true. But it seems to be a never-ending cycle, and I'm wondering when I will get bored with playing the game.

― Madison, Monday, 3 May 2004 17:18 (twenty-one years ago)

It shouldn't take too long.

― kirsten (kirsten), Monday, 3 May 2004 17:19 (twenty-one years ago)

When you find someone you genuinely want to be with, probably.

― Prude (Prude), Monday, 3 May 2004 17:19 (twenty-one years ago)

Or when youre a 50 year old spinster

― bill stevens (bscrubbins), Monday, 3 May 2004 17:26 (twenty-one years ago)

The Thrill of the Chase vs The Burn of Chlamydia

― The Huckle-Buck (Horace Mann), Monday, 3 May 2004 17:28 (twenty-one years ago)

Huck-if you are at all implying that I may be sleeping with guys that I meet you are sadly mistaken...in fact I am a virgin. I just thought that maybe someone out there could relate to game playing...Shit it happens enough.

― Madison, Monday, 3 May 2004 17:32 (twenty-one years ago)

listen, after the morning I had, the less I know about what you do in the dark (or strobe light, as the case may very well be), the easier I sleep at night.

― The Huckle-Buck (Horace Mann), Monday, 3 May 2004 17:33 (twenty-one years ago)

Whatever....

― Madison, Monday, 3 May 2004 17:36 (twenty-one years ago)

Oh I can toataly relate

They like me so i dont like them game.
what will happen you will like someone
they will know how to play your game
and toy with you by not calling you,
not being available but just being nice
enough that you will be the one always
wanting.Then when they are bored
with the game they will dissapear.

― fake, Monday, 3 May 2004 17:37 (twenty-one years ago)

wasn't this a movie starring Robert Downey Jr and Molly Ringwald?

― The Huckle-Buck (Horace Mann), Monday, 3 May 2004 17:38 (twenty-one years ago)

I play games...see if they respond..then they start calling and wanting to date...and I freak..leave and avoid there calls. Can anyone relate?

You're evil. Karma's a bitch. Watch your back m

― Alex in NYC (vassifer), Monday, 3 May 2004 17:39 (twenty-one years ago)

At some level, ALL movies star Robert Downey Jr. and Molly Ringwald. I can't think of one that doesn't.

― Skottie, Monday, 3 May 2004 17:41 (twenty-one years ago)

I've had guys who've done that..But since I'm never all that interested anyway it doesn't really bother me. But I do believe what goes around comes around...and though I have been royaly fucked over by guys (which may explain my behavior now) it would really suck for me to meet the man of my dreams and have him just be "playing a game".

― Madison, Monday, 3 May 2004 17:41 (twenty-one years ago)

Yup it would!

― Prude (Prude), Monday, 3 May 2004 17:42 (twenty-one years ago)

i've never been rejected vs I have been royaly fucked over by guys

― The Huckle-Buck (Horace Mann), Monday, 3 May 2004 17:42 (twenty-one years ago)

I'm not going to get moralistic about this, but it's something I have no time for, and I think a worthwhile worry might be about adjusting away from this pattern if/when you do meet someone you actually do want, rather than someone you just want to show can want you.

― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Monday, 3 May 2004 17:44 (twenty-one years ago)

I have been royaly fucked over by guys, and yet you've never been fucked royally. All night long. Doggy style.

― Skottie, Monday, 3 May 2004 17:44 (twenty-one years ago)

There is a big difference. I've never been rejected meaning I've never walked up to a guy and have him be not interested...but i have been in long term relationships where I've been cheated on or he's in some way or another disappointed me...but i don't consider that being rejected...

― Madison, Monday, 3 May 2004 17:45 (twenty-one years ago)

OOOOHHHHH. So "not being rejected" actually means "being rejected." Well, in that case.

― Skottie, Monday, 3 May 2004 17:47 (twenty-one years ago)

How I will meet you, baby.

I will read your posts that appear on my flourescent computer screen, and I will feel the love eminate from your words through my mouse's scroll wheel. Being as I have a dial-up modem I will wait patiently for your next delicious post as I refresh the current page on my Internet Explorer browser. I will then ascertain your email address, and enticed by the prefix "hot" in your email client of choice I will prepare a sensual and grammatically flawless email for your perusal this evening, or perhaps tomorrow when you are at work. In such mentioned electronic epistle I shall include the moniker by which I am known on the America Online instant messenger service. Please, when you contact me, as I am certain you will, ignore my warning level, which will have been raised to such an egregious degree by ladies without nearly so high an appreciation for the sensual as yourself. During such conversations over the America Online instant messenger service, I shall detail in enviable scrutiny, and without the aid of smileys or any extra-alphabetic paraphernalia, all of the ways in which I propose to freak you mad wild.

Damn.

― Smoove Prude (Prude), Monday, 3 May 2004 17:55 (twenty-one years ago)

You're a freak

― Madison, Monday, 3 May 2004 18:00 (twenty-one years ago)

I bet you say that to all the boys.

― Prude (Prude), Monday, 3 May 2004 18:01 (twenty-one years ago)

Tell me, Madison. Does your milkshake bring all the boys to the yard?

― Skottie, Monday, 3 May 2004 18:03 (twenty-one years ago)

Damn right...I could teach you..but I'd have to charge

― Madison, Monday, 3 May 2004 18:04 (twenty-one years ago)

So,

You play power games with guys who are interested in you, and you've been in long-term relationships but had sex with any of them.

Form an orderly queue boys...

― don (don), Monday, 3 May 2004 18:20 (twenty-one years ago)

basically..My longest relationship was for 3 years. And no we never had sex. He respected that...for a while. Until he cheated on me. So now I have absolutely no desire to be in a serious relationship..due mostly to my previous heartbreak...so I play games.

― Madison, Monday, 3 May 2004 18:24 (twenty-one years ago)

Well that's not ENTIRELY true. I'd like to be in a serious relationship...but have a hard time trusting guys. So by playing games I get to always be in control and never have to get close enough to get hurt

― Madison, Monday, 3 May 2004 18:26 (twenty-one years ago)

The chase (as I'm currently in one) is fantastic. This is only because the other person doesn't run too far ahead. And we both know we're going to get caught sooner than later. Otherwise, I have a shitty history of chasing too much. I'm trying to learn from it.

― Jeanne Fury (Jeanne Fury), Monday, 3 May 2004 18:26 (twenty-one years ago)

I always make sure that I go "woo-woo-woo" like a siren when I'm chasing a girl. That's where the expression "pitching woo" comes from.

― The Huckle-Buck (Horace Mann), Monday, 3 May 2004 18:30 (twenty-one years ago)

I think the question/thread title is misleading, as, based on what you've said, it's not YOU who is doing the chasing.

― nickalicious (nickalicious), Monday, 3 May 2004 18:31 (twenty-one years ago)

would have been more apt to subvert the new morrissey album title!

― The Huckle-Buck (Horace Mann), Monday, 3 May 2004 18:32 (twenty-one years ago)

I Are The Quarry

― The Huckle-Buck (Horace Mann), Monday, 3 May 2004 18:33 (twenty-one years ago)

Madison,

Quit being such a coward. You got your heart broken. Haven't we all? Don't use this as an excuse to screw up your own life. Guys (or girls) should be judged individually. Playing games will ensure that you end up with guys who are willing to mess around with someone they know they can't trust.

I get to always be in control and never have to get close enough to get hurt

No, it means you get to pretend that you're in control. It gives you the illusion of having more power, and, as for not getting hurt, you're already obviously hurt and you're just amusing yourself by picking at the scabs on the scars of your heart.

― Michael White (Hereward), Monday, 3 May 2004 18:36 (twenty-one years ago)

picking at the scabs on the scars of your heart ¿

i think you're a just bitch.

― dyson (dyson), Monday, 3 May 2004 18:41 (twenty-one years ago)

I'm just a bitch...ok I can handle that. Thanks for the wonderful advice Dyson.

― Madison, Monday, 3 May 2004 18:43 (twenty-one years ago)

Actually, he said you were a just bitch, meaning that you have RIGHT on your side. Now go mete out justice with your mind games, gyno-avenger; the world looks up to you.

― VengaDan Perry (Dan Perry), Monday, 3 May 2004 18:45 (twenty-one years ago)

She's not a vengeance demon, she's a justice demon.

― El Diablo Robotico (Nicole), Monday, 3 May 2004 18:47 (twenty-one years ago)

Are people being a bit harsh here?

I mean surely loads of us do this, maybe not to the same extent as Madison but a little bit. I mean isn't the pattern of losing interest in someone as you find out they have an interest in you just a natural way of checking yourself before you end up dating someone you're not interested in?

It's basically them testing your feelings and you discover that despite previous flirting or whatever when it comes down to it you're not interested.

(I don't mean this to sound like I'm getting loads of interest or anything, chance would be a fine thing.....but I imagine this is a common situation)

― Ronan (Ronan), Monday, 3 May 2004 18:47 (twenty-one years ago)

I'm sorry, did I miss the post where Madison admitted that she's 12 and half years old? That knowledge explains a few things. Her boyfriend from ages 8 - 11 was happy to postpone sex for a decade. He didn't actually know what sex was, despite unlimited access to pay-per-view.

― Skottie, Monday, 3 May 2004 18:49 (twenty-one years ago)

Are people being a bit harsh here?

Yes. Really though, is there anything greater than pointing out that someone has called you a just bitch?

― VengaDan Perry (Dan Perry), Monday, 3 May 2004 18:50 (twenty-one years ago)

Well, I have been hoping that someone would point out that someone has called me an unjust bitch.

― El Diablo Robotico (Nicole), Monday, 3 May 2004 18:52 (twenty-one years ago)

i have scars too, you know¡ *weeps*

― dyson (dyson), Monday, 3 May 2004 18:52 (twenty-one years ago)

People I know do this to see where they stand. If they approach a guy and he's appears to be interested it's an ego boost. They may have no intention of ever seeing that person again, but when an attractive person shows interest in you..it makes you feel good. Not that they need affirmation or other people to validate how they feel about themselves but you gotta admit it helps.
and also...why do (girls espcially) we spend hours getting ready to go out...now if NO one complimented them or looked twice at them then they might be offended..perhaps even feel bad about themselves..wonder if they weren't attractive. But when guys hit on them or give them attention or reciprocate their interest..they feel good.

― Madison, Monday, 3 May 2004 18:53 (twenty-one years ago)

Skot-i'm 22...

― Madison, Monday, 3 May 2004 18:54 (twenty-one years ago)

Ordinary human vanity. Enjoy in moderation.

― Michael White (Hereward), Monday, 3 May 2004 18:56 (twenty-one years ago)

I spend five minutes getting ready to go out, and dudes always hit on me. Of course, those five minutes are comprised mainly of taking of my clothes and applying baby oil, so...

― The Huckle-Buck (Horace Mann), Monday, 3 May 2004 18:57 (twenty-one years ago)

Is it made from real babies?

― Michael White (Hereward), Monday, 3 May 2004 18:59 (twenty-one years ago)

yes, but free-roaming ones, y'know, I enjoy the thrill of the baby chase.

― The Huckle-Buck (Horace Mann), Monday, 3 May 2004 19:00 (twenty-one years ago)

Extra virgin or just regular virgin, Huck?

― Skottie, Monday, 3 May 2004 19:00 (twenty-one years ago)

like I said, they're free-roaming babies, so who knows WHERE they've been?

― The Huckle-Buck (Horace Mann), Monday, 3 May 2004 19:00 (twenty-one years ago)

"Extra virgin" = opposite of "a little bit pregnant."

Discuss.

― Skottie, Monday, 3 May 2004 19:01 (twenty-one years ago)

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